He asked me why did I choose him for a friends with benefits?

Question

My sex buddy asked me last night “well i wanna know is why me? Out of all these guys that want you why are you choosing sex with me” ? How do i respond

Citizenkirk · Accepted Answer

I am of the opinion that a
"friend🤗with🤔benifits🥰"
cannot be chosen, because of the prerequisites implied addition of
"🕺benifits💃" to that platonic friendship one must already have in the past and present tense, that being of the addition of benifits to a friend you already have, cannot be added to a friend you do not yet have, in the present tense.
This whole third person perspective, or second, or even speaking in the first person, or any perspective filter or orientation you base your enterpretations on, cannot get around the fact that you cannot choose a friend's with benifits, because a preexisting plotonic friendship must predate a plotonic friendship deciding too explore carnal "non-platonic" release of erotic sexual tension.
Friends with benefits is an oxymoron in a present tense context with someone you just met. Choosing a friends with benefits, is not a possibility, because you cannot choose to ad something too something you don't already have. The person you want to change the relationship dynamic with, cannot be a person you are not already well aquanted with yet.
How are you going to alter or augment the relationship status of a friendship you don't yet share with someone. The concept retroactively cancels itself out.
You can't alter what isn't there.
Friends with benifits is contingent on past friendship status being modified or altered in the present tense. The two friendship states cannot co-exist in the same timeframe.
Wow, this is some serious Star Trek multiple timeline romance friendship insanity discussion going on here.🇺🇸🖖LIVE🇲🇵🎉 LONG🇰🇿🎊AND🇫🇲🎉FLOUNDER🇪🇺🤷‍♂️IN🏴‍☠️🤷‍♀️ INDIFFERENCES🇱🇨🤔OF🇲🇭💃CURRENT🇺🇸🕺 TIMELINE🏳️😆AND😜ALTERNATIVE🤪ALTERNATE🎌 ALTERNATING 👘ALTERED🤯

He asked me why did I choose him for a friends with benefits?

States🇱🇨🇲🇭🇲🇵🇺🇸🏴‍☠️👍
Or, maybe, this "IS" a friend you already had, and he wanted to know what inspired your interest in him in a different way, that made the perks of opposite gender platonic friendship, appealing. Buddy😁buddy relationship🤗status🎉tried🎊a💃different🕺sort🤷‍♂️of🤷‍♀️interlocking🔩way♂️🔩♀️👫🤰🤱👨‍👩‍👦👨‍👩‍👦‍👦👴👵O K.🖖 - maybe looking too far ahead of what could be.
If it's just a matter of semantics then him asking you why you want to try exploring a little change in the relationship situation with him, "What made you want too try being intimate with your buddy," and you tell him the things you have in common that mesh well as friends, but might also be compatible, maybe even better, as boyfriend - girlfriend, or a romantic couple, in physical intimacy terms too see if physically, you could have a good time with sexual intimacy, before deciding weather or not you could see yourself emersed in a romance with A LIFE PARTNER THAT STARTED OUT AS BEST FRIENDS, AND ENDED UP WITH A LIFE PARTNER AS YOUR OTHER HALF, OR SOULMATES 👨‍👩‍👦‍👦👵🖖👴

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Well, it is not a question I would ever ask a girl I was just fucking... Hell, Why not me? If I ever had to think about it. I would most seriously not give a flying fuck about why you did not go with some other guy that you knew. I just don't see any valid reason to question the situation. I mean if you started fucking someone else and stopped with me... yeah, I would be all like "What the fuck? Is up with picking him over me?"

So, why is he so concerned about you being with him and not someone else? Friends with benefits are not suppose to actually have any real reason for just fucking each other... other than for conveniences' sake. These "relationships" are not meant to take work to maintain and have an understanding that they can be dropped be either in a heartbeat.

Ok, for the hell of it... why did you find him convenient enough to have inconsequential casual sex with him? I would expect that you found him attractive enough to have sex with and not a problem to drop when needed. If that is what it all is and he doesn't get that... then you have a problem with him not being able to keep the "friends with benefits" as just that and is thinking it to be more than what it is meant to be.

Gwenhwyfar · Accepted Answer

“You’re really good at making me cum” (hopefully it’s true)

Flower7 · Accepted Answer

What is the reason that you want a friend with benefits?

CrazyGirl2 · Answer

Why not just try the truth?

ohshee · Answer

Did you tell him because your brother was already taken LOL why can't guys just be happy

Diodoro · Answer

Sounds like a question the guy way to ask if he didn't know he's a friends-with-benefits lol

That said, taking it at face value assuming that he does though. Just tell him. No reason to be concerned unless you're afraid he'll not want to continue if he knows the truth

DonkeyDan · Answer

Be honest with him, he's only a sex buddy so no feelings are involved right? Or is there more to it, does he or you have some feelings towards one another? Tell us why you chose him over others?

Anon621 · Answer

I would imagine he is either curious or he could potentially be low on confidence and wants some reassurance maybe

20yearsolder · Answer

Honestly. Tell us why you chose him

humpbackjack · Answer

With the truth

Jlegacy · Answer

Honestly, honestly☺️ He is already caving and falling for you. In friends with benefits land, that's a red flag.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

With the truth!

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Just be honest with him:  You want sex without responsibilities. So you picked the next one who did not run away, and who's reasonably clean.

VDrago14 · Answer

Just be honest with him

exitseven · Answer

TRy the truth. See what happens.

JosyJosy · Answer

You respond with the answer

bowenw · Answer

You could say because you trust him and feel a strong connection to him, or whatever the real reason.

silkjames · Answer

Lol your the only one that knows the answer to that 😁!

Ghostlock · Answer

Just ask him if he is complaining. When he says no, say, "alright then." and leave it at that. That was a dumb question for him to ask anyway. It's called preference. He should already know the answer to that.