I read a myTake today that placed a heavy emphasis on a guy losing his virginity (I'm sure most of you know which one) but I was just suddenly struck with the irony of how different and comically opposing the views are in what's "expected" of men and women (by some) in regards to virginity. This Take is written in regards to heterosexual relationships.
Now, I know that most of us live and abide by a much more progressive view of society, myself included, so this is more a discussion for those who I believe do not. Below are two points, one for men and one for women, that I have seen quite often on this site, usually from the same types of people, that are at contrast enough for me to struggle to see how they exist within the same mind.
THESE ARE NOT MY OWN PERSONAL OPINIONS.
1. Male virgins suck and guys need to have had sex to be cool and seen as masculine and attractive. Society looks down on guys who are virgins and no woman wants to be with one.
2. All females need to be virgins and pure or only have had sex with very few people. Society looks down on women who have had sex with too many men and no guy wants to be with a "sloot" at the end of the day.
Wut.
Can someone explain to me, how a man is supposed to have a high number of sexual partners while women are supposed to NOT? Who.. who?? Who do you expect to be having sex with? Or is it that a certain group of women are supposed to be the ones that every guy fucks so they can get their number up, and the rest of us just stand by until we are selected by a great provider to sow their seed in? I am not following this train of logic.
Why is it that a man without experience has something wrong with them? And a woman with experience has something wrong with them?
Now, in case anyone brings this up, because I would in this discussion, a man who has previously dated or had sex is sometimes seen as more desirable to a female because it basically means that another female has given this guy the stamp of approval and chosen to engage in said activities with said man. WHICH I do not agree with because to write someone off for that is just being close minded. As a guy I don't know why you'd look at another dude who was a virgin and call them lame because that's just shit talking with no basis really. And really I can't find a justifiable reason for men OR women to devalue a sexually active female either. But that's just me.
Honestly, I could not give less of a fuck. (And am of the opinion that no one else should give a fuck about your sexual life, nor should you give a fuck IF they actually do give a fuck)
Guys - You a virgin? Ok cool, might be a learning curve but that means I get to teach you how to please me without any previous habits you might have picked up. And if you have some beginners luck, even better for me. You fucked 50 other girls in the past? You clean? No STDs, diseases, treat me with respect? We good to go. Will I be curious as to why you have 0 or 50? Sure, but that's because I'm a nosy bitch, not because I actually care about the number.
Girls - You a virgin? Not a bitch and not pushing abstinence and repentance on me? Of course we can be friends! You go home with a different dude every night we go out? Do you know what you're doing? Are you being safe? Do you not cry to me at 3am every night about a different guy not calling you back? I STILL LUH YOU.
Do you booboo. All of you. Or do whoever else your little heart desires, whenever it desires.
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