When you get a girlfriend when do you know that you're ready to not use condoms? Also, how do you trust her with pills, patches or any other method?

[poneglyphs]

I'm just wondering because I never had a girlfriend and I find it strange to trust someone like that so soon. Also, when, I do get one, I'm not going try and have raw sex after we talk about it.

Also, is there anything else I have to worry about or know before I get sexual active?

Were you also this nervous when you did have sex for your first time?

[RealMarek]

I recommend discussing sex with a woman before having sex with her. You will want to understand the risk of disease (getting tested together is smart) and how both of you would want to handle birth control and, if it happens, pregnancy. As for trust, the only way to achieve trust is consistency through time. It isn’t foolproof, but aside from reputation (which is harder to assess in an mobile, atomized society like ours), what else is there other than your ability to size people up?

[poneglyphs]

Okay, so is there anything I have to worry about besides trust and her keeping up with pills?

[RealMarek]

Well, you want to focus on whether someone is compatible with you, make sure you avoid people with personality disorders (read up on those). I recommend waiting until you can both say you love each other before having sex. I think it’s much better when there is love, but that’s up to you.

[RealMarek]

Oh, and keep focused on finding a work/career path so you are making progress toward being independent. That will help a lot.

[poneglyphs]

How do you know when someone is sexually compatible with you? Also, how long should I wait till I say I love you? Do, you think that I am going to be clingy?

[RealMarek]

I like the honest approach. When I knew I loved my girlfriend I told her. Sexual compatibility isn’t more difficult than simply having a satisfying sexual relationship together, fine a frequency of having sex that both can live with, etc. Communication helps a lot. If you don’t want to be clingy, you don’t need to be. If you want to be attentive to a woman, find one who appreciates it. Try to avoid being jealous of time she spends with work or girlfriends as long as it is not unreasonable. I think if you just be yourself, you’ll be fine.

[RearEntryGuy]

I live by monogamy. Hence when I suggest to her I prefer her to be monogamous too, she likes it.

Then I suggest we'll not have sex until we can talk sex without feeling awkward. She somehow also like this suggestion.

By the time we're comfortable at the physical level, we already discussed our preference.

And since I don't date virgins, she is ready to insert IUDs and go for test.

With these we start our sex lifestyle fucking bare.

[poneglyphs]

Thanks, so are my concerns valid or am I just being extra cautious for no reason?

[RearEntryGuy]

STD and pregnancy are real and they can change your life. Hence being cautious is good. But there are good contraceptive like IUD. What you need is to avoid STD. And the best way is condom. But it takes away a lot of pleasures. Hence if both can agree to monogamy, you can have a very interesting sex lifestyle.

[poneglyphs]

Kk, I see, is it possible to get an STD if me snd my girlfriend only fuck?

[RearEntryGuy]

OMG! Don't you know that STD is short for Sexually Transmitted Disease? So yes, if one of you are infected, it may spread to the other via sexual intercourse. Please... complete your Sex Ed before you start sleeping around. Protect yourself, protect others.

[CindyRuns]

While I did have sex with a small number of other guys before I got married, the ONLY one who ever got to go bare in me is my now husband... and it was a few months before the wedding !!!

[whirled_up_girl]

I would say trust happens when you have the conversation about what will happen if there is an unplanned pregnancy. At the very least you will both know where you both stand on that issue. Getting tested before going raw is a good idea too.

[poneglyphs]

Oh, okay, I see what you mean 😊😊

[Apple1996]

Never used condoms or birth control. Always just had to trust him to pull out. If your with someone that you completely trust then it shouldn't be anything to worry about

[scooogy]

Or you get a womb implanted that gets impregnated by tongues only 😏

[Apple1996]

@scooogy oh yeah sure getting pregnant from oral is a thing 😂

[scooogy]

@apple1996 imagine having twins each time you ride his face real good 😏

[Apple1996]

@scooogy well I do love babies so I wouldn't mind

[poneglyphs]

Well, I don't so pls stop scaring me 😖😖🥺🥺

[Apple1996]

Come on babies are cute

[Twalli]

Yeah, but aren't cheap and don't stay as babies forever.

[Apple1996]

@Twalli ah no my kids will always be my babies even when they're old

[NathanDavis]

confidence, and trust... commitment and certainty, these are all vital things for any (healthier) relationship and ideally, you should have all these... before you even consider sex

the fact that you would considering sex first... and "can I trust her though?" later it will be a problem... lol

[poneglyphs]

Lol, yeah 😅😅

[DaveToo]

Ah, those days. Yeah, I guess I depended on the girl using "the pill". Never used condoms.

[poneglyphs]

Damm for real why is that?

[DaveToo]

If she wasn't on the pill we didn't fuck 'til she was.

[poneglyphs]

Oh. Dammm. Did you ever had any pregnancy scares?

[DaveToo]

Only once at that was when I was 15 and she was 14. Was late getting her period.

[poneglyphs]

damm really that is it only once, did you pull out all the time or what?

[DaveToo]

Yup.

[Twalli]

Not really because I waited 6 months and we trusted each other

[poneglyphs]

oh, okay, what did your girlfriend thought of waiting 6 months?

[Twalli]

We were both virgins. Now we wish we didn't wait that long, but we did.

[poneglyphs]

oh, okay why dd you regretted it?

[Twalli]

Because if feels so good and we're so good together that we didn't need to wait. Yet because we were virgins, we didn't know at the time. To top it off we also didn't know until later that our first time having sex was pretty bad.

[poneglyphs]

Oh, okay lol, so should I wait a month until I talk about it?

[Twalli]

Mu girlfriend I discussed sex on our second date. We were both virgins and I wanted to make sure she wasn't waiting for marriage. She also didn't want kids. Because I was the same, this worked out well. We talked about sex, not because we were planning on having it soon, but because we both wanted it to happen if our relationship was working out. I don't see bringing up sex early as a problem as long as she knows you aren't wanting sex that early.

[poneglyphs]

Oh, okay wanna tell me in private how bad was your first time?

[Twalli]

We just didn't know what we were doing. At the time it was great. Looking back it was pretty bad though. I don't regret how it was, since it was good at the time.

[poneglyphs]

Oh, okay, so is waiting a month not too long before we start having raw sex?

[Twalli]

I would wait at least 3 months if she's not a virgin. Sex feels good, but it's not really a rite of passage like driving or drinking.

[poneglyphs]

Oh, okay besides I do have condoms and I do want use and try all types of them.

[Fuentes]

I've gone raw on a few chicks without even dating them so im not the right person to aask lol

[poneglyphs]

Kk, you like to live wild lol

[Fuentes]

Not my best of choices lol

[billluc69]

talk it over

[poneglyphs]

Okay, will do.