How can girls just be good friends with a guy and not catch any feelings or sexual attraction to him?

[Chester_Cheeto]

Here's the story. I started liking a girl in the 7th grade, she rejected me in the 7th and 8th grades but pretends nothing happened between us when she finds my insta and starts chatting with me. Even after she rejected me twice, she would always be touchy around me and really likes my attention much more than a normal girl would. Yet she considers it to be 'friendly'. Anyways over a 6 month time period we got chill again. I would compliment her on her looks and body and thank me, then brush it off by switching the topic. I was in the friend zone with this girl. She knows we talked about the types of porn we watch and our interests. One day, I break the friend zone barrier by asking her if I could get a nude pic. She says no and I'm okay with it but she gets like extremely mad at me for asking her for a pic. I know she was hot, and she did too. She even said it herself. Yet she really didn't think I would shoot any shots with her another time. She was furious. She's not mad about the fact that I was just a tiiiny bit sad about her not sending nudes, she's mad about the fact I even asked, as if I don't feel sexual attraction. A week after, I said our friendship wasn't going anywhere and im not gonna be her little nice-guy friendzony partner. Then I decided to cut her out of my life like i should have months ago, cuz i dont see her as only a friend and i dont wanna torture myself my staying friends with her. After doing online research about similar behavior from girls like her I found out she's just an attention seeker. It made it much easier for me to move on finding out she's toxic. She KNEW I liked her but pretended that my crush behaviors with her never existed. She even told me we could stay friends if I didn't shoot anymore romantic shots with her and pretend the nudes request didn't happen like bitch bye.
How do single mingling girls have the power to not create feelings for a really manly guy friend they've known a long while? Like how is it even possible?

[Kaneki05]

Some girls be annoying like that. They know you like them but keep you around to get the good attention from you but not want anything more. Cannot really say i blame though wouldn't you want a girl's good attention even if your not really willing to go with them.
And you always have the choice just to tell her no i don't want to be friends and walk away. You just did it later than sooner. And majority of people don't just gain feelings for someone just cause there friends with someone.

[maxdoesss]

Any sexual interest in a girl must be shown early on or else she'll lose attraction to you. "Why would a guy stay with me and not flirt with me? Oh he's just a friend". Guys can do the same thing

[Chester_Cheeto]

Uh oh, i didn't know this. Does one month over instagram could as too late? I'm talking to a friend i knew in 7th grade. I can make her laugh and we both can really vibe. She lets me know she's flattered when i compliment her body and clothing and she talks to me when she's feeling frustrated or pissed.

[maxdoesss]

Yeah, you should let it be known relatively early on. I'd even go so far as to say that with some girls, if you don't flirt with them from the start they'll put you in the friendzone. I'd make a move if I were in your shoes

[Chester_Cheeto]

Thanks. I've already been making moves and trying new strategies. I dunno how to build sexual attraction over the internet too much but i hope its not entirely too late.

[thegirlfromthething]

Not all of you are attractive. It’s not hard not to be into most guys.

[TooDrunk4Sex]

u gotta learn 2 seduce in my opinion. who knows what her reasons are. girls are tricky enuff without having them as gfs. can't hate her 4 that. but next time u gotta think from the girl pov. a friendly guy asking for nudes is usually not so appealing 2 girl. whatbout get her in a dance, pull her close, touch her body, face-to-face. u got something there. its not important in my opinion that a girl likes u in advance. whats important is to pull her close. then leave her wondering what it is like 2 be with u the next day until she's going crazy and wanting u so bad

[Aguysopinion4799]

First off, I had the same experience with a girl, we were really close friends, one day I finally told her I liked her and she rejected me, things were awkward and years later we tried talking and she acted like it didn't happen, I know it isn't because she didn't take it seriously, but because she didn't want to jeopardise our friendship over a failed confession.

We were always physically close before the confession and I can say that she likely was trying to get things back to normality, slowly easing us both back into the friendship we had before, because our friendship was really great and it was me who caused that fracture in the comfort we had.

I see no reason why there should be negative judgement for a person wanting attention, with my friends they want attention and with the girl I am talking about, she likes attention but I think the reason she wants it more is because she wants to make sure that there is less of a communicative gap between us, trying to close it by requesting more attention than usual, while it hurts at first to try and be normal friends with your rejecter, it gets easier and if your friendship was really strong beforehand, things get back to normal eventually, for me it took about 5 years but that is because I didn't try and reach out.

Every person likes being complimented on how they look, but if you make it too flirty then she will change the subject because she doesn't want you thinking you are able to get a chance with her.

I can see why the person who rejected you would get at least upset at you for asking her to give you a naked picture of herself... If I asked that of the girl who rejected me, it would make the friendship I had worked so hard to build back up become ruined. Nudes are typically sent between people who are flirting, have no historical rejection with each other and in other cases just as a fun thing between friends if they are lewd by personality, asking a person who rejected your relationship proposal for a naked photo of them is just asking for bad news.

It's okay to feel sexual attraction to her, but you need to realise she doesn't feel that way for you and she may not even like the idea of nudes as a whole, if she has history of sending them, it is likely only people she has no awkward history with.

Some people can handle being just friends after rejection, others can't, I don't blame you for not being able to handle it because there were times when I questioned if I could deal with just being friends with the girl who rejected me, but with us both moving forward and trying to just be friends, I want to go back to normal with her.

It really is torturous, I remember when it happened, I was in agony wondering what the hell I was meant to do, if I was supposed to act like a friend, stop talking with her, keep pursuing her, suffer silently, I was in a lot of pain and confused, it took a long time to get to where I am now.

It isn't exactly a matter of refusing to remember them, but to not bring them up because she is now trying to just be friends instead. She wants you to stop making moves because she doesn't want to give you false hope and just wants to make it clear to you that she only wants to be friends. Regarding the nudes request part, that one is very understandable, she obviously wants to act like such a event didn't occur.

[InternetGuy]

Not every dude out there is all that attractive if were being honest. Although I wish we would drop this "let's just be friends" bullshit with people we know that have feelings for us. I've seen both chicks and dudes do this. It's just stupid and stops people from moving on. But hey, maybe some people just like feeling that they have that control over someone.

[In_Trance]

They do. They lie to themselves all the time