What should I do about my 6 year old's behavior?

[HOAAH]

She steals from me, she lies, she screams at me, she likes to play with overly sexualized dolls (LOL dolls) and watch inappropriate sexual youtube videos about touching butts.

My husband encourages it by buying her these dolls. He lets her watch these videos on her tablet with no parental blocking programs. I got into an argument with him yesterday about it. I refuse to give her tablet back to her. She is watching naked people at the beach!!

I threw away the stupid sexual doll after doing a lot of research on the brand. When he bought it for her i really was super upset and he made fun of me! He made fun of me when he first met me and i was a virgin. Then he turns the table around and says i am mean, no wonder my kids hate me. My kids hate me because i am not like him. I don't let them watch sex videos all day. I don't spend hundreds of dollars on sex toys for them. I am so mad right now.

[Kiss_Me]

There are ways to limit and control the content your child can access on The Internet. I'm a network engineer, and I can turn you into one of those scary parents that have complete and total control over what is accessed over their home network.

[HOAAH]

Ok... Easy step by step guide?

[Anonymous]

She is a child and you are here parent. She isn't supposed to be your friend.

[OlderAndWiser]

Why are you married to him and why did you select him to be the father of your children?

[HOAAH]

He told me he liked me. I thought he loved me. I thought maybe we were in love. I thought he was a nice guy.

[OlderAndWiser]

And now you know differently?

[HOAAH]

I can't really compare as he is my one and only.

[lightbulb27]

I have to wonder if she's been sexually abused by your HB. maybe he just thnks it's fun or not a problem. no idea what you are talking about with dolls...

I don't know.

honestly, this is a mess. you get no support to be a parent, you are always wrong and the bad person being strict, husband does not respond to you and your concerns.

I'd take her to therapy with you. you think it's bad now?

I think there is cause to take all that stuff and the video games and absolutely smash them to bits. Could try to take it to court or divorce. that's a jacked up mess though.

my bulb not working on this one...

[Apple1996]

That is pretty weird that your hubby is okay with all that sexual stuff. Like my son is 6 and does find bad videos online with cussing and violence but me and my husband both stop him everytime from watching it. It's really not okay for kids to be watching anything bad but especially the sexual stuff I'd be drawing a line on. Just put a block on the tablet or delete whatever app she's watching that stuff on.

[Jjpayne]

I'm not sure there is much you can do unfortunately. I'd recommend taking a mother daughter day though. Then taking her to play around kids her own age.

Expose her to other 6 year olds.

To me, it's less about forcing her and more about letting you and her peers encouraging good behavior.

Even putting her in a day school if it's possible to afford would be a great way to help to have better behavior. Simply because trying to enforce it with her father might be difficult and with kids they will keep on pushing and having fun with boundaries because it's fun but at this age she is still learning. Let her see what other people are doing and be encouraged to follow their behavior. I think she wants to be accepted more than taking her stance. So use that to your advantage

[CubsterShura]

The fuck is wrong with your husband... Tell him the dangers of expressing children to sexualized content especially on the internet and also how it affects body image.

And suggest that instead you give your kids proper sexual education as a replacement. Of course you don't say everything to a 6yo but the basics like the private parts and good touch vs bad touch etc.

And for your daughter try to enroll her into something that she can be busy with. A dance class, art class, sports, anything. If not possible because of covid then try to find some kind of online course for kids, my 7yo niece was addicted to YouTube and my sister enrolled her in an online class that teaches about our religion, she is completely over her YouTube addiction now and enthusiastically participates in their online competitions. She is learning new things and having fun with it.

[taeh_ie2]

Get rid of him, and I know it’s harder then said done but you need to do this for your daughter’s safety and he’s being an awful influence toward her, which is why she’s learning all of this, and it’s not only effecting your daughter I’m sure this is effecting you as well, So get rid of him and start new and teach her some wrongs and rights.

[loveslongnails]

You have two problems - what do you do about your husband's behavior as well. I have no advice as that's one reason I never wanted kids. If professional help is available through your insurance, I would seek it out and take your daughter AND your husband! Good luck.

[Likes2drive]

That’s definitely not what a 6 year old should be watching until after puberty to even understand. That’s even considered child abuse, your husband is wrong, your daughter is just acting act out at that age because you don’t want her to have the iPad , she shouldn’t even have that yet unless for games or school work. I raised 3 daughters so I know and never had that problem

[Meldrum]

She's 6 and just now getting into sexual fantasies that are far beyond her years to understand. Hubby likes that his little girl is getting turned on by this stuff. I'm all for children knowing about the birds and bees as long as they are told it's all private. I don't think porn is appropriate for someone that young. She's only in 1st grade! Take hubby aside and explain your misgivings about this and lay down the law or you will find him touching her in inappropriate ways.

[COMMODOREII]

This is hard to take seriously.

[jahaims]

Could start by not being a shit parent. She is 6 she learned all that behavior from someone and now it's a habit because it wasn't corrected.

[not329446]

You have a problem with more to come. The time to start correcting this behavior was 3 or 4 years ago. Get help before it's too late.

[Valnac]

Get a lawyer and report him to the police for child abuse.

[TheAfrikan]

First put some sense into your husband.

[berserk945]

Sounds like you need to remove her from his influence! This isn't healthy!

[harry7825]

It is abusing a child ok
You should tell your husband about it
It's not a joke ok

[flashgrandad]

I do not want to comment to much on here!
Please Private Message me?

[Sadsam43]

Dos she show that the sex do something whit here, then you have to speek to here. Ask what she see in that and why she like to see that on the pad.
Its not many at that age like sex, soo something is wrong. Maybe there is some on net that make here like this. Not easy to say what it is.
What kind of doll is it she play whit and what do she do whit the dollar?

[Anonymous]

Knock her the fuck up side the head. Little bitch needs some discipline.

The reason most young girls have zero class or dignity anymore is because parents let thier daughters get away with being like the older skanks. Wearing nothing, dancing like whores on tiktok, etc.

Until we start to force morals back into females, society is a loss cause.

[Anonymous]

You married a fool and your daughter is in danger now. Ensure her safety.

[Anonymous]

In case, she watching people on the beach walking around in swim ware, I see nothing wrong with it and you overreacting, what dolls are you talking about, it could be that you see it differently then he is. YouTube is banning all sexual stuff on there anyway...

In case he showing her porn videos and buys her full size sex dolls, I think it is child abuse...

[Anonymous]

Hang on
So, if it's sexual, sure, don't let them watch it.
But just naked people? On a beach? Kinda ott at least in my view.
But is obvious a bad partnership and you two shouldn't have had kids.

[Anonymous]

If she's actually 6 take all of those from him and replace them with something else because just removing them is not enough and she will think about them anyway.
After she passed 9 explain sex to her with all details and help her find a trustful boyfriend and let her have sex with him if she wanted.
Removing sexual things from her life is not ok because she will get what she wants, it is better for you to be in control of those sexual things