Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
In the time I’ve been on this site, I’ve seen quite a few posts from guys asking how to stop watching porn. Suggestions often include researching the harmful effects of pornography and setting up filters and passwords. While these should be done, they are only a part of the solution. There is more that you can and should do to get to the root of the problem.
Destroy your pornography
Don’t just throw it away, but destroy it. Set a bonfire with your printed material and take a sledgehammer to your DVDs. Remove all traces; if anything is saved on your computer or phone, delete it and clear your trash bin. Reformat the hard drive if you have to. Unsubscribe from the websites and CLEAR YOUR SEARCH HISTORY. This way, when you’re searching for something legit, your search won’t auto-populate with a website or performer.
Go to bed an hour earlier
Turn off your computer, TV, and phone for half an hour beforehand. Leave them in a different room (or at least out of arm's length) and simply lie in darkness for a while so that your eyes can adjust to the darkness. Most importantly, it removes temptations.
Develop a healthier lifestyle
Everything – body, mind, and heart – is interconnected.
BODY – Go out for long runs or walks. Join a local sports league. Spend more time at the gym. You could also try a new hobby that requires discipline, endurance, and focus, like boxing or fencing. Don’t indulge in anything that will harm your body.
MIND – Pursue intellectual growth. Open new pathways in your mind to ease the stresses of recovery and withdrawal. Listen to classical music. Read poetry, history, physics, philosophy, or theology and spirituality. Consider keeping a journal.
HEART – Volunteer at a food pantry, homeless shelter, retirement home, or crisis pregnancy help center. In addition to looking beyond yourself, you will get to know people more personally.
As much as possible, avoid anything triggering
When you’re web browsing and you see lingerie or swimwear ads, refresh the page so that something different shows up. Inventory your movies, music, and TV shows and avoid those with sexual content. Take a different route to and from work or school so that you don’t pass by the provocative ads or lingerie store that you normally do. As for the GAG community, avoid Sexual Behavior, Sexual Health, and How Do I Look? You might think that you're just admiring a great body or helping a girl build self-esteem. What you’re actually doing is making yourself vulnerable and rationalizing it. There will be a time when you can do this, but not right now.
Know what is in fact triggering for you. Think of it as your "trip wire".
Discipline your media usage
Some people recommend watching other things, but I advise against this. You’ll still be idle and vulnerable to boredom, which can lead to a relapse.
Clean up your vocabulary
Stop using the slang terms for the most intimate parts of our bodies. This might not seem like a significant step, but it really is because you will elevate these most sacred parts of the body to a greater sense of propriety. Don’t describe women as “hot” or “sexy”, but with more wholesome, affectionate, and humanizing terms like “pretty”, “beautiful”, “graceful”, or “elegant”; words that animate the heart of a woman rather than just her body.
And for what it’s worth, avoid innuendos.
Self-denial
You could take cold showers or eat only two slices of bread at mealtime (just a couple of suggestions). This should be done regularly and with intention, meaning at least once a month; if you wait until after a relapse, this becomes a punishment more than a discipline. Furthermore, you’ll be able mentally prepare yourself. As you become more accustomed, do it bi-weekly and then weekly; do it on the same day each time.
Have an accountability partner
You can’t do this alone. Meet with a friend and share your struggles. Have them give you a hug, encouragement, advice and yes, forgiveness if you’ve failed. This should also be done regularly. Use accountability software like Covenant Eyes or Net Nanny.
If you are Catholic, turn to the Sacraments of Confession and Holy Communion, especially if you’ve been away from them.
Aspire to and embrace your masculinity
See yourself as a “man” rather than a “guy”. Few things in this world draw out masculinity better than femininity. Place images of your mother, sisters, cousins, or female friends on your computer or phone. You should also seek inspiration in authentic masculinity. It could be represented by a real or fictional man. He should have a good and consistent moral code and strives to be better than he is. When he’s speaking, you’re listening. When you see him, you think “that’s what I need to be”. He could be General Patton back from the dead or a more humble and gentle soul. You could know him personally or not. In any case, the image should inspire you.
Practice humility
You cannot change the evil that you face, but you can change yourself and how you face it. In a very real way, humility strengthens you because you allow yourself the freedom to grow. You have the freedom to acknowledge and safeguard the vulnerabilities of your heart and mind. You have the freedom to accept responsibility so that you can make the changes.
Gratitude
Be thankful for every day of freedom, whether it’s one day or a thousand. Gratitude helps you to acknowledge the steps that you’ve taken and gives you hope for the future. Lastly though, be thankful in general. Why? Because gratitude is a solid defense against the negativity and anxiety that causes you to seek relief in things like pornography.
CONCLUSION
It’s estimated that there are twenty pornographic websites for every normal one. The porn industry boasts an average annual revenue of $14 billion (USD). One site is even trying to integrate itself in society by paying for college tuitions and running “family-friendly” promo campaigns. Many seem convinced that all men watch porn. There is much to rationalize, but you must not allow yourself to be deceived. You are not at the mercy of your desires. You have a choice. It might be difficult, but it is neither impossible nor hopeless.
I will soon explain what I’ve said from a spiritual and theological perspective. Though I sincerely respect our religious differences, I do not feel that what I’ve said will be complete without this angle. Make of it what you will. I’m simply making it available.
What Girls & Guys Said
12 38About the exercise: Don't do anything super vigorous. It is WAY too hard to get into those habits. WALK. It is easier, and the mind can run free while walking. That's just what worked for me.
How about bang real women in the real world so then you aren't reliant to porn and jerking off every night like some pizza stained nerd living under mommy's roof lmaooo
Easy for you to say muscleman
@puncakegirl lmaooo
@puncakegirl haha
This is so bullshit.
There are only 2 ways to free yourself from the shackles of porn - date a nymphomaniac and have multiple relationships.
i can dig this... but what if that nympho like porn too lol
@Tdieseler Then heaven is real and you've won the golden ticket.
had that before... recently too. i have to admit... it was a little weird...
Look at what BigBoy said above. Here's what he said: "I dated a girl that was nuts for Porn. Actually, she was nuts for sex. She was always on the hunt. It was crazy. You think you'd be in heaven because she wants it ALL the time, but it was hell. Every night, two or three times with a lot of porn watching. It was ridiculous and not healthy. Rather than go out for dinner and a movie, she'd rather order a pizza, watch porn and have sex all night and the next morning. Her sexual appetite was probably 5 times the average woman to begin with, and adding Porn to her diet only threw gasoline on that sexual desire. It was out of control. So I get the addiction because I saw it first hand."
@mistixs He sees a problem, I see an opportunity for polyamorous threesome relationships.
Watching porn is not a problem. getting addicted to it is.
No need to go great lengths to destroy the porn. Just discipline yourself to hv correct amount of anything - whether porn, booze , or religious rites.
Seriously?
Seriously... what?
Nothing. I do not intend to trigger anyone with my own opinion (which I didn't provide) so it escalates into a debate in which we cannot even agree to disagree.
1) What would we have debated about? I simply offered advice on how to stop watching porn and not my thoughts on porn itself. And 2) then why bother posting in the first place?
I understand that. I only have a hard time believing some people are trying to quit porn, where I myself see unable and unwilling to do so. Just saying. Each to their own. That's all.
But you're assuming I want to give up my "porn addiction". Addiction as defined by the DSM 5 is something that interferes negatively with your daily life and has destroyed relationships, career, family etc.
Nobody knows or cares about all the porn I watch so it's not really a problem.
How does one become shackled by porn in the first place?
Best Take ever. Awesome tips. Though I have never watched porn or explicit movies but I feel these tips are very practical.
I don't fucking have any friends in my neighborhood. I live in a WASP suburb and they don't take kindly to different folks like myself.
All my friends moved out and got jobs in faraway places.
Yes! Get an accountability partner! Why watch porn when you can bang him/her?
quiting porn has had advantages for me.
What are they?
@mistixs being more interested in real women. being waaaay more assertive when it comes to dating. when i watch porn on a regular basis and i talk to girls i feel nothing, but when i dont watch porn i enjoy it much better, and i feel like they enjoy me feeling interested in them more as well.
Burn the DVDs, destroy the laptops, cut the internet connection!
Great take!
White knighting much? meh,50/50
i support your opinion bro just have in mind that you can't restrain your sexual impulses everytime. You can definitley be better without porn... but not without sex
yet, i found better to restrain from mastrubation - i feel more powerful for some reasons. might be testosterone tho, so, you got my two cents
Porn is so so so bad for you, look it up
This whole article rests on the assumption that watching pornography is bad for you or wrong...
It seems like this article was written by a puritanical, conservative religious person..
Pornography can help you learn a lot about sex and sexuality... so many people act like they are doing sex right, when they just aren't...
although, i think it can become unhealthy if you substitute real relationships and real sex to watch pornography... i think that doesn't really happen because of the pornography.. there is a dofferent underlying problem that causes that...
pornography can help learn a lot more about sex and what you can do, and how to enjoy it even more...
but i mean, it also depends on the type of pornography it is...
the most important thing though is that people have that joy and pleasure in real life and pursue a healthy lifestyle in which they live their lives to the fullest, and not settke getting their sexual gratification through the internet...
but that is so typical of people, to make a huge issue about something like watching sex videos, instead of really focusing on the important problems in life..
what i mean is that most people are somehow perfectly fine with their fellow person being deprived of the very essentials of a healthy, happy life... they are perfectly fine with the incredible injustice of this world and that which is inherent within nature...
no, watching pornography is not the problem.. it can become a problem, because you can certainly abuse it, just like you can abuse anything good, but that doesn't mean that the thing in and of itself is not good... I just think that people's priorities are so skewed, so out of whack... that is the real perversion.. perverting and skewing the very definition of what is good and bad, right and wrong, just and unjust...
that is what i see from most puritanical religious folks... they put emphasis on all the wrong things and ignore the most important things...
the matter that should really be our vital concern is whether or not our fellow person can have the same joy and happiness in life that we ourselves enjoy...
this world is in no way just or fair at all... and so many people are deprived of the very basic essentials of a healthy, joyful life, yet we wish to discuss matters such as which videos we watch...
it's really incredible... Perhaps pornography is so popular, because sexual intimacyband pleasure are basic necessities of human life...
So because people ask for advice and I offer it, I'm... puritanical? Clearly it is a problem if people are asking how to stop watching it. A few problems here. First of all, an increasing number of men ARE preferring porn over actual sex. The "underlying problem" is that people build up these fantasies that another person isn't willing to indulge in. Is porn really "intimacy"? Is watching a video of a man and a woman, or in some cases multiple men and women, having sex (or in some cases, even torturing each other)... a video that perhaps millions of people have seen REALLY "intimacy"? Or, for that matter, is masturbation "intimacy"? And when was the last time anyone ever died from not having sex? Since you mention it, are those dying on the streets - poor, hungry, and homeless - REALLY thinking "man, I really need to get some"?
Honestly they probably are thinking just that 😂😂😂 sorry
I watch porn because women don't want me
Why?
an appeal to losers... cool.
Still fighting the addiction myself... it has cost me a lot in money and relationships. Seems I swear to leave it every month.
Why isn't "get a girlfriend," in there? And what's the big deal about watching porn, anyway? I see no harm to it. Sometimes, I jerk off 7 times per day to Internet pornography. I still actively try to meet girls in real life, but isn't it a little demeaning to the girl to look at them as "a replacement for porn," just as much as it would be to see them as a "free prostitute."
I stopped watching porn and done nofap and my dick grew 1 inch and got more sensitive. Shits like magic.