Can a woman satisfy a man enough that he doesn’t look for anything else in another woman?

[Anonymous]

If so, how?

[MrOracle]

It depends on the man.

MOST men can absolutely be satisfied by one woman, but there are definitely men who will never be satisfied by any one woman. These men tend to be (but aren't exclusively) the most attractive men, who have had a lifetime of women - hot and otherwise - throwing themselves at him, and he's used to being able to sleep with whoever he wants to whenever he wants to. Such men also tend to be selfish and self-centered, because everyone has always catered to their needs and desires, and he's always gotten away with it.

These are the men that most women want - and are the men that a lot of women EXCLUSIVELY chase for a relationship - but they're the men who will never commit to one woman (at least, not genuinely commit - he may fake it for a while). Women still convince themselves that they can change him, fix him, and that she's special enough to make him want to give up other women - but that's not who he is and it's not who he'll ever be. And, yes, there are a relative few men who aren't so attractive who are the same way, though they are either highly charismatic or they have attained some power or status (a drug dealer, for example, who may have lots of money and people who work for him and follow him).

If you set these men aside - and that's maybe 10% of men - the vast majority of the men who are left could be satisfied with one good woman. Mostly, they want a woman who is feminine, who is sexually attracted to him, who appreciates him, and who is loyal to him. That's really all most men need to be happy. The problem is that such men tend not to be "exciting enough" (read: does not cause enough drama) for most women, and they get bored and want some other guy who is "more exciting" (read: is more dangerous, unpredictable, and brings more drama). Women leave men 4-5 times more often than men leave women.

[Asker]

I needed to hear this. I’m in a situation where I’m realizing the man will never commit. He is very honest and said “I’m a very sexual person and I can’t see myself committing to one person.” However, he wants the woman to commit. Lol. And I think he is used to other women settling because he “takes care” in other ways too. Smh. The sad part is that I’m so fascinated by the brain- I truly am trying to understand his way of thinking. He admitted to being controlling, and wanting women to be submissive- while also admitting to not being the type to commit.

[MrOracle]

Right. He's a kind of Type-A guy, and women find him very attractive, but that's exactly why he's never going to commit to anyone. He is able to attract lots of women, and he's used to being able to take advantage of that whenever he wants, and frankly, there's no reason for him to give that up for one woman. That's like giving away a million-dollar-a-year recurring income for a one-time payment - even if that payment was $10M - which is a lot of money - who is going to give up that recurring income? Most women just can't let go of these guys, because they find them so attractive, but that's exactly why they are terrible partners - because EVERY OTHER woman finds them attractive too.

[Asker]

And you’re so right. 😩😩 which is why I’m reading your message and trying not to think emotionally. Smh.

[MrOracle]

It's not that your emotions don't matter - of course they do - but you must always temper your emotions with logic and reason. Your emotions only care about satisfying your IMMEDIATE desires - whether that's eating ice cream or chasing a guy - and your emotions will happily "drive you off a cliff to your death" to satisfy your immediate craving. Emotions have zero insight to your long-term future, and don't care if you are destroyed tomorrow if you give them what they want today. This is why letting your emotions guide you without limits is so destructive - but so many people, and women especially, do it anyway. You really need to be careful about that, and keep your emotions balanced with your morals, values, logic, and reason. It's not easy, but it's what keeps you from driving off the cliff.

[Asker]

Right! Everything you are saying is true. And I know it. I basically meant that I can’t allow my emotions to get the best of me because it’s very easy to let your emotions control you which can lead to destruction. But knowing how you feel but still making better decisions is possible.

[MrOracle]

Exactly right.

[b_lova]

To be honest I personally think this is a trick question with it's phrasing stacked against men.

I don't think either gender is ever really satisfied by their significant other. Sure a SO carries some of the weight, but a lot of the emotional/mental aspects of satisfaction come from a person's own perspective. For what it is worth, I don't bring women into this because I'm trying to bash women. There is a reason the majority of divorces in America are initiated by women.

Until we individually recognize that we must take ownership of our own satisfaction by accepting what we already have, we will never truly be satisfied.

[Asker]

Maybe I should’ve worded this question differently because you are right…. Based on my own experiences, I worded this question in this way because of my own perspective on men. I have a man in my life that I feel as tho I tried to go above and beyond for… And sadly, recently came to the realization that no matter what I do, mentally he is not in a place to give me what I want, which is to settle down. So now I have to make the choice to walk away…… and because that’s my choice- I do wonder if a woman can ever satisfy a man’s need fully to the point he doesn’t look for it in multiple women? Because now I’m worried that the next man will be the same way.

[b_lova]

Sadly, the chances of this characteristic being in next man you find attractive is very high. Not only because this is an issue with our modern world culture, but also due to how I learned physical attraction works from a psychologist friend of mine. We have the tendency of seeking out people with certain positive characteristics that we find attractive. Sadly many negative characteristics we dislike are also typically in the mix of those characteristics. Without going into too much detail, which I know I would mess up, think of yourself as a puzzle piece. The people you find most attractive will be a puzzle piece that fit your subconscious perception of a desirable partner both physically and their general demeanor. Take for example women who grew up in an abusive home consistently coupling with men who are abusive. Though they hate being abused, they have a difficult time finding a man, they are attracted to, which separates their ideal man and is not abusive. While this is an extreme example, it expresses the idea of how we physically and emotionally navigate to partner of a similar personality traits. In order to avoid the negative characteristics we have to be willing to broaden our horizons on what we find attractive and live with the balance of all their characteristics. Or be accepting (satisfied) when we find someone who meets most of our standards and will live with the boundaries we desire for ourselves.

[Amara_09]

Can a woman satisfy a man enough?

What are you? God?

Lol…. it’s very funny that you think women are here to satisfy men to the point where he doesn’t look for another woman.

No.

A man will look regardless. A woman will look regardless.

Humans have desires…. wants….. needs.

In this world, nothing is impossible. Every thing is possible

[Apple1996]

All men are able to be monogamous (after all it's in our nature to be that way) but for some men they need to feed their ego and that makes them seek out other women. So it has nothing to do with a woman satisfying him but his own ego problems.

[DishLady]

The man has to WANT to be satisfied with one woman... and the woman has to WANT to satisfy her man. Simple.

[ohsheeT]

Of course there is he has to like you more than just the sex or what you want to do for him.

Which means if he doesn't and he's not going to he's always going to be looking so now you have to ask yourself is that the type of guy you want. ..

Because no matter what you do for him you're going to have to do something else and then something else and then something else and he'll be getting everything he wants and you're not going to be getting anything so I would think about that one

[Berethor]

You don't know how? men tend to be simple so it's really not that hard to satisfy a man. :)

[Asker]

You can do all that and he’ll still sit in someone else’s house to eat there food and get his balls sucked.

[Berethor]

Some men are greedy, but if you do all that then it much less likely to happen. :)

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[Princesspd]

No. Men or women we get tired of eating the same dish.

[MasterKS]

@princesspd correct!

[JHAYES317]

@princesspd then why did you get married if you knew you would get tired to him?

[Summeroflove]

It depends on what kind of man she marries…. If you marry a cheater IT DOES NOT MATTER how much you do for them. It can be a one sided relationship. You can give him everything he wants and get nothing in return and he or she will cheat.

If you marry a genuinely good person. They won’t cheat. If they’re not happy they will break off the relationship or try to make it work.

[strateguy632]

sort of but many various temptation so despite satisfied they grab our attention.

[Dargil]

I can't speak for all guys buy I can for many.
Including a skilled prostate massage to a hand job or blow job are both superb cheating insurance. If a guy gets and likes this, he doesn't want to lose it.

[Tim2nice]

She can satisfy a man but not every man. Some men, like some women like variety, so it doesn’t matter how beautiful and nice you are they still wanna try something else now and again.

[Asker]

I’m glad you said this because I truly have so many questions about men and this….. Do you think there is anything a person can do to stop a man from wanting other women or is some men just that way?

[Tim2nice]

I at t depends on each individual. Some are naturally monogamous so you don’t need to do anything for them to stay loyal. Others will cheat no matter what you do.

[The_Sexpert]

You can satisfy anyone sexually if that person is willing to communicate about what they expect and you are willing to put in the effort to make sure to perform that

[sheikalana]

Yes, but you need to satisfy him outside of the bedroom too. Men love to be taken care of is not always about sex, sex and sex all the time.

[Zbrody1997]

Short answer yes, long answer is personal

[elizamichale1]

i dont think so

[DrPepper12]

No. It's NOT YOU!! It's the thrill of the chase, the furtiveness of the challenge, the satisfaction and confidence builder of getting her and the novelty of someone new. Doesn't have a thing to do with you at all IMHO

[Asker]

😩 I feel like you said enough to the the point I can’t respond. It’s all I needed to hear.

[DrPepper12]

I'm sorry I didn't mean to upset you. I was just giving my opinion on what I've observed. I really am sorry

[Asker]

No, I respect your opinion.

[Alex-Snow]

OFC with love, kindness, good communication and of course a ton of sex

[LiamJHayden]

To often the victims allow themselves to be blamed for the straying. A cheater, male or female, will cheat. It is on the cheater, not the faithful person.

[jahaims]

It has nothing to do with satisfaction. A real man doesn't go looking elsewhere. He either grows what he has or breaks up and moves on. People that look elsewhere while in a relationship are too immature to be in a healthy relationship.

[Twalli]

Well it helps of she knows what he needs to be satisfied which means communicating

[In_Trance]

Of course

[Pterodon]

If he loves her enough

[elaphe]

Of course they can. Being open and loving is key.