Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
I felt it was important to do a take about the topic of sex. For reasons which I will get into later in this take. But the biggest reason is: *Some people act like sex is a sin, or a bad thing....
It's not the sex itself that is sinful, it's people that make it that way...
I've seen posts about Masturbation being a sin, posts that use words like pervert or slut to describe people that like sex. Being sexual or sensual doesn't always have to mean someone is a pervert or a slut....
The actual definition of a pervert:
noun
/ˈpərvərt/
a person whose sexual behavior is regarded as abnormal and unacceptable.
Not every man or person who likes sex is a pervert, yet whether we use it negatively or positively, can't we just stop using it out of it's original context?
Why do we need to use these labels to describe an act that is not only natural but can also be beautiful as well as healthy? Which leads into the next reason....
*Health benefits of sex
The Benefits of a Healthy Sex Life
Lower blood pressure.
Better immune system.
Better heart health, possibly including lower risk for heart disease.
Improved self-esteem.
Decreased deprfression and anxiety.
Increased libido.
Immediate, natural pain relief.
Better sleep.
More about the health benefits of sex for men and women can be found with provided links....
https://www.healthcentral.com/slideshow/7-benefits-sex-men
https://www.ohsu.edu/womens-health/benefits-healthy-sex-life
https://www.womenshealthmag.com/beauty/g19954276/skin-benefits-of-sex/
Besides the enjoyment of sex and the health benefits of sex there's also the benefits to having a healthy relationship....
*Sex and relationships
While sex itself is not the most important aspect of a relationship, sexual compatibility is. If sex and frequency of sex is important to you, it's better to pair with someone with the same sexual needs. If intimacy in the relationship is more important than the actual sex, it's better to pair with someone that feels that way as well.... How important sex is in a relationship depends on how important it is to both you AND your partner.....
https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/is-sex-important-in-a-relationship
In a culture where we are so quick to label or judge, we should think what affect that may have on people that may already struggle with their sexuality or what is considered acceptable or not....
Now myself... I'm personally grown enough now to the point that at 48 I'm comfortable with myself, my sexuality, I don't seek out or need acceptance or approval other than from a partner... Anyone else either accepts me or they don't... But I wasn't always that way.... It gets easier when you get older and realize all the time you wasted worrying about things that shouldn't matter, like what society or others think about what two consenting, legal adults do in their sex life.... But can't we make it easier for people that still worry, care or struggle with that?
In closing, stop shaming others for their sexuality....
But, damn if you do want to shame people shame the RIGHT people...
Like people who CHEAT...There's so much debate on here about what's considered cheating, but keep it simple....
As always thanks for reading 💜🌹
"Brainsbeforebeauty"😘
What Girls & Guys Said
28 84Can't speak for any other religion except mine.
In Islam, sex is a sin of it's done outside of marriage, however, once you are married, sex (or simply being lovey dovey with your spouse in other ways) is considered a GOOD DEED that you get REWARDED for in the hereafter A man is not allowed to leave his wife alone for a period of four months or longer, so like even if a man works in a different city or country he must be back to spend time with her at least once every four months. In fact a newlywed man who wanted to join a battle was sent home by prophet Muhammad (pbuh) because he should be with his wife at home. Celibacy is discouraged.
Think about talking. Is talking a bad thing? No but telling lies, gossiping, cursing etc are sinful right? Same concept.
I like that idea. Dont know toomuch islam or married.. Your 19 too gezzz. anyways i never married but have pretty good history complicated lets say. Simply. But celibacy absolutely sucks. and I feel like I starving and rottening dying as fresh and fair attractive but no good sex in 9 months.. 4 months is even forever to me 4 weeks is even long... Tell me what you think talking?
It’s so dumb now people try and demonize sex. Lol, it’s the 21st century and we are still having a conversation about if a natural human function is sin.
Right!! And a woman just asking or answering a sex question don't make them a slut 🙄😂
I doubt people are saying its not natural. More like, questioning if sleeping around with multiple people is right or wrong.
@themythos but that's your decision to make for yourself and your partner/potential partner... And let others make that decision for themselves/their partners/potential partners...
We will have to agree to disagree on this one.
"Sin" is a religious term.
From a biblical standpoint you are correct, sex itself isn't sinful it is sex outside of marriage.
Fornication... sex with people you are not married to and adultery, sex with someone not your spouse are sins.
Just 2 people who marry and then having a life and wild, passionate, regular sex is not sin it is good.
Religion (mainly Christianity and Judaism) and culture "the world" mainly class on society/culture preaching to just have sex with whoever, whenever, 50 different partners, no marriage... all is fine and religion teaching that God has ordained and intended sex to be just between husband and wife... society pushing there is no God at all, there is no ultimate truth or right and wrong... everything is relative, whatever is "right for you" vs. God exists, God that made the law clear on things and ultimately we will all give an account one day before God.
The "world"/society pushing all is good, nothing is unhealthy and harmful... strippers, prostitutes/johns, cam modeling, all actresses are pushed to be nude on film, all films push 2 relative strangers to fall into bed, sex scenes must be shown, all advertising pushes lust as a sales pitch, casual sex, swapping sexual partners all the time, threesomes, swinging... no amount of sexual partners is bad, live together, do not marry, everything is good... Religion states God decreed sex is just for married couples.
That is basically the big clash between Society and the church regarding sex as the sin/shame or not topic.
"Fornication" comes from an English word that meant going to brothels basically, and is used for the greek Porneia, or illegitimate sex. In the Old Testament, the Bible lists sexual sins and doesn't include two single people having sex as a sin. "porneia" doesn't mean two single people having sex is a sin--it's a catch all phrase for sexual sin. No where in the bible does it actually condemn two single people having sex, even though it takes time to condemn period sex even.
Sex Between Two Singles Isn't a Christian Sin ↗
See, you'll find many references to illegitimate sex/porneia/fornication in the new testament, but that refers to two big lists of sexual sins in the Old Testament. You can't find an actual verse condemning sex between two singles anywhere in the Bible.
@RationalMale Exactly!! very true... And in those times, they didn't have church weddings to be considered married. And even now in some states, if you're with your partner for is it 7 years or more I believe, you are considered common law married anyways. So a couple who's been together 30 years remained faithful to one another is still sinning cuz they didn't "Marry" but then what about all the "Christians" that cheat on their spouse or divorce their spouse 🤔 so which is the bigger "sin" there 🤔
Don't drag that in lol it weakens your stance. And common law marriage is pretty rare now. The only important thing is--the Scripture doesn't actually condemn singles having sex. People who push that rely 100% on the lie that "fornication" in the KJV means sex outside of marriage when it truly means "sexual sin" including having sex during periods.
Oh yes, sex itself is definitely not a sin nor shameful.
But we we can all agree that cheaters are sinners and are very much well deserving of shame.
The thing about cheating is it's 99% preventable, but people still do it.
It's ridiculous.
Couldn't agree more
Quite right, Brains
Thanks 🤗🌹💜
You’re welcome...
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Sex can be anything!
It can be beautiful loving and caring
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a nightmare of being held down and broodily raped!
Yes I know that. And anyone that does that is more than just a pervert, they're a rapist. But see this was about sex between two legal consenting adults.
I value all opinions, whether I agree or not I appreciate this mytake and it’s very eye opening for me. I appreciate you and keep it up. 😊
Thank you 💜🙂
I waited until I was married. To each their own but that's what worked for me
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Thank you so much for writing this! It is a relief on this site to find some writing that is sex positive! Have sex and enjoy it! Be safe and fall in love guys. I really like your comments and a lot of your thoughts.
Thanks!
A lot of people make fun of tradition and old-fashioned values and make fun of the way our ancestors were so repressed and so fearful of sex. But notice how the more sexually liberated and tolerant we become, all these other problems seem to come with it. STD's are skyrocketing beyond all proportion in the population, literally more people have an STD now than don't, some groups and demographics are not just over 50%, they're over 75%. Women aged 35-50, that's a MONSTROUS swathe of people and over three quarters of them have an incurable sexually transmitted disease. Look at the explosive rise in transgenderism, more and more kids, younger and younger, manifesting gender dysphoria which was so rare as to be almost unheard of a few generations ago. Along with that, look at the skyrocketing suicide rates and the way CHILD suicide rates have tripled in just the last 20 years, a single generation. They keep telling us that we're progressing, but why are so many things getting so much worse? What exactly are we progressing towards? Why does it look like the only place we're going is up to the edge of a pit, and over it?
What all our ancient traditions really are is solutions to problems that people have forgotten exist. So you take away the solution, all of a sudden the problems start coming back. All of a sudden the way our ancestors used to devote so much energy to repressing people's sexuality starts to make more sense. Suddenly we realize they had GOOD reasons for their attitude, they weren't just being crazy for the fuck of it.
Sex itself isn't the issue. It's people that are ruining it with the marriage is bad concept, hook-ups, friends with benefits culture. Repressing one's sexuality isn't the answer. It's sharing it the way it was meant to be a way to show, share love and intimacy with your husband/man... Raising children to believe all sex is a sin, or masturbation is a sin/self rape, when they should be teaching sex is something you don't give to just anyone, should wait till marriage, wait till you're an adult to have sex. The internet with the nudes, and people promoting/justifying sexting and sharing nudes with strangers, that's not sending the right message to kids either
Maybe you have to try to repress 100% of sex in order to only actually repress 50%, whereas if you tried to only repress 50%, you'd end up repressing 0%.
You know, like negotiating the price of a car, you have to shoot PAST your target and then make the other side haggle it back to where you really wanted.
Got any links for that std prevalence? I had trouble finding data on all of america.
@Boppy Did you try the CDC?
Disagree as a catholic they teach you premarital sex is a SIN!!! Just ask the dioceses. My cousin is a paid prostitute and she has bad depression, low self esteem, high blood pressure. And for many women it makes you feel guilty! I for one am VERY happy being a virgin, what you are saying if you get raped it will make you happy, low blood pressure, no depression, come on really? It can lead to health issues and stress if you get a disease!
Who said raped? I sure the hell didn't... This was about consentual sex... And for me, sex in a committed relationship... Don't put words on me I didn't say, thanks
I wasn't putting words in your mouth I was giving another intake and look, I know you said consensual. Don't take things the wrong way, thanks!!
So you didn't say:
"what you are saying if you get raped it will make you happy, low blood pressure, no depression, come on really? "
And nope wasn't saying that at all... This had nothing to do with rape, already did a take about victims of abuse:
"Victim Blaming" Why Do Some People Have This Blame The Victim Mindset? ↗
Well I am sorry I was raped as a kid growing up by my uncle up until I was 20. So sorry, I worded it wrong, I didn't mean to come off that way!
Sorry to hear that!
The entire concept of sin is just sheer nonsense in my view anyway. It's an archaic, silly concept that was designed by horrible, grumpy people to control the behaviour of others because they themselves weren't finding any enjoyment in their miserable lives.
Yes, this was very beautifully written and I agree that sex shouldn't be seen as a sin and I believe the same for masturbating or self-pleasure, parents shouldn't yell or punish their youth for self-pleasure.. When I have a woman in my life I want clean loving sex I don't want to have anal sex and I believe oral sex should be a mutual thing between 2 couples but If I had a woman who wasn't into it that would be fine with me when I love a woman I want her to feel appreciated no matter what we do and when we have sex I want to kiss and hug her as well cause I want show her that I'm not there just for the sex we have together and I believe in unconditional love
Very nice answer
@brainsbeforebeauty Thank you
I say the same thing! Everyone who is into sex is a pervert! We all have that side. And I don't think it's bad, as long as you are with a partner who is into the same things you are, and nobody does something that they don't want. As long as you do it not to hurt anyone and are responsible about it I don't see a problem
Right!!
No, not at all. And the body is not a source of sin. People still act like a naked body is the mark of Satan. I'm not into public displays or anything like that, but there's still a strong taboo surrounding the body in our culture.
True!!
Thats a great take tbh and thanks for saying that outloud coz i also believe the same
Sex was never a sin in the Bible, but sexual immorality is.
1 Corinthians 6:18 (KJV) Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.
Sex and the concept of sin are used as a means of social control.
The Bible is very clear about sex outside of marriage, but the question that needs to be asked is why?
I believe, after a lot of thought, that to control a population the concept of sin and a need for 'salvation' had to be planted into their minds.
Aside from survival, the strongest drive that we have is to reproduce, or what is called simply sex.
Nobody could control a population by telling them that self preservation was a sin, so the next best choice was to set rules around sex and declare that sex outside of those parameters was a Hell-worthy sin.
It should also be noted that STDs were rampant in the Middle East, so telling people to keep it in their pants until after marriage and then confining one's sexual encounters to that one marital partner makes sense, as a public health measure.
As a means for creating a civilisation and encouraging its progress post-Reformation Christianity has worked better than anything else on the historical record, at least to date.
When I was younger, I did things sexually that would horrify, or titillate, those in this place.
Some of the stories that I could tell would probably not be believed by many. Nonetheless, they are true.
After being a near incel until the age of 30, between the ages of 30 and 40 I went through a wild period during which I met many horny and perverted women who wanted to have their way with me.
What a strange irony that I have been alone and humping my pillow for the past 20 years.
I am still open to the idea of a female partner, but that appears to be an impossible dream.
Love This Answer!!! I've Always Said That Control Mongers of Society and Religion Needed Ways to Have Control Over People and Used Sex And The Concept Of Sin As One Of Their Means Of Social Control.
A sin, eh. Not being religious the sin part loses me from the onset. I do however always get a kick out of my name being mixed with Deity and off color language... not to mention the other primal sound effects which emanate.
😂😂 right... Just like I love bring called a slut or whore even tho ain't even having sex 🤣
*being
A close friend of mine admitted she really liked being called the same as well in the same context.
Sex isn’t a sin or shameful when done in the context of marriage. All other sex is in fact a sin and shameful.
Scripture warns repeatedly about fornication, which Is sex outside of marriage. For example here:
“Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.”
1 Corinthians 6:18 KJV
And warns that fornicators, that is people who habitually fornicate and do not repent will not go to heaven here and in other places:
“Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.”
Galatians 5:19-21 KJV
This is not an exhaustive list, but other examples of sexual sin can be found in Leviticus chapter 18, some of which prohibits homosexuality, sex with animals, and sex with certain blood relations.
Here Jesus condemned adultery as well as looking with lust upon women (who you’re not married to of course), and this would include fantasizing:
“Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.”
Matthew 5:27-28 KJV
I cannot say masturbation is a sin, but can say based on this scripture pornography and fantasizing are in regards to people you’re not married to.
Elsewhere scripture encourages sex between married couples, it in fact they’re commanded to have sex and sex between married persons is celebrated in the Old Testament in Song of Solomon. So with sex within marriage there is no sin or reason for shame and in fact the Bible promotes and celebrates it, but in all other cases it is sin and a cause for shame.
Maybe if you came once in awhile you wouldn't be so uptight. You should porn. My favorite actress is Abella Danger. Check her out sometime sis you'll thank me😉😉
I’ll stick with my wife whose my own personal porn star. Thanks 😉😉
Ah ah ahhhhhh porn is a sim Mr. Don't call your wife a pornstar. God is watching
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You’re funny.
do you feel men should also wait or just women?
For marriage? Everyone should. That’s what the Bible says.