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I have been with my fiancée for almost five years. Last year we got engaged, she got promoted at work and everything was going great for us. Then she started getting home later and later. Her work had taken over our lives. Whenever I tried to initiate sex she always replied with “I'm too tired,” or “Not right now.” In the beginning I understood, but eventually it all became too much for me. She was so wrapped up in her work and I couldn’t stand it one bit. I wanted her to give me some attention, too.
I am in no way blaming her for me cheating. That was all on me.
One night while I was out with the guys some girl approached me. We got to talking and eventually, after all my friends left, went back to her place. At this point I was not thinking about my fiancée. I was thinking about the 21-year old with big tits standing in front of me. And how I hadn't had sex in what felt like forever. So I had sex with her.
Two things happened while she was bouncing up and down on top of me.
1. I realized how much I truly love my fiancée:
The sex with this other girl was good, but it made me realize the error in my ways. The situation forced me to actually think about our issues and forced me to confront them. Instead of just hoping things between us got better.
2. I realized what I was losing:
I was throwing my 5-year relationship for a girl whose name I wouldn't care to remember the next day.
I told my fiancée what I did the next morning. She was angry. Who wouldn't be? But I told her those two things I wrote above and I explained to her why I did it. We decided to go to couples counseling to work on our relationship. Eventually things were better than ever.
We're getting married next month! :)
What Girls & Guys Said
31 32You think your infidelity is behind you? It's not. She will never 100% trust you as a person ever again. She will knows you're weak and not loyal. She's going to remember this for the next time your relationship will be in a rut and it'll be a driving force for your inevitable divorce.
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you shouldve realised those things on your own not by cheating... you re lucky she accepted that , you could have lost her in your "quest" ... but thats my point of view , to me a relationship is choice , you either are 100% in a relationship and do everything to make things work or you re not happy and its not working and you should break up but cheating is in no way a choice... if a girl did that with me i would break up with her no matter what she realised with her "mistake"
so because she was at work ad always tired you cheated on her? my fiancé ( been together 4 years, engaged for 1 & a half ) worked 24/7 last year, caused a lot of fights because it was to much time spent away from myself & the kids , I spent a lot of lonely nights alone to at my mothers, due to have our second daughter, & I didn't just jump into bed with someone else. now I know everyone is deferent , but if I was your girlfriend , I wouldn't have stayed with you, you should have sat her down and told her how you felt & went to counselling before you slept with someone else ,
She speaks truth man!
I did as you asked. I read the whole story before judging you. My conclusion? If I had judged you from the beginning, I'd have simply seen you as a piece of human shit that couldn't keep his dick in his pants for the sake of his Fiance. After reading it? Now I think you're less than a piece of human shit that has some delusional thought that it actually "helped" your relationship. You want to know what you actually did? You just hurt a girl who was too tired from working to give you your fucking "needs", which by the way aren't needs because who the fuck needs sex to survive? You went out and fucked some slut because you wanted to get your dick wet. How pathetic. You're such a weak person that you can't have a conversation with your Fiance about how you are craving her sexual attention? What? Were your hands too tired from work that you couldn't just go beat one off in the bathroom? There is no possible way for you to justify how much of a scumbag you are. When your relationship permanently ends, which it most likely will, you'll have nobody to blame except for your own weak and pathetic self. If your positions were switched and she had gone out and fucked some dude with the excuse that you were "too busy to give her the attention she needs", you'd have left her ass like a bad habit. Then you'd have gone around and told everyone how much of a whore she was. My advice? Castrate yourself so we aren't burdened by any possible offspring your mentality brings forth. What a disgrace you bring to us.
well, if that ain't a recipe for a messed up relationship, I don't know what is
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Yeah it's nice what you thought... But if I had a fiancée like that I would break up with him.
This is a cool take
I would have left you in a heart beat.
I'm pretty sure this is a troll post or at least I hope it is. In either case it's pretty funny. If you solve your problems with disloyalty I'm curious as to what other tools you'll take out of your bag of tricks when problems come up next time.
The cheating didn't save your relationship. You just didn't realize what most people already know until you got what you wanted from another girl.
Shame on her for taking you back is all I can say. If you honestly think that this ends "happily ever after" you're mistaken. She's never going to trust you again and I'm willing to bet you broke her heart beyond repair.
But yeah. Happily ever after :) wow cheating really gave you such a happy outcome :) let's recommend it for everyone :)
I just lost some of the small amount of faith I had in men while reading this
how can cheating save a relationship?
I just told you how
Proof that big boobs gets more attention than no boobs/flat chests.
Sorry it has to come down to cheating with another girl to realise your love for her was forever... I couldn't have that strength to deal with that.
;-; damn then I lost...
Sometimes you have to screw up to learn the hard lesson of life.
It's kind of sad that everyone is judging you and your fiancée. Everyone saying your fiancée won't trust you ever again don't even know a thing about her, but are assuming she has to think like them in that exact way. Don't listen to them. I have a friend who got cheated on. She broke up with him but shortly after forgave him and got back together. 4 years later, she trusts him more than ever.
* 4 years later, they're still together and she trusts him more than ever.
Counseling could've been done once she started working more answer sex became scarce.
U didn't HAVE to cheat, to do that, you know.
Well its good that things worked out for you but this isn't the norm and I don't think cheating should be looked at as a good thing. It's not the worst thing in the world but I think it destroys relationships more often than it saves them.
You're lucky you've got such a forgiving girlfriend.
Of course it destroys relationships more often than not, if people are so quick to judge and unwilling to hear the other side out. But I agree that he's a very lucky guy.
Well I think cheating is bad obviously, but I'm glad that opened your eyes to what you were throwing away
too long, didn't belive, bullshit
I'm glad things worked out for you - you're probably the exception, as you well know. It's hard to truly understand this situation until you find yourself in it.
Well this is bull shit. Cheating is cheating no matter what. Only fucks like u who never tried to get wisdom can do such a thing.
Exactly