How often would you need sex to stay happy in a relationship?

[Elarra]

Is it something you need often or can you go without for a while? And, of course, by happy, I'm only talking about your sex life, not how great of a person your SO is.

[BrighteyedAsh]

Eh it was tough to answer but I OPTED for almost every day. I say that because right now... not living together and with conflicting work schedules that's pretty impossible... but... we've spent several days in a row together in the past and we take every opportunity. And right now we act sex starved only getting to do it one or two days a week. I can also say... we're pretty active and tend to have a busy schedule even together with get togethers and various outings and sometimes we get home and are too tired to even initiate it... and make up for it somewhere in the middle of the night or first thing in the morning.

[flypaper]

I don't NEED sex to stay happy in the slightest (I am more then capable of satisfying my own needs when I need a quick release... I don't use a partner for that) but it's nice to connect to my Husband & to share that intimacy and make him happy & feel loved in that way so we generally do it when ever he wants which can be once a week sometimes and multiples times a day every day for weeks other times.

[Salohcin22]

This is exactly the reason I picked the same answer.

[SheDaisy]

Haha ok I have to ask, to the ones answering everyday -- has it been awhile since you have had sex? I answered a couple times a week. It leaves room for variety. But everyday would soon feel weird I would think. Like build up some desire or something then it will be worth the day you missed lol

[clampfan101]

My wife will be my family and best friend in the world, and we will have lots of casual and romantic fun. Sex will not be a need. It will be a wonderful addition to our list of pleasures.
I'm human, so I want sex, but I could still live happily without it if I still had her and she was happy.

[cheapshotbob]

i dont need it but if it makes her happy i will go do it when she needs. i dont see a point in making her live a life without something from me if she wants to doo that. but i have had relationships where sex was never involved and i was pretty darn happy. and so were they.

[Brisk]

This mostly depends on the age. Younger couples can usually barely keep from each other. They are in the "reproduction" phase of their life, hence they're gonna have a lot of sex.

But with age, love and affection becomes more important, because (biologically speaking) they are beyond their "reproduction phase" and it's important now to focus on raising their child (ren) together.

[XRabbitHeartX]

Few times a week...

[Cmasterson]

It depends, like most girls we get our periods, some are not afraid for the period sex, so I think whenever I'm feeling it- If i saw him and stayed with him on an average weekly basis then yes a few but I'm not going to get cranky because one day is missed.

[Judy18271827]

Same here, you are right because no one but you said our periods get in the way of having sex every day.

[RedMatch]

Im not sexually interested so not at all

[Dislikesquadcaptain]

why not? do you have hormone issues?

[RedMatch]

@Dislikesquadcaptain No, I am matured but I just don't see it as something that is needed in a relationship to be happy, truthfully I don't know, I have never been sexually attracted to guys or girls for that fact, yet I do have a boyfriend who I am very attracted to, so again I don't know why.

[Love_Is_Eternal]

@Dislikesquadcaptain She says she's not attracted to men yet she has a boyfriend that she's attracted to. Female logic.

[Dislikesquadcaptain]

@Love_Is_Eternal lol

[RedMatch]

@Love_Is_Eternal 😂 yes logic, but well if you read, one side i say sexually attracted while the other i just say attracted, by this i mean i like appearance and personality, though not care for anything else.

[Love_Is_Eternal]

I recommend you have your head examined.

[Dislikesquadcaptain]

I think what threw us off is when you said you werent sexually attracted followed by ''yet'' which basically is used in the same way that ''but'' ''otherwise'' is. basically the yet made it seem like you were saying you aren't sexually attracted to boys or girls yet I am attracted to my boyfriend as he was an exception. You see what I mean?

[Dislikesquadcaptain]

well, not my boyfriend lol I mean yours. But the word yet can really throw off your point

[RedMatch]

@Dislikesquadcaptain yes sure, i can see what you mean haha, and i won't not admit the fact that i am not like most girls. And no i don't need to have my head examined thank you very much, I'm happy to be me, we all have our quirks, and as my boyfriend says he hopes one day i will be more interested in him a sexual way 😂

[RedMatch]

@Dislikesquadcaptain haha yes not your boyfriend I hope, and see its easy to be miss read.

[Dislikesquadcaptain]

yeah lol also I wansnt the one who said you needed your head checked but anyways it doesn't matter if you aren't like most girls as long as you can accept it yourself

[RedMatch]

@Dislikesquadcaptain, I realise you weren't, I should have put his name, anyway thanks for the chat it has been interesting. have a great day 🙃

[Dislikesquadcaptain]

well its 3 am here I gotta go to bed so thanks ill have a great day tomorrow lol. bye

[Love_Is_Eternal]

Okay, then maybe your boyfriend need his head examined.

[RedMatch]

@Love_Is_Eternal You know... even though its quite insulting what you are saying i am laughing my head off at how you have continued on. For a 30yr old man you sure are childish, I'm less then half your age and haven't said anything insulting to you. I actually feel a bit sorry for you, that you are happy saying that and are not more of a man. 😂 well anyway have a nice sleep over there.

[Love_Is_Eternal]

Oh the irony

[RedMatch]

@Love_Is_Eternal Oh yes good 😄 glad you saw the irony in me saying i have not said anything insulting, after I just did, there is a limit to my politeness, gave you one chance and you screwed it. But again, I sincerely wish you a good day tomorrow. Good night

[Love_Is_Eternal]

I can insult you as much as I like, without your permission.

[Errhh]

Some days a lot a lot, and other days maybe none at all haha 😯💁🏼😜!!👽!!

[Riothouse]

i dont ever need sex in a relationship to be happy, if you do then its not the right relationship. Sex should never determine if you are happy or not.

[0112358]

That is apparently true for you, but it is not true for many other people. For them, being sexually connected to their partner and desired is a fundamentally relationship goal. And for many people, a partner like you would drive them crazy. You're not better, or worse, then them. Just different.

[Riothouse]

never said i was better or worse, also its very possible to be needed and desired without sex

[0112358]

When you say 'sex' in that context, do you mean intercourse or what? If people are waiting for marriage for religious reasons, that's one thing. If there are physical issues with acts, that's something. If you're long distance, fine. But if you're together and one is rejecting the other constantly, it doesn't feel much like you're needed and desired.

[Riothouse]

if you truly dont know of other ways to show your need for someone other than intercourse then you need to reevaluate your life.. and its not denying them anything if its mutual

[0112358]

If it's mutual it's not an issue. But when one person feels sexually rejected, the other person can tell them all sorts of affectionate caring things, do nice things for them, none of them make them feel sexually desired. Perhaps for -you- your sexual persona is a tiny or non existent part of who you are, but for people who are sexual, it's a MAJOR part of who they are, and if their romantic partner doesn't want that part of them, then they feel totally unwanted as a man or woman. It would be like if someone told you they enjoyed being affectionate but please don't speak around them because they don't really like any of your thoughts. And then wondered why that was a problem.

[Riothouse]

then if it wasn't a mutually beneficial relationship why be in it.. if you are not satisfied where you need to be and your significant other won't help. they are not what you need

[0112358]

Assuming they're no kids, agree entirely.

[0112358]

there're*

[Riothouse]

they're and good im glad we finally agreed

[natured]

I don't think there is an EXACT amount or times you should have in order to obtain or keep a happy relationship.
The best times are when it just happens, whereas there are other things that are way more important, such as getting along, having communication, having fun together, and when you have all of the above, the sex game is even better and more intense.

[angevil]

A minimum of once a week. If you asked me 10 years ago I would've said it had to be daily 😅

[sillyfairy7]

I honestly could do it daily but I wouldn't be upset if it was only 3-4 times a week. If you do it too much, sex is almost frustrating because it feels desensitized down there and it's harder to orgasm.

[lovydoey]

I'm a virgin, but I think some days in a week. I feel like daily would be too much but 2-3-4 times a week would be reasonable

[CarlR]

to stay sexually happy? probably once every 2 days ideally, i could probably live with once every 3 days.
although i wouldn't complain if it was once day or even twice a day sometimes...
put that morning wood to good use LMAO

[1988fido]

Everyday or more not there?

[DaniaMQ]

I dont think sex is what keeps you happy in your relationship. pretty much like what @jscmp said! It just makes it better I guess, but not something that determines if its a happy relationship or not.

[burlen]

Ideally, daily. Three times a week, minimum.

[sodaa_popp]

I don't.

[EmpatheticLady]

A few times a week would be best in general.

[MrNameless]

At least once a week.

I'd prefer daily, but I know that's not possible with work unless we're living together.

[Katherine3110hun]

I'd require it once every 2 weeks at most. I'd want it a lot more than that.

[Dislikesquadcaptain]

once every 2 weeks? WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU

[Katherine3110hun]

Wdym? What's wrong with requiring it once every two weeks?

[Dislikesquadcaptain]

OMG NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO ONCE EVERY 2 WEEKS WHY :,(

[Katherine3110hun]

Dude chill. Because that's the longest I'm willing to go while dating someone.

[Dislikesquadcaptain]

oooooooh the longest. whew, you scared me. So wait, what happens if they pass that mark. do you just break up with them?

[Katherine3110hun]

No I tell them I'd like to have sex more often and that I'm a very Sexual person and have a high sex drive.

[Dislikesquadcaptain]

you see I thought you meant that you require sex once every 2 weeks.

[Katherine3110hun]

I do at the most. I prefer it more often than that.

[Love_Is_Eternal]

@Dislikesquadcaptain Once every 2 weeks is great. I find that having sex a few times a week can eventually make it boring. Waiting 2 weeks makes it all the better when you have it. Once every 2 weeks is fine by me.

[Dislikesquadcaptain]

@Love_Is_Eternal yeah I heard of this. Do you wank during that period though? or are you held off all the way?

[Love_Is_Eternal]

@Dislikesquadcaptain I use to wank as well but would stop wanking 4 or 5 days before the next sex session.

[RussianOil]

@Dislikesquadcaptain your first message made me laugh lol

[OlderAndWiser]

Ideally, I would prefer to have sex 2-3 times per week but, in a mismatched libido relationship, I can compromise and survive with once per week.

[IAmRedThunder]

3-4 times a week