Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
I see this mentioned so often now. Even in books, and especially online. It's guys, doing the classic thing that women do. They won't have sex with or even kiss their partners! I was shocked when I heard about this the first time. I thought it was a fluke, like a random odd boyfriend story. But nope, it looks like it's common, and there's plenty of guys like this.
These guys will completely refuse to fuck her, but will do other acts. Or they'll refuse to even kiss their partners, literally only a kiss. Or if they're with her in a relationship, they'll only have sex sporadically, or even just stop it for long amounts of time out of nowhere. It's not a specific type of guy, like very religious ones or a personality type....but just average guys. Guys who have high sex drives even.
I think lots of guys want to feel in control, instead of feeling like women are in control of sex. What else explains it? So many women complain about this now. He just simply doesn't want sex, like it's not a health issue he has, he's totally choosing this. Or if they're just dating, he'll want to wait for sex, or not have it at all, and rejects her if she doesn't like that.
I could see even being rejected because we have relationship issues, but for him to reject me because he just simply doesn't need sex? Or he tells me he wants to wait, and he doesn't have any serious or specific reasons, he just wants to wait until he's comfortable with me? That all means he's not totally into me sexually, or not?
I don't know how I feel about this. Is it cool, that guys are copying what women have done before? Or is it just weird? It's fascinating too, since...he does have the right to do what he wants with his body. So all of the women, can't do anything to make him have sex. They're totally stuck.
So as a girl, it's just that I didn't think that I'd have to be careful, like about being rejected for sex. It's true, I thought that sex was basically up to me. When we have it, and also that I'd be the main one refusing sex for whatever the reason. I didn't think I'd ever have to consider being the 'guy'.
Now that guys do this, I know I have to reconsider some things. I'm not sure how to think about it all now, but I just see so so many women complaining about this. So...it looks like guys are taking on new roles, and I'll have to adapt so I don't get stuck. He might even enjoy that I'm stuck. I just didn't think guys would be willing to say no to sex, and even be happy or content about it.
Edit: It's his body, so although I wouldn't like this at all, he can choose what to do with it. Some of the comments say he's being mean, but he doesn't anyone owe anything, and it doesn't have to mean he doesn't like or want her.
What Girls & Guys Said
11 62The real reason guys would stop having sex is because they no longer found her attractive and/or are tapping a younger hotter girl on the side. With some of my ex's my desire to even kiss them, like you say, went way down if i had spent the day with a prettier girl in class or something.
Is this really a thing? How do you know it's a thing? Not sure what it would accomplish since, when it comes to sex, most women could probably take it or leave it. Even the girls commenting on here are reacting positively to this trend, thinking "Great, at least now I won't be pressured all the time to do something I hardly enjoy anyway!" The problem will come when they want to trade sex for something, only to discover its value has dropped significantly. But if guys are wanting sex less, and women have always wanted it less, maybe this balances things out. I can definitely see the trend continuing into the future as holographic porn, virtual reality, and sex androids are developed. Most of the job loss today is due to automation, and strippers and prostitutes are next in line to be rendered redundant by technology.
Your data is wrong.
Just legalize prostitution and see.
What will happen with legal prostitution?
Given the female obesity epidemic in this country, this is hardly surprising. I am frequently shocked at the high number of obese young women out there, in some places they seem to be the norm. Add to that the fact that women seem to be often unpleasant to be around I can see how growing numbers of men would rather just rub one out.
This is called "cutting off your nose to spite your face".
I'm similar to this, but the thing that sets me apart is the fact that I'm simply apathetic to sex. I don't desire it, but if my partner does, and I see it as advantageous to comply, then I will.
Refusing sex is fine; sometimes there are just better things to do.
But the idea that anyone would deny their partner sex simply to deny it because it's their "role" as a man or woman, or whatever, is just pathetic, in my opinion.
Because sex is so easily available nowadays guys don't need to desperately chase it anymore as they used to. This also means they have more freedom to decline rather than feeling like they have to take the opportunity when it arises.
Oh wah, guys can turn down a woman for sex. How ever do women everywhere cope with such a thing? It's not like it happens to us
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I don't see any reason for this to be any different from when women do it.
Have you personally experienced this? Could you share more?
As a guy who've toyed with this before, all I can say is that it is a very effective way to manage the crazy.
How so?
@Poppykate Same way as how women control men with sex - you establish yourself as being able to give them what they crave, and they'll do anything you ask to scratch that itch. Back in the day, I would keep these girls as close to permanently turned on as I could. If all they could think about was great sex, and the only guy around that could give them reliably good sex was me, I could get away with anything I wanted.
Some guys are pretty screwed up lol. I don't know how they handle that. However, it is a known fact that some women do it too.
I never had that issue. If a woman refuses to have sex with me for too long. Then I will simply find another partner. Life is too short to waste time with foolish games and frustration. And that is my advice for these women.
If you are with a man that doesn't desire you sexually then why waste your time. I actually doubt many guys do this. But okay!
lol i didn´t know about it! but i like it a lot. women need to learn that getting a guy to have sex with them is special. many girls are so stuck up their own ass... for them sex is just an annoyance that comes with guys. we need to turn the tables and take the thing they took for granted from them, so they learn to appreciate it again :P
Yeah at least women will understand that not all guys are fuckboys , horny freaks.
Never heard of this before... except on GAG a few times, where girlfriends complained about not getting sex from their boyfriends (which was mostly because of clues of their boyfriends cheating on them).
And to be honest, this is nothing new to me either. I don't know what's so shocking about it.
How many women have been denied for sex?
From my own point of view it's mostly the women denying sex to the men.
Are you kind of saying, that there are going to be more men denying sex than women? Interesting dynamic change. But I haven't seen it anywhere.
You base this off of books and the internet? I find this hard to believe.
Nope, real people ofc. But I was aying even books have scenes like this now. I'm a avid reader and it's msotly the newset books with scenes with gusy rejecting her.
Stupid, stupid keyboard and freezing pages lol
Am I supposed to say yes every time I'm "offered" some pussy?
I'm not going to force myself to have sex if I don't want to. I don't withhold sex, but I bang when I want to.
I'd be very interested in a study to see exactly how prevalent this is. I don't think it's nearly as common as the OP makes it seem, if only because the male sex drive is usually quite high. For every one guy that chooses to abstain, there's got to be at least one who isn't.
As for the question, well: equality is a bitch, isn't it? In my case, sex has lost a lot of its allure. I was quite disappointed with my first time, even. I found myself thinking: 'Was that it? That's what all the fuss is about?' And so, many years later, I don't even give a damn about chasing after sex. It's something I can walk away from quite easily.
just wow if this is true. we've totally lost sight of the goal if that's what we're reducing ourselves too.
Yet no one says anything like that when they hear about women doing the same thing...
@Truthatanycost good point, brother
@Truthatanycost That's why I made the update/edit. It's his body.