Sexual Relationships 
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So I saw another question. About dick pics. "Girls, is it true that nudes don't really turn you on? I read somewhere that some girls get lots of nudes of some random guys and that they've never been turned on by a single dick pic. However, from the guys I saw online, they all crave for nudes from a girl. Is it true that you don't find nudes or dicks in general arousing?"
To be fair, his wording and understanding was a little more advanced than some of his (even older) peers, so good for him. But in essence, the question still exists in some form or another. To some, this will seem basic. And you may be asking, 'Does this really need to be said?' A: Yes. Yes, it does.
So, how many of you have done it?
Men, Your Questions:
'Do girls like receiving dick pics?'
"'We guys are fascinated by breasts and vaginas. They're all different, interesting, sexy, thus the reason we are obsessed with them. Don't girls think the same way?"
A: No. That's a firm... hard... no. I'm not making this up. I'm not referring to a different time or generation. I've done the research. Trust me on this. A year ago, I would have honestly said, "I'm not sure what girls today think about this." But now I do know, so I'm going to summarize it for you. The vast majority of girls, at any given random time, do not like it.
So, the short answer to the question is: don't do it. But I can hear some of you guys out there saying, "But..." So let's talk about it.
'Why don't girls like them? I don't get it.'
Here's What Girls Say:
"If it was never solicited, don’t ever send. Ever."
"Oh man, I've had my fair share of unwelcomed dick pics. Dudes, most girls hate that crap, Y'all, don't expect squat from us."
"Guys think nudes of a girl is hot and to receive nudes they send them first and want us to get turned on, but in fact, for us girls a dickpic with only a dick is just a piece of meat. Not exciting."
"I don't like dick pics.. They don't arouse me and I've only asked to see ONE guys penis. That was over 10 years ago! It was my first when we were long distance."
"If i didn't ask dont bother sending me one. Its a total deal breaker."
"No. Not ever. It’s pretty much only the creepiest type guy who would do that."
"I'll report him."
"It is an annoyance! Especially when your mind isn't even on that topic. Then they usually do the whole, "come on, send me one? I already sent you one," as if we somehow agreed to swap nudes in the first place."
"I would get disgusted and I'm just like I don't care for what's in your pants. They think I'm going to send them one in return and I'm not. And then when I don't they get mad at me."
"I fail to understand why guys seem so adamant to send nudes to girls, knowing that most girls react negatively to them. Think with your brain rather than with your genitals next time."
"I didn't want them whatsoever. I'd choose a shirtless pic over a dick pic any day."
"I've definitely never been shocked into arousal, so a surprise dick pic is never a good thing."
"Just a dick pic, especially out of nowhere, or not asked for, is never a turn on. They don't do a thing for me."
"Block him. We are definitely not on the same wavelength. Not interested in someone's penis until they're my SO. Too rude."
"I mean, if it's a pic of just the dick, no it doesn't. At least if the pic contains their whole body nude then it's more appealing. I don't get why guys would think women think like men. I don't understand why dudes think the dick pic turns women on. We are not like men, so it stands to reason. But they don't seem to get it or maybe just don't care."
"I made a comment about how I liked watching my fiancé jack off and I got at least 15 messages from different men. It was disgusting."
"I miss the good old flirting in public. One time I was looking at the public Snapchat story for New York City and some dude posted a video of his cock on it. It’s like... bro. You’re showing your cock to so many impressionable young kids."
And Here's What Men Say:
I honestly think this whole thing with dick pics (which I like to call "the invasion of dicks") is a product of men being more and more self-conscious. I mean srsly, when was the last time some man actually came up to you, and starting hitting on you in a bar or on a street demanding your number because you're simply "too cute to pass"?
Today all guys have to do is swipe right. So confidence levels are dropping in population."
"Women tend to ask from their own point if view: "Why did he send ME a dick pic?" A better question would be: "Why did he send a dick pic to anyone at all?" Asking that question avoids confusion and gets more directly to the obvious answer: Exhibitionism. Because he got off by doing it."
"Guys that do that are total losers. They should be banned for life."
"Most likely they're fake anyway. Copy/pasted from somewhere on the internet."
"Send him one back... of a bigger penis. I always send BBC back."
"Send them creepy clown porn in response."
"Even the most bone-headed guy knows unsolicited dick pics are not on. They rely on women to be submissive and forgiving. For my vote, include a public doxing with it. If he is eager to get his junk onto the internet, why not help him. "Hey folks - help this guy get famous, this is a photo of his junk, his cellphone is #####, e-mail is #####" That happens to guys a few times, suddenly unsolicited dick pics get a lot rarer."
"My sister sends back pics of hotdog slicers or sends back a pic of a shemale with a bigger dick than the perv who sent the pic, they never send them again, works every time."
"I'd perhaps circulate the pictures among my own contacts, and on my diverse media. Together with his 'details', and an invitation to comment.
After that: have a beer."
"Because we are assholes." Girl reply: "Hey, I find that the majority of guys are sweet and good-intentioned. It's just sometimes their brains fall to their groins, and then they think they're taking a selfie." Guy: "Or that."
"I think they are hoping a girl would say "wow it's so big. I want it in my mouth. Yummy all over me. I'm so slutty."
"Dudes think "if I send her the D, it'll change her mind and get turned on. Then: sexy talk comes after that... aw yeah." Basically, the sexual urges take over his brain and he doesn't think like a rational human being. And yes, I've sent the D before. But they were solicited and asked for lol. I've never done a "dick in the box" move to a girl."
"All guys have one thing in mind. To have sex at least once a day. That's all they want. Sex, sex, sex. F*cking, f*cking, f*cking. No chat. So, we send dick pics."
"Not all guys do this but the guys that send pictures of their dicks to girls think the girls love it and some of the extremely sexual girls will love it but most don't. They think the girl is going to rush off to her bed, stick her fingers down her pants and get herself off to a picture of their dick. They are trying to arouse the girl and get her horny but what they do not realise is that for most girls that is not how you arouse them. You can arouse most girls but not like that."
And the winner is...
"I have sent them when requested, but younger less mature males often forget that women don't see genitals like we do, we enjoy vagina pics but most women don't care for direct exposure to the penis. They prefer the idea of it, maybe through a towel or something, because they are less visual and more mentally stimulated, they prefer to imagine the penis not see it directly."
'But why can't I? Some girls like them.'
Because you're ruining it for the rest of them! "This is why we can't have nice things!" In doing this, you are making all guys seem like thirsty boys who have one thing on their minds, cannot be trusted, and it makes the entire situation more difficult to have healthy relationships with them. And that's really what you want, isn't it? Like an actual relationship, with a live girl, who actually might care about how you're doing, how your day was, and maybe even love you. ❤
Because 'some' is a very, very small minority. Odds are, you send them unsolicited, you're going to get ghosted, blocked, reported, and potentially your accounts closed.
And because some of those 'girls' are guys. Kinky guys, twisted guys, gay guys. You okay with that?
And what about the moral component. How sure are you that the 'girl' you're speaking to is over 18? There are legal ramifications, and there are moral ramifications. Just because you think you're talking to some virgin teenager on the cusp of her sexuality, doesn't justify you exploiting that.
And some girls are saving them only to embarrass and humiliate you. They show their friends, post them publicly, etc.
And some 'girls' are going to blackmail you. (Either get your cryptocurrency account in order, or get ready to have your most private possession splashed about the internet.) Think I'm joking? I am not.
And some girls are going to upload your video or picture to porn sites, just for fun. Ever had to find out how difficult and annoying is it to get them removed?
And some girls seek revenge. I'm not saying it's right, but I am saying that many people justify many things in their minds.
And some girls and guys are not mentally all there. 'There's no there, there.'
So for all these reasons, really consider the risks.
'Ok, but is it ever a turn on? I mean, sometimes it must be. Right?'
A: Yes, sometimes it is a major turn on (see below for when.) But first you have to assume that no girls want them. Because that's the way it is for the vast majority of girls, the vast majority of the time.
'But my dick is special.'
A: Uh, no, sorry, odds are it's not. They all follow the same basic form and function. Breasts and vaginas do too, but to be fair, breasts vary way more in size and shape, so maybe that's part of your fascination (the other points being that men are visually turned on, etc.) You have a much, much stronger, innate attraction to these graphic images. It's not the same for females. You need to understand - and more importantly, accept - females are different. They do not compartmentalize the way that men do. Their sexuality and desire is far more complicated, and you have to meet each girl's specific conditions, before she will be in the mood.
Exceptions: Yes, there are exceptions that might possibly give you a higher chance of a girl wanting to see it. Size/length/girth, and unusual traits like colour, curve, etc. But just because you may fall under one of these does not mean it puts you into the 'yes, she definitely wants to see it' category. It just slightly ups the odds. She has to like you as well. This isn't a dog and pony show.
'When does a girl want them? When can I send them?'
So here's the part you really want to get to. Pay close attention.
1. Rule #1: If in doubt, don't send.
2. When SHE ASKS for them.
3. When you've talked about it, or the communication is getting very sexual, AND you ask her if she would like you to send one, AND she says yes.
4. When you're in a relationship together. "When I'm with a guy, and have been for a while, I do get turned on when he sends me videos while finishing, and he's moaning in the background hmmm... even thinking about it..."
What Makes a Good Picture:
So, referring back to Rule #1: If in doubt, don't send, but I know some of you are still going to, here's how to do it and not look lame...
This is not 'hard.' For those of you who have experimented, you will already have learned the basics, but I'll just remind you of a few things:
1. Lighting is key. Bright light, fuhgedaboudit. This is not a doctor's examination. Think dim, incandescent warm. Sexy light.
2. You're taking them too close up. Don't zoom in so much. I'm not talking about including the face in there. You're not that insane... right? You already know that. That's Sexting101. (Even though she really does want to see your face. So do it if you're brave.) I'm talking about seeing the hips, stomach, abs, torso... whatever is going to show you in a positive light. If you've got it, flaunt it. All girls want to see more, not just 'it.' They also want to see your room, how you live, what objects you possess, etc. It's probably more interesting to her than 'it.' It's about learning more about you, and setting the scene, so she can imagine being there, with you.
3. Clothes are sexier to most girls than nudes. For some, the more clothes the better. Most would rather see your face and clothing style and mostly clothed body than you nude. At least at first. But if you've got sex on the brain, and so does she, it's a good idea to send her a teaser first, boxer briefs or similar, not go all-in on the one and only shot.
4. What about video? It's either way more offensive (refer to rules above, for when not to send - rules are the same), or if she's into you and into the moment, way, way sexier. But do not hit her with this out of the blue. That is very, very rude! If she asks for it, or you ask her if she would like to receive it, make some noise, boys. Don't follow what you see in porn (made by men, for men, for the most part.) It is infinitely hotter to hear you. So moan, talk, say her name, personalize it, let her know how good it feels. And, you might have a video saved and ready to go, for just such an occasion (I get it - you pre-approved it and it passes all 'quality' tests), but live video (or pictures), and knowing SHE is the one who inspired it, is the hottest. That is key.
5. And finally... hair or no hair, natural, trimmed, or shaved: what does she like? Well, you can ask her first, find out her preferences, but in general, IF she wants the picture, she wants to see that too. It all goes together. (Again, refer to #2, above.) It's part of you, your style, your taste, and yes, also your personal grooming habits.
Now to finish up... I'll end on some great insights from this guy:
"If I'm in a relationship with a girl and we've already had some sexual experiences together, sometimes it can be fun to throw a little lasciviousness into pictures. I usually send something like of me getting out of the shower and the towel just covering my dick, like holding it over but basically showing everything else."
Now THAT'S what women want. IF we like you. Smart man.
Peaches, 'Dick in the Air' Enjoy the role reversal here.
If there was ever a more fitting representation of what some of y'all men think of, the 'gift' that is your dick... listen to the infamous, hilarious SNL song, featuring Justin Timberlake... (sorry, the original SNL video is too hard to find. I think the show's got strict control over their intellectual property.)
What Girls & Guys Said
31 120I think I should qualify as a girl:
That if I see a random dick pic like BOOM sent to me. I’ll feel confused and disgusted. But if it’s with a guy I’m interested in, admiring him as a whole person. That if we have a conversation and trust built and are comfortable enough to take risks with each other.
I don’t know how to explain it...
it’s like we’re both vulnerable and secretive with each other. Almost feeling like a child doing something behind our parents back in a curious comfortable situation.
I'm not sending a dick pic unless she asks and I trust her.
Even if asked I wouldn't give one. I don't want that on the internet because it's private.
Thank you!!! This won't stop everything but it's a response to all and a midway thought stop to many! They might think, should i? Then they read this and say yeah I better not...
Thank you for this!!! This was a very complete and perfect response to the issue!
Not man bashing but an unbiased look at the practice and it's intention vs results.
Thank you again!
Thank you, Jj. I appreciate it. 💛
Anytime! You are one of my favorite gaggers 😊 so it's a pleasure :)
I wouldn't at all be surprised to find out that not a single woman in the history of humanity going all the way back to mitochondrial Eve has EVER given it up to a guy who sent her a random, unsolicited dick pic. (hyperbole of course, but not by much)
I believe most men who send unsolicited dick pics are generally aware that women don't like it. You would have to be so stupid that you'd be in diapers to not know this. The reason they do it is the same reason a lot of exhibitionists do it. They get off on humiliating women. Sadly, Amanda, I fear this PSA will not educate or deter them at all.
I generally don't recommend anyone ever send nudes of any kind. Even to people who request them. Too much danger of being hacked. The relationship can nose dive and who knows what they'll do with them. Revenge porn is real... and 100% preventable. And if it's someone you don't know, who knows for certain who's on the receiving end.
My wife and I had a great sex life. As did my parents. And we never sent a single nude to anyone.
The last time I was photographed nude was about 50 years ago. I will keep it that way.
Peaches? Is that the same singer who sang that song featured in the titty bar in Lost in Translation?
Re: Peaches: Yes she is! Tres bien.
How can you prevent revenge porn?
What if he films you without your consent?
@hi_it_is_me123 You contact the sites he's uploaded you to, and tell them you didn't give consent. It will take some work, but you can get them removed. But you have to do it for each and every occurrence, and these things spread like wildfire.
I never experienced it but i am so afraid of it
Thank you by the way
@hi_it_is_me123 then dont send nudes
I dont but hidden cameras exist
Real man don’t send that BS.
I never had and never will. Fxck that.
I also don’t ask girls for nudes that goes against my principles of a real man.
Love this 🌹
push her buttons that trigger her senses for attraction, (especially fun to do with feminists because they deny they have those buttons at all) and you may be able to send one. but its still not the social norm. so there's a good chance she will be pissed about it because she thinks she's supposed to be. if you want to send dick pics without all of the games and manipulation, just find an older woman to mutually enjoy eachother. younger woman do not want to be mutual. they want you to be their bitch and use every double standard possible. again. social norms going against biology and causing mental disorders :/ maybe one day we will treat eachother with respect and stop going. mememememe. until then. cougars! if enough of us go for cougars. maybe they will catch up and stop shaming our penises, because 35 y/o Becky sure as hell won't. Philosophical take: throw the phone in the trash and start being human instead
Girls like dick pics from GUYS THEY LIKE. It’s different for the majority of women. There needs to be a connection for a woman to enjoy a nude from a guy. She either has to already want to have sex with him or has already had sex with him.
Guys can get turned on by pretty much any naked girl. But for girls they have to FEEL something “for” the guy before he can physically attract her. Girls are turned on by intangible things while guys are mostly physical. Also. If a girl is really attractive and on social media chances are she’s gotten too many dick pics to like “any” of them. I wouldn’t send one unless it’s to a girl I’ve already known for a while. I sent a girl a pic today and she loved it BUT this was to a girl who I’ve know for years who also sends me nudes regularly without me even asking.
I think a lot of girls do enjoy dick pics under the right conditions but being a random stranger is not one of them.
I don't support nudes of any type whether it is to send or ask. I mean if you want to experience you can only in real. Besides in today's day and age privacy has become a big problem even with so much security
Wise man.
Thanks
Personally i dont send or ask for nudes, id always rather wait and be with my girlfriend in person and have some fun. I've alway just never seen the appeal, but if my girlfriend really wanted some im sure I'd send some
Don't. I repeat don't send a woman a picture of your Peter Piper. Even if she was to ask you for one I would question whether or not to do it. It could be a real deal breaker if the relationship is good on the other accounts. I'm just going to be honest here I'm 55 years old. In my whole life I've sent one dick pic. There's a reason why I only sent one. First I'd like to say that I had two girlfriends no wait three girlfriends that have seen me nude and in person. All three have commented that my dick was a nice size and was someone of a turn on. Okay back to the original reason why I won't ever send another picture. I don't know what went wrong, I don't know what this woman expected when she ask for a pic I was in my thirties by the way. All I know is she slowly quit talkin to me. I asked her why she said she didn't know why. Here's my theory and I back it up by a lot of other similar questions on this site, with women's thoughts and opinions. A woman can even ask for a dick pic, she may not even know really the reason why she's asking, but I can tell you the results women do not look at a dick and get turned on. To them it's just an object and not a pretty one at that. Now maybe if you have a six pack abs you look like Tom Cruise your muscular everywhere you got a nice tan. Then and only then a woman might look at the whole picture and say wow hey sexy. But not just look at a dick pic and say that
I feel bad for guys that actually want something to do with women. Women are more turned on by money or power than they are by the male body... LOL.
I now prepare myself to roll my eyes at the response of how women are ackchyually attracted to virtue.
“That's the thing, love never existed in the first place.
We just need some way to romanticize cumming in vaginas, as we are all slaves to our biology.”
You speak for yourself, not everyone.
Is romance dead? Do you want it to be? Is time for a resurrection? Or was it all too cliché in its last incarnation and it needs a major revamping? ↗
I am honestly puzzled by the lack of awareness on the parts of guys that send dick pics that no girl appreciates it. Essentially you are guaranteeing there being no interest. I've never sent a single one, not because it won't work or even because it will achieve the opposite of the desired outcome, but simply because I've never seen the point of doing something like that. I am even questioning if there are any guys out there that actually think suck pics will win them even a date. So why do they do it? Beats me.
Well it has been my experience that in the right circumstances women are very visual. Women are just as able as guys to enjoy an attractive human. Women enjoy looking at hot naked guys. But the key phrase is "right circumstances". Any unsolicited nude will probably result in a woman becoming uncomfortable and feeling threatened. Its not rocket science guys to know when the time is appropriate. Hell if you are really in doubt just ask! But if in doubt stay classy and keep that camera on the shelf.
Perfect answer 👌
I don't mind sendeing nudes if I'm asked for it. Bur I would never send dick pics ot smth out of the blue. Sure I like getting nudes and for me this is smth arousing. But at least you have to find someone who wants some or send some. I don't ask for nudes or aim for them. If I had to choose I would prefer a nice and honest chat :)
another helpful post. While I am VERY RELUCTANT to send them I've sent them to two girls ever and... after they had kind of been asking for them for a while tbh. the send me stuff first or directly back after which was nice too. But taking your advice for the future I won't give into the pressure anymore unless its with my actual girlfriend. ty
Honestly i can vouch for that. If some random girl sent me nudes or a vagina pic it wouldn't work. Id just think she was a creep and block her. I need more than that. Like sure, id prolly get a little horny since i am a guy, but i just find it too weird when she's someone im not involved with.
Even if it was someone i was involved with, to really get into it i need verbal stimulation. I want to know that she's totally into it, i can usually only get turned on when i know she is feeling good. Its part of the reason i dont do well with most porn videos or images. I prefer some form of audio combined with visual cue that tells me she is feeling the action. Which is why i love seeing the girl have a good time and actually enjoy herself. Even better if she gets me involved in some way, maybe by trying to engage me in her own pleasure talk or something. Like you said, it makes me go red hot when she implies im the inspiration for her pleasure.
Not that anyonw has ever sent me nudes, its just how i would perceive it.
So. pay attention to what your partner wants. Or better still, just dont send unsolicited nudes in general.
Well said! Totally agree. And yes, audio is the best. More people should stop texting and get on an actual phonecall at least. It's much more intimate.
I personally have never sent a dick pic. Now before i get everyone commenting, call bullshit. I have never sent one because for the fact i have never been asked for one. I dont have the dating or mingling experience as most guys that are involved in this kind of thing. See, i have been with the same woman since i was 17. But on the other hand. Yes, i loved when she would send me a picture of her self nude or in a sexy outfit with a some comment that led up to sexual activitie later on👉👌. But i have gotten some random nude pic sent to me by mistake. Not going to lie, they were nice and all but didn't turn me on. For me it is more of the meaning or the message of the pic that was sent. Just a random pic of a nude girl is nice and all, and i dont mind receiving them.
If i recive a nude/sexy picture from my wife. Witch never happes anymore 😪 with a message like "I have think of you or how would you like to play with this later on" now you bet you ass im instantly turned on. Because it is leading up to something and the picture has a meaning behind it. If i just get a random one asking if i would sleep with the person or if her tits look nice. It dosent turn me on because its not leading anywhere. But still nice the recive. Hope this makes sense.
That was great, Nate. Very well explained. Thank you 🎯
Now i know girls dont appreciate something that. I have the feeling im going to be fishing here in the near future and i won't use that as one of my tactics
Nudes are not sexy they cheap and lazy
Sending unwanted nudes to anyone isn't exhibitionism but harassment.