Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
If you’re in a toxic relationship, I’m begging you to GET OUT NOW!!
Examples of Toxic Relationships
• Being mentally/physically abused
• Being threatened/forced to stay
• Being taken advantage of
• Someone saying they’ll change, but haven't
• Someone forcibly keeping you from loved ones
• Being constantly backstabbed/cheated
• Feeling unsafe when around someone
• Being asked/told to do something you dont want to do just so you can get something you want in return
My Story:
I took a class with this class clown. He annoyed me sooo much. He wasn’t hot, but he was somewhat cute. And he kept trying to flirt with me but i just wasn't interested.
He turned out to be my next door neighbor. After getting to know him more, We started hanging out a bit that Christmas break. I fell more and more for his goofy, humorous side, and well eventually we ended up dating. 
The first couple months was good. But then everything escalated so quickly. He knew I wanted to wait til marriage to do sexual things. However, I guess he wasn't gonna back down.
He was my first boyfriend and i was happy being in a relationship. But I was so naive. One day he goes, “So if i have to wait til marriage to have sex with you, can I at least get oral from some randoms?” I was speechless. I was like, “wait what?”
I honestly dont think i ever answered this question. But he went and did things with other girls anyways. I found out from my friends... and enemies.
He denied doing these things and told me that there were things I could do to assure he stayed faithful. First, He had me strip butt naked. Then he told me to bend over while he circled my body like i was some kind of nude exhibit. Then he told me to sit up and that he needed to finger me to make sure i was wet and tight.
I didn't want to give in, but the pressure got to me. He pushed me against the brick wall of my neighbors house... But it wasn't just simple fingering. He wanted to see how much a virgin could take. I was in so much pain.
He took futher advantage of my naiveness and constantly pressured me into more doing things. So one day he walked me into the woods where he said he wanted to try something.
He started kissing me then took off his shirt and layed it on the ground. I don't know if i was more surprised that he started randomly stripping or that he layed a white tee on a dirt ground haha. So he layed me down on top of the shirt and started kissing me. I wasn't sure what to expect by i was just so hypnotized by how great of a kisser he was.
He then paused. Said he loved me. Then said... if we’re going to continue waiting til marriage... you have to at least let me “see if it can fit”. I kept debating and he kept throwing reasons at me why he needed to “try me”. He kept saying it wasn't sex, just a test to see if it could fit.
I don't know it just kept going on and on and on and he just wouldn't stop asking. And i gave in and said “ok but only see if the tip can go in”... but then he thrusted instead, repeatedly trying to shove his whole dck in.
Afterwards, I just layed their crying since i had practically lost my virginty. He kept asking “Did i hurt you? Are you okay? You said i could get in at least 1 thrust right?” I was just so traumatized. I was speechless.
He stood me up. Told me to get dressed. I just held my head down and started walking home. It was so painful to walk home. It was raining and I was wobbling home like a duck.
Next day he tells me, “You know, you're not a virgin anymore now. So you may as well keep on having sex with me. You dont want me to have to do things with other girls, right? I mean, you do want me to marry YOU right?”
Gosh, I hated how in love I was. And him being my first made me cling to him even more. It was an odd connection i felt to him. Lets just say i gave in to some stuff. He changed me.
I don’t even want to go into detail of what all ended up happening. But basically He continued to cheat on me with both friends/enemies. He supposedly knocked my friend up and denied it. He told me if I were to ever get pregnant that I needed to drink bleach.
We broke up during the whole friend being pregnant thing. But months later i took him back. I told him i still didn't want to do oral. However, one day he whipped out his dck while i sat next to him. He kept begging for it. In the middle of me saying “No”, he slammed my head down on his dck. It hit the back of my throat and i was in pain the rest of the day.
So the next time he asked again, i pretended I wanted to do so. I teased him as i licked down his body. Then i whipped out his dck. Kissed the tip. Then took a huge bite out the shaft.
Lets just say My teeth marks were left in his dck for about a day. He was pissed and chased me through the house. Thank goodness my mom was around to Save me because i was about to get choked to death. Hey, he never asked for me to go down again tho...
He told me he wanted to try doggystyle sex. I thought he meant vaginal from behind but he slammed his dck against my anal hole. Its not like it went in bt it still hurt. I shoved him away. I was in pain for a whole week. I would never purposely do anal. Guess this just made me hate that form of sex even more.
One day i caught him selling weed. He held the knife to my throat and forced me to sniff the bag. He also knew i had asthma and didn't need to be around smoke. Apparently he had smoked a blunt and held the smoke in his mouth. He forced me to kiss him and he blew it in my mouth. I felt like i was dying. I had to run home and get my inhaler.
Then there was that time He held a gun to my tummy when I finally tried to leave him. Smh, If it werent for him going to military school, I wouldve never escaped him.
Years later we reconnected and i tried to be cool with him. I tried to tell him how he hurt me years ago. He laughed in my face and told me i shouldn't have been so naive and that i was the easiest thing he ever scored.
Im not asking anyone for pity. I know some people feel i deserved this. I do blame myself for being so naive. I just don’t want to hear that someone went through this... or something worse... IM BEGGING YOU GUYS/GIRLS TO GET OUT WHILE YOU CAN!!
#FeelFreeToList #aDizzyDesiiTake
What Girls & Guys Said
27 69Dude. Fuck this guy, if I ever met this guy I'd show him just how small of a man he is. Fucking faggots think they're hard just because they hold a gun or knife in a hand I could guarantee If I could square up with this guy fuck around with him as much I wanted too. I've made guys like this my bitch and he'd be no exception. Not trying to white knight or anything here but fuck this scrub.
Did i link the wrong mytake 🙈 yea this take is old too. This was my first boyfriend. I became so much tougher after this wack relationship. And you dont sound like a white knight but even if you do i oddly just got turned on by how protective this was 👀
Lol this was linked in the mytake you provided me. I ended up reading this mytake first
Oh im so slow haha
"see if it can fit" 😂😂😂
I'm glad that you got over this bad experience and grew stronger.
Yepp
but seriously the "see if it can fit" line worked? 😂
I was 15. Stop :( 😭
leave
This is about my past
"I do blame myself for being so naive."
Thats The Spirit.
Your life, your responsibility.
I believe this is one of the reasons why i was such a social outcast.
But hey, better late than never.
"IM BEGGING YOU GUYS/GIRLS TO GET OUT WHILE YOU CAN!!"
Exactly but how many would actually listen and get out?
Where are the self preservation instincts in humans nowadays?
I think this is a needed process for some people to learn it the hard way. Otherwise they may never learn. Even with that Some never do.
Life is a continuous experience. You are the driver.
True. And wym its why you're a social outcast?
I was a social outcast for mainly 3 reasons (from school until the end of college): 1. I was broke as dirt and an unemployed student 2. I didn't do what was "trendy". i considered self preservation of higher importance than scoring in the degeneracy communities such as who can drink the most vodka without passing out or who can get laid the most. 3. I'm from Germany and resided in the east by my parents poor choice (i was 15 years old back then and unable to resist). Foreigners aren't so popular among the youngens in the east. We were culturally different and i never could connect to anyone except on the internet. I'm currently in the US however on a business trip. The degeneracy however I'm not aware of what they are doing. Years ago i heard someone got pregnant (the daughter was already born) and is in an abusive and rushed marriage. This was years ago and i don't Keep track of it.
So Imma ask you a little question. Don't take this as me being apathetic to your old situation, or not believing you.. that's not the case at all.
Instead, understand that I'm a nit-picky douchebag when it comes to this stuff ^_^
Why that particular choice of gif for when he pulled a fast one on you in the forest? You made it sound like a crap experience and yet your chosen gif just so happens to turn me on.
Just wanted to show that it happened in the woods
Sounds like a charmer. Things are confusing at that age... good thing you aren't with him anymore.
Yea he was horrid
Dear Desi, thank you very much for sharing this painful personal experience so other girls could learn from your mistakes.
This is why we are here in this community, we are aiming to help each other not judge each other. You were not naïve, you were just an innocent decent girl who trusted the wrong person for a first relationship. Don't blame yourself for that one wrong choose.
Thank you dear Desi for this wonderful post!
Thank you for this
sorry to hear that this happend this guy sounds like a piece of shit
Yeaa
Wow. Sorry you had to deal with that.
Yea it was 8 years ago. Im better now :)
Been there done that
didn't expect that kinda answer
What do you mean
You bit him 😂 I'm proud of you. He deserved it 😆😂
Lmao 🙈😂
i've never had one so i can't say much about that
Reading this makes my ass kicking muscles twitch, This pissed me off, and and I could just see you going home in the rain.
it would never enter my mind to do these things to someone id never pressure someone or use them like that. What I would have done to this man. You seem like a nice girl and it just seems all the nice people I know have had really bad things happen to them. I could just see this story play out vividly in my head and it made me sick.
Yea this broke me but it made me into anbetter person
I don't know what to say except I'm sorry this happened, no one deserves that shit, glad your better now, I would encourage counseling. Just say it all to someone I never did and i find i with I had.
It happened almost 10 years ago. I dont need counseling now
Good you moved on, I would have needed closure.
I went for closure and he laughed and told me its not his fault i was dumb back then
Oh, it was and Ida beat his ass. There i feel better now.
Haha someone needed to
Omg- that is horrible, Desii. I'm so sorry you had to go through that. What a complete pile of rubbish that boy is. I hope he gets stuck at a RR crossing and gets hit by a train.
I was 15. I dont wish bad on my idiot exes
Okay. I still think he deserves it, though.
Sometimes it's easier said than done. A lot of times you don't realize it untilnits been happening for a while.
The bottom line is that one shouldn't allow themselves to be treated any less than how you would treat someone. Yes by all means rid yourself if that person that is not healthy for you mentally or physically the moment you feel like you are being treated any less than you should be it want to be. Speak up and stand your ground. Remember one thing, normal people just don't treat others badly because they can. There is something wrong with people who intentionally try to break you as a person.
Yea well i got away
I am sincerely happy that you did...💯
Don't know what to say, i'm speechless... and your ex was a scumbag...
I never take advantage of a virgin girl who loves, i will encourage her and never cheat on her and about sexusl needs, that's why there is masturbation and ofc if i truly love her, i'll marry her and make sex as much as i want with her cause she will become my wife and will love only her forever and it's worth the wait 😊
Glad you're a better man then him
Ofc i am, it's because i also believe that sex must come after marriage and in honeymoon... I can't see her naked or make love to her cause no matter how much we love each other, we still aren't marriage and i believe that marriage and the blessing of god will give the right to do everything i want with my future wife cause at this point she will become my wife and my family and my only one... also she will become my responsibility which mean i will take care of her, provide for her, feed her and always be there for her and of course make babies together 😊
Good take. Too many girls, and at least one guy, have been killed by toxic partners in my country. I wish more people would take heed.
Yea ikr. Glad i got away
I hope some woman will read about your tramatizing experience and be brave enough to end the toxic relationship. Your brave for telling your story. I commend you for that. You were not naive. He badgered you and coerced you to do things you didn't want to do. Guys like him give us good guys a bad name. Women think we are all alike which is farther from the truth. I'm so glad you got away from him. I just wish you could have done it sooner.
No i know the majority are not like his rabid ass.
But there are guys out there just like him. I'd love to meet each one in a dark alley so I can take out the trash
And can you believe he's a father to a daughter now
Hmmm I wonder if karma might hit him
I hope nothing happens to his baby girl
How old is his daughter
Maybe 5 now
And he already dogs her mom out. He posted something sayin “why’d my baby have to come from the ugliest baby mama in the world.” He hasn't changed
He is really a cruel guy.
His mom didn't love him and sent him to live with everyone else. And his father was never around. Ig it took a toll on him. He grew up living with a diff family each year
So he had a hard childhood and he is taking it out on everyone instead of being a bigger man and putting it all behind him and moving on to create a better future.
he's jus immature and gives no fcks
You are absolutely right.
good lawd... that guy was just evil all the way around... no one deserves that kind of stuff... i don't understand how to love through that kind of abuse... the wonders of womens... i'm sorry this happened... that guy doesn't reperesent us mens as a whole
Yea it tooks years to escape him but i did. Many of my exes after him even had the same name as him 🤦♀️
So Sorry Des. This is part of the reason why I don't ask women ask out anymore. I don't want to make them feel uncomfortable or pester them. So If someone is interested in me, I let them come to me, if they want, which obviously the guy typically asks the girl out, but unless it's blatantly obvious that they're interested, I don't ask.
Yea definitely let them come to you. But i doubt you asking them out is the same as pressuring them into having sec