Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Do you feel like you have to "Do The Work" during sex? If so, do you dislike that?
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I see men complaining about having to "Do the Work" during sex... Like shut up, you know that sex is an enjoyable activity... And you're almost always guaranteed an orgasm... Meanwhile many women don't have any
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12 42That's the difference between a boy and a man. And girl vrs women.
You've been banging the wrong chicks. Either you know how to screw or not. It is however a teachable skill set.
I like it when a girl bangs my ass mercilessly with a strap on. But good girls are hard to find.
I have never had that problem? When I'm ready to roll over and let her jump on top I'm not usually met with any resistance?
It's to be expected but at least I'm in control😊
Most of the time men do almost all the work.
if the woman is not participating then it feels like a chore and its not enjoyable AT ALL.
I dont like it when a woman just lays there like dead and I'm supposed to fck her? Ofcourse I'm not going to try hard to please her then. But if she engages more, I'd gladly please her.
It's never bothered me, sure it's great when the girl wants to be on top, but guys have the stamina & strength, so to keep the action going (and bring her to orgasm) guys have to most of the work, besides guys tend to like the control & the girls don't complain about that! If a guy thinks he's doing too much, he's probably just not fit enough!
Well, in my case the only "work" she should do would be for her own pleasure. Everything of my work would be for her pleasure as well, since I only want her to enjoy it.
I like to be on top and do all the work.
Why?
no YOU should shut up and do all the work while we lay there like dead fish. it goes both ways, equality sucks doesn't it? Never had sex, but I sure as hell would want the women doing as much work as me. It almost would make it seem as if I was raping her if she wasn't moving. Like are you scared or something? do you NOT want to have sex? do you just lay there like a sack of rocks and not say anything? You are the worst sexual partner ever!
Sex is a two-way thing and an expression of love or deep connection between a couple. So why would only one person put the effort in?
I have to totally agree with this, that men usually "do most of the work" in bed.
Last girl I dated a few years back was the perfect example - our first sex session lasted 7-8 hours long and in that time, I pleasured her for essentially 95% of those 7-8 hours. I started counting the amount of orgasms she had (only out of curiosity), which ended up being in the ballpark of 15-25, and right near the end of it when it came time to return the favour, she seemed totally uninterested. She pleased me for approximately 10-15 minutes in total, and no, I didn't finish or come anywhere near finishing.
She also seemed to have zero interest in trying any other positions except for me on top, which I thought was pretty boring, not to mention selfish to be honest.
So many women assume that just because a guy is having sex that it's fun for him, so they think that her just being there and doing it with them is just fine regardless of how the session is or has turned out, but trust me, it isn't. If it looks like you would rather not be there, are not enjoying it, or are the only one receiving the pleasure, then it it totally sucks.
Cheers!
I like doing all the work
My wife and I usually switch positions so each of us does the work
Sex isn't always enjoyable when doing all the work, and can feel a lot better on the lazy side.
It does make me a little upset. I have told my wife that I get kind of tired of her being lazy during sex. She expects me to do all the foreplay with her, but does nothing for me. She just lays there and wants me to touch her and kiss her and stuff, but she doesn't do anything with me. Sure in the end we have intercourse and I have an orgasm, but I put a lot of work into getting her to orgasm before I let myself have one, and she doesn't seem to appreciate that. I could just skip all the foreplay stuff, get what I want and be done, leaving her totally unsatisfied, but I don't and she seems not to appreciate that.
I feel like I do all the work and it's tedious.
Wow, if sex has become tedious you should either reexamine your attitude or your partner. It should be time you enjoy spending with your partner.
If she stops, then I stop and make a awkward moment. When she asks what's wrong I always say I thought she passed out because she stopped moving, she generally gets the hint
NOBODY likes a starfish