My Experience of Stepping Outside the Marriage...

[Anonymous]

Let me begin by saying I love my husband dearly. You may think that's not possible but it's true. I cannot imagine being married to anyone but him. With that, over the last two years, I've had oral sex with nine different men. My husband is unaware this is occurring.

A little background on me: I was overweight most of my life (now I'm what is labeled "curvy", or as my husband says is "perfect"). As such I didn't have any attention from men until I lost some weight my senior year of college, and then I didn't date because I was too busy trying to graduate. It wasn't until my next year at 24 working on my masters when I met my soon to be husband that I actually had my first date, first kiss, and first sexual encounter. Until a few years ago all sexual activity in my life came through him, and I loved it. I loved exploring myself with him and through him. I loved learning about myself and about him as we did it together.

I also was crazy about the fact that he was crazy about me. I spent the vast majority of my life feeling very ugly and unwanted. Although I was always told I was cute, it was always met with "if you lost thirty-forty pounds". It made me feel worthless. But then he shows up - tall, great hair, beautiful smile, broad shoulders. And he is chasing ME, not the other way around. He pampers me, treats me wonderfully, and the love and desire he has for me is evident whenever I look into his eyes. It's no wonder our sex life is off the charts.

Things changed several years ago. My husband's father was diagnosed with brain cancer. This floored my husband. His father was everything to him; he was his best man at our wedding, his baseball coach for most of his life, and essentially his best friend forever. Everyday he would go to the house to help his mother before and after work. It drained him, mentally and physically, and took a toll on our marriage. Our sex life suffered. We went from 5-6 nights a week (really. Most think I'm lying but this is a fact) to once every two weeks at best. I missed the sex, I missed the intimacy. I missed HIM.

I made a bad decision that changed my life. I was at the grocery store during this ordeal. A man was following me. It was noticeable because he was going down the same aisles I was yet his cart only had one item in it. He was a good looking man, mid to late fifties, and I smiled at him. He struck up a conversation and we talked the rest of my shopping, with him by my side the entire way. He didn't buy anything, just kept walking and talking with me. It felt wonderful.

We walked out and he asked for my number. I have him a fake one, and thought I'd never see him again. But when we made it outside , it was pouring down rain. He grabbed my cart and said his car was parked up front, we can put my groceries in there until the rain goes away. Then he ran off. I followed and in minutes we were both sitting in his SUV wet, laughing. It only took a few seconds before he moved in to kiss me. After some making out and heavy petting he wanted to go back to his place for sex. I knew I didn't want to do that, I couldn't do that to my husband, but I did want to please him. So I unzipped his pants and gave him a blow job.

I felt so alive and amazing. When we finished he helped me pack my groceries into my car, kissed me deeply in the parking lot like he was my lover, then squeezed my butt and said he'd call me. Of course he couldn't , and I never saw him again.

But the rush, the excitement, I knew I wanted to do that again! And the orgasm I felt when I went home and masturbated was almost out of this world! So I have. I've done it many different times with many different men. One man , I guess you can say is a steady, I've met four times . And he's the only one I've let finger me.

Things have returned to normal with my husband. His father passed, and he resumed his normal life. Our sex life is back to normal levels somewhat, but that hasn't stopped me from seeing other men for oral. It's such a tempting treat. I know many of you will think negatively of me. That's your right I suppose. But I've found something that was missing, and I don't want to let it go.

[BCRanger10]

First of all, I seriously doubt that this story is true. Cheating on your husband because your sex life decreases because he is tending to his father suffering from brain cancer after you having complained about not getting enough attention? I find that to be "mildly" ridiculous.

Second, IF it is true (again, doubtful), what do you want to get out of telling the internet? Sympathy? Validation? From. The. Internet?

Third, IF it is true (again... oh, why bother?), you didn't "miss HIM". You missed what you got from him. You were using him. You need to re-evaluate what's going on here and stop seeing these other guys. Do you seriously think that just because you had a few extra pounds earlier on that you have a valid excuse for cheating on your husband, the man to whom you swore yourself for the rest of your life, heart, mind, soul, and... wait for it... body? Okay, so the only sexual activity you ever had was with him. What's so wrong with that? Granted, this speaks more to a problem with the culture than anything else (no lies, I one time saw a post here that said your sexuality is "too valuable" to give to only one person) but that's another discussion.

Now I don't point these things out to be hateful or judgmental. For the last time, I think this is a troll story. However, if it's not, I just want to give you a few things to think about as you make different choices going forward and leave this double-life behind. Which you should. Step up to the plate, admit you were and are wrong about this whole mess, and commit yourself to your husband completely and freely, just like you promised you would when you married him.

[YourFutureEx]

Outstanding post.

[GirlNextBored]

I rarely comment on myTakes, because I never see the point in it. But this... this is appalling.
Cheating at all is reprehensible, but doing so because you were pouting when your husband was behaving like a good son should and tried helping care for his father and wasn't there to treat you like a princess? THAT is the moment when you decide to cheat? And you tell the world "This is what I've been missing. Destroying the man who's been everything to me."
I don't know your husband - but I do know he deserves so much better than you

[Somewhat_Normal]

Lol I wish myTakes had a downvote buttons like comments, this would be the ultimate shitshow
Seriously, that's fucked up. You don't 'love your husband dearly' because if you did, none of that would've happened. You would've been there for him in his time of need and not resorted to cheating, and to make it worse it's a pathetic excuse.
'Hurr durr, my husband's emotionally distressed and drained because his dad died, lemme cheat hurr durr'
And to top it all off, you STILL do it. Even though you say he's back to normal. You don't deserve him. And he doesn't deserve you, he deserves better.

[Markm3212]

ITS NA TROLL POST... leave it where it belongs in the waste bin and move on, they have not responded back to any comments.

NO ONE is this sick, its just some guy who hasn't got enough enough cock to suck as he is too fat and they are turning him down in public toilets...

[Nanaki000]

Your husband deserves better, not someone like you. You said that you love him dearly? That's definitely a lie. You shouldn't hurt him like this. He totally don't deserve this.

[estoydorado1]

So your husband who's treated you like royalty loses his father and lifelong best friend and you decide to suck off a bunch of strangers because you felt "lonely"?

So sorry to hear your father in law's brain cancer and subsequent death drove you to cheat. Your husband's grief must've been such an inconvenience..😒

[fabulouspancakes]

I honestly don't think this story is true. But, pretending it is, my thoughts are...
Most humans aren't naturally monogamous. It's very normal to desire other people. However, you have to think how you would feel if you discovered your husband was doing the same thing. Could you forgive him? Maybe talk about an open marriage? If not, that's unfair.

[DaniaMQ]

"I really love my husband dearly" but you're cheating on him even after things are back to normal...
he was the one to love you for you when others didn't yet you go and cheat on him. Honestly what you are doing is so selfish. You're only thinking of yourself, your desires. You didn't think about him, what he did for you or even the love he gave you. He doesn't deserve this AT ALL. No one does. If you say you love him then damn act like it. If he's an incredible guy (which seems true from what you wrote) then treat him like your king rather than sleeping around to feed your desires from other men. If there's a problem in your marriage life you go and you talk to him. You dont go open your legs for others. AND how would you like it if your dad or mum were the ones to pass away or had cancer and he went around cheating on you coz you were busy taking care of your parents? Oh c'mon. Seriously, this take is messed up on so many levels. I hope you wake up on what you're doing to him.

[wingattebaby16]

i am like you.. i have a high sex drive...

I need more sex than most men can give me...

I am totally with the 5-6 nights a week sex fest.

I was killing my boyfriend trying to have sex with me 2 to 5 times a day.
I finally made him a deal that i would never ever come home with another man's cum on or in me.. no sex smell..

I still have a friends with benefits man that makes my toes curl every time.

So, yes, i feel you need to keep getting a tummyfull of pudding from other men, and the sex you need at home with your hubby.

Women like us get called sluts, etc... i just can't handle life when my hormones are on overload and sex relieves those feelings..

Nice Question...

[LisaSparrow]

I would suggest a divorce or swinging.
If you divorced him, you would actually be doing him a favor. If he went along with the swinging idea, you could both have a clear conscience.

[man_made258]

I GUESS THAT FROM READING ALL OF THE OPINION OF EVERYONE THAT YOU DO KNOW THAT YOU ARE A CHEATER AND THAT WHAT YOU ARE DOING BEHIND YOUR HUBANDS BACK WILL NOT GO UNANSWERED. STOP IT. COME CLEAN. OR ELSE IT'LL KILL HIM WHEN HE FINDS OUT.

[hellionthesagereborn]

Yeah, your a piece of shit. You don't love your husband because if you did you wouldn't do this. If he finds out he will be destroyed by this and you, you don't care. Your selfish and a worthless human being, the one person who trusted you more then any one else, loved you more then any one else and you betrayed that trust and that love. God people like you are beyond worthless. Its pieces of shit like you that make men afraid to trust women, they can do everything right and still get their lives ruined. Just despicable, I really hope this is a troll post because if not, Jesus fucking Christ.

[Lopezz1999]

Amen 👏🏽👏🏽

[Blake0048]

It probably is but the sense of entitlement she exudes is just typical of women so I honestly think this could be real.

[hellionthesagereborn]

@Blake0048 Yeah its possible but I fucking hope not.

[xButterflyKisses87x]

First off if this is real.. How disrespectful can anyone be? if his father was sick like you said and you turned elsewhere in need, very disrespectful he needed someone his wife to be with him (For better or for worse) isn't those the vows you took? switch sides for a moment if and when you reply what would you do if your husband did the same?

[SteppingOnRoses]

Guess what? We don't care...

I just think your husband doesn't deserve it.

Best if you could stop it. And yes we judge... but just fuck off really for coming here and bragging about it.

[OlderAndWiser]

If something is missing in your marriage, you are supposed to address that subject with your spouse. When he finds out (and he will find out,) he will be devastated, then angry, then he will file for divorce. Then you will realize that you have thrown away the best thing that ever happened to you. And you will want to undo all the stupid, needless harm you have caused, but there won't be anything you can do about it. As soon as the ink dries on your final judgment of divorce, your husband will find some younger girl and he'll start poking her so hard that it pokes out through her backside. And you will sink into being a skank blow job queen and you will be as miserable as you were when you were Miss Piggy.

THE END.

[JimRSmith]

Well said.

[Lopezz1999]

You are so fucked up..

[Warmapplecrumble]

Damn.

You could get sexually transmitted diseases or pregnant.

If you want more than one man, just talk to your partner, don't cheat.

[i1T2daty]

Call me

[PrincessPie]

You sound extremely selfish.

[TheDevilInside]

Cause someone who decides to strike up a conversation with the guy who follows her around in the store is a sane woman...

Guuuuuuurlllll... Your husband deserves so much better than you. Or I hope he cheats on you to, then you deserve each other.

[interpose0]

Don't wish for someone to return evil for evil, my friend. That just keeps the wheels turning.

[TheDevilInside]

@interpose0 you be gandhi then. I'm good.

[Barrabus_the_Free]

And this is typical of women. Why marry one, when she's just going to fuck and suck other men? You get to pay, pay, pay, and someone else gets to fuck, fuck, fuck.

I've read of polls conducted on married women, and 90% of them had done something like this. Ninety. Per cent. Nine out of ten. More than half had actually had sex with another man, the remainder had 'just' blown someone else.

There are a lot of reasons I'll never get married again, and the female inability to be faithful is one of the biggest.

[normalice]

this is one of many reasons I think it's a bad idea to 'save yourself for marriage.' Marrying the person you lose your virginity to inevitably makes you wonder what else there is. Had you blown every guy you could in college or something, you'd probably have it out of your system and could focus on supporting your husband through his grief. But instead, you got... distracted.

[interpose0]

Blaming this on saving yourself for marriage is pretty ridiculous, man. People cheat when their spouses are no longer providing the emotional support and sex they used to, and that's a really common pattern that happens whether you waited for marriage or not. And the fact that she still does this now that that rough patch is over and now feels that it's something that was missing before, despite the fact that she was perfectly happy with just him before all this started, shows that she'd be better off if she'd never known what it was like.

[normalice]

@interpose0 yeah, ignorance is bliss, until it isn't :-P