I'm Perfectly Fine With Being A Virgin

[Anonymous]

I'm twenty two years old and i'm a virgin! My boyfriends ex-girlfriend told me that I was missing out on not having sex. She might be right, but I don't want to have sex with just any guy. I want to have sex with someone that I love, someone who's special to me. I think that my boyfriend maybe that one, but we've just started dating, i'm not that comfortable yet and we do other things than actual sex.

I'm not a slutty girl, i've only had about three past relationships and they haven't really worked out, so i'm glad that I didn't give up my virginity to them. I'm happy that I stayed a virgin until now. I don't have to worry about pregancy, STD's, being used for sex, etc...

I don't feel ashamed or silly that i've never had sex, and I don't think that you should be ashamed if you've had sex or not. It's not something you can put an age to. My male cousin had sex for the first time at twenty two, also! It's no big deal and he's happy, because he has the right girl with him!

I can safely say that i'll probably be giving up my virginity this year to my amazing and loving boyfriend, but it's my choice when I do. So, yes, i'm prefectly fine with being a virgin at twenty two, there's nothing wrong with that!

My point is, don't being ashamed of being a virgin if you are one, you just haven't met the right person yet, but you will someday!

[kdizzleforizzle91]

I'm 24 and also still a virgin. I've dated a little bit, but all but one of the guys have been losers who don't know how to treat women with respect and decency. The only one who's been good to me at all I don't really have any romantic feelings for, but we still hang out.

I don't need to have sex to prove or validate myself as a human being. It's not the most important thing to me and I really don't care what others think of my decision. Most people I've talked to seem to regret rushing into sex and wish they would have taken my approach. I'm not necessarily waiting for marriage, just someone who I know I can trust, will be nice to me/cares about me, and won't regret sharing that part of myself with. I don't care how old I am when that happens as long as I know it's right.

[thetundrawolf]

Any guy can tell you he loves you. Even do nice things for you so that you believe it. God put a massively strong desire in men's hearts for physical intimacy.

Remember once your virginity is gone, once you bond with that man, it's forever and you will need get it back.

The easiest quickest test of a man's love and devotion is to stay celibate until your honeymoon. Not a day before. If he sticks around until then, there's a good chance he loves you in the deepest, most desirable sense.

If he leaves you because you won't give in to his sexual desires before marriage, it will hurt, yes, but you are losing a very shallow and superficial man who will likely take your virginity and then leave you utterly broken.

[67ChevyImpala]

... or maybe people have sex because it feels good and you shouldn`t tink to much about what might happen-

[aoifeislovable]

@67ChevyImpala exactly...

[thetundrawolf]

@aoifeislovable Lots of things feel good. Doing heroin, taking a machete to someone who cuts you off in traffic, it doesn't mean you should do them.

[JessLamb]

seriously why are people so crazy with sex? as long as you're not doing it with some random person who will give you an STD and you're careful and responsible... it feels good and it's actually healthy!!! both women and men like and enjoy sex equally. the only reason some women feel "used" after sex is because society has taught them to be ashamed of having sex... but a lot of men are used too. the number is increasing now that women are starting to be "liberated" come on... stop being so medieval.

[aoifeislovable]

Doing heroin is extremely bad for your body, and killing somebody is not only illegal but a horrible action... sex is neither of these...

[JessLamb]

I think both having sex and not having sex is fine as long as you do it because you want to and because you are comfortable with that decision. And I think that applies both for women and men.

[dimples123]

I honestly admire you! I am on the same boat as you. Only difference is that I am 18. I had my first boyfriend. We didn't have sex but did other things, couldnt even bring myself to bj. But in the end we broke up and I am glad that I didn't give my virginity to him. And it saved immense heartbreak, despite there still being pain. I just want to lose it to someone who I know will stick by me and isn't there just for the sex. And contrary to popular belief, not having sex doesn't suck. It saves you from so much worry and emotional baggage. This is coming from a girl who many guys have offered their virginities to her. Sex is something special and your virginity, you only lose it once. SO make it count! Good job and best wishes <3 :)

[Shorty1991]

Hey 24 year old virgin just passing though, I'm not ashamed to admit it either. Its very comforting to know that there are people still in the same boat as me. I'm just waiting on the right guy that can treat me with a little more respect.
I've had dates that turned out to be a right bunch of narrow minded bellends. So I gave them a wide berth. I've also had a few male friends offering to be a friend with benefits. I gladly declined those offers.

[YourFutureEx]

Anyone can stay virgin by choice. People are upset because they're still virgin, even if they don't want to. :/

A lot of guys like girls who are virgin. It's kind of a privilege.

I'm also a virgin... this year.

[kap_nss]

Nice take. I totally agree with no feeling ashamed of being a virgin even if you are over the average age at which people looses it. But yet there are some draw backs with this. I think I gave virginity too much value in order to overcome the cultural pressure I had for being a virgin guy. Afterwards I had issues accepting my girlfriend wasn't a virgin too. I felt I put too much effort and pain for staying virgin and she didn't. I felt, and sometimes I still feel, it wasn't fair for me. I was 27 when I did it with her, she was 25 and she lost it at 15. She had ten years of experience and I was a virgin. I felt ashamed and angry at the same time. I totally regret having made that choice (staying virgin). And today I'd recommend anyone loosing their virginity around twenty or so.

[Alex_lovesmusic]

My life till I was 18: school then home.
My life now: work then home.
I am anti-social, I don't like to talk even though I can conversate and whatnot easily. I just don't find use in small meaningless chats. I just like to enjoy doing things that relax me. Music and reading is fun. I don't like television. I am getting off track, my point is that I'm a virgin and I don't care. I have tried dating, i hate it.

[Valentinasab]

I'm gonna be 25 in less than two months and I'm still a virgin. I'm gonna be honest with you: lately, I've been feeling embarrassed to tell guys who I've dated that I'm still a virgin. One guy I dated over summer asked me why I would wait so long, that I was naive and that he was afraid that I was missing out. This guy was two years younger than me and was trying to 'teach' me this which left me a bit disappointed.
Now, I'm not saying being a virgin or waiting until marriage necessarily makes you a good person. Many people think that I try take the higher moral ground or wanna show off, when I tell them that I am a virgin - but it's got nothing to do with them at all.

[luvstoned4him]

I am a 25 yr old virgin. I am glad that a lot of people are speaking out on this topic. I feel that most people are ashamed of their virginity and I often wonder why. Great take !

[ImNotASlut]

This really is inspirational, I would love to feel the same but I was very bothered about it, hence why I lost mine today 5 days before my 16th birthday. I wish I knew why I felt like this.

[DarkHumorRUs]

Well I haven't even had a girlfriend, let alone lost my virginity, so... it sucks.

[SilenRose]

Happy for you and I've never been ashamed of being a virgin. :)

[sailorjupiter]

not feeling guilty to your religion too ;)

[sean1234]

Yeah so am I, for now.

[CHARismatic110]

I've had 2 relationships and I'm not a virgin, does that make me a slutty girl? 😒😑

[BaileyisDarcy]

Nope. Just makes you a sexual one and there's nothing wrong with that.

[CHARismatic110]

@BaileyisDarcy lol thanks.

[singlebee]

Nope...

[67ChevyImpala]

No. And nobody is can tell you otherwise.

[Apotheosis]

I'm 24, will be 25 this year, and I'm in the same boat, although I have not even come close to having a boyfriend, so I guess I have a long way to go before I loose my virginity. Anyways, I'm totally ashamed! I read your post, but everyone has a different way of dealing with it and the emotions surrounding it. I'm totally in the minority at my age. At your age, I think it's still pretty normal.

[Doffydood]

This gives me hope for the future of society, thank you! :)

[jacquesvol]

Nobody will know the difference, till some guy gets your panties off. And even then, even an obgyn can't always know how a hymen was torn.
Any other guy has to believe you.

[DiamondRuby]

If you tear the hymen while having sex, you're doing it wrong.

[mrsingle]

Being a virgin feels like missing out on fun. Sex is fun, not having sex is less fun and intimacy. I'm at the age I don't want to wait so the term virgin gets under my skin now...

[ConsultantIsBack]

That sucks

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[thekawaiikiwi]

Well, anal and dome don't count as sex so you can still please your man while remaining a virgin.

Just my $0.02.