My boyfriend doesn’t like to do a lot of things?

[Anonymous]

I want to match with my boyfriend when we go to the fair and he doesn’t want to. He says it’s corny but I see it as something that’s cute. I also like taking cute photos of myself and when I post them he never posts them on his story to let everyone know I’m his. The only thing he has done is comment under one of my photos just to make sure nobody says anything seductive to me in the comments. I can’t really post him on my story because he doesn’t like taking pictures and I see that as a complete turn off. I want to pull out my phone at random times and take goofy videos and pictures but I just know it’s gonna be awkward. He only has a meme page on Instagram and rarely posts pictures of himself. I actually persuaded him to create a actual page on Instagram of himself and he doesn’t want to do it because he’s insecure asf about his body. He’s overweight and doesn’t do a damn thing to lose weight. When I suggest that he loses weight he says it’s not possible for him. I joke because he honestly has bigger titties then me if we’re being funny. My boyfriend isn’t fit and doesn’t work out. He smokes cigarettes and it’s disgusting. He says he is addicted but isn’t taking a initiative to stop. I’ve asked him several times and he doesn’t want to stop. When I ask him when he’s gonna stop he goes silent. Everytime we go out I have to ask him to dress nice or even if we’re going to the park he doesn’t put effort into what he has on. I like a man that dresses good all the time or at least make it look decent. I like a dude who is photogenic. I like a dude that likes trying different things with his hair instead of doing the same thing. I like a dude who has abs and is fit. He isn’t and I feel as if I’m being picky or trying to start stuff or be mean. But I just naturally come off that way. How do y’all feel about this? Does this seem like an exaggeration?

[Anonymous]

You just listed like like a half dozen things you don’t like about your boyfriend and how he’s the opposite of what you’re attracted to.
Honestly, I got about half way through and started questioning..
1) how the hell did you end up together? You didn’t even mention a single thing you actually DO LIKE or find attractive about him..
2) why are you still with him?

You should probably break up with him or learn to love him even if he’s not the male version of you.
I’m not trying to be mean but I just don’t get it. I’m really hung up on the laundry list of “he’s abc, I like xyz” and all his bad habits. I mean I’m not saying being over weight or smoking are ok or good things but he could easily say he likes someone that enjoys and lives in the moment, not someone that is constantly taking pictures or videos and posting to social media. Or that he likes someone who is accepting but you're critical. I mean what I just said may very well not be true but based on what you’ve just said it fits the picture you painted. The point is, do you see his side of anything? Have you tried to put yourself in his position? I think if you can’t try to or won’t try to understand where he’s coming from then you should probably break up.
Also, if this is how he’s always been then I’m not really sure what you expected. It would be pretty bold and kind of dumb of you to think you could make him do a 180 for you.
Bottom line, learn to love him because of his differences or walk. Sorry. 😕

[Asker]

Thank you I needed this

[Valnac]

You just gave us a list of pros and cons, and by my count, the cons have won.
you are the smart one in this relationship, and you don’t sound happy.
i think it’s time you kick him to the curb, and move on done the road.

[katieB12]

Sounds like you should break up

[katieB12]

Pm me