Has orgasm denial NOT improved your relationship?

[Fuzz4444]

For this discussion, let orgasm denial be defined as the following:

In a closed relationship of two people, one person yields autonomy of their sexual release (orgasm) to the other person. This power dynamic can also be reciprocal e. g. both persons have yielded orgasm autonomy to the other.

I've read pretty much only positive sentiments towards orgasm denial here and elsewhere on the internet. I am interested to hear from anyone here who has tried it and have not seen any noticeable improvements in their relationship.

[NamerOfStars]

No, but then, it's not something I've ever done, so it hasn't made things worse, either. I can see it being a part of a healthy, if kinky, relationship, but it's not to guess what that would do to your brain. Neurochemistry's not a toy.

Odds are the only people you've seen talking about it are suitably personality matched kinksters; those for whom it DIDN'T work wouldn't try it long enough to have much data to work with, and those for whom it WOULDN'T work wouldn't try it to begin with. It's kind of self-selecting that way.

[PrettyPriya]

I have never tried such a thing. I cannot believe this would be beneficial to a healthy relationship.

[Anonymous]

This usually only works in a Dominant/ submissive type relationship.

[Anonymous]

Not a kink I'm into

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I guess it wouldn't