What is sex to you?

[ShadezMcgee]

[DizzyDesii]

People hate this answer but the majority of the time, I see it as a means of reproduction. Thats probably why I have no problem going so long without it. Because I want someone who understands thats the main point of it and is ready for that concept. But too many people fear the thought of becoming a parent and that just makes it easier to not want to have sex until i find someone with a similar mindset. As for the other half of the time, I see it as a way to give pleasure. I’m still not that used to it being a way to receive pleasure. Sure i banged those 2 dudes several times but the majority of times with the first guy went from a bad experience of being pressured and taken advantage of to a feeling of religious guilt to a numb feeling of doing this “chore” to keep him happy to finally getting pleasure out of it myself to having felt used all over again. Then with the second guy, it went from the blame game of him saying I seduced him into breaking his bond with God early to me having to feel religious guilt all over again to his sudden change in thinking to me finally receiving pleasure to me giving pleasure to me feeling somewhat addicted to that pleasure to a forced stop due to his fear of conception. Things always seem to come to a stop (and not on my end) when I find myself enjoying it too much. I feel its God’s way of saying I shouldn't have been doing the do in the first place while unmarried. Until i’m married, I dont think that stance will change. So I don't know what will happen the next time around but its probably just best i find someone with a similar mindset who sees sex as a means of reproduction first and pleasure second. Maybe i need to be with someone who went through that religious guilt as well. I’m really not sure. I’ve dated a lot of guys in between the two and after the two. It was certainly the ones after who had that similar mindset but nonsexual factors get in the way and clash. So i need someone who’s on the same page with the majority of things (morals, values, beliefs, interests, physical attraction, etc), not just sex.

[Anemone978]

To me sex is a bond once I fuck you.. the person owns a piece of me... that's why I don't have sex with people because I lose a piece of myself every time I fuck someone new.. It is a personal experience I want to only share with people I love because the act itself means too much to me. Sex is literally the only time I feel someone's love towards me...

[PositiveFlight]

Summed up. When it’s done natural between a man and woman, it’s heaven. It’s the most beautiful act I know of. It’s loving. It’s healthy for both bodies. It’s healing. And it’s the ultimate act of giving to each other.

[summiter]

Pure heaven with a feeling of being connected. The orgasms are just a bonus

[Alessa13]

The best natural addiction in my life, better than any dangerous illegal drugs or addictions.

[Fuentes]

I mean sex can be dangerous you can be stuck with a child for 18 years that wasn't made out of love or a bad STD or Aides or HIV lol I think it could be just as dangerous. But you may be right

[Agape93]

Pleasure, a way of showing love, a way of bonding and a religious sacrament

[AsaKyo]

Something that really isn't that big of a concern to me

[Jennz6]

Sex is my job

[AustColombiangirl]

something to do for fun

[MasterKS]

@austcolombiangirl nailed it.

[Fuentes]

A quick nut

[AFretiredTXn]

Fun and excitement, when I was able to enjoy it.

[MasterKS]

Pure pleasure!

[Anonymous]

Intimacy and physical pleasure.

[MasterKS]

how important?

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure what you mean, but I think you're talking about the acts.

Kissing, fucking and everything in between.