Men, Step Your Game Up So You Can Get Laid

[Stacyzee]

I know there are far more important things in life than getting laid. However, when you see almost every one around you getting sent to cloud 9, you wonder what it is that you are lacking.

Like a Mother bird sending her young off into the world, your boys stand with you in social settings rooting for you. They send you off, to explore the field. They're chanting for you!
They have hope that you will laid. Yes, tonight getting pussy is your goal!

You managed to catch a few girls attention but instead your efforts lead to you standing all alone in a corner, as you watch your boys disappear into the night with the women they intend to go home with.

Constantly being rejected, allows you to grow frustrated.

You eventually formulate a negative opinion about women inside of your mind.

"They're so stuck up"

"They're snobby"

"Perhaps, I have to be a rich man and then I'll get laid"

"Women are so superficial, If I were a knock out I'd be going home with women left and right".

These are all negative view points about women that do not fail to circulate in your mind.

Each and every time you face rejection, you add to the negativity in your mind about women, and your perception of them.

Please, allow me to look closely at your situation.

Women, aren't the problem it is you!

If almost every one around you, is able to pull the stunt off of being able to catch women and you aren't, you have to take a good look at yourself.

You are the common denominator of every situation.

The results always ends with you walking off by yourself.

It's easy to blame other people for not being able to get what you want and

far too difficult to admit that you need to work on yourself.

Men, who can't get laid,

If you're lacking in confidence level, trust me it shows in your demeanor.

Work on the energy you give off to others.

If you present yourself as unsure or insecure chances are the person

you are talking to will want nothing to do with you.

Work on the way you talk to women, and take care of your appearance so you can

look decent and presentable.

-Wear flattering clothes

-Get a haircut or fix your hair

-Work out to improve your self confidence level.

(Chances are when you feel better, you do better).

Stop attempting to take the easy way out by visiting brothels or seeing prostitutes.

It only makes you feel better temporarily but it never fixes the problem.

You'll still have trouble with women in general.

[Anonymous]

It's pretty hard for guys who don't have early success. Guys know they're not going to have 100% success, and i don't think that's what guys mean when they say they 'can't get laid'. Guys i know who were clearly 'successful' at cold approaching might still only be batting 10%-20% tops, and possibly lower. Those are -successful- guys. So average guys aren't looking at a few no's, they're looking at dozens and dozens and dozens of rejections without success. And if they let that wear on them, they could go into 100s, because they will be down and not confident.

I think the best approach for single guys is to reframe and not view 'getting the girl' as their immediate goal. Head out with the goal being 'to practice approaching women', and once they're comfortable with that, to get better at adapting and reading women.

When the initial goal is simply to get over approach fear, they can be confident - confident that they'll approach. THey don't need to worry about success, because if they 'approach' 10 women, the day was a success. When that becomes easy, they can start reframing success as keeping conversations going sometimes, or learning something about what works when.

If they happen to get laid in that scenario, its a bonus, but the goal is longer term.

The biggest mistake they could do is actually get in a relationship, where they are likely to have similar problems IN the relationship, but not have the ability to simply try and experiment.

[Stacyzee]

Good advice. ((However some men literally mean they cannot get laid--judging by the huge amount of virgins on this site)). Also, I like how you are telling men to make baby steps towards their goal. If they have no idea how to talk to a woman, how can they expect a huge leap like getting laid? It all comes down, to a man having enough confidence in general to understand that things won't always work out for him. It also comes down to practice. The more girls he approaches, the more likely he will get better at how he talks to them and what he says. This really all comes down to applying the formula. It's there in front of every guy (they know the general outline of what needs to be done), but they have to put it into practice.

[Opinion Owner]

I think all guys know that it 'wont always work out', but some guys feel like it will never work out, and that's their experience. There are a fair number of guys i've spoken to here as well who have -never- had a girl be interested in them to their knowledge, ever. So it is hard for them to be confident. That's why i think breaking it down into steps, and reframing confidence then as 'confidence they can work on the current step' without attachment to outcome is important. It's tough as well, clearly a lot of the guys struggling have weak social skills -in general-. They are poor conversationalists, they are terrible at reading body language, they are not funny, they can't tell when someone is engaged vs. uncomfortable. And they still manage to make male friends who they share interests with, and participate in those interests, and do okay in school, and suddenly they're in an environment where they are expected to be confident and charming and they're just... lost.

[Opinion Owner]

I'd hazard a guess they were in slightly better shape 40 years ago. Their used to be more formal manners, more formal rules for what to wear, formal ways to ask a girl to dance, expectations about what to do, so guys who couldnt' adapt and go on feel and observation had a set of rules to lean on. The rules have been to a large extent thrown out - a big advantage for those who can work each situation, but terrifying for those who can't. A bit like dancing. Anyone can learn to sort of waltz around, you have more freeform dancing, some people look amazing, some don't even have the first step.

[Satisfyd]

Those rules didn't make it easier, trust me. Back then most girls assumed you were just trying to get laid and they were only looking for a long term relationship. A lot of groundwork had to be put in if you ever were gonna even get close. Getting to second base was a big deal. Most people on here probably couldn't tell what each base was.

[kat_gran]

You know.. you have so many mytakes... I actually wonder what you look like.. lol

[arashmenalagha]

IKR!

[Rawrzz]

Do you have any resentments towards men? Or any resentments whatsoever? Not one? When your boss, at work, starts getting on your ass, do you not get upset at the situation?

Yep. A lot of guys bitch about not being able to pull women. And a lot of women bitch about men only wanting sex or guys not committing. It's a way to express frustration at ones situation, not always a refusal of personal responsibility or effort.

In any case, there is a difference between being angry at women in general for ones inability to get their interest. It's another being angry at human nature and social conventions.

[Stacyzee]

This isn't a question of whether it's human nature to be upset at a situation or not. It's more so about how to help the problem rather than staying absorbed in it.

[Rawrzz]

So what do you have against brothels?

[Stacyzee]

As far as I know, the only place where legal prostitution takes place is in Nevada. Every where else, you're risking getting locked up or busted by the police. Also, going to a brothel is the easy way out, but does nothing to fix the guy's problem. Eventually, these men that cannot get laid rely on such services and end up frequenting brothels. Some of these men get addicted and end up out of a lot of money for receiving affection and love making someone was paid hundreds to give. If you ask me, this does even more psychological damage. It only blasters a seal over the wound, but it does nothing to help it heal.

[Rawrzz]

What is the guys problem? Wouldn't pursuing a bunch of different women end up a costly endeavor, as well?

[Stacyzee]

I've never been on a date where a guy spent 300 hundred dollars for an hour. A man going on a date isn't putting a price on a woman in exchange for sex. He is solely enjoying his time.

[Rawrzz]

No, he's putting a price on a woman's time. But depending on the man's skill or appeal, he just might rack up more than that trying to find a woman that is interested in him, no? I really don't think 1st dates are enjoyable, either. Most guys, it takes a lot of misses. How is it that when a man goes on a date, he's just "enjoying his time"; but, when he goes to a brothel, he's actually damaging his soul? What is the difference? What is this wound that he's getting from going to a brothel instead of pursuing random women in the hopes of finding a compatible one that will give him her time and interest?

[Stacyzee]

Your view is disturbing because you are viewing all women as if they are prostitutes. Who knew a cheap meal would amount to a man thinking that is my price? This is why some men go on dates feeling entitled, it's because they hold your view.

[Rawrzz]

She has no obligation to have sex with me if I pay for her meal. When I go up to a woman and ask her if she wants to go out with me, I am expected to pay for her meal as an investment in her time. How am I incorrect? Please tell me and help me understand. How am I incorrect? Am I not expected to pay for her meal? Is it not an investment in her time and attention?

[Rawrzz]

So no then.

[YourFutureEx]

Step
1. Look normal
2. Get out of the house
3. Check out girls
4. Be confident
5. Approach
6. Don't get upset if you're rejected
7. Learn from the mistakes and start over by forgetting the rejection
8. Approach someone else
9. Invest
10. Get laid

PS: Use condoms.

[the_rake]

' 4. Be confident 5. Approach 6. Don't get upset if you're rejected ' just lol. what I've been trying to do for the past 4 years.

[YourFutureEx]

@the_rake AND? (Still single?) You must have some serious issues. Like FOUR YEARS!! Wo! You can get laid so much in four years. Don't you learn from mistakes?

[the_rake]

you just can't see it from any other perspective. if the guy is not pulling left right and centre there must be something seriously wrong with him. not that he just doesn't like playing the girls games - e. g. hates buying them stuff, hates lowering his standards when he knows he's attractive enough to deserve better, hates playing cat and mouse (where if he suddenly shows a flicker of disinterest all of a sudden the girl shamelessly lusts over him because she either is too dumb to have any concept of reverse psychology or she really is a manipulative bitch). maybe the only reason other guys have been successful is because they were willing to take the easy way out, e. g. pay for dates, sleep with the occasional sub-par girl, validate the woman's ego, etc.

[YourFutureEx]

@the_rake I never paid for stuff. I never lowered my standards. Cat & mouse is too dumb for me to implement in my life. And validating women's ego? Oh please. I am a sarcastic person. I ridicule them for fun lol. And guess what? I'm successful. I paid for dates tho. But so do I on hangouts with "just friends" or even my male friends. I find it a proud moment where I'd feed someone. You have some misconceptions to get rid of first.

[the_rake]

'You have some misconceptions to get rid of first.' Ok cool, just don't make misconceptions about guys like me (e. g. we don't get laid because we don't look normal or get out of the house) and I won't make misconceptions about you either (e. g. like you needed to pay for dates to get laid).

[YourFutureEx]

@the_rake "and I won't make misconceptions about you either (e. g. like you needed to pay for dates to get laid)" Innuendo!!! Don't be so defensive. No one is judging you. Looks matter but not that much and I don't think you (or guys like you) are spoiling your life inside your house as you said "I've been trying to do for the past 4 years". The thing is, you're not chill. You don't look women from that POV that you should have done. No big deal, but okay. Do as you please. And yes, good reply lol. Best wishes.

[the_rake]

Ok, but the first two steps of your post are 1. Look normal 2. Get out of the house While it's generally good to do these things I can tell you quite bluntly that it is just not that simple. And thanks, I guess I wanted to show you what you sound like to guys like me by making equally macho statements. It cuts through, breaks down your self-esteem and doesn't necessarily help. Guys reading your post will just feel like a failure. It won't help them be confident or approach, especially if they can't even hold a conversation to save their lives - let alone talk to someone with no compatibilities. You are not the first guy like this. If you must under such sweeping generalisations please at least try to be a little more sensitive in your delivery.

[YourFutureEx]

@the_rake Dude, what happened?

[the_rake]

i just could never understand the psychology of women. how they expect us to initiate & lead most interactions; how they seem to require a dominant protector/provider model in the man (as evidenced - e. g. having to pay for things, having to be the bread winner); how they cold shoulder the guy that shows a flicker of doubt or insecurity; how they think they are such excellent - sharp and intuitive - judges of a man's character (they think they can tell the virtue of a man just from his presentation - how he walks talks and interacts with others); how they think they are so superior to guys just because they judge by looks compared to women who judge by all these other criteria (which have everything to do with reproductive fitness and virtually nothing to do with personality). I get that there must be a biological rationale for it, but you know sometimes darwinism is an ugly thing. ok fine - so women are just thinking primitively but that doesn't necessarily justify them.

[the_rake]

I could go on. bottom line is. I know I'm not owed anything. I know I can't criticise them for standards when I have my own. I know they have the right to their own autonomy. I just can't find it within me to forgive or understand what they do. they are a totally alien species to me and from the experience of the women in my life, they always seem to always put me into ethically compromising positions. but no, you won't see me going out on a mass shooting spree. I will just have to keep my judgement to myself.

[YourFutureEx]

@the_rake true, but not every woman is like that. Some of them will make it so obvious that they'll say yes, once you approach them. Yeah, you still have to approach them. Most of them couldn't break the ice because they're afraid and peer pressured by the society. And this is bullshit that women don't care about looks but personality. We guys do care about personality too and if we are not doing that, it's obvious that we're just using them for sex. That's just how society functions. It's been happening over centuries so, we're afraid to change it. I can understand that it'd be so hard for you. I faced difficulties too in my teenage. Once you'll start getting yourself surrounded around them, you'll find out that how easy it was. If everything else fails, the pro tip is to have an awesome career. Just focus on yourself and be successful. They'll find reasons to contact you then.

[the_rake]

Lol they will not be for the right reasons. I don't think I said guys go just for x and girls are all about y. I was talking about dating strategies and how women are turned off when the guy shows any sign of weakness or insecurity. I don't mind approaching, but making it hard for me even after I've done that? Then you need to get real if you are actually attracted but want me to keep on playing games. On top of that there's such a limited number of places you can find women barring online (and even then they don't bother responding for the most part). You've got clubs but you will stand out if you don't have the social contacts to go with. The girls will say, "oh so you're on a boy's night out, eh? we know what that's about"). The other one is "buy me a drink, horny fucker". You have cafes, book shops and stuff but nobody goes there specifically to be approached. You've got hobbies like yoga, etc. but then you look like a perv for chasing girls there.

[YourFutureEx]

@the_rake Yes, true. But come on, not everyone plays games. Yeah they may be in minority but still...

[the_rake]

I don't think it is just games. I think that guy are just more attractive when they keep showing confidence, hence the shit test is just a natural response for women.

[Spiorad_Aisce]

I wouldn't be as harsh as your assessment but there is a lot of truth in what you say.

[Stacyzee]

Harsh? How so?

[Spiorad_Aisce]

"Women, aren't the problem it is you! If almost every one around you, is able to pull the stunt off of being able to catch women and you aren't, you have to take a good look at yourself. You are the common denominator of every situation! While it makes an awful lot of sense and is close to what I believe - I might have phrased it a bit more gently.

[Stacyzee]

I think we cradle rock too much in this society. I've seen too much men on here whine and complain about not being able to get laid, so I decided to deliver a little bit of tough love. Sometimes I feel that has the ability to wake people up, that refuse to really hear you. Gentle news doesn't always absorb.

[Spiorad_Aisce]

LoL, Who knows it may work

[ThisDudeHere]

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[Chief16]

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[ThisDudeHere]

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[ManOnFire]

I guess for a lot of guys on GaG they're struggling, but in real life I don't think guys are really struggling all that much. I think the demographic of guys who do is what people try to zero in on, especially females, so they can seem like they really haven't been that easy for guys to get in bed. Rates of unwanted pregnancies, STDs, and cheating from guys certainly doesn't look like they're struggling to me.

[the_rake]

in real life most people just drop their standards. obviously if you are willing to drop your standards low enough you can become 'successful' in any area in life. for example, it's tough to get enough money buy the finest champagne at an expensive restaurant but not so difficult to get a glass of some dog urine. similarly, you could probably sleep with any old slag if you give her a few banknotes but go to a bar and attempt to seduce a classy girl without paying for anything whatsoever (drinks included) and you will have a much harder time. in real life, most people just take the easy way out, therefore most people are 'successful'.

[ManOnFire]

@the_rake "but go to a bar and attempt to seduce a classy girl without paying for anything whatsoever (drinks included) and you will have a much harder time." - That's part of people's problem, continually using bars and club scenarios to gauge a guy's/girl's success. It's much different when you apply it to real every day life.

[the_rake]

probably the reason people use clubs and bars is because it's already a social environment and therefore more acceptable to approach (especially with no more than a healthy dose of liquid courage). it's pretty much the only place you can say, "hey, I find you attractive and wanted to introduce myself". any other place you need a reason, an excuse, and even then people (girls most of all) will not take kindly to being approached by a stranger. the problem is that western society simply does not have enough places for single people to meet up (and no, "get a hobby" is not a sufficient answer to this).

[bloodmountain1990]

Well sometimes men don't struggle 100% of the time, but dry spells do happen. From my experience I've found, when ones interested, they all are and when none are, literally none are.

[abundantlyrich]

The problem is they look for everything to go wrong.

[Chief16]

This is my dating life.😪
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[YourFutureEx]

Stick to your own race bro.

[Chief16]

@YourFutureEx lmao.😂

[Chief16]

@YourFutureEx you mean species.

[YourFutureEx]

Yeah. But since we don't have "species" (do we?) I used the word "race".

[Chief16]

@YourFutureEx sure why not let's choose the human race.

[YourFutureEx]

Bro we can't :/ I mean, look at this poor elephant. We'll get kicked on butt.

[Chief16]

@YourFutureEx oh yeah, gotcha, gonna go find another elephant. What about that chick from Ice Age?

[YourFutureEx]

How about...
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This!

[Chief16]

@YourFutureEx LOOOOOOOOOL.😱 Where you get that shit?

[YourFutureEx]

MIND YOUR TONGUE. This made me cry like a little bitch (when I was ~7 yo). My dad still makes fun of me. He says I was such a pussy for crying like that. And you're calling this masterpiece a "shit"?

[Chief16]

@YourFutureEx but I meant its some great shit.

[YourFutureEx]

Ohhh.. you didn't mean "shit", you meant "ahh shiiiih"

[Chief16]

@YourFutureEx hell yeah.

[brain5000]

This is all good advice, but it is like the introduction or first chapter of a book that explains the goals generally, but isn't yet specific enough to really be helpful. That's okay - I know you have more good Takes in you to expand on the things you propose (if you haven't - maybe a Link Refresher is all it will take).

- Great fashions for men's different body types.
- Awesome haircuts for different male heads of hair
Because, you know, some of us don't have the thickness for a pompadour, or even keep it combed for more than five minutes (looks at self).

Yes, you did assume responsibility when you posted this Take. ;) I look forward to some great suggestions.

[Stacyzee]

Being able to get laid, is all trial and error. There's no tips I can provide to help men get laid. If I do, what they voice to women will sound rehearsed. And trust me, we can see when a guy is scripted from a mile away. He literally needs to work on all of the things I mentioned, and with time (approaching more and more women), he will get better at it.

[brain5000]

I wrote "if you haven't"; if I could edit my comment I would change it to "if you haven't already". You might have already posted Takes about these topics and I just don't remember.

[Stacyzee]

Generally speaking, men know their body types and what looks good on them. I don't want to tell people "what I like" because there's billions of women out there who may find things attractive, that I personally do not. The man has to be attractive for himself. When he feels great about him, he will give off that vibe to others. I do not want to mold men into my liking, I feel that would stray from the goal.

[Stacyzee]

And Lastly, I didn't post myTakes about this topic per say, but I did write a list of what women find irresistible about men. Hopefully that take can intertwine with this one and help (for those who are my followers).

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

and if a dude does, let's say, 95%+ of these things and still can't get laid, then what?

[Stacyzee]

Realistically, every one a guy approaches is not going to give him the time a day. Expecting to get rejected is a realistic outlook. However, MOST guys that do these things will be able to.

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

in some fairness to you, i wanted to write something longer and way more in-depth as to why this take is wrong (not the entire thing, obviously, the inherent problems with it and what it says), but i'm way too lazy so i left it on a half assed question... maybe i'll come back later to actually write it :/

[Stacyzee]

"Wrong" is not fact and is only perception based. I have a friend who is extremely unattractive in appearance but has been with more than 100 women. The man himself is really the problem if he fails to get laid. Anyway, when you actually do get around to writing the take I'll be looking forward to seeing your view.

[Stacyzee]

After doing 100 takes which go into the depths of subjects, I am drained. I feel this is one of those topics (that doesn't need much depth) men need to apply the formula themselves. It is something that can only work with practice and not necessarily people telling you how to act (which really deceives others in the end because you aren't being you)

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

do you know if you report this opinion, can i re-answer this take or nah?

[Stacyzee]

Are you saying you want to report the opinion, so it can be removed? The only time opinions can be removed is only if it goes against gags guidelines.

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

i was asking because i hate writing long explanations in the reply section because you only get 1000 characters and i like to be generally thorough as possible, which usually entails more than 1000 characters. if not, it's fine. i just hate responding with like 3 or 4 posts in a row... i really shoulda thought that out before i answered this take with my snarky ass answer :/

[Stacyzee]

Ah! Don't take this so seriously. It's okay.

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

don't worry, 90% of my answers aren;t serious :P. but if i say something's wrong in a take or question, i the taker/questioner deserves a full answer instead of me saying "you're wrong because i said so", which 95% of users on here do with half assed explanations. and i like to cover loopholes because people on here also like to play the "but what if" game and always backtrack (despite the fact that they literally wrote it the previous post), which pisses me off to no end :/

[Stacyzee]

It's alright, i understand your response although of course, I don't agree with it. I believe when it comes to subjects like these peoples truth are perception based. There's many different angles to a topic. I just think not responding all at once may just be a pet peeve of yours, just try to brush it off.

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

well, i didn't really explain anything, which is why i kinda want you to report it so i can re-answer if possible, but i'll give it a go: first, i agree that dudes who wanna get laid and can't, for the most part, is probably their fault. they could do a billion things better. with that said, there's something more complex going on. also, obviously it's ultimately up to the "askee" so it's a tossup. the 3rd disclaimer should be that the general population of dudes on this site are dudes who think it's a nominal feat to be friends with a woman, let alone, bone 1 with all that said, the problem comes in how girls view the situation vs how a guy views the situation. for the average guy, the success/fail rate is about 1/10. for the accept/reject rate for a girl is around 1/20. arbitrary #'s, but the point being that girls reject more guys while guys are more selective about who they'll approach because girls reject guys so often. tbc

[Stacyzee]

Realistically, when men are approaching a woman they have to expect that rejection is a real possibility. For someone to expect that their confidence is something that will always carry them through, they are 100% wrong for that thinking. Men in general have to understand that, the more you put yourself out there, the more likely you will get some positive feedback. Some women will be down for it, while others won't. It really all depends on the "type" of woman you are approaching (and if she's into that or not). Of course, women reject more men (this all has to do with the sole fact that men are those that approach).

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

to a girl's defense, probably about half of the dudes that hit on them are creepy fuckers looking for a quick fuck, but it trickles down to the rest of us. i won't look it up, but i'm sure you've seen a video where a dude asks 100 girls for their number vs a girl who asks 100 dudes for their number and the difference is about as clear as night and day i'mma backtrack to a quote you had recently that i was gonna highlight to prove something; "I have a friend who is extremely unattractive in appearance but has been with more than 100 women. The man himself is really the problem if he fails to get laid." i have a few angles i was gonna go, but i'll just say, why? doesn't no mean no? i mean we have so many movements (and rightfully so) to respect women and their decisions. should he be persistent until he can prove to her that he's worth boning (for lack of better phrasing)? can you elaborate on that quote? i have more to say, but i'll leave it here for now

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

also, that's exactly why i like having the longer post. you answered in the middle of my explanation so i addressed some of that (to an extent) and it just gets clogged and some of the points don't make sense, chronologically

[Stacyzee]

The video you are referring to doesn't show me anything. No person just walks up to someone and out of no where asking for sex (unless they are a prostitute). In general, that seems bizarre and like a set up. How those people went about it, wasn't well thought out or planned properly. I feel a more accurate representation disputing this, would have been at a social setting with the man small chatting women and then eventually asking do they want to go back to his place. The same goes for the women. They should have done that with a lot of different people throughout the day, and then put it in a video. Why? because that's an accurate representation of how it happens in real life. "I have a friend who is extremely unattractive in appearance but has been with more than 100 women. The man himself is really the problem if he fails to get laid." No, is really a no with this guy. But he has the art of knowing how to speak to women, and making them feel special.

[Stacyzee]

This causes them to go crazy for him. He gets them getting jealous of each other and fighting over him at times.

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

i really wish we had a better platform to talk about this cause i'd actually like to have a discussion, but this site limits actual conversations. anyways, regarding the video, that's true, but don't even look at the yes's vs no's. look how the girl vs guy gets turned down. you can have manners without saying fuck off or something along those lines. some before he even said anything. even in social events like clubs, it happens more often than you'd think hopefully i don't portray myself as a loser cause i'm fairly decent looking. my time in italy made me really good at just talking to people and never had a problem talking to gorgeous girls. but i've been turned down by girls without them even glancing at me. and if you think that a guy being rejected is a direct result of not being able to talk to girls or dressing properly or anything else, then you need a reality check. cause in the same light, i see so many girls saying "why won't the right guys approach me?"

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

and usually when that question gets asked, it's usually along the lines of "not the type of guy i want will approach me". meaning that just as common that dudes get rejected, women have this idea of who should be talking to them and how they should be talked to, not always being open to other guys talking to them or when and where. and i have 4 sisters and i can validate that cause i have/had to listen to that shit. it's not a 1 way street, here.

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

also, for clarification, i'm not a huge fan of just picking up chicks for the sake of having sex. i've turned it down cause i don't wanna have sex before marriage (that's how you get on maury), i just think the idea that either sex is responsible for their success or lack thereof of getting it in is totally ridiculous

[Scrambledagain]

Basically: who a man is, is not worthy of female attraction. So he must change. You are right but at what price? Women become practice objects, a man gives up his goals for women?

[Unit1]

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problem solved ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

[Polocrew]

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Mad or nah

[idiotmanchild]

Not easy when I am 5'2'' and girls always give me the line, "you are awesome, but too short"...

[skeptic007]

getting sex is easy
having someone that actually cares is hard too find

[Stacyzee]

Getting sexy is easy? Such a subjective opinion. Getting someone who cares? I agree 100%, there's too much people in this world that don't give a damn. Why don't we just ship them off on to an island so it's easier for us to select our potential mates. What do you say? :)

[skeptic007]

you know how many good looking girls and guys would have to be shipped off lol that's true but I speak for myself don't really have much of an issue getting sex, and im not some super hot guy either, just a regular guy

[ManOnFire]

@skeptic007 I agree, that's what I tell people but chicks keep trying to pretend they haven't been easy lays for guys, and guys keep thinking it's true. I guess it's easier for females to think it's really that much easier for them than to see how easy they've really been for guys.

[Scrambledagain]

It's so much easier to find someone who cares. I can do that far better than getting sex. And I can make a million dollars before I can attract the one that I actually want rather than the person I have who settle with.

[Keepcalm89]

I rather marry lol

[theegreat017]

I am past this stage i guess, i want romance, i want a woman, my lady, Milady ahh so much love, care, warmth, like the one in 'Up' what a couple are they, just wow, and i wanna get laidwith her, at our place, with my ring on her finger and a necklace around her neck 💜💜💜💜with her hands in mine and eyes in my eyes, ahh you just shook up that feeling in me. Wow!

[xxcchhllaauu]

dude its not the girls that stop me from getting a girlfriend it's my dick size and the fear that she isn't gonna like it but I'm a nice guy (no not a push over or a nice guy Finnish last guy) so I think she'll stay but in the end cheat on me with bigger

[Anonymous]

There's guys that do all of this and still don't get laid. You can be clean , fit, confident and be the social wiz women vigorously expect men to be, and still come up short.

[Anonymous]

I've never dated, made out, had a girlfriend, had sex. So I've been trying for 15 years and I keep hearing the same shit. Hell IM about ready to give up. sex is sex, it's a normal part of life so why are girls so reluctant to hand it out. Men wouldn't be so aggravated and bitter if they only got laid, hearing "your to pissed get laid" way too many times. I can't do prostitution because the majority of the time they're too expensive, fat, ugly and I've heard from people "never involve money for sex" honestly im thinking about just cashing out from society and calling an end to my life because I've never been allowed to get laid.

[Anonymous]

I am that type of guy that is nice and finish last. Why? Cause i end up giving that friendship vibe and then i wait for the real chance after im the last one. But im gonna work on those things. Although, women do want a guy that has the looks or money to get laid, so it doesn't matter how good you come off as. Sometimes women just want to fuck sexxy guys that have the looks or a guy whos got lots of money.