Reasons to Shamelessly Love Giving Head

I’m here to write my take on giving head.

No, not another few paragraphs giving tips or my two cents on how to give you man oral in a way that he’ll surely enjoy. More like my opinion on the whole aspect of giving head, in general. How I feel it can (and arguably should) play positively into the dynamics of a relationship, that seems to differ from the opinion widely held by many others.

Reasons to Shamelessly Love Giving Head

Firstly, I don’t see anything in the least bit shameful in giving head. (Likewise for going down on your partner, though I’m writing from the perspective of a straight female so I’ll stick to the former.)

1. It's gross!

One of the main arguments that I have heard from many, both online as well as from a few friends in rl, regarding why they detest giving head so much that it’s never even considered to be an option with their boyfriend, is that it’s ‘gross’. That- “come on… boys pee out of there. Do you think really think that I’m going to want to put my mouth on that kind of place?”

Well.. yes. That’s true.

Boys do urinate from there. Seeing as how you’re both out of grade-school, though, it could be assumed you’re past the stage of thinking that boys have cooties. Sexual intercourse in whole (not just oral) isn’t overly sanitary; there is some truth behind why it’s called ‘bumping uglies’. With oral sex being an extension of penetrative sex, the presence of tiny bits of not-so-desired things may be a tough pill to swallow. However, all it takes to get juvenile thoughts like that out of your mind would be a slight change of mind-set.

2. It's ever-so 'degrading'

...This seems like a good time refer back to good ole Merriam Webster to see what degradation actually means, as opposed to simply regurgitating ideas that third-wave feminists and prudists alike have shoved into our minds-

Definition of degrade

1a : to lower in grade, rank, or status : demoteb : to strip of rank or honorsc : to lower to an inferior or less effective level <degrade the image quality>d : to scale down in desirability or salability
2a : to bring to low esteem or into disrepute <his actions have degraded his profession>b : to drag down in moral or intellectual character

Sure, baby. Let me take your manhood- your pride and joy, with a side of family jewels, in my mouth. Nestle them right in between my chompers.

...That's degrading? Really now?!

I’ve never looked at giving head to my boyfriend as degrading.

Yes, the woman is usually on her knees, which may be looked at as submissive. As putting the guy in a ‘position of power’.

Reasons to Shamelessly Love Giving Head

However, let’s not forget that while I’m giving him head, I’ve got his dick and/or family jewels in my mouth. It may be time to reconsider who’s really in power here, if you insist on looking at intimate acts such as this as a power struggle in the first place.

To me, giving a guy oral is a bit of an act of trust. That he’s willing to put his manhood in such a vulnerable position and not be worried that he’ll leave the room castrated or any less of a ‘man’ (literally).

There’s just so much going on that it can be almost overwhelming. The musky scent, the taste of skin, the texture differences between shaft and head, the noises they make (especially the whimpering and pleading), the absolute control you have over them- the list goes on. In addition to how few things rub your ego quite like having someone stop you because they can’t speak, other than to tell you that you’re the best they’ve ever had.

3. A great way for a bit of a role-reversal

If anything, giving head to a guy is a bit of a power play. Not a power play as in femme/dom territory, or anything taboo like that. I actually have a bit of fun with working some teasing into it. There’s no more enjoyable power-trip, in my eyes, than getting your guy to be actively begging for more. For you to put his entire dick in your mouth versus just licking the shaft, or pleading to go inside of you.

'Power' and submission aside, though, it does bring me genuine (emotional as well as physical) pleasure to be able to do something for my boyfriend that he undoubtedly enjoys to the fullest. Occasionally, we’ll have a session that’s completely lust-driven, where the one thing on our minds is getting to the finish relatively quickly.

Other times, though, I like to slow things down while I’m giving him head. Maybe a bit of teasing, but mostly just taking time to prolong the pleasure he’ll receive. Enough time so that letting my hand taking over for a bit so that I can just watch him and his reactions, from facial expressions to his body/dick tensing up, or balls starting to twitch a bit if he’s particularly close, is not an issue at all.

Reasons to Shamelessly Love Giving Head

Take note of how (in what has essentially turned into a bit of a love letter to my boyfriend’s dick) I didn’t mention how I enjoy giving head because it’s a ‘selfless act’.

Sure, it’s something that I can do for him without requiring much in return at the time. Sure, it’s something throughout which he can relax and focus solely on enjoying versus working toward ensuring that I get too much back.

However, let it be known that for myself, at least, it’s a pretty sexually-rewarding act as well. The whole ‘feels’ aspect extends to the physical (as in getting me dripping wet) just about every time.

You want to shame me (in addition to many other girls, I'm sure) for enjoying, getting turned on and even physically amped up for sex afterwards, in cases where the blowjob doesn’t continue to a finish but are more of a warm-up for the main event?

Step right up.

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Most Helpful Guy

  • Say whatever you say, it IS degrading and does nothing for girls, how do you actually take control when you're on your knees putting your pretty lips and face on a fuckin cock while you're down below licking and sucking and he is just enjoying up there and sometimes even holds your head or even push it deeper, you just do what the pack do and convince yourself it's cool and will definitely will get some thumbs up from mediocre males ( or anything with a penis) , to me if girl does anything under the title of " that's what people do" she's absolutely garbage to me

    • I see you're a virgin

    • @Boondock_Saint really? Cuz I don't even see you

    • it's not degrading, it's submissive

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Most Helpful Girl

  • If licking pussy isn't degrading why should giving a BJ be? Your points make sense to me. I think guys can be really submissive/needy/begging during bjs too... that's not degrading for him or me either. It's just oral sex. Great post.

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  • it's true you have to love to do it and i'm a girl who definitely enjoys giving a blowjob as i'm very much wanting their cum to swallow i found out there's a lot of health benefits from swallowing cum also if you do that for your man he'll be a lot nicer to you and it changes the dynamics of the relationship to a much more positive one... i may not be married but that's my decision but i live with a man who's very happy with me and will pay for almost anything for me... i don't see it as a monetary system... but i do see it as a loving act... what was funny i met with my current boyfriend's ex and she said too bad he likes blowjobs better than regular... i laughed to myself and thought omg if she only knew the truth... but i know most girls don't like to do that unless they really have to... i don't really talk about blowjobs with my girlfriends just on here... if i did they'd probably give me paper cups to drink out of when i go to their homes.

    • Wow I love u n your answer. 😘😘💘❤

  • Agree with it being A-OK +
    many only achieve big-Os by giving them

  • Oooh. sounds fun. :P

  • Your boyfriend is one lucky man!

  • Great take.
    I've always enjoyed giving head and never once thought it was a shameful or disgusting act.

  • well if you don't like it then do it. but if you want to have more fun i know guys love getting that. but for me its not a problem. during my first time i find it not cool but when i saw my ex reaction is priceless i kinda find it hot and i enjoyed it

  • If you like it, good for you. Don't do it for others - whatever you do do it for you (not inspite of your desires) - this is what I go by... and why I dislike this 'practice'.

    • isn't fulfilling one's desires essentially synonymous with 'doing it for oneself', though? I mean, I love doing it for my own enjoyment that I receive from pleasuring my boyfriend so- believe it or not but some people can actually be happy sans thinking only of themselves.

    • Nope... not the same by any means. Only if your desire is to do it is it your desire... and by doint it you're fulfilling it...

    • *By what you just said you are basically saying if you want to pleasure your boyfriend and he wanted you to be gang raped (and that would be pleasurable for him) you'd do that... Which is the definition of insanity-if you yourself don't want that whatsoever.

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  • Girls are never enthusiastic about it (mostly).

    • *girls who've given you head

    • No girl has given me head nor did I ask.

      Boo!

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    • ... you're definitely not in a position to comment on what girls are like when giving head, then. Seeing as how you're basing that off of absolutely nothing.

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  • Love it, makes me want to either tease him for ages or jump straight to the act.

  • I 100% agree with everything you said

  • this is a really weird mytake. i'm surprised 17 year olds are out giving blow jobs and are sitting online saying "i love giving them", i'm 18 and i've never had that kind of physical contact with a guy. its just 17... so young and too young for all of that.

    • It may be a bit outside of the norm, not that there's anything inherently wrong with that. As for the 17 year old who 'loves giving head'... that's only a year younger than yourself. It's not like, at the ripe old age of 18, you're in any way in a position to tell someone mere MONTHS younger than you that they're 'too young'.

    • lol well actually i have every right to do and say as i damn well please, and you have every right to advocate 17 and younger little girls to be okay with sucking dick, buying sex toys and etc at such a young age. we both seem to have different morals and limitations. i'm 18 but i won't be going nuts and hitting up every guy i see because thats the type of person i am. you can have a daughter or son and teach them however you like. hell, you can coach your daughter when she turns 13 about sucking dick using a banana for all i care. you openly wrote this mytake and i openly responded.

    • .. right, The only one bringing up who can/cannot 'advocate for sucking dick' is yourself.
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  • Preach on sista!

  • Nice take👌🏻

    I ❤️ sucking dick!

  • Love it!

    • So many female downvoters on this take 🤔

    • @WhereIsMyMind frigid. Sad really.

    • @WhereIsMyMind lol yeah, just ignore those. It's probably just another posse of third-wave feminists who feel that anything that they do which benefits men (without any obvious and direct benefits to themselves, specifically because they have female genitalia), particularly when it's sexually-centered, is 'degrading'. 👌
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  • I give head because the guy enjoys it. I like pleasuring the person I'm fucking. It may not be my favorite part of sex but it's still a turn on to see him turned on. Why not? But if i do it, I expect some head in return.

  • I used to be grossed out and against the idea. Always figured I'd do it for my future SO if he really wanted it but thought I'd never enjoy it until one day I decided to try it out and I actually love doing it so much.

  • Nice take Hun , I Love sucking cock 👌🏼❤️

  • Women who dont give oral won't be sexually compatible for most men :) same as men who refuse to give oral too

  • Great take! I never in a million years thought I would ever want to try out oral sex. I couldn't believe I said yes to my boyfriend going down on me. Then a couple months later I had the urge to return the favour and I enjoyed it so much. Thankfully my boyfriend told me he doesn't cum from oral sex so I don't have to deal with any of that. I love hearing /seeing his reactions. I really like when I ask him a question and he struggles to respond because he's so aroused.

  • That's a fantastic take @kaylas91.. totally agree with you.

    • thankyou. Glad to hear that I'm not ruffling everybody's feathers. :P

    • @kaylas91. Definitely not ruffling mine 😊

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