Sexual Relationships 
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Ok, I absolutely do not understand these girls who say "guys only want me, or girls, for one thing".
I absolutely do not understand it. I've been in 5, 8+ month, relationships in my life and these have been the only men I've slept with. One was young love, two were absuive, one emotionally detached, and currently with the last one. That's why there are more than I'd like there to be, so please don't judge. And I can honestly say I've never had a one night stand or "slept around" for the hell of it. I have never been used for sex or even felt that I have been.
I feel that the girls who feel this way have obviosuly given this guy who "only wants one thing" some notation that that's all she's good for. Because if they haven't, the guy wouldn't have even approached you in the first place. Whether you're 1) dressed promiscuously 2) they've heard you were promiscuous 3) they've seen you be promiscuous 4) you have promiscuous friends or 5) someway proven to be involved with the word promiscuous in any way, even if you aren't.
I am not downing women who only want one night stands or flings, or even judging these women who seem to find these guys who that's all they want is sex. I'm just saying not very many men have approached me wanting one night stands or just for casual sex. And once they start talking to me, they quickly realize I am not one of these girls that gives it up easily. I've been told that it's because I exude this sense of wanting more than just a fling or one night stand. Basically, I expect more from men than what they want to give. Hints why I've only attracted a few, and hints why #5 will be my last. Not saying all the men I dated were excellent choices, but they never used me for sex. And that's the topic.
I just simply do not understand how it happens. There are certain ways to act/be to where a man will take you seriously and eventually you'll both get what you want, assuming you'll attract the right guys from the get go.
SOMETHING FOR THE LADIES:
Some of you women need to realize something, men spend their money on what's most important to them. So if he can't bother to buy you roses, or take you on a nice date, or bother to even spend the $8 to clean his car up at the car cleaning place, then dump him and consider yourself lucky that you did before he "got what he wanted" and left.
Find someone who prides himself in being chivalrous. And I mean THE WORKS!! Giving you his coat, flowers, dinners, opening your doors, pulling your chair out for you, standing when you get up to leave the room, and many more. If he can't bother to do this, then don't bother giving him the goods.
There are still men out there who do this, they are just looking for the women who require it of them. I promise! Not enough women are holding men to the standards the should be held at. Men want to be called men without even realizing what being a man is. And same goes for women. Know your worth, and require what you deserve! This goes to men and women! There will be a lot less heartache and shame!
SOMETHING FOR EVERYONE:
It's simple really. Find someone who is willing to prove they are worth your goods, and if they don't even bother trying to prove themselves worthy, DUMP THEM! REQUIRE MORE FROM THE PEOPLE YOU DATE, SET A STANDARD!! And if they can't meet your standard, kick their ass to the curb, QUICK FAST AND IN A HURRY! That will save you a lot of heartache and a lot of shame in the end if you've given up the goods and they leave you. MEN, this goes for you to. Before you go spending your hard earned money, make sure she's worthy of your money. And if she's not, DUMP HER! Find someone who will pursue your heart, Find someone who makes you a better person!
• Any input on why guys act this way, from a guys perspective?
• Any input on why girls feel this way or accept this behavior, from a girls perspective?
DISCLAIMER: This myTake is not to offend or step on anyones toes. I'm simply here to understand why guys are this way and why some girls seem to only attract this kind of guy. And if you decide to comment with some kind of negative bullcrap, it will result in NOT ONE RESPONSE from me, I will not lose one minute of sleep over it, and I will assume you are one of the characters listed above and you're getting offensive because I'm on a touchy subject. Resulting in lots of laughter on my part. Thanks and goodnight.
What Girls & Guys Said
13 50I agree we need to improve our standards as a society.
Most definitely!
I agree. Men need to improve our standards, as well.
Whoa whoa whoa, I for one can say that I'm a big fan of food. So as long as the girl can cook I'm all good!
LOL perfect
girls want men for their resources and young girls want guys who have traits that indicate they will have resources later.
so, women use their looks and sex to attain these things.
i think its fair but i dont get why men get demonized?
women never get in any examination for what they do?
It's called "gynocentrism." Whenever a society is prosperous enough and safe enough, women get elevated to a strata above men. Right now we have this cultural cancer called Feminism which is on a concerted campaign to eliminate any kind of sympathy for men and to push men down into a serf class, and have nobody question why.
thanks i think youve just enlightenened me a bit more. "Whenever a society is prosperous enough and safe enough, women get elevated to a strata above men." this goes well with "there are no feminists in a house fire or a sinking ship" I've been saying lately. the double standard is disgusting. its truly demonic this feminism. modenn feminism is not about equality at all. its female dominance and a dysfunction in my opinion.
No version of feminism has ever been about equality. Read the Declaration of Sentiments from 1957. Then do some historical research about the context.
Boobs... Simple.
He getting downvotes cos he's right? Too bad you neckbeards can't downvote irl
I am offended. I've never only one wanted one thing. I don't even like women I don't actually know well and my attraction only grows based on how much I see in them.
guys act this way, because of their hormones and their reproductive mechanisms, they´re basically allways horny. they all do seek for love but that´s hard to find... so since you´re allways horny, you´ll take the next best thing - sex - which is nothing bad, because just because you only want sex from a girl, doesn´t mean that she´s not worth anything. it´s just the need for love and recognition through sexual activity. which in it isn´t bad as long as both partners are on the same page.
And that's where women need to make finding love easy. Not your vagina. As long as the woman doesn't mind being used for sex, hey girl, do yo thang! But don't be mad when he doesn't want you for anything more than just that.
Yeah and don't be mad if he leaves if you don't do him either :P
Sex is always a form of love, if you plan on marriage or not. If you don't give him love, he won't love you back.
There are other ways of showing love than just having sex with him because of a "mutual attraction" I'm not saying you have to wait until marriage to make love to him, just wait until he proves himself to not be a fuckboy. That's all I'm saying.
Yeah sure there are others :D but they make you long for more.
That's kind of the point
yeah i mean if you don´t want sex on the first date, then don´t have it :D and if it makes him look for another girl, then so be it XD
Seems like there's gonna be a whole lot of dumping going on.
"Oh my god, you didn't pull my chair out. Dumped!"
"You didn't cook me my favourite dinner. Dumped!"
"You didn't bring me a giant bouquet of roses and daffodils. Dumped!"
"You didn't laugh at my hilarious joke. Dumped!"
"You didn't ask me how my day was for the 20 thousandth time. Dumped!"
"You didn't hire airplane to write a message for me in the sky. Dumped!"
etc.
I think there's expectations and then there's over-valuing our own worth.
Most of these "for examples" we're your own. Not mine. I'm talking about the courting process, not every aspect of the relationship.
I wasn't aware that I could only use examples specifically used by yourself. Plus, a lot, if not all, of my examples do happen in the courting stage.
Ok. You're right lol. Good day.
I know. Thank you.
"Guys only want one thing!"
That's right, we want only one thing: love.
And by love, I mean food, sex, and an ear to listen to us.
Exactly. I agree with this. But tell me I'm wrong when I say a man will not take you seriously if you have sex too soon. I've seen it many times with other girls. People have taken this MyTake out of context. And it seems all the "good girls" have instead messaged me saying I'm right and how it's nice to see others think this way. Yes I am from the south, and yes this is how people in the south were raised. I don't know about everyone else, but this is how I parents teach us, even to the guys. So yes, it's easy to find a southern gentlemen. I'm not saying this is all people, women or men, should expect. I'm just saying, if this is what your standards are... ITS OUT THERE! That's all. Everyone is too eager to jump on someone who doesn't have the same view. If you Weren't aware, this is MyTake, meaning my view, my thoughts. If you don't agree, then just mozy along and keyboard fight with someone else. I realize not everyone will have standards, I also realize I can't change the world.
And this wasn't towards you specifically, I'm just praying some of these assholes read this. Thanks:)
Here's my take. I've just realized this recently even though I've been married for over a year, and together for years: A good relationship has both people being friends as well as lovers. They find each other physically irresistible, but the irresistibly isn't only physical. I, personally, find the personality coupled with body more enticing than body alone. They get along and have trust with each other and that takes time. I think why most guys get turned off with sex too soon is that they don't trust you yet. I've never felt that way.
I agree. It would be hard to find a girl trustworthy who had sex too soon. Honestly, if I was a guy Id automatically feel the woman was a slut. And I've heard many guys say this.
It's something people say cuz people on tv say it a lot.
I only want money. It wasn't up there.
To be accepted.
Actually to be honest I don't blame women at all for this. I honestly blame television. Is there really any late night tv shows that doesn't depict sex at all? Not really they do at some point or other.
All the girls I've dated have looked at me like I'm crazy when I opened the car door for them. haha. I always pick the wrong girls, unfortunately not many have grown to be used to that kind of thing anymore.
Glad to see there are still guys like you. Also, women expecting this kind of respect is still out there. Don't give up hope😁😊
I guess there is! We're going on a date, I'm picking you up next Tuesday :P
Alright!!! See that wasn't so hard. And my "method" of dating doesn't work😂😂😂 ok
Ya I hate it too when girls say "guys only want one thing "
Who will make them understand that blowjob and intercourse are two different things.. and we want both.
Haha you're funny. That's s good one
seriously dude lol
you are 21... that is all
sister, you dish out cold truths... I wish you weren't so right... I wish I could say that romance in it's purest form is more than just a transaction of goods and services.
You assume that it's purely transactional, Like money spent = sex given. Thinking of it as "giving up the goods" makes you sound like you are selling your intimacy, and that desire is somehow malicious on the part of men. if she uses sex as a reward then she is manipulating you, simple as that. If you have sex with a woman it should be because there is a mutual desire to become sexual, not as a reward for favorable behavior. A woman's not doing you any favors by sleeping with you.
I'm not talking about a sugar daddy/sugar baby relationship. No. And you pretty much are selling your intimacy when you give it up to quickly and he leaves. And everyone has a mutual desire to get sexual, it's our nature. MyTake was not for people purely looking to fuck, MyTake was for the women who are ready to settle down and find the man who will invest in her and will eventually marry her. This wasn't for the many little bunnys out there just looking to fuck. So please understand this before ready this MyTake.
"I've been in 5, 8+ month, relationships in my life and these have been the only men I've slept with. One was young love, two were absuive, one emotionally detached, and currently with the last one."
Lol don't worry I don't think anyone was worried about you judging them.
Lmao
I m of women not want one thing. I want all.
almost every guy I know including my friends would hit it and quit it and mess over any girl just to get in her pants. they're gunna say and do anything to make her feel special until she gives it up.
back in highschool there would always be questions among my friends asked like "would you fuck that girl (unattractive) for a million dollars" and the responses would almost always be "I would fuck her for free. just gotta put a paper bag over her head"
wanna know why guys my age only want sex and would take drastic measures to get it? because we're horny and sex feels that good to guys. guys would fuck almost any girl
some of us though aren't heartless enough to just use a girl for sex, and that's the guy you want to be with.
it's hard though because you have to find this guy attractive, he has to be attracted to you and he has to have that quality up there.
does that answer your question?
Lmao you right about us guys.
@hihow12345 well that's honestly disgusting. But hey whatever works for you. Not all guys are this way. They think of sex, yes. But they don't live to fuck people, girls, over. So
@Mytake Owner It's the truth honestly, my friends and most guys I know say they would never settle down unless the girl is amazing most guys are like this, you just gotta find the ones who aren't like this and that you're attracted to oh and for the record I'm not one of those guys, I don't think in heartless enough to jut use a girl for sex
correct that I'm*
I don't know, i didn't realize it was so hard to find an amazing woman.
@myTake Owner lmao I'm not like what it said tbh but it is what we men mostly think of. I mean I want sex yes but I ain't a fuckboy. I don't use women for that cuz it's not right and it's not the thing that I mostly strive for when I date. It takes time for me till I get the pussy lols 😂
Not just for us men but I think there are also woman who want the D from guys and only do it for that. So we both genders want something from each other and you can't blame one gender for their thoughts because I know some women who I have heard only strive for in the relationship and use the guys for sex
keep in mind that they have extremely unrealistic standards, some of these guys are gunna grow out of this phase eventually but I don't know when I'm just letting you know that's what's on the mind of most guys my age
Also I take part of you who wrote this. I won't have sex with any women unless she is the golden treasure that I'm looking for to be with the rest of my life.
@Sdavis2604 "I don't know, i didn't realize it was so hard to find an amazing woman." Oh my god, it's awful out there. So many women, whether they admit it or not, need to get paid in order to give a guy a chance. a CHANCE. Most of them think their shit doesn't stink, and have a very hyperinflated sense of self-worth. They put themselves on pedestals.