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If you're a girl on the internet (or someone who has been mistaken for a girl) it's very likely that you, at some point, have been a victim of fetish mining. I'm sure that this sort of thing can happen to boys too, but in general girls (especially young girls) tend to be the main target group when it comes to fetish mining.
What is fetish mining?
Fetish mining is when person A contacts person B in a thinly veiled attempt at getting sexual gratification. It usually involves some sort of "harmless" sounding question, like:
What size footwear do you use?
What kind of bellybutton do you have?
How much do you weigh?
Sometimes the questions can be even more straightforward, for instance:
Can you send me a picture of your feet/armpit/neck?
Can you send me a video of you wearing x and dancing in a cute way?
These questions might sound harmless to the untrained ear, because they aren't inherently sexual. It's not as obvious as someone asking what your favorite sexual position is, or for a picture of your boobs. Hence the name fetish mining. These questions usually revolve around some type of fetish, which by default is more of a niche thing and not inherently sexual for most people. Like bellybuttons, armpits, certain items of clothing or fabrics, certain actions, or random body parts in general.
Why is fetish mining wrong?
If it isn't already obvious to you why it's wrong, I'll happily break it down for you.
1. It's exploitative
Like I mentioned earlier, young girls are typically the target group for fetish mining. Young, impressionable girls who don't understand that there's an underlying sexual tone to the question being asked. Who don't understand that they are potentially being coerced or manipulated into giving out personal information or pictures/videos, that can start circulating the internet and get into the hands of the wrong people. Basically, young girls who don't understand that they're participating in an act that someone else finds sexually enjoyable, which weaves into my second point;
2. It's non-consensual
The whole point of the "innocent" nature of the questions being asked is the fact that the participant is unaware of the miner's intentions. In some way, the miner is probably even getting off on the fact that the other person has no idea. The miner is mining for "gold". If you want someone else to participate in your fetish, answer questions regarding your fetish, or send you pictures/videos that feeds the needs of your fetish, you have to have the other person's consent. There's no way around it. Just because the questions are seemingly "innocent" because they could be asked from a non-sexual perspective, it doesn't make it any more ok when they are being asked for sexual reasons. That's why you should always let the person know why you're asking these questions, and make sure they're ok with answering them in the first place. It is also never ok to ask minors these questions. That should go without saying, but unfortunately there are some incredibly dense people out there who still don't get this.
3. Fetish miners are often deceitful and conniving
As I've established, a major point of fetish mining is making sure that the victim is unaware of the fact that they're being asked to participate in something the miner considers sexual. This is why many fetish miners go to great lengths to make the question or request as innocent-sounding as possible. For instance, girls have been asked to write a message or some sort of slogan on the soles of their feet and snap a picture "for charity". The victim might also be told that the miner is conducting a study of some sort, and needs this information for "scientific purposes" only. Or, the miner wants to "cast" the victim in a Netflix series and needs to know what types of scenes the victim would be ok with. All of these things are, of course, completely fake. The fact that the miners would come up with such convoluted lies just to get off, makes the whole thing even more sinister.
So, how can you avoid fetish miners?
Well, the bad news is that you kind of can't, unless you stay off the internet. If you're on any kind of social media and you allow strangers to send you messages, it's very likely that someone, at some point, will contact you in an attempt at fetish mining. So the best thing you can do is to protect your privacy. Don't allow strangers to message or follow you. If you don't want to make your social media accounts more private, then all you can do is think twice before answering someone's DM, email, message or question. Being cautious and always second-guessing the other person's intentions (especially if they're a stranger) is key. The most important thing to remember is that you don't have to answer. You're not obligated to engage in conversation with these people. In fact, it's probably best to not say anything at all, and just block them. With these people, you don't really know... they might even get off on you telling them to fuck off. So it's simply not worth it. And please, if you have any younger siblings or relatives who are on the internet, let them know about this. Tell them that they should never answer any personal questions asked by complete strangers, even if the question seems harmless.
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I'm not here to kink-shame anyone. If you have a fetish for feet, armpits, necks, certain items of clothing or fabrics, or any of the other things I briefly mentioned in this take, then you do you. As long as you don't ask minors inappropriate questions or you actively try to have other people engage in your fetishes without them knowing/giving you their consent, I don't really care.
Special thanks to beckiicruel and her video on the topic that inspired this take. I've been aware of this phenomenon since I was a teen because I've been a victim of it myself, but I never knew it actually had a name.
What Girls & Guys Said
27 84Oh gosh. This reminds me of this pedophilic guy in his 20's who would ask young teenage girls to send him pictures in their school uniform. Disgusting.
Not gonna lie this has happened to me on this site. You start off with a normal topic and then you get a sudden sexual question and you’re thinking: 🙄🙄
That's so gross :(
I just read this and thank you for such great info.
A few weeks ago I was dealing with similar issue involving a minor and a guy who was following me on here. I am completely aware when someone is trying to "fetish mining" me (I had no term for it yet at that time, I think of it like fishing lol) but not her. She was really affected by it and sent me screenshots of things he said -- very disguting perverted stuff. But it all started with innocent questions.
This happens a lot :/ a good maybe, 25%, of those I blocked on here were because of this. As are most of the comments I remove on my pages.
Interesting myTake
I don't think it's that much of a big deal. Just ignore them and move on.
first time I've ever heard of the term. still not as bad as a "lemon party" *DO. NOT. GOOGLE. THIS*
Not sure if I would go as far as labelling it "technically sexual assault" as you have in the comments, but it sure is creepy and gross. If the person is being very aggressive and stalkery about it you could certainly make a case for it being harassment.
Continuously and systematically wanting people (especially minors) to participate in your sexual fetishes and fantasies without their consent/knowing very much falls into that category.
Ah well when you put it like that, that does make sense.
I see this on GaG a few times but never attributed a specific name to it.
Meanwhile I get off to asking girls about their math homework and their curriculum
Still fetish mining? 🤔
@victorvolf if your male and its sexual its bad.
If you got turned on by paper and it identified as female your still a pervert or pedophile
Its called the block button abuse it!
What prevents you from just saying no and worst case just blocking the person?
Like can it get any more 1st world problems?
Nothing. It’s just that children are less likely to realize that these are people who should be blocked.
OK listen carefully , I want pictures of your feet only the right one though. Tie some strings to your toes except the big toe, that one has to have a rubber band around it. Please hurry.
Can you be more specific? Time of day? Day of the week? Cotton or poly string? Length of nails? Painted or not?
@Dargil Must have nail fungus , fake is OK cotton string rubber band should be pink or purple.
Good topic to bring into discussion
This site is full of it.
Ah, so this is where all the Doge memes involving feet pics and the like come from.
If she's underaged that's just sick. If she's over 18 it's still pretty weird but I mean everyone's weird so..
i ask stupid pointless questions sometimes, not to get anything sexual out of it but just cause im bored and dont want to kill a conversation lol
that has nothing to do with this mytake
shh im bored shoo 💨
As long as the “victims” of this are over 18 and female I’m in favor of this occurring. I love the thought of women being exploited in a pretty harmless way for the sexual gratification of someone else while receiving nothing in return. I think that’s what disturbs you about this. None of the “victims” are getting dinner and drinks or compensated in some way... yet are giving someone sexual pleasure. The thought of women disgusted over such a thing brings me great joy.
I don't think it should be illegal either but what the fuck? How can you support that for anyone? Its disgusting behaviour, jesus christ.
Because I think it’s funny listening to women cry over something so absurd. Lets say hypothetically a chick takes a pic of her arm pit, sends it to a guy who requested it and the guy cranks one out to the pic and she finds out and is mad. Well let’s analyze for a sec. why is she mad? It’s just her arm pit. She didn’t send an explicit pic. Is she mad cause she got played? Maybe. But who really cares? I’ll send free pics of my arm pit to anyone who wants one of either sex. I don’t care if someone masturbates to it. So why is she really mad? Probably because women generally loath the idea of a guy getting sexual pleasure from them WITHOUT them extracting something from him. So for that reason I find it hilarious. I love the idea of women being upset about such a thing. I don’t see women lining and writing My Takes denouncing gold diggers? Why not? Cause 1. They benefit from such a thing. 2. Because a man is the victim and they could care less. So no chicks are getting their panties in a bunch over that issue... but this... well this is just an outrage. I think it’s hilarious. Like someone is all upset cause they sent a pic of their feet or arm pit or whatever and some guy got off to it. Big frigging deal.
So I see you don't have empathy.. Goodbye.
I have empathy. I’m not a sociopath or a narcissist. That empathy is dispensed on those who deserve it. I’m not interested in hearing about the plight of women or in any way how their inconvenienced until we address how men are are being discriminated against and mistreated in western society. You have mislabeled me. I’m a borderline mysoginist NOT someone who lacks empathy. It’s hard to have empathy for the modern western woman who wants equality when things are more than equal and not equal responsibility. Who are advanced by men being disenfranchised, and see no issue with this. Who act like children in adult bodies but demand the respect afforded to those whom have earned it. Who toute themselves as independent while they take welfare money as single moms after letting a looser impregnate them and alimony from their ex husband who no longer benefits from them. That is anything but independence. To be clear, I’m not MGTOW, I’m happily married, I’m not an incel either. What I am is someone who despises the modern women and her lack of character and I enjoy laughing in their faces when they are used and objectified in such a manner as described here, and get nothing in their greedy little hands in return... then pout as if they’ve been done a great wrong... meanwhile men rot in prisons and have their lives ruined by false rape accusations... but no women care or are in an uproar about that nor are those guilty of doing such things held accountable and punished in accordance with the offense they committed. So much for justice and equality. Lastly I am not ashamed of my position on this. So save your shaming language for someone it will have an effect on. So that’s what this is about. It’s about women being used and objectified and gotten over on in a relatively minor way... but not even getting a dinner and drinks out of it and that’s why their mad. Perish the thought of doing anything expressly for a man’s pleasure. Not of their not getting something out of it.
How childish to be pissed about a guy dropping his load to a picture of your armpit and not having deemed him worthy of receiving sexual gratification from you, and likewise being mad because there was nothing granted in return for that pleasure. That is exactly what this is about and it’s not even on the level western men are universally exploited by women and the laws made by the influence of women.
I don’t think empathy means what you think it means
@lumos Who are you talking to?
You.
@lumos
https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/empathy
There’s your definition of empathy.
I have pretty much none nor sympathy for modern women
So what is you point?
This just seems like such a 1st world white women problem to be honest.
Empathy is an inherent overwhelming feeling. You don't choose to feel empathy. So to say that you "have empathy" but in the same breath say that you love the thought of someone being exploited is extremely contradictory.
I don’t agree. It can be turned off and on at will. I will not dispense any empathy for any one over 18 who gets played like this.
Yes I do love the thought of that. I think it’s hilarious. All this is about is women want to be the sole dispensers of sexual gratification and they do so hate someone obtaining sexual gratification from them without them getting something out of it. I think that’s hysterically funny especially because the issue is so petty.
So they very thought of some woman having her arm pit jerked off to... and extracting no commitment from the guy... getting no money, no dinner, not even coffee for it... and being mad about it... we’ll it fills my heart full of joy.
Nope. Feeling empathy is an involuntary action. What you're talking about sounds more like sympathy. It's easier to choose who you sympathize with because it's a less emotionally charged thing and not as hardwired into some people, like empathy is. What you describe actually sounds pretty sociopathic.
I’m sure it does. What it is in fact is me enjoying seeing women’s parades pissed on due to above mentioned reasons and more. Sick and tired of hearing how women are so disadvantaged. It’s pure crap and the narcissistic mentality of the modern woman is disgusting as is the character of the modern woman. Maybe you’re right. I don't know. Idc. I don’t have any tears for the plight of the modern woman in any capacity.
Aight
What the fuck type of shit did I read
Another girl ranting about sexual harassment just yet another word for it
@Cocacolaaddict Now you're just putting words with no correlation alongside each other. At no point was this referred to being sexual harassment
@wynn-ing Oh, no - a brand new type of victimisation-to-ask-for-privileges-over. The previous ones wore out too quickly - all fake news/fake reality. How else do you manipulate men except by gultying and blaming them?
I know right, adults approaching minors in a sexual and predatory way is pretty shitty !
Your missing the point whatever this is your describing is obviously bad but this is getting out of hand we already have too many words to describe predators 9/10 of it is directed at men but that's not the point the point is we have another girl talking about how bad the world of men is and making up even more words to describe yes sexual oppression is bad targeting minors is even worse but really there's already too many words to describe these things and the list keeps getting longer and as for the question asker you talking about how bad it is to adults there's not not many people on gag who are that young everyone on here is already old enough to know better you want to help minors by making them aware that's completely fine but do it where the audience you claim to want to reach actually reaches them here is just adults and teens (who are old enough to already know) at this point its just another feminist rant about how evil men are
And really you think this isn't a form of sexual harassment? I think you'll find there's every bit of correlation here if you can actually understand it