Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
I wanted to write this because I feel people expect their first time to be this wonderful, magical experience that they will look back on fondly for the rest of their life, only to be greatly disappointed after the experience. For some, this expectation may become a reality and it's certainly not impossible, but for the majority it doesn't always work out that way. Even if people reduce their expectations, I still find their expectations are still too high.
I don't want to put a dampener on the prospect of losing your virginity, it's still an overwhelming and exciting experience, but I wanted to share the realities of losing your virginity. This is also to show that making mistakes is part of the process, that we all do it and it can sometimes make it more fun! It may even help any qualms you may have about losing the big "V".
1. It won't be like in the movies
I'm sure people have told you that it won't be as romantic or as smooth as it's shown in the movies. The film industry want to appeal to viewers by fantasising one of the most important and highly anticipated times of many people's lives.
2. You will have trouble taking your clothes off
Like in the movies, the clothes tend to come off the other, pretty swiftly without much effort at all. In reality, you'll be tackling a lot of buttons, belts and tight tops unless you're both wearing loose clothing. You'll find this happens quite a lot, not just when you lose your virginity and it happens to us all so don't feel embarrassed!
3. You will probably do something wrong - and that's okay!
This might be your worst fear but it shouldn't be. We all make mistakes and that applies to the bedroom too. If you're both virgins, a mistake is likely to happen such as bumping heads (we've all done it) or breaking something around you but don't dwell on it. Sex rarely goes perfectly. Laugh it off and get back to business!
4. You might not climax
A large number of women find it difficult and near impossible to reach orgasm through penetration alone. Trying to reach climax through clitoral stimulation without the use of your hands takes some skill and can be just as difficult.
Some men may be too nervous or overwhelmed with excitement that they can't get it up or they can't focus on reaching climax.
It's not the end of the world if you don't reach orgasm your first time. You'll have plenty more chances to learn about what turns you on the most and what position is best for you.
5. It won't last long
The porn industry can be misleading in more ways than one. Men lasting a long time in the bedroom is one of those misconceptions. In reality, a man may last a couple of minutes up to about half an hour at most. Guys, you'll probably not last that long your first time because it takes time to learn how to delay climax.
6. You'll probably not stay with the person
Unless you waited until marriage to lose your virginity, people tend not to stay with the person they lose their virginity to. No matter how great the experience was and how much you felt your connection grow, losing your virginity to someone doesn't permanently tie you together and you're not immune from breaking up because you shared such an experience.
7. It may hurt
Ladies! Be prepared for pain. Women, more often than not, have a hymen. The hymen is a bit of thin skin that is found near the cervix and is attached to the vaginal walls. Not all women are born with one and it's common for women to unknowingly break their hymen when they're younger through rough activities and masturbation. Some women are born with a complete hymen, others have partial hymens. Having sex causes the hymen to break and that's what hurts and occasionally bleeds. If you have a complete hymen, sex will likely be painful for you and less painful if you have a partial hymen. If you have no hymen, it shouldn't hurt. Tell your partner to go slow and not to rush into anything. Don't be afraid to let them know you're experiencing pain. It's all about communication!
There's no real way to tell if you have your hymen intact and how much you have there, apart from going to the doctor and asking them to have a look for you.
There you go! Again, I don't want you to read this and now dread losing your virginity or interpret this myTake negatively. You should still look forward to losing your virginity, but don't go into the experience with high expectations otherwise you may be disappointed. If you have low expectations, you're more likely to be pleasantly surprised!
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