In 1999, I was 36 and met an innocent pretty young lady who was all of 20. I was 15y 10m older than her. She had a young boyfriend who was a total loser and I knew they'd eventually break-up, so I waited for a while. I eventually moved on because she wasn't going to leave him soon (she eventually did), so we were never a couple.
I realized this was a large age difference. Ironically, I was also very attracted to another woman who was 15.5 years older than me! That wasn't going to go anywhere because she friendzoned me. But, back to the younger girl, I realized that, if we had been together, I not only would have been her boyfriend, but sort of a leader in the relationship - almost like a father - because I was so much older than her. For instance, she didn't know how to drive; I gave her driving lessons with her driving my car.
I am sad that we did not become a couple. I don't know if it would have worked out - I suspect she would have dumped me at some point because the age difference DOES make a big difference sexually. When I knew it wasn't going to go anywhere, I moved on as I also became estranged from the older woman. (Long story there in both situations.) I then met my wife right away. Honestly, I wish I had more time to myself before getting involved. I am not dissing my wife, but, in a sense, it was a rebound relationship from the non-relationships that I had with the two other women. My wife is 5.5 years older than me, by the way. When we got married, I was 38.5 and she had just turned 44.0 0 0 0
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I once got involved with a girl that was 15 years younger than me. I thought the same thing that we would have nothing in common and the age gap would put us on odd ends of things but we actually had a lot in common. I usually try to stay within a 5 year gap younger or older but I decided to test it out. I told her that it felt weird knowing the age gap was so large. But, as time went on it felt more and more normal. In all out honesty, it was the greatest time spent with a lady. I have never felt so much love from someone. The unfortunate side of this is that she suffers from a severe case of Bi-Polar and she is getting help but some of her bad episodes have been concerning and I would not want to expose my kids to any danger. Like she has had to commit herself 3 times. I don't mind being in the danger but not my kids. She lived in another state and would come to visit and we would rent an Airbnb and spend an amazing week together. She tried to spoil me rotten. I truly believe that an age gap of more then 5 years would cause some awkwardness and different interests but my first experience was beyond amazing. I was and am still very much in love with her.
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(27)If I was attracted to a woman 15 years younger, that would make her 36. I wouldn't need to stop myself from going further... LOL.
0 0 0 0As an older guy, yes... I guess I would bring it up, but... mostly to glorify the age difference. I've dated a lot of younger women and I love it. I consider it a badge of honor that I can still date a much younger woman. I would bring it up to acknowledge the difference and to let her know it's OK. Next, I would also bring it up as a point of discussion. Age differences can create problems if not acknowledged, so I would bring it up to start the conversation.
0 0 0 0No I would not, it would not be awkward
0 0 0 0Sounds bizarre… why would I belabor age gap and potentially screw everything up? If she were, young, hot, into-me, and giving me a hard-on, why the hell would age gap cross my mind?
0 0 0 0I like this question because there has been many times and I do it to this day still where I see your question and I just answer it I don't pay attention to who ask it I don't pay attention to any age I just answer the question every once in awhile they will reply to answer and we will start chatting for a second and then I'll look at their name and I'll see their age and I think WTF so I really need to pay attention to that border and I keep saying I'm going to do it but I'm always in such a hurry I just cricket and answer it
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