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I Feel Resentful of Guys for Orgasming So Easily...It's Unreal

I won't hate on guys in this. I'll just say how I feel. It's so frustrating. For most guys orgasming is so easy! They can orgasm from any sex position. They don't need special rules or special spots rubbed. They stimulate themselves and don't even need her help at all!!! I feel so envious. Even when they're highschool age they can get off from sex so easily. They don't need to train themselves or find what works. I've heard guys say they can't cum from oral sometimes, but c'mon sex is the best. I. feel. so. jealous.

I Feel Resentful of Guys for Orgasming So Easily...It's Unreal

They don't need to show how they orgasm in bed by doing lots of things. Of course girls can stay quiet too, but still...guys are kind of expected to be more quiet. They can fuck anything and cum, they don't need to feel comfortable with the person.

I know guys are expected to perform or last long, but they still get off from sex so easily! Like it's effortless. I guess for some guys that may not be true, but for most it is. Also STDs. Guys don't have to worry so much since they don't have the internal organ. They don't have to take pounding. Their dick feels the same after sex. And I think fast orgasms sound so cool. They may make themselves last long, but the option to cum fast is always there. And like I said, they don't need her help at all.

I am this close to leading an oral only sex life. I like how sex feels, but I feel too envious and jealous and just everything.

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  • haha, I can totally understand you :) I think it is because the cock is stimulated just much easier. And guys also have much more "training". Boys usually start masturbating very early and they dont feel ashamed for it. They start masturbating and do it every day, maybe more then once. So before they have sex for the first time, they already had like 5000 orgasms by themself, so they know exactly how they like it.
    girls usualyl feel a lot more ashamed to experiment with their sexuality. I even know girls who never orgasmed before they had sex for the first time!

    But I learned that girls can orgasm really quickly and easy, too! I had girls who orgasmed 10 times a day, and could cum within seconds. And yes, oral sex is a great thing. I had a few oral-only relationships. In my opinion, it is much better then penetration, and the girls orgasmed a lot more then I did in these relations. A LOT more! haha. They made me feel jealious for them cumming so easily and often, while I could only cum once.

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  • Well i can certainly understand your jealousy. Just from reading back the comments from guys that think women have it so much better. I've been sexually active for 10 years and only once had a rolling orgasm. A couple times a year i get a mindblowing orgasm. The majority of the time i can't even feel or even get orgasms. And its not like i can do anything to increase the odds. Then have to deal with letting your partner down all the time.

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  • -masturbate and focus on the clit. Its a lot easier getting a clitoral orgasm than vaginal.
    -it takes girls longer, but girls can have multiple orgasms one after the other

    -Guys always have to worry about performing
    -Guys dicks can break

    • Yes I can orgasm from masturbation! Like I posted I might just do oral only these days.

  • I find it hard to disagree with you. Guys do have some pressure to perform and to try to get the girl to orgasm which take some of the fun away at times. What about sex toys... they can be a lot of fun (with a lot of orgasms) prior to intercourse?

    • I <3 toys so much. But without the sex. I'm jealous of guys that they can cum from real sex.

    • I guess it means teaching a guy how to get you off or hope to find one that spends a lot of time on foreplay with you. You are right... a guy can get off any time anyplace but it is way more fun when the girl has the same experience!

    • Oh I love oral. I may have a solely oral sex life soon...

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  • sure, sounds great. but...
    1) women can basically date free. I had to stop dating because I just can't afford it. It can get lonely being by yourself all the time. Sure once you get to a certain point you can just hang out at each other's house. But it is going to be an easy $200-$400 until you get past the first few dates. Then it is usually on the guy to pay, even if she covers it once in a while.
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    2) The majority of women don't understand how a penis works. That, of course, is not really your fault. But that can cause a LOT of issues. Guys don't just get hard instantly by thinking about sex. If we aren't hard, that doesn't have anything to do with you or the way you look.

    3) Unlike women, guys can't just go and go and go and go. And as guys get older, it takes longer and longer in between. Women can just lay there and guys are happy. Women can also do it all day, every day, even if they aren't in the mood. If a guy just layed there? we wouldn't get sex again. If a guy isn't in the mood, sometimes we can't get hard.
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    4) All the stress is on the guy for sex. We have to get an maintain an erection all while trying to please a woman. And women can be like a freaking rubix cube when it comes to figuring out what makes them orgasm, esp if your not familiar with her.
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    5) women's orgasms are longer. And I would be willing to bet sex feels better for women then men. It is the old "finger in the ear" analogy. put your finger in your ear and wiggle. What feels better? finger or ear?

  • You're just too much in your head. And some of those sentences are not true.
    But just keep focused, and you'll get there in a minute too xD

    • What's not true? I think I'm pretty accurate.

    • For instance: "They don't have to take pounding. Their dick feels the same after sex" It also gets sore...

    • It can, but I didn't just mean sore. I also meant like just the feelings in general.

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  • It's part of it i guess😞 Takes us 20 minutes to cum and only takes them 5.

  • So do you have penis envy?

  • Girls can cumm just as easily as guys, often easier, you just need to know what stimulates you, and be in the right frame of mind.
    Physical stimulation is normally essential, and every girl has a clitoris, as long as she has not suffered genital mutilation. The right level of stimulation will increase sexual pleasure.
    Every girl also has her G spot, inside the upper part of the vaginal cavity, location may vary a little, but with experimentation you can feel it.
    Try fingering inside while putting a little pressure on your lower abdomen with your other hand, you should find a very pleasant sensation.
    Overall, the most important aspect of achieving orgasms, is the state of your brain. You must be feeling horny, and be relaxed, all orgasms start in your mind, fantasies, or watching porn helps (try pornhub. com)
    Let your mind and fingers cum together, and you should orgasm fairly easily, it is normal, natural and very healthy to masturbate!
    It is also important to recognise that most females cannot orgasm from penile penetration alone, most need some digital stimulation of the clitoral area at the same time, as well as being relaxed and mentally stimulated.

  • I personally like to go down on a girl until she cums, then transition to the sex. If I'm getting mine it's only fair she get hers.

    • Sex can almost hurt after cumming since I get tight, it's not comfortable... I love oral so much, and so I'm thinking about having an oral only sex life. But I don't think getting mine from oral is truly he same as orgasming from sex. Guys aren't happy with only cumming from bjs, usually after all.

    • That's the first time I've heard that actually. Hm. Usually whoever I'm with demands sex before she cums, maybe those two reasons are why. However it's been a while since I couldn't make my partner cum. Maybe not every time, but it's pretty consistent. Part of communicating and reading her signals and knowing what turns her on. For me it's considerably harder to cum just from oral. Sometimes I just can't. People are wired differently.

    • Yes, guys can have trouble with cumming from oral! But I have skills lol

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  • There are certainly girls out there who can easily orgasm as well. So you should be envious of them, too.

    Also the trade-off is that you can have more orgasms in a reasonable time.

  • Meanwhile I never once orgasmed from my ex but gave her like 30 over the course of our relationship.

    • You sound cool, but why didn't she give back? Sounds like oral?

    • She tried but just couldn't do it nor wanted to really.

    • She should have told you before that's how she wanted things upfront.

  • uhh I can have an orgasm quick lol

    • How quick and how do you do it?

    • well it helps if its been a bunch of days with nothing. then just a short time of rubbing and it happens

    • That kind of makes sense. So like once a week sex?

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  • Don't be jealous! Just got find a guy that can please you with his tongue and dick 😉 then you'll be happy! Haha

    • Tongue only is fine to me...

    • You need to venture out. Use toys and stuff. No guy is gonna sign up for oral only. Harsh truth.

    • That's what I cum from, so he can too. But I could have casual sex for awhile.

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  • Yeah... i also have this jeolousy how easier it is for women to get laid and dictate their sex life. It is a lifesaver that guys can orgasm always. One good thing we have in the sex game.

    • Yes, this is true for girls...

    • But at least you guys can make yourselves orgasm with no help from her...

  • And I envy the longer orgasms of girls! Seriously, you can orgasm so much longer than we do. We only get 5 seconds of pleasure from 5 minutes of masturbating and that's it :C then comes the refractory period.

    5 seconds is almost nothing! >:C
    But the after effects are still worth it.

    • Not as a rule. My clit orgasms can only be a few seconds long. I can have strong or weak orgasms.

    • Hm. Same here. If I abstain from masturbation for a single day, my next time will be blowing. If I do it more often, it's getting weaker.

    • The same fore me. I wish they could always be strong lol

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  • Yeah, female orgasms last much longer and are better

    • Yes... but oral is awesome for orgasms too.

  • — "They can fuck anything and cum, they don't need to feel comfortable with the person."
    That doesn't seem likely (at least not to me).

  • Well sure we cum faster, but it's nowhere as good or long as when you cum.

  • Yea well guys are jealous of girls because our orgasms are mindblowing compared to theirs. When we do have them. Plus they can't have multiples. Sounds like girl orgasms are better to me. Everybody wants what they don't have. That's all.

  • For most guys, they have to worry a lot about orgasms.

    Specifically they have to learn -not- to orgasm. And if they don't, people consider them selfish or crap in bed. Pretty much daily some woman on here says something like, to use today's example, I slept with this guy and he's trying to date, but I don't want to, he sucks in bed. Or another girl who likes some guy, and is now thinking maybe she can't be bothered to get together with him because he's not that experienced.

    Most significantly though, I think you're making a big interpretation error.

    For you, orgasm isn't that easy, sex has to be really good to reach orgasm.

    For men, they reach orgasm easily. Hence, you assume sex is always really good for men.

    That's not really how it works. It's just that men can have pretty blah sex, orgasm, and be like 'that was barely even worth having'. Our orgasms are easy, which means they are NOT a mark of great sex.

  • I'm transgendered, so I have experience on both sides. Yeah, men can orgasm much easier, but on the whole women have it _much_ better when it comes to sexual pleasure. Guys would be insanely jealous if they knew what a female orgasm feels like.

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