Is my husband just addictedto pornn?

So I've had lot of problems in the past with my husband on sex hook up sites. Well he dont do it anymore. But he still looks at porn, witch isn't the peoblem. The problem is i have to basically beg for sex. Ill do little things here and there to throw hints. And even if he does get turned on by me, he will still go to the nxt room or outside and say he is doin something and he will watch porn, then sometimes mayb that night he might have sex with me, when he doesn't he falls asleep and moans in his sleep, and touches on his self. My question is if he's turned on by me why does he still go watch porn and not have sex with me. I know it sounds crazy. But im really at a lost im confussed
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  • It does sound like he is somewhat addicted to it. The problem with using porn too much, is the brain can become desensitized to normal visual stimulation, and as time goes on the visual stimulation needs to be greater and greater. Real life just can't compete with that. Dopamine release while not addictive does build a tolerance in the brain, therefore seeking more stimulation to receive the same feeling of euphoria.
    He needs to acknowledge there is an issue and get help to find out the route cause of why he started doing it in the first place. Couples counseling wouldn't be a bad idea either.

    • He did prison time like 15 years ago... and thats where some of it came from... he likes jackin his dick, but he used to also fuck me in all kinds of ways, then he just got lazy with it.. now i kno he works lots of hours and all and i pressure him. So he will tell me he is gettig old and tired... ok i hear that, im not askin for it every single day, but my gosh, how does he go from we had a great sex night last night, then he's rubbin on me a little this morning, and i have to get up go get my kids off to visit grand parents, i come bck i get naked and lay with him he puts his arm round me then he is kinda humping me and we both fall asleep for about 30mins wake uo he has a chubb and i go down on him it gets hard for a sec then starts to soften and he says he has to go smoke...

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  • Why is not important. Your dissatisfaction is. Presumably you have told him. What does he say about it? You are young, too young to spend decades in an unsatisfying marriage.

    • Yes, well wen i try to talk to him about it he over talks me, won't listen... thinks im accussing him of something... i tell him im not and that im just tring to understand.. so i can learn u more and give u the things u like... i get tired of doin all the work most the time tho!

    • Not acceptable. Your have marriage only on paper. Tell him that you aren't going to stay on a sexless marriage. He can either have an adult conversation about this or it's over. It's it possible that he's gay?

    • Anything these days is possible. Lol. But i had suspicions,, so i invesrigated,,, he's not gay... i do kno of one fantasy of his but its not gonna happen... thats a threesome... and I've tried to spice it all up... i guess i need to put more effort into it again

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  • Bots over thots, confirmed!

    Is my husband just addictedto pornn?
    • He is 10yrs older than me. Now im not one to toot my own horn but im not ugly... and for him to be a fat guy u think he be happy with a skinny cute girl like me

    • He probably likes creepy porn like the rest of us. Just become an HJ vendor that randomly activates and you're guaranteed to win the internet.

  • If porn = substitute to sex, then yes, he's probably addicted.
    If porn = addition to sex, meaning he still prefers you first then probably jerk off later to his selfish desires, then that's ok on my book.

  • You need to watch amateur porn and see what the girls do to keep the guys excited

  • He’s got some type of a problem

    • I feel that same way

    • Try to take him to a sex therapist and work it out if not it will probably end in divorce

    • he's not gonna do that at all.. he is very hard headed like very..

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  • Yes, in my opinion, he is very addicted to porn and he should seek help. But he has to first admit he has a problem.

  • I don't know. I like porn and watch it in relationships but I’ve never done it over sex. My 2 long term gfs wanted me to watch porn because I needed it more then they wanted it. Never been an issue here! I don’t get that. Maybe once in a while go the porn route if you just want to be quick and easy. I don't know.

  • You are married to an addict, in my opinion.

  • It's an overdose of dopamine... If allowed for it to regulate, enduring the "boredom" phase that will inevitably follow, then you'll see results tip in your favor... He needs to want it though or else it'll never get there.

  • I feel that he doesn’t find you sexually attractive anymore or bored of you. He might be getting turned on but still he’s not interested in fucking you.

    • Yea i thought so, but I've asked him I've tried just talkin to him. I told him to tell me what it is he wants me to do or tell me what he wants. Im more freaker than him, and im willing to try different things. But he won't tell me. He says he's not bored that he is happy with our sex life but i dont know why he's not just tellin me when im open to watever he wants. Except i will not have a threesome

    • I hear they pack on the pounds after commitment

    • @iBeowulf whats that got to do with anything lol. Im skinny he is big but that dont matter to me

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  • Is it a problem if he is?

  • Try to watch with him and ask him to do same with you, he will like it..

    • Yea I've tried that and I've even sent him porn videos and said i want u to do this to me. He watched it saved it but still no action. I guess he does have a problem bad.. mayb he is too shy, or too insecure with his self.. but I've showed him that he dont have to be

    • Don't get me wrong but I don't understand that kind of guys, you are craving for sex and he doesn't care, I don't want to blame him about it maybe he had some kind of erection problem or something like that but, I had high sex drive and too many different fantasy about sex, that's why I don't understand them..

    • Yes right... and i mean we have had some issuse but i thought it was because he just wasn't into me anymore. Or he's just tired of fuckin me and wants something new and exciting.. it really huets because my sex drive is very high and he is the only one i want... there's been times he couldnt cum he would have to finish his self with my there with him of course and id do sexy things to help him and he love it.. but i guess im just old news... i mean i get that he likes jackin it sometimes alone.. but he would rather jack his self off b4 he have sex with me... wen we first started datin boy oh boy he wouldn't give me a break and now its like i ain't shit... he treats me good in other areas... but the qay he makes me feel with it comes to attraction and makin love, makes me sick and feel so down about myself

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  • Ladies we don’t need sex 24/7 just be him off or let him dry hump you on the couch

    • He won't do that... i mean i dont have to have sex 24/7 but i mean i dont even feel as tho i even excite him anymore... but he tells me he is 100% happy with our sex life. But i had his dick in my mouth and he says i need to go smoke a cig, and he didn't cum he didn't even moan like he normally does. So i said when he got up to go smoke, i said you can tell me things that u want or excite you. He says im 100% happy with us we dont need to change anything. But it dont seem like it and when i tell him why certian things make me feel a certian way. He wants to breathe all heavy and not listen. I understand he is 10yrs older then me he is 43... but he is a. sexual person and used to be with me a lot just not as much anymore.. and yes the man has been to prison for 10yrs. Been out of prison for like 15yrs

    • Well he is 43 and by that age a mans sex drive has decreased by a lot

  • Sounds like he is addicted to the fantasy of porn, maybe you need to spice it up a little with toys or bondage, find out what he likes on porn and see if you can fulfill the fantasy

  • because he's a fucking idiot

  • take him to a psychologist
    this is beyond normal and could be a threat to your marriage

    • I try so hard to talk to him and he has even said he has a problem, and I've asked him if he needs or wants to talk to someone.. he won't he has a phyc doc but he dont tell them these things.. and i dont want to go to anyone else. But if he keeps pushin me away im affraid i may end up leaving and its so hard cause i dont wanna be with one one else but es not giving me what i need

    • go and secretly talk with his psychologist about it and see what he/she suggests