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Sexual Health My boyfriend always masturbates even though we have sex everyday?
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I've got a bit of a problem that's crushing my self esteem. I recently moved in my boyfriend. We are in our very early 20s, we've been dating for 5 years. We have sex very frequently and I think our sex life is great, but I'm not so sure if he does. He says he loves sex with me and that he is very happy with our sex life. But since I have moved in, I noticed that he masturbates a lot. I'm not mad about this, it's his body and he can do what he wants, but it is a bit concerning because I'm worried he's not satisfied by me. He masturbates while I'm at work, he masturbates while I sleep, he masturbates a couple hours after sex. but the thing is, I have sex with him multiple times a day. And he even masturbates a couple hours after we do it. That makes me feel like I'm not good in bed at all. I've asked him about it and he says that he loves sex with me and that masturbating is just different and masturbating is for relaxing and having personal time. I totally respect that, but if he likes sex with me as much as he says he does, why does he masturbate a couple hours after we do it? And since we have such frequent sex, why does he still feel the need to masturbate that much? He says he's always been like this and that I just noticed because I live with him now. I also just want to clarify that I am not a dead fish in bed.. I do any position he wants to try, I ride him, I let him do anal, I do doggystyle, I do missionary, I talk dirty, I let him be rough if he's in the mood for that, I kiss him and hold him, I moan and let him know Im enjoying it.. Could the problem be that maybe he doesn't think I'm attractive or that maybe my vagina doesn't feel that great? He is constantly feeling me up, cuddling me, kissing, and telling me how beautiful I am. He also says that my vagina feels good and is tight. He gets hard very easily for me. Am I just worrying for nothing or is this an issue? Why does he want to mssturbate so much even though he gets sex multiple times every day?
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He is not choosing to masturbate over me, I'm not neglected. We have a lot of sex. I'm just worried that he lies about liking sex me with me..
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8 31Why dont u tell him u wana watch him masterbate after ur fone with sex?
It's not an issue unless he masturbates INSTEAD of having sex with you. That's when you should feel like he's not sexually satisfied by you.
I have the same situation. I stay hard a couple of times a day. After sex I can get hard later soo I have to jerk. I am a freak though because sometimes I jerk on cam. But yes I normally nut like 3-4 times a day
He is just a horny dude. It is not about you or what you are doing wrong.
Yes but why is masturbatimg after we have sex? It makes me feel like I didn't do very good when I fucked him..
*why is he
I think if it bothers you so much you should start doing it in front of him. Just randomly start playing with yourself and when he tries to join tell him no and he has to watch. I think by you making him suffer by not giving him poon hell realize hey maybe I should just use my girl that wants my cum
I don't think you should be worried about him masturbating. Sounds to me like he loves having sex with you. I can't give you a reason why he likes to masturbate all I know is that years ago when I was young my wife always made herself available to me but there were times when I would still masturbate. I think it is something that most guys like to do.
Yeah but why does he choose to masturbate AFTER we have sex? He cums during sex with me.. maybe the orgasm with me just wasn't very great?
If guys could fuck as much as we wanted that’s all we would do
I don’t think he’s choosing it over you if you are still having sex. He may just need to get one out during the day
Yeah but if he is masturbating a couple hours AFTER sex with me, that means he is not completely satisfied with the sex we had, right?
I suppose
What can I do to make it more satisfying for him? I already do everything he wants me to in bed.. when I ask him what I can do to make it better, he says it doesn't need to be better and won't give me any advice.. could it be that maybe the problem is my vagina and that it doesn't give him good orgasms?
Maybe he just has a really high sex drive. I wouldn’t take it personally.
I’ve had amazing hot sex so good and then later on I’ve pleasured myself doesn’t mean I didn’t enjoy or didn’t get satisfaction from it I was just still in the mood and thinking about how hot it was earlier
He watched porn tho. I don't think he's thinking about me.. I can't compete with porn..
If he’s not happy with having sex 1-3 times a day I’ll take his place
this is so obvious even a blind man can see it. because he likes jerking off to other women in porn. he gets bored looking at you all day even though he can't get any other pussy in real life so he settles for you while jerking it to women he knows he can never have in real life
Does this mean that he doesn't find me very attractive or that he thinks my pussy is bad? Or maybe just that he's been with me for 5 years and is just bored?
I don't think that he thinks your not attractive or that your pussy is bad. It sounds to me like he has a very strong sex drive I can't imagine anyone being able to cum that often. Maybe next time he starts masturbating after you guys have had sex you should go over and wrap you're hand around hi cock and jerk it for him. Sometimes guys just like to jerk off.
@Sidexsideman63 yeah but why does he masturbate after sex unless it means that the sex wasn't very satisfying for him?
because you didn't give him enough sex
He may masturbate so he doesn't cum too quickly when he's having sex with you so he can make you cum.
Yeah but why would a man masturbate a couple hours AFTER sex unless he wasn't satisfied with the sex he had?
Could he be getting horny and doesn't want to bother you so soon for more sex?
So you have sex daily and he takes care of your needs. Why would you have a problem with him masturbating if he needs additional relief?
The answer: you own insecurities. You need to come to terms with that and don't let your insecurities fuck up a good thing.
Sounds like you and him were high school sweethearts
Yes and? What does that have to do with anything?
He doesn't like sex with me I guess?
I just envy and resent couples that young cuz I don't know what it's like to be in love that young
You sound like the perfect girlfriend, it's not you, it's him. I'm sure your pussy and ass do the trick. Don't worry about it or try to stay in bed longer to drain him. Make him give you anal until he is worn out :)
We already have sex 1 to 3 times a day. He knows I'll do it whenever he wants. But I work all the time. That's as much as we can do and he doesn't ever ask for a fourth round or anything.. :(
Well at least you're having a lot of fun, try not to worry or talk to him about it in a nice way :)