My boyfriend won't reciprocate with a threesome?

I gave him a FMF one a few months ago. Before we even went into it I told him the only way it can happen is if I receive a MFM in return. He promised to go through with it. Ever since the FMF I've asked him when the MFM one will be. First he gave excuses and now he's outright saying no. What should I do?
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  • Here is the thing a lot of people can promise you or say they are going to do something just to get what they really want. Not everyone is going to keep their word. Doing threesomes when both parties are not even bisexual is more of test to show you what the person character really is. You're not looking at the big picture. If you're not bisexual then don't have threesomes now you created something in the relationship that mostly will cause you guys to break up. He played you you either learn to not do threesomes again from that or you keep complaining to him about it til you guys aren't a couple anymore. You're not a kid you should know when you been screwed over and you been screwed over.

  • You shouldn't have afreed in the first place. Men hate MFM. They would usually never do it. If anything you should of had the MFM first, that way if he wants FMF he'd have to go through with it.

    Do you even really want a threesome? Or are you just gonna do it because it will be fair?

    If he won't do it just pull out all kinds of weird freaky sex things and tell him he has to do these now cause he won't do the MFM

    • Mfm is my ultimate fantasy. Now I know I should've told him to do it first. Guess I was spoiled because my ex used to give me them. Thanks

    • Maybe ask him if he wants to pick which guy

    • I did. He just doesn't want it in general

  • I was in a similar situation and in my case it was that he felt threatened by the possibility that I would prefer the other man.

    Was he justified? Maybe but he certainly didn't like seeing me have sex with somebody else.

    The relationship lasted less than a month beyond that because he became so insecure he practically pushed me away.

    • Did you give him a fmf threesome? It's not really fair of him to withhold one from you yet get one himself. You were probably just as worried as him.

    • We had both. The FMF was not an issue for him but the MFM is what broke it. He just couldn't take it.

    • Of course the fmf one wasn't an issue lol

  • And this is why I am against threesomes. Lol. He lied to you girl. All you can do is either accept it, break up, or show up with another dude.

    • Bang! 💥

    • Great answer lol. Normally I wouldn't do one in a committed relationship but guess I'm a sucker for a puppy dog face

    • Ha dude I'm heartless, that puppy dog shit doesn't work on me. 😆

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  • The only reason I'd consider doing a fmf is because my girlfriend is bisexual. He is probably pushing out of the idea because the thought of another man fucking you probably kills him. He most likely doesn't want to admit that. Most likely has nothing to do with him playing you.

    You look at sex as something purely physical just like I do. Not everyone is like that. Some people associate with emotion and "love".

    Your boyfriend is most likely one of those people. Just lmao at that slut teacher down there.

    • The fmf threesome hurt me too. It just sucks he promised a mfm one for that and doesn't want to go through with it. I feel like if I go through that for him he should for me

    • The thought of another guy fucking my girlfriend in front of me can't even register in my brain. You guys shouldn't be doing threesomes if it's hurting you. This shouldn't be about revenge or getting even though. He hurt me so now I have to hurt him back is not the kind of logic you should be using in a relationship. I'd still be pissed off forsure. You have every right to be.

  • He's being an asshole here. Maybe suggest having an mfm threeway without him, because obviously he decided to not honor his word. If he gets upset about that, remind him that he agreed to a threeway for you in exchange for one for him. And if he's still not budging, then maybe you should think about breaking it off.

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  • there's nothing you can really do, however you have to tell him that it basically shows you can't take his word, he can tell you if he changed his mind however you had rules and you agreed to someone so basically he's taking back his word and it ultimately its not about the threesome its about the fact that you don't know whether to believe him.

    • Would you do a MFM?

  • Break it Off Here, dear.
    I Feel that you Both are not a good Deal, and that this So-called "Relationship" is Hopeless as Well, I can Tell.
    Good Luck. xx

  • The correct answer is: Dump him.

  • wtf at all the people who asking he asker to dump the guy cause he won't reciprocate the threesome. It doesn't even necessarily mean he lied. He could have changed his mind and not feel comfortable about it. If you are having a fantastic time with him as your boyfriend, I'd move on from the situation and keep maintaining the relationship.

  • well... you could tell him there will be no more MF sex until he makes good on the deal that you made with him in good faith. :)

  • What you should do is understand that if you have a boyfriend is the type whom is not loyal enough to be comfortable enough to be finger, banging, and exchanging fluids with someone who isn't his own adorable butterfly then you shouldn't be surprised when he doesn't keep a promise.

  • You got played congratz

  • Tell him that he is a hypocrite and that you two must do it to be fair.

  • Wow sounds like your in an incredibly selfish relationship... Might be time to reevaluate that one

  • hold him to. it. tell him if he won't, someone else will.

    • Thanks!

    • So basically tell him you're going to cheat on him if you don't get your way?

  • Shouldn't have done it to begin with. This is stuff for bisexual couples. You just ruined this part of your relationship. How to fix that? Accept that it won't happen. If you can't you have to leave. And never do something stupid like this again. There is stuff that simply can't be fair and equal no matter how hard we try.

    • Believing that'll he'll follow through with his word is stupid? Ok

    • I'm not bisexual and I did the fmf one. He could do the mfm one

    • "I'm not bisexual and I did the fmf one. He could do the mom one" No, just because YOU'RE able to deal with your own gender to a certain degree doesn't mean that he's able to do it as well. People are different. And yes in this case it was stupid of you believing that he wants to share you with another man, knowing that he's not bisexual whatsoever. It was a dickmove of him lying like that, but you also shouldn't ever believe such nonsense if you know he wasn't into this kind of stuff to begin with.

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  • Well you can't force him to do it. If the genders of this scenario were reversed I feel like you would be getting different responses, especially from the female users. If you were a guy asking about how to get his girlfriend to hold up her half of the bargain and have a threesome that she changed her mind about, I guarantee the girls here would say you were an entitled asshole and that you should accept that she changed her mind. But since you're a girl they are giving more supportive answers than they would have given if a guy had posted this exact scenario.

    So I would say either accept it or break up. Even if hypothetically you did force him to have one or if you just went out and had one without him, then he would probably break up with you.

    So the choice is would you rather be the dumper or the dumpee?

  • To be honest he fooled you

  • Insist. He's breaking the deal. Toss around words like break up and see what happens.

  • Give up. The majority of men will never do MFM. His fault was only promising to you he will do it. He should have said no right away. But you can't change his mind

  • He played you. I love your boyfriend

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  • You are owed another 3some. Forget him find 2 other guys

  • Bring home a guy. Maybe he wants to be a cuckold?

  • Do you really want to get fucked by another man while you are in a relationship?

    • I want to get fucked by two at once.

    • Why not just do it with another two guys? I doubt your boyfriend will do it, very few men will do MFM specially if their girlfriend is in between.

    • Because that's cheating in his eyes

  • Dump him.

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