Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
I hear women often ask the question
Am I a slut?
Well let's get something straight, this is a topic I've wanted to write about for a while due to the overuse and misuse of the term.
To answer that question we must first answer the main question.
What is a slut?
According to Oxford dictionary a slut is
A woman who has many casual sexual partners.
Now if being a slut is an act than how could someone dress sluty?
From what the media tells us it is to dress provocatively.
This looks fine to me and so does this.
The clothes you wear do not make you promiscuous, it is the actions you take that do. So calling clothes "slutty" makes no sense.
Lastly I will talk about slut shaming and relationships.
Why do women hate sluts?
Simple, because they aren't getting any and are jealous.
They may claim to have the moral high ground and what not but at the end of the day they are just jealous because they can't get a guy.
If you want sex than do something that will make you look better than the other girl or at the very least be more outgoing and confident than you currently are. Guys always want an attractive and confident girl.
Sex is not only with the person you love but something you do for fun
Now for those of you that claim that you're waiting for Mr. Right to take your virginity and that is why you look down on sluts. I've got news for you. Sex is no longer about love and respect and whatever else you think it is about. It is about having fun and enjoying yourself. It is very unlikely that you will find someone in this day and age that wants a loving relationship with very little sex. Those who claim they do, most likely say that because they can't get it anywhere else so they have to wait for you to give it to them.
Sex should not be seen as something sacred because it isn't. It is a physical act between two consenting indivuduals. If you keep claiming that it is you will never find a guy that will want to be with you since all relationships require it. Some require more than others based on the sexual needs of each individual.
So go out there and try to meet someone. Whether it be just for sex or for a relationship.
Life's too short to be constantly judging people who are happy. Instead go find your own happiness.
What Girls & Guys Said
41 39Just because someone fucks a lot of men, doesn't mean they get a bunch of sti's. GET THAT THROUGH YOUR THICK SQUARE HEADS
Lolol
Awesome take, slut shaming shouldn't be a thing
Thanks
In the second pic of girls they may not be sluts, but they surely are horny teens who don't know how to use makeup xD
About the dress, if you don't know you can look it up and see that prostitutes dressed in a special way in last centuries that the style of these girls look exactly like them. In other words you would see this kind of clothing and bad makeups and hair only on prostitutes some times ago. Now you see it on teenage girls. Is that an advance? In your dreams maybe.
This is gonna be Ad Hominem at its highest but,
It'd be nice to see who's behind those strong thoughts buddy.
Always said this, and always will,
if you don't voice your opinion publicly, it means you don't believe in it strong enough.
I'm working on another myTake it will cover everything I said in more detail, answer the main questions and you will be able to see who I am. Me being anonymous does not mean I do not strongly believe this, it means I value my privacy.
I hate how the whole slut thing only applies to girls? why is that?
shitty double standard.
There are man hoes too. Right on girl
I Have Never Applied The Term Slut To Only Women, Guys Can Have Mutiple Casual Sex Partners Too, I Have Always Said They Are A Slut. Pinning Such Names On Only Women And Not Men Who Do The Exact Same Thing Is Wrong.
Because all guys are sluts duh ;)
... or would be if they could. I know it's not 100% true, but... you know.
the term fuckboy is slowly becoming the male version of Slut "a male with whom a person has sex, but there is no potential for a closer relationship"
"Now for those of you that claim that you're waiting for Mr. Right to take your virginity and that is why you look down on sluts. I've got news for you. Sex is no longer about love and respect and whatever else you think it is about. It is about having fun and enjoying yourself. It is very unlikely that you will find someone in this day and age that wants a loving relationship with very little sex. Those who claim they do, most likely say that because they can't get it anywhere else so they have to wait for you to give it to them."
That isn't true at all. I get offers for sex from really hot guys often, I turn it down because sex is more than getting off to me. I was in a seriously relationship with a very attractive guy who was super horny, but a virgin by choice. So it does happen.
I don't slut shame for 2 reasons, 1. It makes it easier for me to get laid, and encourages women to have sex 2. I believe anybody should be able to do anything they want regardless of the activity or gender, the way I see it, is it doesn't affect me so I don't care
Eggs-actly!
Real talk, every bro in the world should support this movement cause it makes getting action easier m/ more frequent
ladies i just want to say that this is all his opinion and not the rest of the males.
you WILL be judged if you dress slutty or have causal sex with a lot of partners.
and to the asker: who the fuck are you to say "I've got news for you. Sex is no longer about love and respect and whatever else you think it is about." who the fuck lied to you and said you are the authority of this shit.
This is the most ignorant, nonsensical thing I have read here all day.
best take evah! seriously, there are so many guys and girls who slut-shame and then show clear sign of sexual frustration in Gag, it even became annoying! It also makes Gagers look like losers. "Oh, sex and attraction are so slutty things to do! i am SO superior by being alone all the time and not having any interaction with the other gender!"
I don't give a fuck about "slut-shaming" I'm still not going to be dating any whores. It's been proven that women with a high count of sexual partners are less likely to have stable relationships and more likely to get divorced. Plus I just find it extremely distasteful.
So you would only go for a virgin than? You know most girls sleep around these days it's normal. You should do it too, you'll like it.
It is against my beliefs to do such
Can you explain the reasoning behind these beliefs?
Well, honestly I think it has to do with having children more than anything. You see, I believe only married couples should engage in sex. What would happen if a man impregnates his wife? Nothing, they celebrate their new child and prepare themselves for a family. What happens if a man impregnates a woman he doesn't really know? Well, she could get an abortion or they could they could try to have a family (which seems to end up being dysfunctional a lot of the time) or the father will be nowhere to be found and the mother raises a child alone. None of those sound like good situations to be in, for either parent and especially the child. Children need positive female and male figures in their lives to develop healthily on an emotional level. Men do still provide a big role in the family as the providers, more than people like to acknowledge I think. But if the couple is married it assures that there will be someone there to help raise the child and take care of the mother as well.
Interesting, funny thing is that is the exact argument that I heard against adultery. Not that I'm for adultery. The one flaw that I see in this reasoning is that you see sex as only a means of procreation however there may be an incompatibility between you and your future wife's sexual desires and performance. This may lead to a break up if you are unable to satisfy her sexually.
That's why you need to communicate your needs in a relationship and you won't be having sex solely to have children, you will definitely have sex for your enjoyment. But if you accidentally procreate, it's not as big of a stressor. What's the argument for adultery?
I see I just think it would be better to have more experience with other people since you could apply that knowledge later and get your future spouse to try new things that you're already good at. The reason I mentioned adultery is because I remember watching a video by Prager University on why adultery is bad and their reason for it was the possibility of having illegitimate children. Which is similar to your view of children without a father.
Yeah, having an illegitimate child is bad. Shouldn't really need a reason not to cheat on your SO other than it will hurt their feelings honestly.
Personally I'm not into monogamous relationships. I'll probably write a myTake about it when I have the chance. I believe there are 2 types of love when it comes to women: Love for their body and love for their personality. Most women would say these are mutually inclusive but I think that they are separate since I can like a woman for one but not the other.
Plenty of hot chicks with bad attitudes. Plenty of ugly girls that are super nice. Gotta find a hot girl that is super nice.
Yeah I've sleep with girls on the first date most the times and I never judged them for it
I actually think they are really into me when that happens.
One of the best takes I've read in a long time :) thanks :)
depends. i think we still have the double standard of female sexuality.
You must be a slut!!! Why do you feel you need to defend
Or a loner who can't get laid so he thinks making this will make the sluts come running to him for sex.
Yes probably never been laid
I think that it depends. I mean that being a slut is not just having sex with one or more people but also by doing what ever it takes to have sex. I mean wearing a shirt that says titties across it or a boobies wristband is to me looking for attention. Acting like she wants sex and talks sexually to every man she sees is slutty. but looking her best to me is not being a slut or combing her hair or leaving it a mess is not a slut. wearing earings is not slutty.
Nothing wrong with wanting sex, it is just an urge we must fulfil. Some are more desperate than others but it is not your place to judge their life decisions.
This is horrible & such a sad & irresponsible way to live.
If you cannot see yourself raising a child with the person, then you should not be sleeping with them. It's just that simple.
Sex is not only about pleasure, it is a means of reproduction as well. It's sad careless people never take children into account when living recklessly.
Well you should read my next myTake. It covers this in more detail and talks about contraception.
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a11552-a-sociosexually-unrestricted-view-of-sex-relationships
I already know I do not need to read your next Take if you really believe contraception is always effective in preventing pregnancies.
Antibiotics will void the effectiveness of birth control, resulting in a more than likely chance of getting pregnant.
www.walgreens.com/.../questionandanswer.jsp
No woman is a slut. I believe every woman has the desire deep down to love just one man, but she can be deceived into believing the satisfaction that sex brings, can help her to find that. It is not true. Life is difficult. Abstaining from sex is hard, and sorting through men is even harder. Trust your instincts.
A person can love more than one other person.
Check out my next myTake I explain it under polyamory.
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a11552-a-sociosexually-unrestricted-view-of-sex-relationships
I wouldn't want someone who loved anyone other than me.
Horrible article. Women and girls please don't take this advice. The author did try to touch upon some important aspects but he got it all wrong as his reasoning is all wrong. If you run around having casual sex as a replacement for meaningful relationship then you won't be happy and only much more miserable. There are sluts out there, there are respectable women and also respectable women who have casual sex but these three are three very different kinds of people.
Nice. Amusing and informative.
Could you help on mine? Is this female friend a slut? www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1623417-why-do-i-suddenly-feel-sexual-desire-for-this-friend-why-is-she
Thanks I just answered it. I'm the first guy that wrote an answer.