Society's Fake Standards: Why do we still follow them?

[honeybones]

"We are finally breaking out of beauty standards and 2015 may be the start of a new year in which we embrace everyone"

WRONG!

Recently I was reading an article on what being small chested was like (as a 34B cup girl weighing 113 pounds and being about 5' tall) I am what's considered flat chested? But am I really? No... I'm not I look extremely well proportioned.

Regardless this article from cosmopolitan went on to saying that "small" chested women craved attention to their breast because apparently we never get any... In that moment I was like, "EXCUSE ME?!"

My boyfriend of two years loves my boobies... It also went on to say that we hate boob men... My boyfriend is a boob guy and he LOVES my boobs... In fact he hates big massive fake tits.

WHY ARE BOOBS (A, B, and now ridiculously C cups) considered small?

1. What makes defines your boobs as small is your band size and not so much the cup.

2. No one ever looks at proportion.

A skinny girl or some underweight girls cannot have gigantic tits out of nowhere. Also being "petite" which really means short...and being thin or at an appropriate weight if you are proportionate you having big boobs really looks terrible.

The girl here is lovely, but if her breast are fake (I doubt) they look out of proportion. She looks out of proportion and top heavy.

The girls here are proportionate, they're skinny, but you can't expect them to have gargantuan breast.

These girls are proportionate, the first girl is a bit too skinny but her breast also reflect that... The second girl is at the perfect weight and although many people would probably consider her breast small are they really small on her? No, they're medium sized breast on her.

This person looked lovely without her boob job, but now notice how she instantly looks top heavy... She looked in proportion with her body's weight?, but she was a victim to what society wants.

Many men have said they don't like fake breast... The look might be appealing but not the feel.

One of the things I find grossest is when breast jobs are overdone.

Another craze has been the need for ASS! ASS. ASS.

The number of women who have undergone risky surgeries to get bubble butts to the extreme have sky rocketed... Brazilian butt lifts are the hottest thing right now and many celeberties sport them.

A lot of women try to justify their actions by saying that they're doing it for a man. If you feel pressured by a guy to change yourself you're clearly not meant to be. A lot of women also claim that its alright for their guy to watch porn... After all he desires you... Really? He desires you but he's jacking off to women that look nothing like you? Don't be fooled... Watching porn just for the act doesn't cut it... If a guy was really into you he would go and do you... Same goes for women.

Regardless and going back to the main point, these standards are so fake and highly impossible... I think we should focus more on what looks nice and makes us proportionate in our bodies... And one more thing... Big boobs and an ass on a short person isn't the best look... You look stout and just like a very messed up pony.

If you want a big butt, workout, but do it for yourself, if you want that six pack work out for that! Don't push yourself over the limit. And remember proportions are important, so if you look better with something because you have a small frame stay like that, because many of these women only have "BIG BOONS AMD BUTTS ARE A MUST HAVE", but they don't realize that maybe that won't look good with them because of how they are build and its true, nobody is truly the same.

So women stop blaming men... So what if they supposedly started the trend, why follow them? After all you have the power over yourself, and as for guys don't ask a girl for something impossible... And if a chick asks you to change, clearly they're not meant for you. Because not every guy looks nice with a six pack...

Beauty always lies in the eye of its beholder and you have to learn to love yourself before you love someone else... So don't be lustful because nothing lasts forever.

[Anonymous]

Oh, so if you naturally have big boobs and can't help it, people oike you will just shame and think you have fake boobs and look bad since you are unproportionate. And the girl with purple hair with bangs, looks like ger boobs are real. They may ve big, but doesn't bean they are fake.
There are women that have big boobs. NATURALLY. Yeah their top look heavier, it doesn't mean they look bad. You are preaching about loving yourself the way you are but you are also saying that you'll look bad if you have big boobs. So stupid.

[honeybones]

The girl with blue hair is a porn star and her breast are fake... One, I never said to be ashamed if you had Natural big breast because you can't help that... I said people that want Fake boobs and looks better think about how they will look cause what can you fucking do if you have them naturally? Nothing... And really attacking me anonymously... How mature...

[honeybones]

If you look too heavy do something and dress up to balance yourself out... Not everyone is going to look bad top heavy but NORMAL people that don't have tiny waist and are top heavy dont look that great... They need to learn what to wear to balance themselves out while enhancing their other assets... Yeah embrace yourself but know how also this is going out to people who can't see proportion and only have a focus on big boobs and butts... This is about what society wants that doesn't really occur in nature as often...

[honeybones]

And no "People like me" won't think they're fake because fake boobs are extremely obvious due to their unnatural roundness and lift... Normal breast including mine and yours sag... They sag... Maybe not dramatically but unless if you do hxc pectoral exercises they sag.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm not attacking anyone. I'm giving my honest and blunt opinion. Anonymous, who cares? You are not anonymous but I still don't know shit about you based on your profile and koala picture. How mature, not accepting criticism... ofcourse normal boobs sag a little, but most women wear bras. You can't always know if one has fake boobs or just push-ups. And yes, there are good push ups for very large breasts. And some fake boobs don't even look that fake before you see that person completely topless. And I know you never said anything about natural large breasts, but you did basicly say that if your boobs are big, you are heavier on the top, you look unproportionate -> you don't look as good as you think. And again, you might just be judging a naturally large breasted woman with push-ups.

[honeybones]

If you read back what I said I said if you were super short like below 5 feet and you were proportionate in everything else and you wanted to get or had big boobs it made you look disproportionate this mytake is directed to people who feel insecure and want to get surgeries to be like celebs whose proportions don't match up to theirs and in fact make them and the person planning to do this look bad. Also you weren't giving much constructive criticism because "so stupid" isn't helpful and what koala picture?

[Opinion Owner]

But why shame people who get breast implants? Or those who want to. It's not always about insecurities or pleasing somebody else. People dye their hair, get shaping underwear etc. We like different things and looks and some like to look top heavy. Is breast reduction as bad as a surgery? Both surgeries can actually boost confidence. Maybe some short chick will love her new big boobs. I don't know but you didn't have that profile picture last time I checked. So now I wasn't giving any constructive criticism as I said that this whole issue is stupid?

[honeybones]

Look everyone is entitled to their own opinion but you're really missing the point. I'm not shaming anybody really... This mytake is directed to all those girls on here saying "my boyfriend looks at porn with women with giant tits" or "my boyfriend wants me to have bigger boobs " or "are my boobs too small". Also how can someone be confident with something that's not even theirs... I know they can be, but I just don't see the point in being fake but yeah it does help them out.. Maybe try to re read what I said...

[Opinion Owner]

I know the purpose of this take and I understand what you meant, but your words may hurt other people. I know you meant good but you may not realize that what you said can be taken in a different way. I assumed there were no exceptions, just that big boobs make you look bad. Maybe you should re read your text.

[QuestionMan]

"A lot of women also claim that its alright for their guy to watch porn... After all he desires you... Really? He desires you but he's jacking off to women that look nothing like you? Don't be fooled... Watching porn just for the act doesn't cut it... If a guy was really into you he would go and do you... Same goes for women. "

A man can find other women attractive but not go for them. Plus what else is a guy supposed to do if a girl isn't having sex with him. Wait?

[honeybones]

Yeah if someone isn't pleasing then you're entitled but if not then no.. That's rude :/

[honeybones]

Well true but I find that to be unfaithful but everyone is in charge of their actions :)

[QuestionMan]

It's unfaithful to deal with your urges? Men tend to be on average more horny than women so instead of raping them which I think is wrong, men have come up with an alternative that works for everybody. Men get their release and women don't have to have sex if they don't want to.

[honeybones]

It's unfaithful when you're getting your pleasures fulfilled but if not its alright ig...

[QuestionMan]

Your comment got cut off. As I said it's either the guy gets as much sex as he wants which women aren't always up for or he gets an alternative release. Which would you prefer? If your boyfriend was horny and you weren't should he rape you? Otherwise it would be "unfaithful".

[tinyclit]

With you all the way, except for your fallacious remarks concerning porn. You should have left that unnecessary diversion out.

[honeybones]

I know I realized it too late :/

[NearlyNapping]

This same debate has been going on forever. As long as I remember anyway. It's nothing new. People always complain about it. They complain about how society pressures girls to look a certain way. They complain about celebrities and their influence. They argue whether women do it for themselves or for men.

The men say they want natural, yet are still attracted to women who aren't. There really was a trend in the late 60s and early 70s of women with little to no makeup, and little to no styling of their hair. But it didn't last long and was right back to makeup, only it was makeup attempting to look "natural" - isn't natural makeup an oxymoron?

But women continue putting on makeup. They continue getting too skinny and thinking they are fat. And while boob jobs might be fairly new, push ups and other bras to show off boobs have been around for ages. Or go the cheap route and stuff the bra. It might be done with surgery now, but it's still the same thing.

I have no idea who to "blame". I just know it's nothing new. The girls doing it is nothing new. And the argument against doing it is nothing new. This article could have been written 40 years ago and not be out of place. Nothing has changed. Only the women can change it for themselves, one at a time. Because the public debate seems to go nowhere.

[Ярило]

I understand your point, but
"being thin or at an appropriate weight if you are proportionate you having big boobs really looks terrible."
"She looks out of proportion and top heavy. "
Kind of makes me feel like shit about my naturally bigger chest, and no, I'm not overweight, my boobs have always been naturally bigger no matter what weight I've been. I know your intention isn't to shame anyone, but saying being out of proportion looks terrible kind of defeats the purpose.

[bryon]

In all honesty I can't wait for one of these celebrity skanks to go get a square tit make over !!! not won't that be refreshing !!! shhhhhhhhit

[mangaka92]

Society didn't do anything to anyone. Society's not forcing anyone to be something they're not. In the end, you're still the person that walks into the doctors office for surgery and no one is closing the doors behind you.

However... the girl on the left in the first picture... I actually think she looks great. But, again, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. What looks proportionate to me doesn't to everyone.

[fauchelevent]

I dunno, maybe stop putting everything women do down to society's standards and realise sometimes women do these things for themselves :/

[JuicyBrain]

I agree with almost everything.

"A lot of women also claim that its alright for their guy to watch porn
Really? He desires you but he's jacking off to women that look nothing like you?
If a guy was really into you he would go and do you..."
...
"So women stop blaming men..."

Huh?

We watch porn for the same reason women read erotic literature. Have you read 50 shades of grey? Then stop bothering guys with porn.

[honeybones]

I've never read that. XD I have my fiancé so I'm good. 💙

[findingdreamland]

i f* society s fake standards
yeah that is what I feel exactly for them

[Lolomon]

uugh, peeple aren't seeing this person point. She is making the point of loving yourself. Plus, plastic surgery of any kind puts stress on your body and causes future health problems that is proven ask a plastic surgeon who isn't out for your money. We aren't made for cutting up, injecting fake things into our body. What this person means is men dont have beauty standards to meet. Men aren't sexually objectified like women, BUT women play into it. Beauty standards will never change , unless women make them change until then they will remain the same.

[honeybones]

Thank you ! Someone sees my point!

[honeybones]

Men aren't sexualized so much in society but do have their worries and its crazy how women play along with what "men" want because they probably want it too and then when they start their own trends its just crazy... Thanks for getting my point... My first mytake and everyone hates it.. I should've written it more short and simple since no one is getting the point. -.-"

[RexCatholicissimus]

You're not gonna find too many guys that are gonna have an issue with your boobs if they proportionally fit the rest of your body (which they usually do by default).

It's not even a fetish or an obscure interest, they're just boobs at the end of the day, it's really not something I put a whole lot of stock into when I think about a potential girlfriend.

[BertMacklinFBI]

im sure most people have the brain power to realize they can strive even further in life NOT conforming to societal bullshit.

for the record, that short girl in the first one is fucking hot.

[honeybones]

Did I say she was ugly?

[BertMacklinFBI]

you didn't, im just speaking my mind hahaa.

[honeybones]

I'm sorry, its just a lot of people aren't seeing my point /.\ I did this mytake because everyone on here is always asking these kinds of questions about their breast about their butts but mostly about their breast... I'm trying to explain that people need to stop being so influenced by society's standards because they're made that ways so that people have more surgery because they know the new standard is uncontainable naturally and that very few women have it naturally or obtain it through exercise. Also I agree people shouldn't buy into it but they do

[BertMacklinFBI]

no need to apologize, and yeah I totally get where you're coming from. unfortunately the satisfaction is worth it to the people who conform.

[honeybones]

Yeah it is for them :/ Nah I just feel really discouraged in writing another mytake because people here can be so rude... No one is really seeing my point except for you and two other girls here.

[BertMacklinFBI]

fuck what other people think. if writing more takes is something you want to do then I implore you to continue with pride.

[honeybones]

Okay :)

[Ligerzzero]

Because all your movie starts, celebrities, reality tv shows, all promote you half to look thin/fit/ breast implants, plastic surgery, over and over, and it’s become a part of society all over the world, and that standard is only being pushed more and more, not just by men, but equally if not more heavily pushed by women who have had it all done, and women want to look just like them.

[zombiebabe]

well the girl in the 3rd pic on the right and the girl in the 4th pic have used contouring to make their boobs look bigger.. but yea... being fake ain't good its like false advertising

[abundantlyrich]

The people who get these things added in their bodies are the ones whho has to answer to is themselves when their healthy is in jeopardy. Its not my concern. 😞

[Eternallylucky]

They are too caught up with what others think of them.

[kittykatbrat]

Me = almost completely flat chested + part time model = totally cool by me :)

[Dipsy]

Nothing can and will ever beat a fully natural woman, no matter the size of things. I dont want a artificially modified women, i want a natural one. Nobody is perfect, everybody has flaws and imperfections, which makes them perfect for me.

Most guys don't want fully "perfect"-sized women. They love a women for who thet are, not for the size of things.

[creepycreeper]

Honestly it is mostly women doing all this fake shit, getting illegal ass injections, worshiping fake celebrities like Bruclynn Jennashian and his family full of circus freaks. Men don't care about those celebrities nor do we like fake boobs or care about fake eyelashes or fake nails or any of that garbage. This is all women, you can't blame us men for promoting that shit, most of us think it is nasty as fuck.

[checkyesjulietx]

"She looks out of proportion and top heavy."
"the first girl is a bit too skinny"

You just contradicted yourself big time. Criticizing society's 'fake standards; while also casually passing your judgment about girls' bodies based on your standards. congrats x

[Bards]

You should have used other examples of fake asses for women because the regular ones who get it done, they dont look as good as Nicki's. They look like full diapers.

[honeybones]

True :/