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I was first asked for nudes on snapchat by someone I didn't really know when I was 12. I was horrified and immediately blocked them. Since then, I have been asked multiple times and said no every time, until about 2 months ago.
This time it was my boyfriend that asked. I at first said I was uncomfortable with it and didn't want our relationship to go in that direction yet, since we were just 16 and hadn't even been dating for 1 month. That wasn't true, I hate the idea of nudes and I just didn't want my boyfriend to think I was a prude. I'm kinda insecure though, and if a guy likes me, well, I don't really see how much of an asshole he is. He continued to ask and ask. Looking back on it now, I should've just broken up with him then because all he really cared about was my body. He didn't want to get to know me or anything. But me being me, I didn't see that and was scared I was gonna lose this guy if I didn't do what he asked. So I sent him one. He screenshotted. He asked for more.
I sent him about five before I started to panic. I was absolutely petrified of someone finding out. Before opening instagram, I had panic attacks in fear that he might have posted them. I guess that's just how much I trusted him. Another sign I missed.
Last week, I found out he was hitting on other girls and asking them for nudes too. I broke up with him, but said it was because we weren't talking as much anymore and I felt like we were growing apart. This was because I was afraid he'd get angry at me and share the nudes. I can't talk to my friends about him cheating on me because they might confront him and then he'll tell them I sent him nudes as revenge. I'm still petrified and I will never send one again. He wasn't even upset when I broke up with him. This is how I knew for sure that he didn't care about me at all. Only my body.
So guys, if you ask a girl for nudes, you are telling them that you don't care about their mind or their personality, only their bodies. Wait until we want to send them. Wait until we trust you.
Girls, if a guy asks you for nudes, you deserve better. Find someone who loves your brain over your boobs.
I have beaten myself up about this so so much and I don't wish it on anybody. I have realised now that I need to be confident in myself and I must learn how to say no. I shouldn't have to follow someone's every wish just because they say they like me. I need to be more secure in myself and my beliefs.
So if you really want nudes, Kim Kardashian's instagram has plenty.
What Girls & Guys Said
23 38Yep, pretty dumb. Don't send any picture you don't want to eventually end up on the internet for public viewing. :)
I personally have never asked for nudes.. I have received them unsolicited though.. I just feel like its too much risk for stuff like that to be sent over the web.. Not safe, and too much risk of other people getting those
Exactly! Live and learn and let the others know to prepare for the consequences of sending nudes. You are a demonstration of what will happen otherwise so that the others can learn from it before doing your mistakes.
Forget the nudes, those are not needed for a functional and healthy relationship.
"So if you really want nudes, Kim Kardashian's instagram has plenty."
Nein, that's shite. This is why we have pornhub ♥ it's much better.
Oh :(
I feel bad , that a good girl like you had to deal with that
I hate the fact that guys asks for nudes
Or send D pics , just be more gentle and respectful
May I have some brain pics
Nice article. thanks for sharing your story.
Why send or receive nudes? You know the internet is full of nudes already right?
Grow up, have some class and leave your clothes on till the right time and right place. Sending nudes online is tacky.
Don't send nudes with all and your face, that's the only rule that should be followed, and regardless of your sex, always start by offering to send nudes first, if it's denied, don't ask for any or send any. Easy as that.
*Only if things get hot start talking about nudes.
Is there a downvote option? I'd use it.
Yes, sending nudes to someone you aren't sure you should send them to yet is a bad idea, and yet it seems like you're blaming your boyfriend for wanting sex with you (which is why guys ask for nudes), even though that's something totally normal and okay for him to want. Why are these topics always, always, always seen through the vein of *male sexuality is bad?* It's horseshit. It's low-brow crap. Don't tell guys they can't ask for nudes-- I have some myself, and I've never been anything other than totally responsible with them; I'd never share them with anyone. Ever. And the girls who sent them to me know that.
The problem is not with nudes; it's with untrustworthy individuals. A guy can be a very normal, wants-to-fuck-and-look-at-pretty-girls person, and not even entertain the notion of disrespectfully sharing nudes. You've created a false equivalency here, and for some reason, people are eating it up. I'm sorry about your self-doubt and I don't wish anything wrong against you, but there's no point in trying to make guys in general look bad for this reason.
I don’t feel like she was trying to make guys in general look bad, I feel like she was just trying to warn girls about sending nudes to guys that aren’t trustworthy so that we won’t go through the same shit she did.
@Ana_Moonsong I suppose so, but she went about it poorly and gave a different message in my opinion.
First of all this is what a moron does. You should have learned if anyone asks for nudes its because they only care for your body. Your making it sound like men are the only bad ones here. Women are pervs too. Society brainwashes people to think women are so mature than men and men only chase for boobs and sex and not personality or anything. Sadly SOME men are like that. BUT GUESS WHAT there's women who do it too. So stop talking like women are these goddesses that need to be treated like a princess. Im sick and tired of posts like this
It’s mainly because she was pushed into doing something she didn’t want to do, sure some women are guilty but she does not deserve that no one does...
@xButterflyKisses87x 3 feminists couldnt handle the truth. If she was raped then i would feel bad but this... She had complete control over it. Who in their right mind sends nudes in the first place? If you really want to show him nudes you might as well go to his house and have sex with him and not get caught. I swear its as if technology makes morons more stupider than they already are which is the polar opposite of it. And the asker acts like girls dont ask guys for nudes. Do women really think they have it harder than guys. Guys have it just as bad. in the end i do agree with the asker saying if a guy asks for nudes she should just leave him. You see in the time i live in people go to each others houses and have sex and not beat off to a picture 😂. God bless this generations of dumbasses
Why the hell would anyone send nudes? There are plenty of nude pics on the web. If someone contacted you on the internet and asked you to send them $500 to be your friend, would you take that deal?
Unfortunately, you are one of many victims of the cruelest form of rank objectification. This guy was never your boyfriend; he was merely a conman who just wanted to see you naked and maybe show his friends.
Your story is a cautionary tale, but you don't have to be.
Its a hard lesson to go through. But if you feel compelled to this don't show your face. It would be better not to show anything...
I don't think sending anyone nudes is ever a good idea... ever.
Especially if you're a girl
You stupid young girl. Boys and men, want nude porno pictures so they can fantasize about these pics when they masturbate. Males will do anything to get into your panties, ie to fuck you. Males will talk and so on but every thought is how can they have sex with you. I am a man with 3 sons, I know how all normal men behave. If your boyfriend wants nude pics tell him there millions on the internet.
Your should have told you about men, I told my 2 daughters exactly what men want.
All fathers tell your daughters, you have not your fathering if you don't.
That's extremely rude from your part. She's not stupid, she was just confused and naive. You shouldn't be speaking like that about someone who just shared a story that is hurtful for her. If something like that ever happened to your daughters I hope you'd be much more conscious on your choose of language
I've done them for my now-hubby.
You can ask for nudes, but it needs to be asked politely, without harassing, and most of all, a no is a no.
And if you send nudes, do it without your face on it. And with a plain background and nothing that can be identified as yours.
Sending nudes or asking for it isn't a crime, you just have to be careful and be respectful.
I will never send nudes again
You mean you actually did it before?
I sent a bunch to my husband (before he was my husband, as well as after.) No harm.
Ask law enforcement what u can do