Sexual Relationships 
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Looking back, I should have known that things didn't add up. I gave away something that meant a lot to me, to someone who didn't deserve my love...
I grew up in a religious family, that believed that sex should only happen after marriage. By the time I was 24, I still hadn't found anyone that I wanted to pursue a serious relationship with. Until I met Nick. Nick was so easy-going, and romantic and made me feel amazing. Whether it was just watching a movie or just grabbing a burger, it was so fun all the time!
4 months into us dating, I thought I had found the perfect guy. Although he was pushing for sex, I kept my boundary- but when he said he loves me and started talking about marriage, I was hooked. We had sex, and I thought that I would be with Nick for the long run. But that wasn't the case.
Nick and I were sitting at a restaurant one evening, and he left to use the restroom. Regularly he always had his phone on him, but he left it at the table. I watched it vibrate a few times, and my curiosity got the best of me. I scooted the phone closer and saw a preview of a text pop up. "Miss you babe, do u like the pic?". I tried to calm myself down, but there was no stopping me. I grabbed his phone, and started to scroll through the messages. There were pics, sexting, "I love you" exchanged. In fact the messages were as raunchy as before Nick was in my life, as to how they were now.
I could hear Nick walking up to me. I put the phone down and looked up at him. "Whats wrong babe?" he asked. All I wanted to do was wipe that smirk of stupidity off of his face. "Who the h*ll is Vikkie?" my voice trembled. "She's just a crazy stalker, she doesn't even live here- she is always sending me messages". I got up and replied "oh so you tell your stalker that you love her?". Nick jumped up, "why you looking through my phone!". He was more angry that I found out than knowing that he was about to lose me. I walked out and that was it.
I cried for such a long time, that I had given away my virginity to a selfish loser who was stringing me along. It took a lot out of me to get through it. But eventually I did. I can talk about how I regret it, or how skewed my judgement is. But I learned a lesson, and I hope that karma gets him.
What Girls & Guys Said
24 50It sucks tht you were cheated on but you can't live life with regrets, it's not healthy. You can't change what happened so just remember it for the fun you had.
There are two aspects here (1) Those for whom virginity is a sacred thing will never lose their virginity before marriage. (2) Cheating is a relationship is a very common phenomenon. And very few people survive not being cheated at least once in their lifetime. These people are special as they constitute less than 10% of the people in a partnership. So if you live in advanced countries , you are bound to be cheated in most cases. And you have been cheated only once. So you are lucky in that sense. And you have learned some lessons from your filed relationship. That will make you wiser.
Being from a religious family, growing up that way does no justice to you because the real world doesn't follow religious ideologies at all. So you become super gullible, that is why I joined the military, sure I went from extreme to the other but now that i'm free again, i'm in a more balanced society
I'm sorry but he didn't deserve you and trust me I did the same thing with my ex and his name was Travis. I honestly feel the same way as you do right now especially since he is now dating the girl that he cheated on me with in the state that he is stationed in for the military. I just feel like shit since I let our relationship go on for a year and half when everyone around me saw the signs when I didn't. I'm sorry again I know how you are feeling.
I lost mine to a cheater too. I felt stupid but oh well, shit happens
You have had a life lesson.
Think of it this way: you dodged a bullet.
Imagine how much worse it would have been if you had actually married him and then made the discovery, perhaps after you were pregnant, or had given birth to a child.
Dating is a series of auditions that we conduct during our search for a mate. He failed the audition.
Move on.
Its her advantage anyway. She can simply divorce him based on infidelity and then claim her prize, which would have been alimoney m8.
The main thing for her is to understand there was nothing she could have done to alter the situation; that guy would have cheated on any other girl as well.
Don't regret it: virginity is overrated and many girls lose it to a fuck boy.
unfortunately you're right
I'm sorry this happened to you, you deserve better.
I don't know if this is true or not but I actually lost my virginity to a cheater. I've felt dirty and haven't looked at men the same ever since.
This is why I do not take anyones virginity or lack thereof seriously.
Because you never know and shit happens.
It's good however, that you found out just in time. You could have been lead on longer. Be glad, that it's over and start over again.
And finally YOU DESERVE BETTER!
Amen for the 1st sentence. Amen.
Karma is not true.
i guess this is jsut a troll question...
I have two thoughts on this.
1.) that picture is hot
2.) you got screwed over. Move one and learn from your lesson. Virginity isn't as big of a deal as people make it to be. You're now a bit wiser because of this experience. So grow up, and leave it behind. That's being an adult is about. How you cope with it is what really matters. I constantly got screwed over by the people that I carer about, and now I don't care anymore. I only look out for myself. I was cheated on and my best friends turned their backs to me. So I don't care anymore. So make a choice and figure out what you want to do
With a profile pic like that I'm sure you lost your virginity to all sorts of guys.
I doubt this is real but regardless I actually did lose my virginity to a liar and cheater she lied about being a virgin at the beginning of the relationship and cheated the whole way through it. I can't quite understand why someone would want to get into a relationship when they just want to sleep around.
Although it took a toll on my Outlook of relationships but I was just glad a didn't end up with an sti or something like that.
Sadly, scumbags like him are a dime a dozen. And karma will probably never catch up to him as guys like him don't usually care about anyone or anything except the next piece of ass...
I wonder why it's always guys named Nick? It's not Mitchell is it?
If that's you in the picture... OMG! Your ass is to die for. Nobody else would ever get into my bed... as long as you treated me right. I have a great ass too and can be one from time to time. ;)
So you had sex. Great. Keep clean and all is well.
Something that I realized in my 20 years of being alive... The people who do bad usually get the good stuff at first, but later on in their lives, something bad happens. Could be small, could be large. All depends.
That's a load of crap. Pol Pot died peacefully in bed. Same with Castro.
@Centurion20000 but what about after that?
That's true! my ex boyfriend had slept with so many girls and cheated on me so many times and I didn't even know until after I broke up with him. Now he's into drugs and homeless because his wife kicked him out of the house and recently messaged me after six years. Im just here chilling with my new boyfriend and I'm really close finishing pre-med. I didn't lose my virginity with him but he told me no guy would waste their time with a virgin but I proved him wrong!
Do you realize you can have better sex with the new guy, right?