Guys Don't Have to Date Promiscuous Girls...

[Anonymous]

A man that doesn't want to date a promiscuous woman isn't doing anything wrong. A lot of women and people on this site complain about some double standard. That a man can sleep around but a woman can't.

I'll tell you how it is because I'm a man who thinks there's nothing wrong with the double standard. Here's why.

Women CAN sleep around if they want to. If a woman wants to sleep with 50 guys a year that's her choice. No one ever said they can't do that but there are consequences by doing so. A woman that has slept around and a woman that is a virgin are not the same...

Now I would sleep around but I would NEVER date a woman that has. It's my dating preference. What I want in a woman isn't your business. I don't care if the girl walking down the street has slept around. I do care if my future wife has though. I don't care if I'm unreasonable or feeding a double standard. Women aren't exactly reasonable either. It doesn't matter. IF A MAN DOES NOT WANT TO DATE A PROMISCUOUS WOMAN THAT'S HIS CHOICE AND ITS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS.

If you want to land a man that wants a virgin that don't have sex until marriage. If you're a woman that has slept around but still want a man that wants a virgin and blames the way he thinks and society than you're ashamed of your past. If you're a woman that has slept around than date a man that doesn't care about a woman's past but don't try to land a guy that does care and when he dumps you don't blame society or the double standard.

Things have consequences...

[BrittBratt2416]

If I was a man I would not date promiscuous women either and as a woman I would not date promiscuous men. It just grosses me out that people have shared their bodies with multiple people who clearly used them nor give a damn about them. Just shows lack of self respect and no self control. Anyway it's your choices, even though your choice is hypocritical and you have admitted to being a hypocrite: " Now I would sleep around but I would NEVER date a woman that has" so the same logic comes back to you as well. If a woman who is virgin wants a virgin man then it's fine to reject a man who isn't one. If a woman wants a man with low sexual partner count, then that's fine too and can reject guys who do have a high sexual partner count. Reading this all comes down to this and translate: "if I wasn't the first to conquer her body stick my dick in her first, then she is in worthy to me and beneath me but I am a god amounts her who conquer all the vagina in the world and not be judged". This is why you have women believing it's okay for men to be whores and not women, but the truth is all of society all over the world looks down upon your lifestyle and sees it as distasteful regardless if your a man or woman.

[Nomatterwhere]

Honestly, when I read articles like yours, I can sometimes understand the reason why some girls are fed up with guys.

I won't accept a promiscuous girl as well. But the reason is that I'm waiting for the right one to come, so that we can enjoy the moment and intimacy together. Nothing is more enjoyable than the moment two people love each other and care for each other have sex, the most precious gift in my opinion. But I would never dare to reject a non-virgin girl if I was a non-virgin as well. That's as if I reject a smoker although I smoke.

Now every down vote I will get will be a shame for the guys who give them, because it reveals the number of hypocrites on this site.

Have a nice day!

[Ozanne]

Your choice is your choice, and no one has the ability nor reason to make you decide what kind of woman you want.

I used to be friends with a fat woman who had a bad case of fluorosis on her teeth - who insisted on only dating fit, hot guys who had no imperfections. Once I questioned her: "How is it with your own imperfections, you insist that someone else not have them?" She made it clear that it was what *she* wanted, and she dated/slept with these "perfect" looking men who had to find her size and teeth a turn on for them in return. She thought it was just a win/win for them both.

It made me realize that no matter how hypocritical *I* think it is, we all have our types and we know what makes us happy. No one can make us attracted to or want something we don't.

[KadBitty]

Well duh. Neither do women need to date slutty guys. I think most if not all people know they have a choice to not date certain people.

[GeorgeDubyaKUSH]

I view promiscuous women the same way I view bisexual women: I'll fool around with them, and I might even casually date them, but no way no how would I ever get into a serious/committed relationship with one. I have been in situations where I was casually dating/in a friends with benefits situation with both promiscuous girls and bisexual girls, and they told me they wanted to take our relationship to the next level because they wanted something more serious, and they just weren't worth making it more serious, so I politely told them I wanted to keep things the way they were and if they didn't like that, they were free to call it quits. Some of the time they did call it quits, sometimes they stayed, but I always kept my perspective, never let myself fall in love with them, and I am much better off emotionally and psychologically because of that.

To this day, I maintain that I will never be in a serious relationship with, and damn straight will never marry or have kids with, either a chick that has slept around or a bisexual girl. Both are sluts, both are incapable of being faithful in a monogamous relationship, and neither are wifey material or mommy material. As the saying goes you can't turn a whore into a housewife, and I'm not one of those pathetic cucks/beta males that would ever try to do so. In fact, doing so will always lead to pain, emotional distress, and psychological torment. A lot of pathetic loser guys will "one" a slutty girl, ie will get the idea in his head that she is "the one", and will put her on a pedestal even though she's fucked half the local population, and it always leads to the guy getting his heart broken after the girl proves that a whore will always act like a whore, it's in their blood and they can't ever change.

I encourage all men to live by my advice: whenever you start something with a promiscuous or bisexual girl, fuck them (with a condom - no telling what you might catch from them), keep them around as a friend with benefits if you like them, but don't ever, ever get romantically or emotionally attached to one. They're simply not worth your love. Settle down ONLY with a non-slutty heterosexual woman, and no other kind of female. Doing this will save youself a world of hurt.

[Lika_sal97]

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[scarlett]

"Now I would sleep around but I would NEVER date a woman that has."

So you're a hypocrite. Cool, at least you admit it.

Yes, you *can* choose not to date women who have slept around but if you are vocal about it then other people have the right to call you out on your blatant hypocrisy. Things have consequences...

[Inuyasha86]

In the end, everyone is free to set his own rules, no matter how unreasonable they may seem to you. Nobody should have to settle for something he/she actually does not want, simply because of the sake of fairness. That being said, I personally don't like the double standard either, and yes you can call them hypocrites if it makes you feel better.

[scarlett]

@Inuyasha86 That's pretty much exactly what I said already... if the Asker wants to judge women for their sexual history then cool but then people are allowed to judge him for his "preferences." It goes both ways.

[scarlett]

myTake owner*

[Inuyasha86]

This dating thing is all supply and demand. If you're worth it, you can make such unreasonable requests and still find people willing to "buy". This is also the reason why you would vocally judge people like this. The reason people judge others is to decrease other people's apparent value whilst boosting their own, in the hopes of getting better deals in the future.

[scarlett]

@Inuyasha86 Okay, cool. I never said otherwise. 👍

[Lika_sal97]

Why should people call him out on hypocrisy. It is his life. His business

[scarlett]

@Lika_sal97 If he makes his "business" public then other people have the right to comment on it. He has the freedom to do what he wants but not the freedom from the consequence of public opinion.

[Lika_sal97]

if a promiscuous woman says she sleeps around in public then other people have the right to comment on it. She has the freedom to do what she wants but not the freedom from the consequence of public opinion.

[scarlett]

@Lika_sal97 Yep, I agree.

[RJGraveyTrain]

Y'all can not wanna date people for whatever reason is what it boils down to. It doesn't need justification. The only issue women tend to have is when dudes will sleep around and then expect a wholesome woman - because it's hypocritical. However you're still allowed to expect and want whatever, it's your life.

[RationalMale]

It's just life. It's like how so many women are short but expect to date a much taller man. Or how so many chubby, fat women want a fit guy.

[RJGraveyTrain]

@RationalMale Pretty much.

[fabulouspancakes]

I agree you can date or not date whoever you want. Nobody is forcing you. But (there's always a but)...
Promiscuous men can't EXPECT virgin/non-promiscuous women to be interested in them or get mad when they aren't. That's where the double standard is a problem, and I think that's what pisses people off about guys like you. It's similar to how you probably view fat girls who think they deserve a very hot fit guy and complain about men being shallow when they aren't interested, all the while refusing to do anything to change themselves. As you state, choices have consequences, and your choices are no exception.

[coralee]

You are absolutley entitled to your dating preferences. But, that doesn't make you any less of hypocrite. Just like a woman's actions might have the consequence of not getting with you, your opinion has the consequence of you being labelled a hypocrite. Funny old world isn't.

[Armourdillo]

I'm sure he's fine with that, his entire post was about accepting the consequences of your choices.

[OlderAndWiser]

I don't think anyone seriously suggests that you don't have the right to maintain a double standard for dating. I think they are just saying that anyone who does so is an arrogant, pompous jerk and I'm sure you would defend their right to have such opinions, even if you disagree. . . right?

[azzntittiz]

No one is forcing you.

[bingbaddaboom]

Well, I think this is interesting. On one hand-- no, I don't care to date a total slut. On the other hand-- yes, I want to date someone experienced. It really boils down to how promiscuous is defined here. Also, if I did date said girl, I wouldn't go in with the expectation that she would change her ways. It would be more of a 'have fun' sort of mentality. Then if she does her thing again, it's goodbye and no contact. A lot of those types of women come running back to exes when they realize the grass isn't always greener. If you understand that, you can usually score some extra tail sometime down the road without even having to commit yourself. You just kinda end up beating her at her own game.

[JimRSmith]

You have the absolute right to date whoever you want, and you don't need to justify it.

[cutelilPigeon]

I'm perfectly fine with this, my issue is just this:
There's guys that complain about women riding the 'cock carousel' and then find some desperate guy when she's old and out of options.
how is that any worse than a guy who whores himself out and then wants to marry a virgin as he gets older...

both of those people are pretty scummy in my opinion and I feel bad for the virgin girl that would settle for a man like that.

[hellionthesagereborn]

Both are scummy. I do think, for the most part, the ones who complain are not the ones sleeping around, in general, that's the issue. Guys who don't want a relationship love women who sleep around, those who do want a relationship don't.

[Rissyanne]

Date who you want dude...

[HeatNation1]

You're super sexy.

[MarcoIsAFailure]

I actually would like to date a promiscuous girl who then cheats on me. But she would have to be faithful to me emotionally and be able to assure me, that apart from sex, she only wants me.

[TerrierSaurus_rex]

I want to date promiscuous girls.

[Ephemera1]

Agreed

[ATuairiscean]

This is just a take about dating preferences - In reality most people don't care about a potential partner's history, it is the same as the views, beliefs etc - If you connect you will most likely find a way around it, if it is a dealbreaker so be it as long as both parties know early it won't be an issue.

[rjroy3]

I'm not saying you should proactively seek out a slut/former slut and marry her. But this way of thinking you have isn't going to help you. This will more likely lead to either you finding women who are prudes or finding women who did sleep around, but will lie to you about it because they know how you view that. And they will act like a prude because that's your view towards sex. And you'll believe her, because you want to believe her.

Personal opinion. Understand that women have sex and don't be judgmental about it. You can still have that personal standard for who you will date long term, but removing the judgement will make it so women feel comfortable being open and honest with you about who they are and what they've done sexually. So when you do get a girl she won't be a prude, because she knows that you aren't so uptight about sex. Better to go in with eyes wide open.

[AdamThomas]

There are and always will be many double standards between men and women because we're not the same and we don't look for the same things in a partner, it's that simple. These women criticising you and calling you a hypocrite will all have double standards of their own that they'll never admit because they still want to pretend that men and women are equal/the same, that we want the same things and that we should be held to the exact same standards which is bullshit.

[Zechs]

Yep, everyone is free to have their standards, being hypocritical or not. Simple as that