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Sexual Health Does it matter if they’re a virgin or not? For me, it doesn’t matter if they’re a virgin or not. I’d wait as many months as they wanted. I’d ask in return that they wait at least 6 months before expecting me to give it up. I’d consider doing other things, but i’m just not having sex with someone within less than 6 months of “knowing” them.
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If the person you’re dating (or on the verge of dating) said they’re not ready to have sex just yet, how long would you patiently wait?
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I have to be in love before i can have sex with someone. So 6 months is the minimum wait. I knew one ex for a year but we dated within 6 months of knowing eachother. And he didn't “wait” exactly for inwas at least in love with him to had been so naive. And the other ex wanted to wait til marriage. We failed at a year and a half in lmao 😂 But we tried to go back to waiting afterwards. I haven't been in love with anyone else to give it up. I mightve loved em but i wasn't in love with em just yet
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12 63Not a day past 6 months
Sounds good
So long as we could "walk the bases" to mutual oral/69, indefinitely.
Oh for sure
2 years because by then if we've still been together you damn well better believe she's got a ring in her finger. It's not that stressed by me. I'd rather go with and do it right than cheapen that he experience honestly.
*throws phone out window for the damn small touch pad causing hella typos
Awwwww 😍
That honeymoon gonna get freaky though. First 24 hours gonna be a marathon. Gonna need room service to send us food in between sessions cuz I won't be letting go of her 🥰
Hahahaha!
At my age three dates or so. Five tops. If a girl doesn't wanna have sex at that point she's either not interested or her libido isn't that high and our sex life won't flourish.
I dont count dates. After the first date, we no longer call spending time together “dates” lmao. And I don't know about that last part. I can wait a long time but once i do it, i go crazy. Like my ex and i went from 10am-2am. I prefer marathon sex when i do actually give in
Amén ❤️
Until marriage i can and i am and its been almost 3 years Alhamdulillah
Oh nice
Thanks... iss been while i wasn't here... i came back today... howre u doin?
Im great :)
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Lmao he's i hate oof 😂
I guess 6 months would be my number too.
But the two guys i actually had sex with both waited a year and a year and a half. I figured i could go a little easier this next/last time around lol
I waited over 4 years and we broke up.
Daaaamn
A month or two.
Understandable
Till they are comfortable with it.
I'm a very patient wolf
Ooo not many wolves are as patient as they are wild
More then you think, sometimes wolves like to hide in sheep's clothing.
You’re damn right about that. I sadly gave it up to two of em
Well you won't make the same mistake.. three times lol.
I’d wait until they’re ready.
That would be the first date for plenty of guys.
@spartan55 but then you have some who have morals and self respect who’d wait a little longer
As long as it takes, I'm not ready yet either.
Aww :)
Maybe a month
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I have no real expectations, but a bad experienceade made me add a minor rule. While I have no preference on how soon a girl and I have sex, if we have been together, exclusive, for a month or more, or more than 10 dates, if she's still not ready I'm done.
This was because I was with a girl for 6 months. She repeatedly told me she was not wanting sex until marriage, which at the time I was fine with... But then a close friend of mine sent me video of her getting gang banged. Not kidding like 6 guys at once. I played the video for her. And asked wher wtf.. She explained to me that she has needs, and that she wanted to wait for me because I was such a good guy.. I escorted her out of my home at gun point, and made sure her parents saw the video.. Ever since then, I had zero patience for the "I'm not ready" excuse.
Yea that is awful! And that was actually my next question but im out of questions for today
You know i was going to ask you about that.. Like did they lift the question restriction lol..
Lol nah i can only ask like 5 a day
Ah lol!!
My girlfriend and I are waiting for the wedding night just to see each other in our underwear.
Awww
I waited a year and a half once. Actually never ended up having sex with that person. I had to break it off after that year and a half. And not because of the no sex.
At least you waited :)
Maybe a year?
Sounds good
I can wait about 4-6 months. I met my current boyfriend online so we waited 4 months to see each other and as stressful as it was, it wasn't impossible.
Aww im happy to hear that
Thanks 💕
Personally, I don't think the "gotta be in love" plan works. Obviously it hasn't lasted in your cases, and I don't think it does very often. But back to your question. Since I'm not someone who has ever "expected" sex on the first date, or put a number on which date it should be, I'd be a little put off if a girl flat out on date #1 told me "I don't have sex unless I'm in love with you". Or, "not until 6 months". BUT... having said that, I would still understand it and I'd respect it.
The unfortunate thing is she'd have no real way of knowing that " I'm not that guy" until we actually DID date a few times, and no way of knowing it's a turn off to me, even though I get it.
I don't know if you're throwing jabs but even though i regret having given myself to them, im thankful i was at least in love with both of them when it happened. So yes i will Stick to being in love thank you very much. Some people value sex too highly and thats okay bt that person isn't likely for me. Being great at sex doesn't make someone right for that person. Usually the assholes unwilling to commit are the best at sex
It wasn't a jab. I stated I don't that plan works (for anyone) very often, and it obviously hasn't worked for you in the sense that the person stuck around. So no, I wasn't jabbing at you. This part here: "im thankful i was at least in love with both of them when it happened", is the tricky part. I'm a firm believer that "the mind will play any tune you want it to". It will even go along with being in love with someone because you WANT to have sex with them. No, I'm not saying that's what YOU did, but that's an easy scenario and it happens often enough.
Yea i understand the scenario. But no i’d actually mean being in love. Neither of them got sex out of me until after a year or so anyways
And that's where we differ in the very idea of sex... the way you think of it, and refer to it, as "got sex out of me". That whole approach is a turn off for me. It came as a shock to some women when I told them "your pussy isn't the most precious thing you can give to me". When they asked "well what then?". my response was usually "when you figure that out, call me". :)
Yea well i say got out of me because the first time around it wasn't by choice
Oh, well that's a different story. Sorry to hear that.
Lol I'm not ready to have sex either! 😅 So we're good!
Aww yay lmao
Lol.
I'd wait until we got married. If we don't make it that far, we won't be having sex. Easily said, hardly done, I know; but, in the end, best for both.
I wish you the best :) waiting is a beautiful thing
I can't wait up to 6 months and do other stuff like making out or something oral if you know what I mean. I am pretty patient when it comes to sex and understand if she doesn't want to jump in the sack with me. The longest I have waited was about a year and a couple months did she finally couldn't take it anymore and jump right on me.
Thats very sweet
What can I say I am a sweet guy lol.