Sexual Relationships 
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I and other virgins have come together to compile this list of things that we are tired of hearing upon people find out we’re virgins. Some people are cool about it but others like to interject these standard statements that can leave us baffled and not sure what to think. Here are a list of our things we think are not particularly the best to say when you find out someone is a virgin.
1. "You’re a virgin? Wow, that’s so rare!"
Also sometimes followed by “you’re like the only one.” Yes thank you for making me feel like some kind of unicorn. And I have had some literally call me a unicorn.
2. "You should NEVER do it!"
Why? No, really, I’m actually concerned. Why shouldn’t I?
3. "Make sure you save it for the right one."
Actually, this isn’t that bad but it’s one of those unsolicited advice things. Frankly, it’s in my hands to do with what I wish.
4. "Don’t get pregnant."
Thank you?
5. "You must be a good girl/boy."
This one annoys me. This implies that people who have sex are “bad” and those who do not are “good” when in fact sex is just a natural part of life and doing or not doing it is neither good nor bad. This also implies I live life in a bubble.
6. "Let me guess, you’re saving it for marriage?"
Maybe, maybe not. Does it matter either way? Is it somehow bad if I was?
7. "You should just hurry up and get it over with."
Woah, why, what’s the rush? Virginity means different things to different people, for some it’s too special to just “get it over with”.
8. "Stay that way, trust me."
Trust you on my personal decision, hmm…Nope, nope. And I’m not entirely sure why I should stay this way, either.
9. "Don’t worry, you’ll find the right one."
This is just a big assumption. I could already be with someone or just not at that stage in my life where I want to find someone.
10. "You’re really pure."
Just like #5, this implies having sex is impure when it is simply natural.
So that was the list of what not to say to a virgin. But hey, everyone is different. Whilst some may have a problem with hearing the above, others may not.
What Girls & Guys Said
28 28Lol, at 5 and 10. I've been there. At my first job my co-workers were afraid to talk about sex in front of me and assumed I just go to work, head home and read book in bed. They were shocked when they learned I go out clubbing and such and knew quite a bit about sex acts and dirty jokes. Not all virgins are the same. Same as non-virgins. However, I do have a friend who is your stereotypical virgin.
OMG lol so many of my friends did the same thing to me. Then things changed xD haha.
Love this! <3 Or one of my favorite, people find out your a virgin and suddenly your the inexperienced 13 year old bake in grade 8 sex ed! -_-
Definitely this. One of my friends who is a virgin is one of the most dirtiest people I know!
I hate #5, I'm not even a virgin but some people assume I am cause I'm nice to people. Like, do I become an asshole after having sex? -_-
Yeah that's a bunch of bullshit. Just like how some people say girls only go for assholes. Some do and those are the ones you want to avoid but going by their logic, every guy in a relationship or who's ever hooked up is an asshole.
They act like being confident is synonymous with being an asshole which it is not. You can still be nice while being confident. Women just don't want a pushover or someone desperate.
I completely agree, those are so annoying.
I'd just like to add the "How come you haven't had sex yet? :o" "Why the fuck are you still a virgin? :o" questions, I get asked that so much, and I can't stand it... because I just am, OK?
Anyone else feel just disappointment in humanity when reading "8 planets", bet the person who made this picture thinks there are 3 states of matter too.
To be fair, Plasma is not as well known as a state of matter. It doesn't help that schools teach kids that there are 3 states.
What about Delaware. There's more than three states but nobody remembers Delaware.
and 8 planets if you don't count pluto
I'll just assume you're trolling Crikeyway15.
I really should've read the picture more carefully before I used it huh XD
Only idiots say that kind of thing
Lol good one. I always hear #2,8 , and 9 and it pisses me off lol. You should never do it? Because it is such a sin or another is "don't feel bad" like I was trying to get some simpathy from telling people ha
I'm a virgin and honestly I don't care how people react. I've kissed hot girls and felt titties and stuff. It's not magical or anything. Titties are great and all but they are just titties. And when women are so easy then sex is no longer an accomplishment worth bragging about.
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While I sooort of agree I really think the whole 'don't judge me AT ALL for having sex' is a bit of bullshit.
Having sex is fine, but who you have it with really does tell a lot about your true personality and the kind of people you desire. 'Casual Sex' and Hookup culture kind of ruin sex tbh because it gets rid of the main point : Intimacy
Girls who run around having sex with the dregs of society (or guys who run around smashing prostitutes and slutty girls) all shift the overall society towards worse and worse habits and more moral ineptitude than before. Morality is almost dead and looked down upon and sex DOES have a part to play in it.
#1
but technically it is rare
the unicorn but could be a bit too far but I think it's funny
People always tell me to get laid. I will get laid when I want to, fuck off. Prick.
It annoys me when they act like sex is the best thing. There's more to life than sex. i. e: my future.
There was this one douchebag I worked with who would ALWAYS ask about my sex life and when I told him my number, he's like you need to get your numbers up to reach alpha male standards. I told him to grow the fuck up and he's like oh I'm just joking. It's like he's so obsessed with my sex life, you'd almost think he wants to have sex with me.
I mean there's nothing wrong with sex as long as you're responsible or being abstinent but it doesn't define a person. Besides, when I lost my virginity, I didn't feel any different and I enjoyed it but it's not like I started getting more hookups because of it.
I'm still a virgin and I'm not losing my virginity to the wrong person. I'm going to marry a beautiful woman who has beauty on both the inside and outside and that still has her virginity.
That's a dream of every man. But i wonder if there are enough of those women left, and they have to be willing too :p
The worst thing to my ex love when he kept wanting to have me take his virgin card was " are you and your friends in a race to loose your V cards or something? !" He cried for a good thirty minutes
Yes I'm a virgin too and people always tell me that either I'm a prude or religious freak. OKAY. What's wrong that I want to save myself? I respect my body and I don't want to be with just anybody.
Not that having sex is is bad. It's natural so I'm not trying to offend anyone! :-)
I think a lot of people don't realise that it's all personal choice and anyone has the right to save themselves if they so wish to.
YES please keep that mindset and don't waiver at temptation. :/ that sounded really religiony. I for one am kind of proud I still have it. I do it for myself (if I could even get a girl) and also for my future partner. I respect who they are too much. I hope they have respect for me and don't sell themselves out.
#11 Dont be so sensitive about what others say.
A toast to this young man! Here here!
Sex is actually a myth. It's an elaborate conspiracy concocted to make you feel alienated.
*Gasp* I knew it all along!
Man you're hot.
Goddam capitalist opressors
So really, you don't want anyone's opinion about your virginity...
Then why are you telling people in the first place? Better just to talk about it with your boyfriends as they come along and nobody else.
Why the downvotes? Seems to me like it makes perfect sense?
The topic of virginity comes up in a variety of ways. No one goes around yelling "I'm a virgin, everybody!" If I'm asked, depending on who you are I have no issue saying yes I am. The response shouldn't be some 'advice' they feel the need to give or some judgement to be passed. Also, a lot of males get mocked for it, this is just wrong, why should they be mocked over it? It's about people learning to stop passing judgement and let others be.
With all these 'What not to say' , it seems better to say nothing. LOL
Yes, exactly lol XD
May I offer the word "Jackpot" as an addition to that list.