First of all, I'm no expert, just interested. My best friend is a sexologist, who has noticed something rather scary. She believes in the 20/80 rule (or something like that), where in dating today, where casual sex is exremely popular, a small amount of guys get to bang most of the women (sorry guys). She did a lot of counceling sessions, workshops,etc for women, and apparently most of the time condoms are used, yet the top guys who are very popular (who have had over 20 sex partners, yes they exist) rarely use a condom. The women confirmed that indeed, with the most popular men, they often didn't use one. Here are some speculations of me and my friend about how this could be.
-The sex can take place anytime, anywhere. It's simple, but these guys are often getting unexpected sex. Often they just run into a girl they just met, or haven't seen i a long time and if she looks good, there's a big chance he is doing her that same day. How did he know he had to bring a condom?
-He's the boss. Girls are often honored that they get to be fucked by a popular guy. If he doesn't want to wear a condom, she won't tell him he does, cause she wants to be liked as much as possible by him.
-Ovulating. There have been tests, where they noticed a different sexual behaviour when the woman is ovulating. They suddenly get a lot more sexual and start taking risks they otherwise wouldn't. Also it appears that during their ovulation women feel a stronger attraction toward certain men (the well known alpha male) simply for their physique/genetics, while on other occasions they might prefer a safer, stable and more providing man. As a woman, I have to acknowledge that this feeling is very much there, althought I in the end still use my brains. But the hornyness can be verry tempting. That's why girls sometimes tend to rely on birth control, or simply hope he pulls out.
-Carrying "better" seed. Women would want to carry the seed of the top men, because they see them as genetically superior. I think it often happens in the unconcious but that the instict is there. Also since DNA research improved, a lot of men found out they have been raising another man's kid, which is kinda sad.
-Because they get the "clean" girls. Apparently, my friend looked more into this, most of these top men with really high numbers haven't caught an STD yet. That's because these guys don't get the easy/dirty sloots who give blowjobs for $20, but actually get so many of the top girls, who only give it up so easy for him, not for anyone. A lot of these girls might even have 1 steady partner or husband already but make an exception for that certain guy. Some girls who have cheated admit to have always used a condom with the boyfriend/husband, just not for this one guy. (kinda sad). So if the girl is clean, is on birth control or trusts you to pull out, and want you to have all the fun you want with them, why not just go ahead and fill it up?
Tell me what you guys think of this. I think it's kinda scary actually, and I bet a lot of guys with a girlfriend or wife, might be too...
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