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How do you view sex here: do you want to save it for a special person or explore?

I ideally want to explore and have sex with different people
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I ideally want to save it for a special person
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  • Personally, I want - and in fact have had - sex with different people. Which is to say that now that my girlfriend and I have lived together and have three children that I would have sex with other women. However, before I met her, I considered casual sex to be fine and even natural.

    As I say, sex is healthy, natural and instinctive and men and women should have it when they feel like it and mutually agree to it. However, that does mean that it has no obligations.

    Somewhat to my own surprise, when I stopped to count it out, I have had 14 sexual partners.

    To start, I lost my virginity to my high school girlfriend when I was 16 and she was 15. I have also had 5 one night stands and one, what would be called today - though I don't think the phrase had been coined at that point (I was in college) one "friends with benefits." That lasted about 8 months.

    Frankly, this also resulted in 6 pregnancies. One of which ended in a miscarriage. Three of which were with my current live-in girlfriend of 15 years, with whom I have two little boys and my little princess. (The first two were unplanned pregnancies. The third was planned.) My girlfriend and I love each other, she is the center of my universe, and have talked about marriage but in some weird way we feel like a big ceremony and an expensive ring would just cheapen what we have.

    Also, I was contacted about two years ago by a woman with whom I had a one night stand. We did not know each other well, frankly, but we had an amazing night and, it turns out, I got her pregnant,

    The thing is that she decided not to tell me and raise the baby on her own. However, as he became a teenager she decided that her child needed to know his father. So she tracked me down two years ago and now I have a 16 year old son. (My other children are 12, 10 and 9.) I am very proud of him and although it was awkward to start, we have grown quite close.

    The only one I regret is a girl I dated just out of college. I got her pregnant and at first she seemed really excited - and I was, for sure. Then she changed her mind and - long story short - had an abortion without telling me. It is the most painful thing I have ever known and I miss so much the baby I never got to hold in my arms. Honestly, sappy as it sounds, when I think about that baby, it still brings tears to my eyes.

    So I got off topic a bit, but there it is. Frankly, it is perfectly natural for a man to have sex. Nature made us with the instinct to implant our sperm in a female and make offspring that carry on our DNA. So we need it - not like our lives depended on it - but for emotional health and our sense of our own manhood. So other than the one case, I have no regrets and right now, with my girlfriend and our three children and my son, I have never been happier and cannot imagine my life without them.

    Still, I won't lie. I have to admit that when I look back and think that I have had 14 sexual partners and 6 pregnancies - 5 of which were unplanned - gotta admit that I am a little surprised at the number... and also a little, even though I know it is silly and maybe a bit egomaniacal, a little proud of myself.

Most Helpful Guy

  • Sex could never be defined just one way , it’s a very personal / Individual and situational decision with multiple different variables affecting our decision at any one time. Some people want to have sex only in committed relationships , some just want to have fun and explore it with multiple partners and genders and that’s their choice. Some view it as a basic need , personally I disagree people can and do exist perfectly healthy and happy fulfilled lives without it. I could even go as far to say that sex can damage a persons life or take it completely. There is no binary response here , our attitude & opinions towards sex are multifaceted , complex and constantly evolving and changing as we do.

Most Helpful Girls

  • I want to explore with my special person. I’ve had sex with my 2 exes and I always had the need to explore (never did bcs I was committed, but I felt like I was missing out) that is until I met my current man. I now know that you can definitely do a lot of exploring with one partner. I’ve fulfilled a lot of my (and his) fantasies in bed with him. So exploring doesn’t necessarily mean that it has to be with multiple different partners, you just gotta find that special one person!

  • If I'm honest, I view sex as part of my affections to my future partner. I feel like I can't have sex with just anyone, I'm too emotional and sensitive for that (plus loving lol). And I know if I end up liking sex, then I can always have more of it, with them.

    • There's always 🥪 sandwiches 😋 to pass the time or apple pie 🥧 humble, apple, pie 🍏

    • @itsclearlynicholas and it's funny because I ate apple pie last night.

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  • In the past I wanted to explore and have sex with different people. Today, its all for the wifey.

    • Have you ever found yourself in a cozy, hygge-filled room, surrounded by the inviting aroma of freshly baked cinnamon buns, and suddenly imagined enveloping your partner's feet in a delightful blend of old sock residue, blended with a dash of fish market essence? And as the nordic light filters through the window, does your imagination wander to the scent of her armpits, imagining it as a unique fusion of lingonberries, pine forests, and perhaps a hint of skunk spray, and then bury your nose in that glorious cave of human funk?

    • @_pig_droppings_ lol never so deep.

  • Where is the option for “sex is a basic need”.

    I’m not sure by what you meant of “how do you view sex here”?, here is just a QA hangout website to some.

    • @altheavas not true. Most old people don’t have sex regularly…

    • I didn’t say daily needs, basic needs, you may interpret it however you wish!

  • I don't view sex. I would never watch other people having sex and I don't have any mirrors in my bedroom, so I can't view myself having sex, either!

    • Just get you phone, set it to record and point it at the bed. Then you got video.

    • @crossdressingrihno Why would I do that?

    • I don't know

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  • The heck you mean guy?

  • I'm quite torn on that. I'm pulled in the two directions pretty evenly, so I can't make-up my mind.

  • For me…. Sex is to be shared with a person I love. I had a couple of one night stands and it wasn’t for me. Take the emotion out of sex makes it feel a bit hollow.

  • I like to have sex with someone I love. I can't do casual stuff because my feelings always get the best of me lol.

  • The second one

  • Why not both? You don’t need to have one special person in your life. I only have partners that are special to me, and I have had sex with them.

    • If only you were so old.. like 18 for example

  • Both choices apply. When young, explore sex with different people, then settle down with that one special person.

    • Until your special person doesn’t want someone with a background of sleeping around.

    • @Peridot25 In that case, they are not the "one special person", and you go on to find the REAL "one special person".

    • A man who accepts a woman with a promiscuous past is not a special man.

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  • I have only been with 1 woman because it IS special

  • I have all I need with my husband and girlfriend. My journey is complete.

  • Saving for marriage.

  • Lol it seems ultimately I've been unintentionally saving it until now. Then again, any man can visit a legal brothel or request a legal hooker via directory lol like any legal services lol 😂😆

    • And still up to now, typo, I don't mind that I never scored with my petite pale big tits slim petite woman of my dreams. A man can dream. Sure beats settling for reality in that department ahahaha 🏬

    • 20s and pale, that's the way lol 😆

  • I can't post anonymously so I'm not going into detail but the option for staying a virgin was taken from me. I still wish that I could have had that connection with a woman that wanted the same.

  • Where's the option for "I don't want to have sex with anyone"

    • Not under the 'sexuality' tab, that's for sure

    • It should be. Is asexuality not considered a sexuality?

    • Oh, right I forgot leftists dominated everything that has to do with sexuality -_- no wonder everyone hates each other

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  • Variety is a goal into itself.

  • I wish I'd saved it, but too late for that

  • I've said this before but I've had frequent sex when I was a bit younger in the military and during college. Now I hope to wait until marriage to do it again

  • What do you mean here

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