Is it cruel when a guy says I need to get my shit together when I cried during sex?

[Laetitia94]

I had sex with a guy i only knew for a little bit. Suddenly ij felt emotional during sex and starrted crying. It perhaps was the feeling of intimacy or the vulnerabilty but also the very logical explanation i was gonna have my period and am always emotuonal in that time. The guy didn't ask why i cried but continued. And the next day messaged that he didn't want sexwith me and need to have my sex together next time and that he doesn't want sex like that. isn't that cruel to say.

[BruteOfArms]

Totally a shitty thing to say. If you two don't know each other that well, he doesn't know what's going on in your life. Maybe there was something of a bad experience you had, and ut brought back those memories. But all he was concerned about read getting his nut out. Total prick

[OnlyYouKnowThat]

Sex is an intimate act, some women do get emotional. When you started to cry it would have been a good time for him to hug you and reassure you. He seems a bit cold and maybe immature. Don't worry about it, if he doesn't want sex with you again it's no great loss.

[noone89]

Maybe he doesn't want the emotions part of the sex but if you are not looking for thay i suggest looking for a new friends with benefits who is willing to work eith yojr emotional needs

[laurieluvsit]

Very cruel, yes, and typical of young males who don't understand females and maybe don't want to!

Not a keeper for sure, at least now at his current maturity level I'm afraid.

[Laetitia94]

But he was 40...

[laurieluvsit]

... some boys never grow up... lol

[Aizou]

A bit inconsiderate on his part. But from his point of you, he may also have wanted you to feel good as well, and that crying meant you didn't.

[mattdzz]

Do you really expect guys to wear "kid gloves" with you for your whole life? You're 24, get your shit together, stop being a crying little girl who is gonna whine to an online community about how un-kind someone was to you when you made them feel awkward af.

[Laetitia94]

Asshole

[AnonT0]

I’m sure you please the ladies 🙄

[KelaAshes]

Why are you so unkind? Do you enjoy saying shitting things to people? Does it give you a rush of power or some shit? Life is hard enough without bullies like you making it worse. Either put some good out in the world or just shut up and get out of the way. The world doesn't have time for people like you anymore.

[Salutetheflag]

@KelaAshes honestly, he's not being that unkind, people respond like this a lot on here. Especially girls.

[AnonT0]

@Salutetheflag It doesn’t matter who else does it. Girls doing it has nothing to do with this post. The fact is, he’s put a comment like this on a post in which didn’t call for it.

[mattdzz]

Never denied being such.

[mattdzz]

@AnonT0 I don't believe in infantasizing women. It's called traditional feminism, and if you don't want to act like an adult (keep your damn emotions in check) and take responsibility for yourself then maybe you do belong in the home making babies.

[mattdzz]

@KelaAshes Out of the way of what, exactly? Your little comfort circle? Get real.

[AnonT0]

@Mattdzz Well, I’m not a feminist so you aren’t offending me. I just think you have a way with words for sure

[Laetitia94]

Mattdzz how dumb actually are you. 'Keep your emotions in check'. Wtf are you talking about. It is called menstruation. First you be a woman have a period with all those hormones and cramps and pains. And then you have the right to talk about keeping your emotions in check

[Laetitia94]

Mattdzz by the way your arguments make no sense at all. You say being emotional has something to do with being immature 'a crying little girl' and not wanting to grow up. I dont know why you get this idea. Perhaps it is your own immaturity or your own girlfriend that acts like a princess and acts like a baby. If so. Then dont project your own situation on mine. There like a 1000 reasond why a person can me emotional in general or during sex, for instance being abusef as a chile And acting like a child has nothing to do with being emotional as an adult. All you prove with your comment is that you didn't even want to think about by question but are just in the mood for lashing out to a person online you dont know. With your comment you prove you are a superficial insensitive asshole. For your sake i hope your girlfriend doenst have any. emotions whatdover so she doesn't bother you. And for her sake i hope she will dump you as quickly as she can. Certainly when she founds out you are following your ex on social media and has contact witg her. You are nothing but a jerk. Goodby.

[mattdzz]

I appreciate your impressive lexicon of third-wave feminist vernacular, but me telling people to "suck if the f up," is classic and works if people are adult enough to accept it. Let me guess you blocked me because you're a crybaby little girl who can't take any criticism or a contrary opinion. Grow up.

[AnonT0]

Why does feminism come into this because it’s a Woman you’re responding to?

[mattdzz]

@AnonT0 my bad. I thought you used the word "manstruation," when you said menstruation. The former is a third-wave feminist word.

[AnonT0]

What has that got to do with anything? 😂

[Laetitia94]

@mattdzz I can take critisism. Just not dumb comments that has no reak arguments or don't make sense. Referring to me als crying little baby is just founded on nothing.

[Jolenefox]

Very cruel! What the frick. Really rude.
Tears can happen during sex.. it's a natural occurance.

[NerdInDenial]

Or that’s just “tough” love

[lillz10]

Think he just wants sex if he had feelings I would think he would of comforted you

[CuChullan]

Very. The guy isn't worth your time. He's no understanding and never will have.

[Danielson3323]

Yeah thats messed up. I would never say that to a girl after she cries about anything

[vald9inches]

Just dump him sweetheart he is not a gentleman at all

[WhoDatGuy]

That is a total boner killer. Now he will always think of you as the crying girl

[Laetitia94]

Oh it was not a boner killer because he had a hard one the whole time. He nust didnt't care.

[WhoDatGuy]

At the time. He just wanted to finish that nut.

[Laetitia94]

Oh so you think it is ethically correct to carry on with sex for 20 minutes and later complain about the fact that i was crying and he doesn't want it like that. If you are a real man and good person you stop at that moment in my opinion

[WhoDatGuy]

Either of those options suck

[Salutetheflag]

Lol "if you're a real man"

[Laetitia94]

Yes of course. Bc these giys are week.

[WhoDatGuy]

Don't try and shame us because of your fuck up. Take done accountability

[Laetitia94]

Asshole

[WhoDatGuy]

Women don't want the truth

[Laetitia94]

So what do. i have to take accountabitly. for and why isn't he the one that fucked up

[WhoDatGuy]

You cried. Why you blaming him?

[Laetitia94]

So crying is a life sin?

[Laetitia94]

I blame him for being a jerk. Not stopping and saying inneed my shit together

[WhoDatGuy]

I've given you the male prospective but all you wanna do is deny accountability and blame him

[Laetitia94]

Then the male perspective is dumb. Bc saying i need tp take accountability suggests i did something wrong or did something on purpose. Secondly i blame him because he is the one attacking me for something verbally. The only think i blame myself is not stopping the moment i cried and leaving his house immediately

[Salutetheflag]

You can't blame him for you crying. You are the one who cried. All he did was tell you to sort whatever deeper thing that made you burst into tears was before putting yourself out there. But you really want to antagonise him and not take responsibility

[Guanfei]

Wait what? Who says that? Wtf.

[Salutetheflag]

Imagine if he was the one that was crying, it would be nothing to tell the man to get his shit together. So why not say it to girls to.

[Laetitia94]

That argumetation. Makes no sense at all.

[Anonymous]

It sounds to me like neither of you communicated about what was going on

It also sounds like it’s “just sex” and people having “just sex” don’t get support from the other much.

[Anonymous]

Maybe stop having sex with guys you barely know?

[Laetitia94]

Not what i asked. I asked if it was unkind of him

[Opinion Owner]

It's not unkind of a guy who barely knows you because to him you are just a hole to fuck, so your feelings don't mean shit.

[Laetitia94]

That is only your immature explanation of casual sex.

[Opinion Owner]

Ummm nope. It’s a logical and mature explanation of sexual interactions with strangers.