Here is a MyTake version of the long answer I wrote on an old GAG post about why "there is a stigma" to sex work. It's similar to another MyTake I wrote two months ago about this topic and OnlyFans.
The 30-35 year old female asker:
"Why is there a lifelong stigma attached to someone who worked as a stripper?"
"I spent several years of my life working as a stripper. Now I want to settle down and get married. My problem is that whenever I meet a guy, start dating, and I think he might be The One, something happens. Whenever I tell him about my past as a stripper, guys automatically change. Suddenly it's like I'm no longer me, but some trashy whore in their eyes and they either break up with me or they decide that I must be
bisexual and want to add other women to our bedroom activities, want group sex,
or they start accusing me of prostituting and cheating on them and dump me."
"Why is there a stigma to sex workers? Why don't they get respect?" Because you sold your ass, self respect, dignity, and brains for sex work. Them's the rules. You don't get to sell all of your self-worth and dignity for quick and easy cash by being a professional piece of ass, and then whine when no one respects you.
MOST women on the planet don't have to resort to sex work, and although we live in the Age of Simps where women expect men to give them money for wiping their ass, reality is always one harsh b*ch-slap away.
"[Guys see me as nothing] but some trashy whore in their eyes and they either break up with me or they decide that I must be [gay]. [Or accuse] me of prostituting and cheating on them and dump me."
YES! No sh*t! That's basically how you made your actual living in life, for YEARS. Don't whine about it now that your looks have faded. If you wanted respect, you should've gone to college.
"When I am in a serious relationship I am loyal."
No one is going to believe that, and no one has any right to. Again, YOU SOLD ALL OF THAT FOR QUICK AND EASY CASH. Trust takes a long time to build, but can collapse and be destroyed very quickly.
"I wish I could tell anyone considering being a stripper, not to do it because you'll never be able to escape your tarnished image."
NO SH*T! Everyone knows this! This is why most women (and men) DON'T DO THIS KIND OF WORK! You sold your soul to the devil! You don't get sympathy now!
And you know what? I don't even hate strippers. But back in the 90s and 2000s, sex workers knew full well what they were getting into. They didn't have simps to wipe their ass for them, but pimps to keep them humble. Sex workers didn't sit around and complain about "No one likes me! No one respects me! Waaaaah!"
I can respect someone who's a hustler and knows they're not a good person, then a narcissistic asshole who used and exploited men for years, and then wants everyone to respect them and think of them as some kind of "good person" after that.
Imagine the man who blew his life savings on OnlyFans and strippers asking the world to stop judging him harshly and to demand everyone respects him, regardless of his stupid life choices. Oh? What's that? You mean the Johns and simps of sex work don't get sympathy or respect from their lame sob stories? Well color me Colin! I'll be dipped in pig's sh*t! You don't say?
Like I said, trust is not easy to build up, and respect is even harder. Every single man out there (unless born to billionaires or some other elitist prick) starts at the bottom level when it comes to respect and trust. And he has to build himself up in society. Women pretty much start with a ton of bonus respect just for being female and it's pretty unfair. But sex workers sell ALL of that, to become a flesh bag and cum dumpster, and reduce their public standing to a negative level. So your reputation and respect is now at -150. Good luck bringing it back up...
And I have known people in the sex industry, too. And even on GAG. My female best friend became a popular porn star. For a minute, I thought you were a girl I know here on GAG who used to do that kind of work (but has cleaned up her life since then). I'm just telling you - and them - the cold honest truth. I'm not wiping your ass or simping to you like you're used to so many men doing.
You sold all your respect and dignity in society to become a sex object. You told society that you don't have a brain or job skills or anything else to offer the world but your body. If you want people to start seeing you as that again, you've got a long road ahead of you. Maybe one day, you'll get back to 0 reputation like guys begin at. Maybe one day, you'll be back to the 200 level that all women start off at. And maybe one day, men will see you as a smart, funny, honest person again. ... MAYBE. I mean, hey, it worked for Sasha Grey. She has a sense of humor and comes off likeable. Not so much or Mia Khalifa, though...
TL;DR:
You don't sell your soul to the Devil and then ask him for a refund.
Sex work is shamed for a reason, but if you're going to do that shady, sleazy kind of work, at least own up to it and stop asking society for validation and applause for being a cheap whore with no valuable skills to society. Either do it or don't.
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