An age-old question here on GirlsAskGuys focuses on men wondering what they can do to get their ladies to have an orgasm, the Big "O(hhhhh)," climax, push her over the edge, etc... You get where I'm going with this. Well, I am here today to take it one step further. Compiled below is a list of ways to get your woman to the promised land without - yes, I said WITHOUT - touching her.
"How is such a thing possible," you may ask? "But I want to touch her! Where does that come in?!" Great questions, dear reader! Here is the thing, what I have written for you are things that will stimulate your boothang's mind and heart, not just her lady bits. Get her mental juices flowing first and then you can put your hands all over her. Why? Well, these suggestions may make it easier for you later because it has been proven time and again that women have trouble getting there for a multitude of reasons, including psychological ones. If you can get her to relax her thoughts, ease her worries, and let her know you care, you will have a higher chance of getting her to climax in the bedroom, in the car, on the kitchen counter, or in the shower.
Okay, so without further ado, here we go!
1. Give Her Compliments
From the time we are young, us girls have seen beautiful women in the media, heralded for their feminity and gorgeous assests. In today's world, that means she needs to have ample breasts and a big, ol' booty. Hey, if that is what you are into, I totally get it. However, not every man is into those things (or simply do not care that much) as many male users have posted over and over again on this site. Many females may be having thoughts such as:
- "My boobs are too small. I am not as much of a woman because of this." - "My butt is flat. Every guy wants a bubble butt. No one will want me." - "I have an outie vagina. How gross. What man wants to be around that?"
Whatever you may like, let the woman you are with know how beautiful you think she is. You are with or interested in her for a reason after all, no? If she feels desirable to you, it will be easier for her to forget about her self-esteem issues, feel sexy, and open up more during sex.
2. Communicate with Her
Knowing how to use your words properly will work in your favor. You can make yourself a very desirable and sexy person yourself to a woman if you can communicate well. If you can hold conversations and not ask about her tits... or simply just stare at them constantly, it goes a long way to her. It makes her feel less like a sex object that you will hit and quit and more like you truly care about her as a person. Again, this allows her to feel closer to you, ultimately allowing her to let her guard down.
Also, it is totally fine (and encouraged) to tell her that you miss her, that you care about her, that you love her. Sure, actions speak louder than words, but that does not mean it would kill you to call, text, or tell her in-person that you have been thinking of her.
3. Have a Sense of Humor
"If you can make a girl laugh, you can make her do anything." ~ Marilyn Monroe
Okay, so that quote may not be entirely true, but it is not entirely false either. Most people love to smile and have a good time. If you show your girlfriend, your date, or whomever that you can enjoy yourself and are not serious all the time, it shows a lot about you as a person. We want to laugh. It eases tension and stress from our daily lives, which - yep, you may have guessed it - can cause females (and men for that matter) to not be able to climax. Too much eating away at our thoughts can detract us from fully enjoying being with our man. Make her giggle and get her mind off of the negatives and onto savoring every pleasurable moment with you.
4. Show Your Intelligence
Let's face it: intelligence can be super attractive. Knowledge is power. A man who knows how to hold a conversation as mentioned before; make witty, sexual jokes to combine with the above point about humor; and get her thinking will stimulate her mind. There is a reason many women like to read erotica over watching porn. It gets her wheels turning, and a guy who can do the same is golden. However, keep in mind to not make yourself seem superior to a woman with all that you know. That just ends up being a turn-off.
5. Be Ambitious
Showing your lady that you have goals and a drive to succeed, to do more, is ridiculously attractive. Lying on your old, ratty couch all day and every day, eating Cheetos, albeit delicious, does not send someone the best message. The same thing goes for whining about your dead-end job and doing nothing about it. Stop it! Go out there and show that you want a better life for yourself by applying to different jobs. Both show that you are lazy and do not want to work hard. That can translate to, "He is lethargic in all aspects of his existence, including the bedroom."
You do not need to have a six-figure income, a mansion, and three cars, but you do need to show that you care about your life. Ultimately, showing some passion for the things in your world can demonstrate that you will have a fire with her as well.
Okay, folks, my time is up for now. Keep in mind that there are other traits or qualities that could be added to this list, but you get the general idea. Feel free to comment and add the ones you think are important!
I've never been able to orgasm not vaginally anyway but my boyfriend when we have sex he tells me I have just cum
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EmpatheticLady
+1 y
... wait, your boyfriend is telling you when you've had an orgasm? Uh, no, that's not how that works.
mikemx55Yoda
+1 y
Mental orgasms last longer than physical ones ;)
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EmpatheticLady
+1 y
And make us want you men that much more!
Barrabus_the_FreeYoda
+1 y
"How to Not Get Laid, in Four Easy Steps. Plus one thing that might get you some poon."
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EmpatheticLady
+1 y
Yeah? Seems like most users here are agreeing with the comments, though. Sure, there are other factors that go into this. Sure, there is no guarantee she'll get off from just those five things, but they help.
Spiorad_AisceGuru
+1 y
Great take - I wholeheartedly agree with first four and definitely agree with you that there is a path to follow - I am a bit "Meh" about the last ones - I don't like the word ambitious and goal orientated, quite frankly I think it is BS, if you are confident in yourself you just do it not waste time talking loudly about it so everyone sees how ambitious you are quotes.lifehack.org/.../...dest-sound-101399_3.png
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EmpatheticLady
+1 y
Oh, I'll definitely agree with you on that last point. I don't mean I want someone bragging about all their successes in life - how much money they make, how many chicks they've been with, how many cars they have, how many places they've been to, etc... That's just obnoxious. However, a lot can be said for guys that go and get their college education, work hard at their job (whether you're a financial adviser or a grocery store manager), work out at the gym to maintain a nice physique, etc... They can be quiet about all of these things, but they all show that the man cares about his life and wants to do well. Most people, whether you are a male or a female, not want someone who is lazy and will sit at home all day, eating your food, using up your electricity, and contributing nothing. Does that make a bit more sense?
Spiorad_Aisce
+1 y
I thought that was what you meant alright - I was just putting my own spin on the point - Sometimes you change the words around to make things clearer in your head
EmpatheticLady
+1 y
Totally gotcha. :) That makes sense, and I do like the quote you included. I very much agree with it!
TensevenXper 6
+1 y
#5 #5 #5... I couldn't agree with you more... sooo true.
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EmpatheticLady
+1 y
Definitely a sexy thing to see in a guy.
Tenseven
+1 y
I divorced my husband because he didn't have enough of #5. So serious. It's such a turn off to me to not have goals or to work hard in life, be lazy. No thanks!
EmpatheticLady
+1 y
Exactly. Some guys here are commenting that it equates to having money. You can become rich by being ambitious, but that's not to say the two are mutually exclusive.
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Tenseven
+1 y
Right! Well I made at least twice as much as my ex husband and I still MARRIED him. I didn't care at all how much $ he had. I still don't care about that. I make my own $ and I'd do it again too... as long as it's the right person for me! Money has nothing to do with it at all. Ambition and being a great person does do it for me. 😉
EmpatheticLady
+1 y
Oh, for sure. It just comes down to not wanting to mooch off of others all the time and not make something of your life.
LuminiferaXper 5
+1 y
... I don't know about other girls, but I wouldn't have an orgasm from those things at all. For me, that definitely does depend on touch. Lol.
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EmpatheticLady
+1 y
Well, duh, touch is important. I added that in there, haha. Stimulating a woman's mind and heart typically is important into getting her turned on, so, when you do put your hands all over her, she feels a better connection to you. :P I did also mention that this list may not work for every girl and that other factors are important.
ThisDudeHereMaster
+1 y
Upvote for Sam Winchester 😎 Lol jk upvote for awesome take. The first one I read through this month xD
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EmpatheticLady
+1 y
Whoa, I'm honored! Thank you for checking it out!
ParamountArmadaXper 6
+1 y
i have no idea how to do any of these, except for #1.
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EmpatheticLady
+1 y
At least now you have the foundation for what is helpful in turning a woman on mentally. I do think there needs to be a follow-up on how to combine all of these things together fluidly, though.
ParamountArmada
+1 y
girls gotta quit with the wooing ritual bullshit crap, and just go with whats natural, not be expecting guys to be "like girls" and expect them to "make" you turned on.
EmpatheticLady
+1 y
I never said anything about a "wooing ritual." All of this should be quite natural when you have the right chemistry with someone.
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ParamountArmada
+1 y
i was adding to my comment and #5 really sucks, a girl should love a guy because he's her guy, not be expecting guys to be some type of emotionless god that gets everything and anything in life, i hate that ambitious shit, were not perfect.
EmpatheticLady
+1 y
I think you're also misinterpreting what I meant there. Ambition does not equate to being rich. It relates to going after your goals and having passion in life, whether that means you want to be a doctor, be in the Olympics, work with children, etc... The point is to not be lazy all the time and mooch off of others. That's not attractive. Sure, some guys may be unemployed and taking a little time off before applying to new jobs. That's cool. However, there comes a time when he does need to go after something.
ParamountArmada
+1 y
i know what you meant. i was trying to say girls shouldn't expect guys to have to be for something, other than for you.
Of course I liked it... I'm much to shy to ever touch a girl and now you've given me the ultimate power hahaha
EmpatheticLady
+1 y
Oh, man, with great power comes great responsibility. XD
tbm1986Xper 5
+1 y
Uh. All that used to work occasionally for me. Now my best dates either involve chloroform-soaked rags or spending ridiculous money.
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EmpatheticLady
+1 y
Well... those can work at times as well given your victim, I mean... date... 😓😰
tbm1986
+1 y
The chloroform-soaked rag was a joke. Spending ridiculous amounts of money... I'm not sure they're the victim. They all say I'm a true gentleman and should be looking for a girlfriend.
EmpatheticLady
+1 y
Haha, I know. I was joking, too. I don't think expensive dates are necessary.
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tbm1986
+1 y
That's a relief. I did think you possibly thought I was capable of enjoying an unconscious corpse for a date! And would wilfully do that to someone... it doesn't bear thinking about... You say that I don't need the expensive dates (and so do others around me who I have confided in) but men have a greater need in that department than ladies do. I'm not saying I don't miss the other aspects of forming and maintaining relationships because I do. It's just that that aspect is more obtainable. What with the post on how guys and girls are programmed, I have been reminded how much I should continue to only try for sex in expensive dates and not inflict any carnal suggestion on even interested females because they have very different needs (and handbags/shoes/alcohol for boobs/hugs/whatever else doesn't feel right anymore).
EmpatheticLady
+1 y
Haha, I mean, I was hoping you were only joking. Otherwise... awkwaaaard. :P I mean, look, sure, I cannot deny that some women will only go after a man because he has a lot of money and can buy her nice things. This has been proven often enough for it to be a legitimate worry. I can't blame you for being hesitant on thinking other women are different. However, I can assure that they are out there. I am one of them. Maybe I'm one of only few, but we're around. The myTake I wrote or any others that I or anyone writes cannot guarantee that a woman will orgasm with just the five points I listed here. It cannot ensure that you will get a respectable, caring woman or any woman at that. I will not make those sort of promises. We're all wired differently, and we want different things out of life. All I'm saying here are things that my friends, women on this site, and myself have thought and/or discussed when it comes to what helps to turn them on.
tbm1986
+1 y
I didn't mean that women are out there to squeeze men for all their capital but you probably knew that. Well done for getting back on topic. Your post and your responses to my replies suggest I should go back to the charming ways I had when I was 20. The girls would be happier with that than the pervy timid low-life who doesn't know what he's afraid of more: girl's reactions or his own shadow. I know what my 20yo self would say ("wtf happened to YOU, man?"). Back on topic again, I hope other guys are encouraged enough by your advice to make girls feel lovely again.
EmpatheticLady
+1 y
Charm goes a hell of a long way. :)
MesonfieldeMaster
+1 y
That won't cause the physical reaction so this feels like clickbait lol
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EmpatheticLady
+1 y
Should I have discussed the sexy shower sessions more in-depth? 😜
Mesonfielde
+1 y
Hmmm... well I sure wouldn't mind... ^.~ :p
EmpatheticLady
+1 y
Well, you see, you start with you and your lady. You slip into the shower to start your morning routine... and that's where the magic happens. 😛 Sorry, the children on this site aren't ready for the whole story.
BeerFartsYoda
+1 y
Excellent MT, Heather! I agree with everything you've said!
Thankfully, I got all of those down pat except #4 because I can be stupied at times :p ;p :)
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EmpatheticLady
+1 y
Some stupidity is allowed, so I think you're safe. 😝
springocelotGuru
+1 y
Lovely first take! A good pre-game show cannot be underestimated.
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EmpatheticLady
+1 y
Thanks so much! Haha, I love how you put that as "pre-game show." Definitely sets the stage, no doubt.
CosytoastyGuru
+1 y
I'm actually a little shocked this is your first take :P
Well written, you have taken everything GaG blues think is irrelevant and dropped it into one take. Precision with no fluff :P you're clearly an educated woman.
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EmpatheticLady
+1 y
Oh, this got a smile out of me, haha. Thank you for that and for reading it! You're not the only one that is surprised either apparently. ;P
MG-TOWXper 5
+1 y
Oh thank God. When I saw the title I thought I had to hire someone to do the touching for me.
Just kidding. Article.
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EmpatheticLady
+1 y
Haha, no, no... unless you're into that. 😐
abundantlyrichMaster
+1 y
This is not going to work when they are just a sheep chanting the words from a suggested guide. They'll still lack genuinity and communication skills.
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EmpatheticLady
+1 y
As I stated at the bottom of the Take, there obviously do need to be other things that play into their relationships to make things work. A guy can do all of these things and still fail. I'm simply listing certain aspects that can help women feel more comfortable.
Fuglyme2Xper 4
+1 y
Just don't be an asshole
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EmpatheticLady
+1 y
I mean, that's always helpful in any situation in life.
BackAgainYoda
+1 y
Mental and emotional stimulation nice
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EmpatheticLady
+1 y
Right? They all work together.
BackAgain
+1 y
Sometimes better than physical! I definitely fondly remember guys who made me laugh, feel welcomed and safe than the charmer who kissed my hand
EmpatheticLady
+1 y
Ahem, sister. A-freaking-men.
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EmpatheticLady
+1 y
Amen* Look, phone... don't mess up my moment.
BackAgain
+1 y
Lol darn auto correct!!
EmpatheticLady
+1 y
It makes me look dumb sometimes. XD
BackAgain
+1 y
Makes me seem flirty instead of friendly. I sometimes put ;) instead of :)
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29 81I've never been able to orgasm not vaginally anyway but my boyfriend when we have sex he tells me I have just cum
... wait, your boyfriend is telling you when you've had an orgasm? Uh, no, that's not how that works.
Mental orgasms last longer than physical ones ;)
And make us want you men that much more!
"How to Not Get Laid, in Four Easy Steps. Plus one thing that might get you some poon."
Yeah? Seems like most users here are agreeing with the comments, though. Sure, there are other factors that go into this. Sure, there is no guarantee she'll get off from just those five things, but they help.
Great take - I wholeheartedly agree with first four and definitely agree with you that there is a path to follow - I am a bit "Meh" about the last ones - I don't like the word ambitious and goal orientated, quite frankly I think it is BS, if you are confident in yourself you just do it not waste time talking loudly about it so everyone sees how ambitious you are
quotes.lifehack.org/.../...dest-sound-101399_3.png
Oh, I'll definitely agree with you on that last point. I don't mean I want someone bragging about all their successes in life - how much money they make, how many chicks they've been with, how many cars they have, how many places they've been to, etc... That's just obnoxious. However, a lot can be said for guys that go and get their college education, work hard at their job (whether you're a financial adviser or a grocery store manager), work out at the gym to maintain a nice physique, etc... They can be quiet about all of these things, but they all show that the man cares about his life and wants to do well. Most people, whether you are a male or a female, not want someone who is lazy and will sit at home all day, eating your food, using up your electricity, and contributing nothing. Does that make a bit more sense?
I thought that was what you meant alright - I was just putting my own spin on the point - Sometimes you change the words around to make things clearer in your head
Totally gotcha. :) That makes sense, and I do like the quote you included. I very much agree with it!
#5 #5 #5... I couldn't agree with you more... sooo true.
Definitely a sexy thing to see in a guy.
I divorced my husband because he didn't have enough of #5. So serious. It's such a turn off to me to not have goals or to work hard in life, be lazy. No thanks!
Exactly. Some guys here are commenting that it equates to having money. You can become rich by being ambitious, but that's not to say the two are mutually exclusive.
Right! Well I made at least twice as much as my ex husband and I still MARRIED him. I didn't care at all how much $ he had. I still don't care about that. I make my own $ and I'd do it again too... as long as it's the right person for me! Money has nothing to do with it at all. Ambition and being a great person does do it for me. 😉
Oh, for sure. It just comes down to not wanting to mooch off of others all the time and not make something of your life.
... I don't know about other girls, but I wouldn't have an orgasm from those things at all. For me, that definitely does depend on touch. Lol.
Well, duh, touch is important. I added that in there, haha. Stimulating a woman's mind and heart typically is important into getting her turned on, so, when you do put your hands all over her, she feels a better connection to you. :P I did also mention that this list may not work for every girl and that other factors are important.
Upvote for Sam Winchester 😎
Lol jk upvote for awesome take. The first one I read through this month xD
Whoa, I'm honored! Thank you for checking it out!
i have no idea how to do any of these, except for #1.
At least now you have the foundation for what is helpful in turning a woman on mentally. I do think there needs to be a follow-up on how to combine all of these things together fluidly, though.
girls gotta quit with the wooing ritual bullshit crap, and just go with whats natural, not be expecting guys to be "like girls" and expect them to "make" you turned on.
I never said anything about a "wooing ritual." All of this should be quite natural when you have the right chemistry with someone.
i was adding to my comment and #5 really sucks, a girl should love a guy because he's her guy, not be expecting guys to be some type of emotionless god that gets everything and anything in life, i hate that ambitious shit, were not perfect.
I think you're also misinterpreting what I meant there. Ambition does not equate to being rich. It relates to going after your goals and having passion in life, whether that means you want to be a doctor, be in the Olympics, work with children, etc... The point is to not be lazy all the time and mooch off of others. That's not attractive. Sure, some guys may be unemployed and taking a little time off before applying to new jobs. That's cool. However, there comes a time when he does need to go after something.
i know what you meant. i was trying to say girls shouldn't expect guys to have to be for something, other than for you.
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Oh my... all this without touching her? My thoughts were so innocent until today! *takes notes* lol
Fun take :P
Lmao, innocent, my ass. Glad you liked it!
Of course I liked it... I'm much to shy to ever touch a girl and now you've given me the ultimate power hahaha
Oh, man, with great power comes great responsibility. XD
Uh. All that used to work occasionally for me. Now my best dates either involve chloroform-soaked rags or spending ridiculous money.
Well... those can work at times as well given your victim, I mean... date... 😓😰
The chloroform-soaked rag was a joke. Spending ridiculous amounts of money... I'm not sure they're the victim. They all say I'm a true gentleman and should be looking for a girlfriend.
Haha, I know. I was joking, too. I don't think expensive dates are necessary.
That's a relief. I did think you possibly thought I was capable of enjoying an unconscious corpse for a date! And would wilfully do that to someone... it doesn't bear thinking about... You say that I don't need the expensive dates (and so do others around me who I have confided in) but men have a greater need in that department than ladies do. I'm not saying I don't miss the other aspects of forming and maintaining relationships because I do. It's just that that aspect is more obtainable. What with the post on how guys and girls are programmed, I have been reminded how much I should continue to only try for sex in expensive dates and not inflict any carnal suggestion on even interested females because they have very different needs (and handbags/shoes/alcohol for boobs/hugs/whatever else doesn't feel right anymore).
Haha, I mean, I was hoping you were only joking. Otherwise... awkwaaaard. :P I mean, look, sure, I cannot deny that some women will only go after a man because he has a lot of money and can buy her nice things. This has been proven often enough for it to be a legitimate worry. I can't blame you for being hesitant on thinking other women are different. However, I can assure that they are out there. I am one of them. Maybe I'm one of only few, but we're around. The myTake I wrote or any others that I or anyone writes cannot guarantee that a woman will orgasm with just the five points I listed here. It cannot ensure that you will get a respectable, caring woman or any woman at that. I will not make those sort of promises. We're all wired differently, and we want different things out of life. All I'm saying here are things that my friends, women on this site, and myself have thought and/or discussed when it comes to what helps to turn them on.
I didn't mean that women are out there to squeeze men for all their capital but you probably knew that. Well done for getting back on topic. Your post and your responses to my replies suggest I should go back to the charming ways I had when I was 20. The girls would be happier with that than the pervy timid low-life who doesn't know what he's afraid of more: girl's reactions or his own shadow. I know what my 20yo self would say ("wtf happened to YOU, man?"). Back on topic again, I hope other guys are encouraged enough by your advice to make girls feel lovely again.
Charm goes a hell of a long way. :)
That won't cause the physical reaction so this feels like clickbait lol
Should I have discussed the sexy shower sessions more in-depth? 😜
Hmmm... well I sure wouldn't mind... ^.~ :p
Well, you see, you start with you and your lady. You slip into the shower to start your morning routine... and that's where the magic happens. 😛 Sorry, the children on this site aren't ready for the whole story.
Excellent MT, Heather! I agree with everything you've said!
Thankfully, I got all of those down pat except #4 because I can be stupied at times :p ;p :)
Some stupidity is allowed, so I think you're safe. 😝
Lovely first take! A good pre-game show cannot be underestimated.
Thanks so much! Haha, I love how you put that as "pre-game show." Definitely sets the stage, no doubt.
I'm actually a little shocked this is your first take :P
Well written, you have taken everything GaG blues think is irrelevant and dropped it into one take. Precision with no fluff :P you're clearly an educated woman.
Oh, this got a smile out of me, haha. Thank you for that and for reading it! You're not the only one that is surprised either apparently. ;P
Oh thank God. When I saw the title I thought I had to hire someone to do the touching for me.
Just kidding. Article.
Haha, no, no... unless you're into that. 😐
This is not going to work when they are just a sheep chanting the words from a suggested guide. They'll still lack genuinity and communication skills.
As I stated at the bottom of the Take, there obviously do need to be other things that play into their relationships to make things work. A guy can do all of these things and still fail. I'm simply listing certain aspects that can help women feel more comfortable.
Just don't be an asshole
I mean, that's always helpful in any situation in life.
Mental and emotional stimulation nice
Right? They all work together.
Sometimes better than physical! I definitely fondly remember guys who made me laugh, feel welcomed and safe than the charmer who kissed my hand
Ahem, sister. A-freaking-men.
Amen* Look, phone... don't mess up my moment.
Lol darn auto correct!!
It makes me look dumb sometimes. XD
Makes me seem flirty instead of friendly. I sometimes put ;) instead of :)
Autocorrect just wants you to have fun! XD
why you gotta be so awesome sauce :P :) <3
Haha, I should be asking you that. :) <3
Go teammate!! Well done honey! Amazing MyTake😊
Thank ya, dear! #TeamRJ