Does he want to have a threesome?

So sex with my husband has gotten pretty kinky he likes to blindfold me and make me suck on a dildo while he fucks me or switched around he's asked me at least 4x while we have sex if I'd enjoy this in real life and I can't tell if it's a in the moment thing or If he really would be down for the 2 of us and another guy. He never mentions it unless we're having sex... how do I ask him or what's your opinion?
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  • Give him a serious reply the next time he asks the question.
    Although, as someone who has shared and also experienced being the third party- fantasy is often quite different from reality, so proceed with caution.

    But if you do want to experience it and hope to steer him that way, then go on about how doing it blindfolded would maybe be a turn-on.
    The blindfold is a bit of a psychological "safe space" for someone who is thinking about sharing.

    Right now he is probably thinking that it would probably turn you on a lot to have a threesome, and that's what he is seeing the appeal in- the fact that you would enjoy yourself and he would thus enjoy himself through you.

    The blindfold maintains that it is about sex and not the other guy, so focusing on that is the safe bet.
    Definitely don't want to go like, "oh yeah I wanna have sex with another guy!".

    That's very unlikely to be his intention, and if it IS well he can steer you towards that way of thinking later anyway.

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  • If you defiantly do not want to have a threesome do not ask him about it. If you are not into that, then you just need to tell him that you are not willing and probably will never be willing to have a three some.


    NOW if you are totally interested in a threesome then you should just ask him straight out if he wants to have one because "HE" keeps saying it. If says yes, then your wish should easily come true... but if he says no I would drop it unless you really feel the need to have to have one.

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  • If he’s brave enough to ask you to suck a dildo then you shouldn’t have a worry about asking him this lol. I mean it’s a fair question after all, given the nature of what’s happening in the bedroom. If he doesn’t like the question then I’d counter it with him being confusing and sending mixed signals bc why ask if you’d enjoy that irl? He shouldn’t say it at all if it’s not what he wants.

  • Do you? It does sound like he has a fantasy in his head. But you need to know if it's even a remote possibility for yourself before encouraging him further.

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  • Yeah ask him. Have a fun conversation with him.
    More importantly... what is your answer? Do u want it in real life?

  • on the one side, you can ask and if he says yes, well, you are consenting adults

    on the other this is playing hot potato with a bottle of nitroglycerin, he might decide that he doesn't like it when he sees you pleasing another man, you might develop feelings for another guy and whilst you can fight that these things erode any relationship and can tank a mariage

    but again, you guys do you, I do think it is kinky, I just don't think I would do it with my future wife or any girlfriend, but I know some couples love eachother deeply and are swingers

  • Next time he mentions it, ask him if he would enjoy it in real life. If it's something you would enjoy, tell him after he says he wants it.

  • He jerks off to porn too much. FAIL
    The NUMBER ONE RULE for marrieds: Never, and I mean NEVER, add a third party to your marital bed. EVER. It will never be what you thought or hoped, and you'll wreck your marriage in the process. I guarantee it.

    • Very wise advice. Nothing but trouble can come from it.

    • @888theGreat - Oh we've talked about it. I told her to bring home a cute black chick. But no, people need to differentiate between fantasy and reality. If you get to the point where you want to share your beloved you lose them. The specialness of the relationship will disappear. The unique one-on-one you cherish. You cheapen that, lose it, replace it with all kinds of social unrest and anxiety. Or put another way, someone ALWAYS gets their feelings hurt.

  • Ask him

  • Just ask the question It may be he ask you if your enjoying to see what else Or just tell him you don't want a second man to help!

  • I hope not

  • just ask him when your not having sex. just say hey, you mention this a lot when we are having sex is this something your serious about?

  • Ask him if that's what likes and wants.

  • He's a guy so he wants 3somes

  • So you really like threesome

  • I’d probably say this is something he wants to do IRL