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List a common dealbreaker that many of your potential girlfriend/boyfriends had?

So say you met someone and they were great. Damn near everything you wanted. But then you discovered that they possess that one damn dealbreaker that you refuse to stick around and put up with. Say it just keeps happening with the last few guys or girls you initially vibed with, but you still refuse to lower your standards. What dealbreaker (s) would that be?
This is inspired by a question I answered earlier about dating people who drink. Its not a dealbreaker but its damn sure a turnoff. Its so common that if i made it a dealbreaker, I’d hardly have options lol.
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MY ANSWER—
As for the common dealbreakers I’ve come across with potentials...
—Those who smoke/sniff/snort/eat (weed, tobacco, edibles, and any sort of drug included)
—Those who drink TOO OFTEN (daily/weekly/monthly is too much for me to tolerate)
—Those who do not want kids until they are mid 30s/40s
—Those expecting sex early on like within the first few months (I do not consider a 1-3 month relationship longterm at all)
—Those out of my age range (5+ years older or younger).
—Those into anal sex or rimming.
Those are all just absolute no no hell no’s for me and we shouldn’t waste our time on eachother. I dont think these things make the person a bad person but I do think it makes them a bad fit for someone like myself.
Updates:
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Dang i forgot my ABSOLUTE MAIN—If he doesn’t believe in God. PLUS —if he constantly says he's depressed no matter how hard I try to make him happy that day/week. —if he constantly downs himself and thinks im gonna keep feeding him compliments... Nah if you think you’re ugly then spend these next 24 hours being ugly cause you only get 1 compliment a day —If he's anything other than straight —if he’s still friends with his ex. Like good friends and hangin out alone together. I trust him but not her
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