To OLDER Guys on here if you are attracted to someone say 15 years younger will you bring up their age/them being young to remind yourself of that?

[Anonymous]

An age gap to many can be something awkward. So would you bring up her age / her being young to sort of remind yourself of that gap.

[abc3643]

In 1999, I was 36 and met an innocent pretty young lady who was all of 20. I was 15y 10m older than her. She had a young boyfriend who was a total loser and I knew they'd eventually break-up, so I waited for a while. I eventually moved on because she wasn't going to leave him soon (she eventually did), so we were never a couple.

I realized this was a large age difference. Ironically, I was also very attracted to another woman who was 15.5 years older than me! That wasn't going to go anywhere because she friendzoned me. But, back to the younger girl, I realized that, if we had been together, I not only would have been her boyfriend, but sort of a leader in the relationship - almost like a father - because I was so much older than her. For instance, she didn't know how to drive; I gave her driving lessons with her driving my car.

I am sad that we did not become a couple. I don't know if it would have worked out - I suspect she would have dumped me at some point because the age difference DOES make a big difference sexually. When I knew it wasn't going to go anywhere, I moved on as I also became estranged from the older woman. (Long story there in both situations.) I then met my wife right away. Honestly, I wish I had more time to myself before getting involved. I am not dissing my wife, but, in a sense, it was a rebound relationship from the non-relationships that I had with the two other women. My wife is 5.5 years older than me, by the way. When we got married, I was 38.5 and she had just turned 44.

[NyceGuyFinishingLast]

I once got involved with a girl that was 15 years younger than me. I thought the same thing that we would have nothing in common and the age gap would put us on odd ends of things but we actually had a lot in common. I usually try to stay within a 5 year gap younger or older but I decided to test it out. I told her that it felt weird knowing the age gap was so large. But, as time went on it felt more and more normal. In all out honesty, it was the greatest time spent with a lady. I have never felt so much love from someone. The unfortunate side of this is that she suffers from a severe case of Bi-Polar and she is getting help but some of her bad episodes have been concerning and I would not want to expose my kids to any danger. Like she has had to commit herself 3 times. I don't mind being in the danger but not my kids. She lived in another state and would come to visit and we would rent an Airbnb and spend an amazing week together. She tried to spoil me rotten. I truly believe that an age gap of more then 5 years would cause some awkwardness and different interests but my first experience was beyond amazing. I was and am still very much in love with her.

[MrOracle]

If I was attracted to a woman 15 years younger, that would make her 36. I wouldn't need to stop myself from going further... LOL.

[Bright_blue_eyes]

As an older guy, yes... I guess I would bring it up, but... mostly to glorify the age difference. I've dated a lot of younger women and I love it. I consider it a badge of honor that I can still date a much younger woman. I would bring it up to acknowledge the difference and to let her know it's OK. Next, I would also bring it up as a point of discussion. Age differences can create problems if not acknowledged, so I would bring it up to start the conversation.

[ChrisMaster69]

No I would not, it would not be awkward

[blank_expression]

Sounds bizarre… why would I belabor age gap and potentially screw everything up? If she were, young, hot, into-me, and giving me a hard-on, why the hell would age gap cross my mind?

[ohshee]

I like this question because there has been many times and I do it to this day still where I see your question and I just answer it I don't pay attention to who ask it I don't pay attention to any age I just answer the question every once in awhile they will reply to answer and we will start chatting for a second and then I'll look at their name and I'll see their age and I think WTF so I really need to pay attention to that border and I keep saying I'm going to do it but I'm always in such a hurry I just cricket and answer it

[MotorcycleMan]

Under what circumstances?
I don't find it all that awkward, but others might.
Age is just a number, but the bigger the gap, the more different your life experiences and outlooks are going to be. What you do with that is up to you. Would you rather be with someone your own age so you can share common interests or would you find a gap interesting as you both learn new things?

I think that younger women dating older men and younger men dating older women works out well for many reasons.

[CentralPerk77]

I could date someone 15 years younger and it wouldn’t bother me? Will it last forever? Prob not … most relationships don’t.

[DJB72]

Definitely not.

If a girl younger than me were someone I was interested in it wouldn't matter if she was 30 years younger than me as long as it was mutual.

[exitseven]

No, if it was serious enough I wouldn't even think about an age gap.

[magiusX26]

only if i found myself attracted to someone 15 plus (deffinately the plus) younger that went underaged.

[Iron_Man]

Sure why would I have a problem with that my grandfather‘s wife was 22 years younger than him

[Born-for-sex]

So older I am not old enough to know that age difference. But I do know that recognizing the age difference dose help me to keep that distance but if you are both enjoying that as a difference in your relationship it can become a subject for flirtation. I started dating my ex when I was 23 and we were 5 years different. It was a constant subject for harassment because she was such a sexy young queen and I was a pervy old man…. In our minds at least. Lol! We had fun with it. I’m sure that is a kink in bigger age differences.

[Jamie05rhs]

I'd prefer not to think about the age. If I think about it too much then I'll get cold feet.

15 years is too much, though. I wouldn't go that far.

[clampfan101]

That’s definitely something to address early on. I don’t think I’d personally go past a 10y difference.

[Dchrls78104]

Only if there's another reason, besides the age difference, that I don't want the relationship.

[DWornock]

Grasping for straws when she didn't accept my age, like most men, I would say, "Age is just a number." However, most men and I know better. On a dating site, a pretty 19-year-old girl was contacted by a man about age 40, and "Age is just a number" is what he told her.

She looked up the profiles and photos of some 50-year-old women and selected three of the more attractive for their age. She messaged him, listed the 3 profiles, and said, Here are three women you will like. The man replied and he was angry that she would suggest that he might be interested in old women. Of course, that demolished his argument to her that age is just a number.

[dudeinohio]

I do not bring up age gaps... but then again, I don't date 15 years younger.

[Mangospacho]

I would never bring up her age if there’s a significant gap. It’s not necessarily an insecurity for an older guy to have a younger girlfriend but it can be an insecurity for some people.

[COMMODOREII]

Hell no!! I wouldn't embarass her. Lol

[Twalli]

Granted I am only err 0 so a 15 year age gap is a felony charge waiting to happen. Usually I will go 10 years in either direction though.

[najekim]

In my case the age difference would be self-evident.

[OnTheLevel]

If she's of legal age, an age gap doesn't affect me much.

[TimlovesKristine]

I’ve been attracted to younger women but I never got past just flirting because I figured I was too old for them and they are not interested.

[Anonymous]

Other. I'm looking for her reaction to see if she dismisses the gap or downplays it or acts like "yeah obviously you're too old for me".

[Anonymous]

No, not really. I would just enjoy her company.

[Anonymous]

I'm currently dating someone 12 years younger, and so far I've never even mentioned the age difference. She hasn't either. I'm not sure what exactly you mean, but other than in relation to hobbies, interests and future goals, it doesn't bother me at all and don't plan to mention it in any way.

[Anonymous]

In my late 30's I had two different women who were in their early 20's messaging me and wanting to be together.
"Age is just a number" is a common thing that they said to me when I would express concern about our age gap. After a while I just gave in to them because they're so beautiful. I never met them in person, but the short lived romantic online interactions and sexting were enjoyable for a while.