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Sexual Health I'm a lesbian, is it wrong to make one exception and date a guy? Does this mean I'm bisexual?
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I'm lesbian but there's only one guy that I would ever made an exception to. I hate males; I'm always giving them the 'evils'. I don't know why, I just absolutely despise them. But I have a friend who's male, who I get along REALLY well with. I know he likes me - he's confessed a lot of times. But I'm lesbian, I feel nothing when it comes to being attracted to guys. But this one guy, let's call him Jake* (not his real name) i feel like deep down I would make an exception and date him. Does this mean I'm bi, even though I only love girls, except for Jake*?
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17 21You are a radical feminist
Well it can happen cuz it happen to me when my very good friend female have big crush on me. I have no ideas for months until I hug her to cause she tell me how she feel for me. It take me surprise, I respect my lesbian friend we trying to date but I don't have feeling for her. U can try date if it go well :)
How you say you are 100% lesbian, try to go with him more, who know you discover you love cock more than pussy!
I've had sex with men twice in my life, I hated both times. I did it just to make sure.
what you hated? if you done sex with me how could you be lesbian?
It didn't feel right. It felt gross. It's not that the guy did it wrong. It's that I prefer female parts.
why you feeling yourself like lesbian? why you need that? do sex with men and woman, is that matter much?
Just let her like girls goddammit. It's not like I would walk up to all straight people and tell them that they would "go gay" if they had sex with me.
@FatCatLady THANK YOU OMG.
Sounds like you're a bitter feminazi who's actually straight, but now you have to deal with the reality of being straight and are trying to reconcile with the fact you're attracted to a male.
Should I even answer this? I'm a guy, so you already despise me. Not even a racist would come on here to say "I hate blacks. I'm always giving them the evils. I just absolutely despise them." But your attitude is essentially the same thing, it's just not condemned by society. Jake should stay away from you.
It's not like I have no reason to hate men. Ofcourse I have a reason, but I'm not going to say it right here.
Misogynists have reasons to hate women too. Doesn't mean they're not prejudiced A-holes. Do you want to essentially be one of them? If so, don't complain when someone else hates and prejudges you. What goes around comes around. Hating an entire race or gender only makes you a bigot. Everyone's an individual, good or bad, and many bad ones got that way because they themselves received this kind of hate.
You are a lesbian and a misandrist.
You're not a lesbian. Your mind is being messed with.
maybe you are queer.
Sexuality isn't an either/or/both thing. It's a spectrum. Maybe you fall somewhere here:
homosexualheterosexual
And even that's a simplification ;)
Don't worry. It's all good.
"I hate males; I'm always giving them the 'evils'. I don't know why, I just absolutely despise them."
So what you're saying is that you're a lesbian, not because you are attracted to women, but because you hate men, but you have no substantive reason for feeling that way.
So in essence, you are a feminist.
Do yourself and that guy a favor and leave him alone.
I think she frased it wrong and feminists don't hate men they just want equality
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@FatCatLady Equality, by definition, requires consideration for both sides of an equation. What feminists want is very female-biased and is NOT equality, although for most their bias does not allow them to actually see it themselves. It only takes a very short conversation with any feminist about a topic or two to see proof of that. Not every feminist hates men, per se, but based on their actions and views it is clear most have a less than positive view of men, at best, and often much worse. What feminists say they are about and what their actions show are usually very different things, and in the end it is only the reality that matters.
Hm. I think, at this point, it's almost premature to say or be able to determine if you're strictly lesbian or if you're bisexual, since you haven't actually had that experience with *Jake.
If you would genuinely date *Jake, and if you think you could be sexually attracted to him, I'd say the only way to know is to try. Then, if you try, after some time you'd really be able to determine if you're strictly lesbian or if you're bisexual.
Give him a go then. Maybe you'll be surprised