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What (in your opinion) makes somebody "good in bed"?

If you've had people who were bad in bed - what made them so rubbish?

For those that were good in bed - what was it that made them so great?
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  • The single most important thing was ENTHUSIASM. You can have mediocre skills and still make a very memorable performance if you are enthusiastic about having sex and about having it with the person you're with.

    The next most important part is PARTICIPATION. This is especially for girls. Girls need to communicate during sex. With words if you can, but if you can't, then with noises, facial expressions, hand gestures, nods/shakes, or whatever. And do something to let us know that it's good (or that it isn't, so we can adjust). Kiss us. Rub our head or arms. Feed us your boobs, or if we have a free hand, pull it up to them. If we can't play with them, play with them yourself. All of the best sexual experiences I've had were when the girl was undeniably an active participant the entire time.

    And I guess the last common thing is to be open-minded about trying new things. Obviously this assumes that you're with a partner that you've built some trust with, who knows a lot about you and your likes and preferences already - but if you have that, then be willing to try a new act or a new position or whatever.

Most Helpful Guy

  • I've never had sex with a girl that I would say was "bad" sex. I've had it to where our kissing rhythm was off because she needed to relax so I helped her relax and we got into a good rhythm.

    I've had girls that wanted to just lay there and not really do anything, so I called her a lazy lover lol and she got up because I was right. But yea. Anytime something could have been bad I did something about it

    In my opinion there are some tendencies that could make sex less good and that's
    1. Being too uptight sexually
    Sex is supposed to be fun and silly. It's not a super serious thing. Having good sex is important but the sex itself is not serious

    2. Not being eager/enthusiastic about the sex
    I'd argue that if a girl is just enthusiastic about sex that's basically all she needs to be good. Because she wants to do all the things. She wants to try new things. She's excited to be a part of all of it. That is infectious and a turn on. The opposite of that would be, lazy, silent, pillow princess

    3. Not giving feedback
    Sort of related to to the second. But girls not giving feedback when they like something, when they don't like something, when they're too fixated on "getting there" while at the same time thinking you as the guy should just know. They don't want to help you help them. Girls often times don't necessarily know what makes them cum so it can be hard for them to help you there as the guy. But the lack of willingness to try makes sex less good

    • Thanks for MHO 🙌

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  • Communication, listening and speaking.

    saying what is working and what is not.

    actually moving you or telling you where to finger or lick.

    when to go harder, faster, deeper etc.

    basically removing the guess work from it all but also not having a running conversation lol.

    Bad is the opposite where it’s left to mutual guess work.

  • Good in bed: Communication and a genuine desire to want to be with me (although this has only ever been one woman in my life).

    Bad in bed: Just laid there, didn't do anything, was super-silent and looked bored, had bad hygiene/odor. I would say "her pussy stank," but that's been the case with most women I've been with (ones with actual better hygiene), so I think that's just normal.

  • I have never really had anybody that was bad in bed very first time I had sex when I lost my virginity the first three times that I had sex I didn't like it I thought there supposed to be more she said she loved it on the 4th time though I changed everything around and we both saw fireworks that day and I learn something very important and that is to make it all about the girl don't worry about you getting please make it about the girl and please her and I've learned so much from that day to this day. I don't care if the girl just made there I guarantee that you will have one two three orgasms and it will be hot sex because I will make it all about her when she's turned on that's what turns me on but I can make her come like that that's what totally turns me on so if you're worried about you having sex for the first time hard that you might not be good enough hear that from your mind it's a guy knows what he's doing and he makes it all about you and tries to please you you're going to do fine

  • Someone who is good in bed to me is someone who does not mind getting nd staying naked and just has fun with sex and cares about their partners enjoyment.

    • Thankd for answering :)

    • Thanks* lol

  • I personally need to have an intimate connection with someone. I've had one night stands, and I've had personal relationships. Good sex takes time to know what each other likes, and build on it.

  • Knows how to take it. And use her mouth.

  • What makes girls good in bed is responsiveness to a guys kinks and enthusiasm for their own.

  • Someone who is open minded and actually enthusiastic about sex.

  • Someone that communicates. Talks about likes/dislikes etc.

  • It is really simple: Everyone is different. So you don't sex everyone the same. You alter it according to the person you are with. Do what they like etc. That is the answer. You will find many reasons why a person is bad at sex but you will only ever find one CORE reason why they are good at sex.

  • I don't know specifically. It can be a lot of things but mostly in is about connection.

  • Sloppy, sweaty, wet, enthusiastic, passionate sex. Don't be afraid to look foolish or funny to your partner.

  • Orgasms. Real female orgasms. No faking for his benefit. No acting. Skin color change. Intense waves. Over and over. Powerful release.

  • https://youtu.be/g2IM46SNpBA

  • Bad-boring and unadventurous.
    Good- willing to try anything and nonjudgmental

  • For a guy or for a girl?

    I love when women are super into it in bed and show that they want me or want to be taken by me. Love the moans and dirty talk and women that can go for a while. I always make sure I make them cum a couple of times before finishing in the grand finale. Basically if you enjoyed your time more than other encounters and don't regret it.

    • Either or😋 Yes bery good points, I would have to agree😊

    • I meant to say very* lol oops

  • A fast rider, moans loud, talks dirty, and is tight👌

  • If they can make me cum for one... and that's already an unusually small pool.

  • For the ones that were rubbish, I'd say the biggest negative were the girls who just laid there or weren't very interactive, or responsive to what they enjoyed or liked.

    For the ones that were great, they were very into it and said what felt good or didn't. Said what positions they liked, talked dirty and were open to trying new things.

  • How satisfied I feel afterwards.

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