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Sexual Health How do I get rid of my urges for sexual intimacy?
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It's so frustrating that I want to be kissed and touched but I know I'm going to die alone. I'm just so tired of being sexually frustrated.
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13 58You can't. Its hormones.
Is there a pill I can take to get rid of it?
Don't know, but don't do that. Just go find a man to marry.
That's too much
What's wrong with taking pills though?
Will you be my gf? I will help you with it
No thanks
then make me your husband?
I don't want to get married
then how would I fulfill your sexual urges without making you my girlfriend or wife?
You can't
lol you are very obstinate girl... You aren't allowing yourself to have some pleasure... this is normal to have urges...
There's nothing that you can do for me
alright have a good day babe...
Why do you say these things?
What do you mean?
Why do you say that you going to die alone?
Because I am
Only you can change that. Whatever your reason is for saying that.
It's my fate
OK, Fine!
I have the same fear... I'm here if you wanna talk about it.. I control it with smoking weed...
Why do you call it a fear
Insecurities and stress
Just how can you not get any? How's that work for a woman? Or are you just ultra picky?
I don't want casual sex. I want intimacy
Again, how is that hard? Sounds like you don't have a clue on how to deal with men, so you keep throwing yourself at sleazebags.
Um, I don't throw myself at anyone. I've never liked anyone and no one has ever liked me
Fake account.
How?
What's so "fake" but no one liking you?
Umm, the question is why you think you'll die alone?
I know because I've never liked anyone and even if I did, there's no way I could get them to like me
Why?
Why haven't I liked anyone or why can't I get someone to like me?
Both.
I don't know why I haven't liked anyone. That's not something you can force so it just hasn't happened & and I can't get someone to like me because there's nothing to like
Weird.
How is it weird
Why not date and have fun? Perhaps you won't die alone.
It would be too much work to try to find someone that's willing to date me
Why would you say that? Dont sell yourself short
I'm just being honest
there's someone out there for you, just be open to meeting people.
I don't think so
What makes you feel this way?
I'm not going to try to date because it would just make me sad since people would constantly reject me. So since I'm not going to date, but default, I won't ever find anyone
Soo negative...
I'm not negative though...
Just get out there and find someone, it's going to be hard and you'll be disappointed more times than not, but in the end you'll find someone and be happy, and if not, at least you can say you tried.
So go on! take the responsibility for your happiness into your own hands and make something out of yourself!
I'll just die alone
Everyone dies alone. We arrive here alone, and leave here alone...
@Truthatanycost yes
Just saying, the truest phrase I've ever heard is that life is what you make of it, if you can really accept that then you'll be on your way to happiness. I forgot something in the original comment though, what do you think is holding you back from getting what you need?
@Therisinghero12 what do you mean?
You say you're frustrated and crave intimacy, but what's holding you back from getting what you want? What keeps you from getting into a meaningful relationship and being happy?
I didn't say I wanted a relationship.
Well whatever you want, just in general
There's no way that I can get what I desire
Why? What's stopping you? Or are you just stopping yourself?
In order to get what I desire, I would have to make someone care about me. That would be impossible
Trust me, it isn't, you just have to get out there and try to reach that point
It is impossible. I'm unattractive, boring, and have a terrible personality. There's no reason for anyone to be interested in me, and no, I'm not going to change that because I don't feel like it.
Then you can't blame anyone but yourself, I hope you have a long and happy life.
Not once did I blame anyone, like I said, this post isn't about finding someone
It’s called hormones, you don’t turn them off.
What I suggest is lots and lots of masturbation.
It will get better, give it time.
It doesn't feel good to masturbate
Do you take your time and get aroused, or do you go right for it.
I take my time and get aroused
What doesn’t feel good?
Touching myself
Does it hurt when you touch it?
No, it doesn't hurt, just doesn't feel good either, it's like.. Neutral if that makes any sense
Are you insecure about the way it looks?
I don't really look at it
I rather think it's an emotional thing. A craving for emotional intimacy, not necessarily sexual intimacy.
What makes you say that
I have the same craving and I often want to throw up when reading of sex orgies or such.
I want emotional intimacy but I also want to be touched
Yeah, me too
You can't get rid of them. everyone desires intimacy and sexual release... except if your ace
How about this. I have no idea of you have any kind of relationship with God and the only religious advice I’ve seen here is female circumcision. Have you prayerfully discerned God’s Will for your life? Maybe you are called to Religious life as a celibate Nun? I have a few friends that are in cloisters and they have truly Divine Intimacy with Christ. Something that very few are called to in being a true bride of Christ’s. If you are atheist, still, pray about and maybe check out a few Convents online. It certainly won’t hurt.
why not have a few friends with benefits and then u can get as much attention as you need?
I don't even have friends
follow me for a chat?
Chat about what
your issue
Why not just say it here?
hate others butting in
No one has butted in
they prob would when we talk more personal anyways up to u your loss
If they do then just ignore them. But how is giving advice a personal issue?
sounds like the real issue is low self-esteem.
How is that the issue
Why do you think you will die alone?
Because no one likes me and I don't like anyone
then, there you go.
That's not the issue though
sure seems like it. and not to pressume-but i kinda get the sense you might be trying to deflect the real issue-particularly when you talk about dying alone.
I thought about buying a male sex doll
That might solve the problem
going by what you've already said-it won't be enough. this reminds me of an episode of walker, texas ranger-it dealt with a class with low opinions:
I don't know what else to do then. I know people have suggested exercise and other things to take my off it but when I get those urges, in the moment, I don't want to take my mind off it, I just want to be touched
you need to do something before tthis controls you.
I don't think it's going to control me. It's not like it affects my daily life.
No female on the planet has to live without sex unless she chooses to.
This isn't about sex. It's about intimacy
Lower your standards.
What makes you think I have standards
Because you are a female who can't seem to find a guy to give her intimacy. That means you are a 4/10 who won't settle for less than a 8/10 guy. 7's and below are invisible to you.
Wrong. I don't look. I don't ask people out. I don't date. I can't reject anyone if no one is interested in me, which I understand. I want something I'll never have, which Is why I said I'll die alone
Besides, not once did I ever insinuate that I can't find a guy to give me intimacy
Then what was the point of your original question?
How do i get of my urges, any pills or something
Probably Xanax. But a vibrator would be cheaper.
I guess I could always return it if the vibrator turns out to be a waste if money
Right, there’s plenty of dick to choose from.
@Ninjazzed lol that's not what i meant
I know exactly what you meant, just make yourself accessible and start considering your options, especially at your age.
Whatever justifies your odd celibacy.
@Ninjazzed I don't want to do that
I'm not going to put myself out there just to be rejected
If you don’t take risks, then what’s the point of questioning yourself?
@Ninjazzed what do you mean by questioning myself?
what makes you think you're going to die alone?
I just will
na you'll be fine. now me I may just do it.
I'm not going to try to date, so by default, I'll die alone
Masturbate
It doesn't feel good
You find companionship of a person but set boundaries. Find a guy who knows his place and his hands
That's not an option
You could use toys or something. Nothing beats human contact
This sucks
Get a guy who uses his tounge
I want a way to satisfy the urges without needing a person
Use a vibrator or clitoral stimulation in a fast circular motion
Masturbation doesn't do anything for me
I want to feel a body on mine, a vibrator can't do that
So you get off on penetration? Use a dildo
Okay so find a guy to hold you set boundaries let him hold you kiss you satisfy your needs without having to go to far
I don't want some stranger touching me
Then get someone to understand you and date take the time best wishes for you
It's not easy for me to find someone that likes me
Not that hard
It is hard
No it's not I'm sure you are a very beautiful woman
Not even close
I'd say pm if you want to continue this
Why not just say it here?
first question?
do you masturbate
and if you don't why?
It doesn't feel good
what lol so you don't like rubbing your clit? im sure that would feel good look if you can't hold it in go find someone you like a friend at least
It doesn't feel good when I rub my clit and I don't like anyone
then good luck hun the day you actually look at us men as human beings is the day you will find someone you like
Huh? Of course I look at men as human beings, why wouldn't I?
It doesn't feel good when I rub my clit (AND I DON'T LIKE ANYONE) hmmmmm I wonder why?
because you women look at men as a resource not a human being and that has been proven
What the heck does masturbation have to do with men? And I don't have any men in my life so how can I look at one as a resource?
wow you don't even understand your design?
Well can you explain it to me
you are designed to like men in a sexual way
ok, I never said I didn't
She’s biologically hard-wired to find men attractive, of course.. but then again there’s a slight chance that she could very well be asexual and she just doesn’t realize it yet.. Or maybe she’s just waiting for that certain decent guy to come along.
But I wouldn’t jump to conclusions and automatically assume she’s materialistic. Men shouldn’t be this delusional, jesus. Take a hint,
@Ninjazzed I don't think I'm asexual. I'm attracted to guys I just haven't been attracted to one in person
well clocks a ticking
Oh my God, everyone seems to have the same problem. We need to find cure for this i mean it. I had that problem when i was your age. The best way to stop feeling frustrated is internet dating. Fake life but it feels better than nothing