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I've never had sex before and I'm now in a relationship where he wants to be intimate and I'm scared.
I have so many questions in my head. Like will I regret this? Do I want to do this outside of commitment? Should I just suck it up and lose it. I don't know. I feel that I should talk to someone but not my mom because she tends to be overbearing in all aspects. It's hard to get through to her. She acts like she's never had sex outside of marriage but I'm pretty sure she has because she would have bragged about waiting if she didn't.
I don't want to talk to my dad about this because obviously he's a guy and doesn't want me dating till I'm 100. lol My sister is too little and I feel like I have no one to talk to so I'm writing it out. I don't want to sound like a baby about it but I don't want to regret anything. Everyone who says the didn't wait says they regret it. And everyone who didn't kinda wishes they didn't do it with the first person they did it with.
I want to live my life with no regrets either way I go. I need to develop a healthy attitude towards this but until then I'll continue to wait it out and think about it before jumping to any conclusions.
What Girls & Guys Said
26 39Just get it Over with sex isn't a Big deal.
No don't.. say no to him... save your virginity for yo husband ❤️
Virginity is very important, you should save it for someone special, if he treats you kind and you think he is the special guy, you should probably do him a solid in return, but if you don't feel like it is the right time, you should tell him you want to wait till the moment is right.
You have to make that decision for yourself, don't be forced into it. Feel free to DM me. I'll help any way I can
If you are unsure then don't. If your parents have you scared, that is another matter. At the age of 72 there is a lot of time to regret missed opportunities. You are only young once. Of course I am speaking from my vantage point. Many of the women who offered their selves to me as a high school seniors are now listed in the "In Memorandum" section of the reunion yearbook. Time is a road that travels in one direction. Those things you choose not to do have consequences. If your parents were selling you as a wife, then your virginity would be Valuable. If all it is going to mean in the future is heartache, "Why didn't I". Then it's value is much less. I am not suggesting that you burn the book. But if this is causing you anguish? Remember at a certain age this is normal adult behavior. Religiously speaking, a lot of negativity has been created concerning sex and nudity. Our Creator put us here nude for a purpose, when he came to visit us in the garden he could have chosen to cloth Himself, but he did not. Lucifer knew that God considered our nudity his greatest work and so that is the very thing Lucifer attacked. He convinced us to be ashamed of the thing God is proud of and loves. We are the ones that are ashamed of nudity and even consider sex a devilish thing. Somehow the meaning of the scripture got twisted 180 degrees. Think about your decisions. Be careful.
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yesterday I saw him in town with another girl. And while I’m kinda sad I did ask for clarity on the situation and I got it. So not sure how to feel rn but thank you! Definitely glad I waited.
If you feel like you are “losing” rather than falling in love with giving that to that particular person, don’t do it. You’ll know when it feels right, and I’d suggest to do it when it doesn’t feel like you’re losing anything
DO NOT HAVE SEX IF YOU HAVE ANY RESERVATIONS.
You can always decide to have your first sex later, but you will never have that option if you do it now.
If this guy leaves you because you won't have sex with him, he is NOT the guy for you anyway. Someone who truly cares for you will stay with you and never push you into sex if you are not 100% ready or comfortable.
avoid sin do what is pleasinh in the eyes of God no to premarital sex
You aren't ready. However, ask yourself why that is. You didn't mention religion and so I assume it is because you simply have negative ideas about sex and they scare you.
yesterday I saw him in town with another girl. And while I’m kinda sad I did ask for clarity on the situation and I got it. So not sure how to feel rn but thank you! Definitely glad I waited.
Wait until you're ready. Then wait a little longer. Lol. There's a high likelihood that you're first time will be awkward, if not awkward AND painful, so spend as much time as you need getting to know the person. Don't let anyone pressure you into having sex before you feel confident in your relationship, trust your partner, and are comfortable enough with your own body to get on birth control at least. He doesn't have to be the perfect guy or the one you'll be with forever, but make sure he's someone you don't mind remembering forever, and who cares enough to make it special for you.
yesterday I saw him in town with another girl. And while I’m kinda sad I did ask for clarity on the situation and I got it. So not sure how to feel rn but thank you! Definitely glad I waited. I guess it wasn’t that special to him
Just because you’re in a relationship doesn’t mean you have to have sex. You don’t mention how long you’ve been dating or whether it’s a serious relationship or not, but if you’re having doubts. Just wait.
Talk to him about it, explain you’re not comfortable and ask if it’d be okay to ask a few questions you have about it to help get you more comfortable, No man will want to sleep with his partner if they aren’t comfortable and most will feel incredibly guilty if you went along with it just for their sake. Communicate with him and save you and him a lot of unpleasantness, I mean this respectfully by the way I can see how this could be taken a wrong way but I just mean keep him in the loop with your feelings help him understand so he can help you.
i agree with the concept but disagree about all males being caring enough to understand her concerns.
I don't know if he really understands. The other day he pulled my pants down and like you know did stuff to me and told me that I wanted him to do it but I'm nervous which is true but I didn't want him to pull my pants off yk?
Sounds like you need to discuss boundaries, if he doesn’t respect them or gets funny he clearly doesn’t respect you which is a bigger problem than you just being nervous
yeah for sure
As a guy I didn't mind losing it to someone I barely knew. I was decent looking and in shape but socially awkward around girls. I was 18 and while it could have been a special moment with someone i cared about i was just glad someone was interested. I had never even been on a date as I was too insecure to ask a girl out even though I knew several who had acted interested. I was ready for what I did, you should wait till you are.
If you are not psychologically ready for sex, do not do it.
If your boyfriend needs sexual release, give him hand jobs or oral. That should stop the pot boiling over.
After he ejaculates, he will calm down and probably go to sleep.
yeah that's usually how it goes
Always commit first, never have casual sex.
You know you can both enjoy yourself without the need for fucking Oral sex will get you a degree of satisfaction. If you decide to go through it. is not unusual or the girl to be a bit disappointed. There is no real point to actually getting your cherry popped at the time. If you can get a dildo or vibrator you can take care of it yourself in the cleanliness and privacy of your bedroom bathroom. I'm assuming you have experience with masturbation and know what and where turns you on enough to cum. Some guys don't like going down on girls but it is the most likely way for you to get enough stimulation to get you off. It's always better to set some ground rules ahead of time. If you want to DM me w/ any questions or convo I've taken quite a few cherries.
I was raised to wait till you’re married to have sexual intercourse. And I did. My wife and I got married 2/28/2008. 👍🙂. If I was you, I would wait till marriage for sex. 👍🙂
I regret every sexual act I had before I turned 21.
dang this doesn't give me much hope at all
Sounds like a plan.
If he walks you up to the altar of a church and, in front of a member of the clergy and both of your families and friends, promises to forsake all others and gives you a diamond ring to seal the deal, there is a 30% to 50% chance he will honor that commitment.
Short of marriage, what do you think your odds are?
not really sure
Consider that your chances your current SO will be a lifelong parter as a single digit percentage. Your first husband has about a 60% chance.