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Only Virgin Girls Allowed

A week ago I ended up the relationship of more than three years we had with my girlfriend. It was hard to do that. I tried many things before deciding that and it took me a lot to come to terms with that. She is totally sad, and is hurt because the reason is I can't get over her past sexual life. I won't go into details here because I found out that writing about this subject helps me. But going into details is too hurtful now. I prefer talking more in general (I worte a question about this if you are courious). The point is frmo now on only virgins allowed.

Only virgin girls allowed

I started having thoughts about her past more than a year and a half ago. A year ago I started looking for help in many ways. Nothing helped me to fully solve this. Some things were better than others. By then I started reading a lot about this problem sometimes called retroactive jealousy. And I've seen some really false statements there like the one I'd like to mention now: "You have to accept your girlfriend just like she is".

No, you don't.

Don't let the twist your mind or otherwise torture you with false commandments. I've read hundred of times people telling a guy that he have to accept the fact that his girlfriend has been with others. Where that comes from? I understand that sometimes the guy knew the girl wasn't a virgin when he met her. And then he can't complain about this because he was warned. But yet, he is in his right to choose the girl he wants. No one else is entitled to tell him which characteristics of this girl are those he can use to choos her or not.

I co-worker girl I know told me once "I'd never date a guy who hates smokes". And I found it totally rational because she smoked a lot. I heard a guy on the TV years ago saying he would never date a girl who didn't want to have sex in the first date. Weird as it could sound I guess we can say what is our criteria. It has to work for us, not for every one else. If I decided to only date virgins from now one. Who is going to stop me?

Yes, you can say I'll have a hard time finding a virgin girl. That's true but I have to try, right? Maybe it won't be a virgin really. I don't know for sure. It could be a girl with a conservative past which is willing to never tell me anything about it. Maybe it will be easier for me to accept her past now that I also have a past. But this is not only about me but about all those guys out there who a repeatedly told they have to accept their girlfriends even when the can't get over their past. You can try. But also you can drop it and get out from there. And go for something different.

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  • This take just screams insecurity. Are you that unhappy with yourself that you just HAVE to be with a virgin girl to compensate? And nothing else even remotely matters other than the fact she has an unpenetrated vagina?

    • It's not about insecurity. I know plenty of dudes who are far from insecure who care about how many guys a girl has been with. No sane average guy has ever said, "I wish my wife had slept with more guys". Guys don't care about the number of guys a friends with benefits or a one night stand has had. Guys do consider how many guys a girl has been with if they're considering a long term relationship. It's not insecurity, it's just the way we think. Deal with it. A lot of girls of this generation are going to end up surrounded by cats or being married to a loser they cheat on. Decent guys with options don't want to marry hos. The chickens will come home to roost and you're not going to enjoy it.

    • @TwentySomething Sir, a guy that dumps a woman he was dating for THREE WHOLE YEARS because of her sexual past, is insecure. Sorry.

    • Lol when girls hear something they don't like they automatically say "it's because he's insecure!". Stop being pathetic. Some guys won't date whores. Deal with it.

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  • Its your life if you don't like it then on't do it and HI ! don't listen to chicks cuz this non-virgin stupidity is only common is US even Europe is better than our US and if you go further its all about virginity and 98% of chicks were virgin when they marry and the result is 98% were happily married to their first husband and their divorce ratio is less than us and Hi chicks are not gona like it cuz if they promote this Who gona marry them so continue your hunt you may find one.

  • Yes pure and first hand girls are the best, but it's hard to find them, so some guys are compromising on used goods. You right, a guy don't have to accept an girl that had many other dicks on her.

    tvtropes.org/.../NatureAdoresAVirgin

    • I didn't say that. I said a guy doesn't have to accept a girl he doesn't like for any reason.

    • So having one boyfriend in her whole life and whom the relationship has been long over and she doesn't want to get back with him is used goods too? So basically, she's now condemned to be used goods forever even if it was within a relationship?

    • It's almost the same principle as having an children from other guy, I might understand why the girl did it in some cases, but it don't change the fact that she is having much less value for most other guys now. It's isn't our fault that the non-virgin girl give up her purity to other guy, if she break up then it's most likely that she choice the wrong guy, and their is an consequences for bad decisions. If the girl was living by the most true monogamous principle of being together until death do them apart, then she was not having this problem right now. If she had one boyfriend in long relationship then I would not say that she is an slut, but she is still an used goods for the new guy, and yes it's for the rest of her life.

  • It's a preference that restricts you quite a bit (in this hypersexual society), but it's a preference like any other nonetheless and I can certainly understand why someone would choose to after. Don't let anyone shame you into thinking otherwise just because your criteria hurts their precious little feelings and/or world views.

    Shaming tactics are growing increasingly rampant among males too. It's ass.

  • It's sexist creeps like you I hate the most. The guy can be non-virgin but the girl has to? Once a girl is no longer a Virgin she loses value to you? What if she was raped? Also, if you put so much value to someone having been fucked in the past, how do you feel about your own past? Logically, you would also See yourself as having no value since you're no longer "pure" as well. If you accept your own past but can't accept here, not only you're a hypocrite, but you're also one of the douchiest Kind of assholes out there. People come with a past and a baggage in all sorts of manners. If you can't accept this, fuck your loyal Hand the Rest or your life because really, you don't deserve an actual human being (you don't want an actual human being anyway, since they all come with a past and a baggage). Or get one of those real rolls. They're Brand New and custom-made to your liking. No personality, no past. Perfect, right?

    • If she was raped then she is still a virgin morally.

    • Not to peopl like him, I'm sure. Things tend to be black and white for his Kind @mishsheaven

    • He never said if she is raped then she is a slut. SO lets not make assumptions

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  • It's fine for you to want to date a virgin but don't get upset if she says she only wants to date a virgin too

  • Lulz you're fucking 30. Grow up.

    • Just another freaked out girl making an irrational comment.

    • Yep. I was just about to ask you out and you ruined it for me.

    • Forget it. Lol.

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  • Less competition for me. I'm starting to like how things are turning out in the dating scene. More self-proclaimed nice guys coming out, you got MGTOW, fuckbois, and more of this. I don't have any kids going on 24 either, and the future is looking pretty good too, so my competition is definitely dwindling up to this point.

    But being an asshole aside. I'm going to say this. Yes you have every right to date any preference you have in mind. I even noticed how weren't referring to her as a slut. But you're going to see that a woman's lack of a sexual past isn't going to make her a better woman. You'll probably end up hurt by this virgin girl you envision. But since you want to be about a persons past, you're also going to run into this problem. A girl that is a virgin you may deem fit for you, won't find you fit for her. Because for you to treasure a woman's sexuality as a means to break up three years later in a relationship. Shows how dedicated you are to someone. And a woman who's holding out as long as she is, would only want that, and examples of that, which you don't have. Not to mention, she won't like the fact that her virginity is one of the top of the list reasons you're dating her. Because you're focusing on her sexuality no matter how you twist it or not.

    It's not that you're insecure. But limiting beliefs refuse to see the bigger picture here. Especially the fact that someone's past isn't doing any direct harm to you, nor shows any consequence or behavior.

    • This take was all about our right to have our own preferences without being insulted. As you can see it is hard to get people to accept this even when it is non of their business. And they are hypocritical too, because they turn down other people for silly and superfluous reasons. But they want to tell others which reasons are not allowed.

    • Yeah, I get that. You have every right to have a preference. But you're comparing apples and oranges here on the subject. But we're talking about someone's sexual activity here, not whether or not they have bad habits that's a deal breaker, or no common interests or beliefs that would hold show compatibility. Like take a good look at yourself. What would make you such a prize to a girl who's waiting for someone special. To them their sexuality isn't something of priority. But you insist on making it that way.

    • I've seen people turned down because of their skin color, looks, habits, and specially because of their past. Would you date a girl who's been sleeping around? I guess you would. Would you if she has been a prostitute (but she is not anymore)? Well, maybe you think this one twice because of STDs, but let's say you do. Would you date a girl who cheated on every one of her ten previous boyfriends? Would you date a girl who's been in jail for armed robbery? Am I hypocritical?

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  • You commented on @Queen66's post and said you had sex with her. So why should a girl who is a virgin waste her time with a hypocrite like yourself who isn't one? I don't think you have the right to judge sexual past and go virgin hunting when you yourself aren't a virgin and you also have a past. Boy gtfo with that shit.

    • I wrote this take because of people like you, who think they can tell other what they have to do. But you said something interesting: "I don't think you have the right to judge sexual past and go virgin hunting when you yourself aren't a virgin and you also have a past". This means my girlfriend never had the right to take my virginity because she had a past. BTW: I have the right to choose the girl I like. Just like she has the right to choose me. I'd never lie to her.

    • And she has the right to stay away from hypocrites which I hope she does.

    • But what about my ex-girlfriend and what you said? Was she a virgin hunter with me?

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  • As a virgin, I think I am qualified to give you my opinion, hm?
    You can date a girl who matches your values- which is virginity in this case, ( only if you are one yourself, otherwise you are just a shameless hypocrite)
    but if you come to love a girl and THEN come to know she's not a virgin, do you really want to loose everything special you have with her over her past? Sometimes you should think if this virginity is really a good indicator of someone's worth. Maybe they did it only because they were pressured by their families, religion or society and given the chance otherwise they would have lost it, much earlier. So now do you think being with someone who's a virgin who will treat sex as a prize and most likely be a prude about it, worth losing someone who really connects with you otherwise? Think about it.
    I am a virgin and though I would like my guy to be virgin too for my first time so its special to both even if he isn't it won't matter at the end, if I love him and he loves me. I know its useless posting here since my ex was the same and it was the same putting value on what lies between a woman's legs charade. Thanks for reading.

    • You are not qualified to provide an opinion to his decision, he has every right to choose who he wants in life, and who does not want in life. If that person says she is a virgin, and then lied about it with bad intentions, then he has every right to choose to be with her, or dump her. It is better to break up what is not real, than live a lie just to satisfy your philosophy. If that woman is willing to lie to him about who she is, or her past, then how will their marriage or partnership survive on a foundation of lies. They must always be truthful even in the beginning.

    • @COMMODOREII I have every right to post my opinion and if you don't like it, scroll down. That is a very superficial thing to do but I didn't say he has no right to do so, I said he should think it over if it really matters. Learn the difference.

  • Though I'm not a virgin-chaser, and I don't care if a girl is a virgin or not, I get and agree with what you're saying.
    We choose a partner for ourselves, so we need them to have what we want. Sure, no one is gonna have everything, but the most important things should be a must have.

    There's no girl out there that doesn't judge a man for his past. I've been judged for everything I've done, and I accept it when a girl tells me she doesn't want me because of something I did, or something I don't have. I can't force someone to be with me and to accept every aspect of my life.

    Most of these girls in GAG are too **** to accept that they're not the center of the world. Don't expect them to understand that they also have flaws, and that guys don't have to deal with all of their bullshit.

    • Man, thanks. I was about to think no one here read the articles they criticized. You are right "There's no girl out there that doesn't judge a man for his past" and I'd add "There's no guy out there that doesn't judge a girl for his past".

    • Yeah, it applies to guy's too. I just mentioned girls because these girls on this Take don't seem to want to be judged, but they're the first ones to judge you and say no because of your past. The past made you who you are today, you can't just ignore it and accept everything a person has done. Many of these girls would say NO if asked if they would date a guy that had previously cheated on a girlfriend, cause apparently women can change, but guys will always stay the same... GAG logic.

    • You are totally right. And even more, many of these girls and guys freaking out about my take would turn down people for the most superfluous reasons you may think of. And worst, you can bet many of the cheat or cheated on their partners. But then I'm the evil because I'm honest.

  • Virgins want virgins. That's the problem.

    • I am a virgin and want a NON virgin. And this is not a problem. Lol

    • @mishsheaven Well Im a NON-Virgin, and I dont care what the woman is or isn't. I just want her to be responsible, non-judgemental, mature, and well off financially. I am tired of putting up with girls, i want a woman. you know?

    • @mishsheaven You're seventeen. Thirty year old virgins are virgins by choice.

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    • Waste-of-time

    • Waste of Time? I like this one! The truth hurts you huge ass hypocrite.

  • damn daniel.. back in the white vans!

    thats my tone lol

    • OH. hahahaha

  • The morality of virginity was established thousands of years ago, when women were property, very similar to one's slaves. Women were often married at 13, 14, 15; sometimes 12. The chances were high they would die in childbirth. The men would often die in wars and injuries too. Life was short.

    Fast forward to today and the average of of marriage for a woman is 27 plus. There are about 2% of women who are virgins when they marry, but the average age of a virgin bride is 19. The divorce rate for women who marry at 21 and under is astronomical compared to the rate for women who marry at 27 and older.

    Therefore, if you wish to be true to a virgin, then marry her when she is 13, and make sure you are dead before you turn 35.

    • Fake statistics to make a point which has nothing to do with this take. You fail to explain why a guy can't choose to date a virgin.

    • If you don't like my numbers, go look up your own. The roughly 2% and 19 came from a study of human sexuality of a few years ago. It was a comprehensive study conducted by professors and grad students and published. It was several hundred pages, and well documented. I didn't say one couldn't prefer a virgin. I am saying that it is irrational to keep one characteristic of a bygone era, while throwing out the associated characteristics of that era.

    • It could be hard, that's true. But winning lottery is even harder and I see millions of people trying every day :D

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  • I gotta say , the fact that your fetishsizing it will turn virgins off and have them running. they want you to like them not the fact they are virgins. Just like a non virgin wants you to like them not the fact that they will put out. And how can you wakeup one day after 3 years of banging her and be like yep you know what i can't handle your past i think i want a virgin. Im sorry, but virgins have high standards and i dont think you will meet them.

    • Blah, blah, offenses but not arguments.

    • women seriously can't read. just because he wants a virgin doesn't mean that he only likes her for that.

    • @dudeman Lol, nice generalizing But he is illogical, and completely delusional if he thinks a virgin would want him. fyi women also care about your sexual past as and of she is a virgin than she will have standards

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  • I can see where you're coming from. I don't want a guy who has a lot of sexual experience and I think I have that right because I hold myself to the same standard as well. There's no way in the world I would get involved in a serious relationship with a man who has had sex with anything that has a hole.

    Everyone has different preferences. Some people like people who are experienced and they have that right just as much as you have yours.

    At least you tried getting over it but now that you're honest and you can't anymore, it's better that you know what you're looking for so you don't waste anyone else's or your time anymore.

    The only issue I have is when men specifically think women should be a virgin and they themselves have had multiple partners in that case you're a hypocrite.

    • I'm glad you perfectly understood this and you made an civilized comment. If I could change the past I would have lost my virginity at 16 like she did. And then we would be more even. The problem is with me, no with her virginity. But just a few of those who commented here took the time to read what this was about. Thank you!

    • "... with a man who has had sex with anything that has a hole" But... what if he has a flashlight or one of those artificial with real looking vagina inside and out dolls? Is it still a problem lmao Or then he goes into pervert category? I'm not one of those, just curious for the answer lol :D

    • lol ok I mean an actual human being with a hole. He can have an orgy with fleshlights if he wants haha

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  • This article is bullshit...

    Your opinion is limited only to yourself.. not others.
    Leave others out of it, your girlfriend was a douche just like you.
    And you can't judge others because of some chick you dated.

    Sorry... you're incorrect.

    • I guess you never turned down a guy who asked you out, right?

    • Yeah I did, what does that have to do with your article?

    • That fact that you don't understand that is a sign I shouldn't have taken you opinion too seriously. :)

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  • Sounds like you have control and jealousy issues

  • Hmm... May try the anime girls? They are virgins, I am sure of it.

    Or go for the younger ones, but you go to prison that way.

    While it is possible to win a big lottery, it is not recommended to spend all your food money in buying the tickets. Your chance of dying due to starvation is much higher than your chance of winning a prize.

    While it is possible to to find a virgin girl as you get older over the years. Your chance of living the rest of your life alone is much higher than your chance of getting married.

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