Do guys really take pride in taking "virginity"? If yes, why?

[Anonymous]

It's a hymen that you broke, it's literally nothing.

[Anonymous]

It is a little embarrassing to admit out of the moment, but yes, some guys do take pride in taking a girl's virginity. I know that I have. You kind of put it in the back of your head and push it to one side, but yup, there is no doubt it mattered to me.

Part of it is that the woman trusted you enough to give her virgin body to you and to share the experience. Part of it - in all honesty - is the sense of conquest. I am the alpha male that put my sperm in a virgin woman.

In fact, if I am totally blunt, of course you may not want to get her pregnant, but there is a part of me that does. It is instinctive in the human male animal that we want to make babies and spread our DNA, so to speak. When you do that with a virgin, you know the child will be yours.

As I say, a lot of this is subconscious. Some of it you sort of see in yourself and push to the back of your mind by telling yourself you are being ridiculous. Yet there is that part of a man - the instinctive animal part - that wants it and even needs it. Finally, there is that emotional part - she gave herself to me. She shared herself with me.

It is an amazing feeling.

Funny thing is, for all that, I have had sex - that I was aware - with perhaps three virgins. In each case the sex was good on its own terms. It did make me feel like a real man. (Though, in fairness, my girlfriend - with whom I have three children (we don't want to be married) - jokes that I am controlled by my penis, so maybe that is part of it too.)

(Also, I should add that in addition to my girlfriend and our three children, I have one son with a girl I had a one night stand with. She did not tell me till years later that I had a son and I have now begun to build a relationship with him. Also, one other girl I got pregnant had an abortion without telling me - still the most gut wrenching heartbreaking experience of my life.)

For all that, the sex that mattered most was the sex where I made a baby and shared myself with someone I cared about. As you can tell, in my younger years I had quite an active sex life, but the experiences that stayed in my head and my heart were not with the virgins, but with the beautiful woman I wake up to every morning and who smiles at me and tells me she loves me.

[Anonymous]

No. However it is special thinking about how she trusted you enough to be her first experience. That is something that shouldn't be abused though.