White Women and Black Men Aren't Going to Stop Liking Each Other

White Women and Black Men Aren't Going to Stop Liking Each Other

For the record, I know there are plenty of people who are okay with it, but there are others who really hate this, so I finally decided to say something about it, and I’m gonna try to be pretty level-headed here and not use insults but still tell it like it is. I really didn’t realize hating relationships between black men and white women was such a big thing until I started seeing it more, and I even got hated myself for talking about it here last year. While there are some who say it doesn’t matter to them, there are others who are boldly honest and bitter about why they hate it.


Black people like to date outside their race...

First off, it’s a pretty common thing in the black community these days for a lot of us to prefer dating outside our race. Even more black women. And sometimes even our parents encourage us to. I’m cool with white women and like dating interracially, though most of the women I’ve gone after have been Latinas.

White Women and Black Men Aren't Going to Stop Liking Each Other

I used to be the type who didn’t want to date my own because of the ghetto/loudmouth stereotypes, but that’s not really a thing for me much anymore. I feel more of a friends/family relationship with black women than feeling romantic about them, and I’ve met plenty of black women who tell me they only like white guys or “Spanish boys.” It doesn’t bother me. I’m not offended if our women don’t date us, because both us black men and women know how we feel. But it does offend me when people of other races are strongly against their own dating black and want to make up their minds without really getting to know us.


Denial...

I am amazed at the people on GaG - mostly males - who’ve tried to convince me that relationships between white women and black men is a rare thing. These people either aren’t getting out enough, or where they live is far more white than black, or they need to pretend this is the case to feel better about it. Relationships between black males and white females is a pretty common thing in America, going on for centuries, regardless of whether you see it around you or not. Common enough that you find boatloads of stuff about it on Google and YouTube, and lots of pics of black men-white women couples. The proof is even in America’s children. Probably the majority of our country’s biracial kids are half black children who come from those relationships.

White Women and Black Men Aren't Going to Stop Liking Each Other

Even many of Hollywood’s half black actors, actresses, and singers come from the same thing. Wentworth Miller, Mariah Carey, Haley Barry, Vin Diesel, Zendaya, and others. All of which have white mothers and black fathers. It’s even speculated now that Kim Kardashian may actually be the daughter of O.J. Simpson like she always wondered.


White women who DON’T date black men…

As a black man I’m aware of the white women who don’t like or want to date us. Believe me, we have experience meeting those types as well. They think most black men are thuggy, streetsy, violent, drug-dealing, and uneducated, and therefore have stereotyped us as unfit to date.

Usually for me I can look at a white woman and tell by the look on her face, the tone in her voice when she talks to you, little or no eye contact, and her body language that she’s not into black men and doesn’t want them talking to her; even if they don’t want you to know that, though other times they’re not entirely trying to hide it either. You can just figure it out, especially if you watch from a distance and observe how different she behaves with non-black men.

White Women and Black Men Aren't Going to Stop Liking Each Other

Some of them are completely fine with black women though, and have black female friends, but just dislike black men. They have one-sided bigotry. Dating sites is also where you find these women a lot, who are looking for specific perfect-looking ‘toned and athletic’ white males with celebrity looks or status. And the ironic thing is that often those women are overweight or not particularly attractive themselves, and they’re on these sites because obviously not a lot of white guys want them back in real life either.


However, I have met and tried to date some white women online before who did admit they don’t like dating black men sincerely because of a bad experience but that I “seemed different” though things never really went anywhere. I can maybe understand their apprehension after having already been with black men, but others who already make up their minds without never having really known us are still pretty much racist.


“It’s just my preference”...

White Women and Black Men Aren't Going to Stop Liking Each Other

If you don’t want black men, you don’t want them, but I must say it’s curious to me when white women who don’t like us try to defend it as the tired, overused “preference” thing, yet think other white women who have a preference for us are "dating low,” being stupid, or just being trendy. They want you to respect their “preference” is that they’re not into us, but think negatively about women who are.


Not to mention, they - along with some white guys - want to call it a “race fetish”(the fashionable term nowadays) but they don’t see it as a race fetish if they only like Hispanic guys, Asian, or even their own white men! Even more, some of them will find it annoying if black men like them because they’re white, yet don’t find it annoying when their own men like them because they’re white, or when Asian and Hispanic guys do either for that matter. And probably the worst - which I still can’t get my head around - is the white women who don’t want black men, yet like dating white and Hispanic guys who talk black and try to dress and act hood, hip, and badass. So you don’t like that in black men - who authored that style - but think it’s cool in non-black men. Makes perfect sense.

White Women and Black Men Aren't Going to Stop Liking Each Other

So honestly, I don’t have a lot of respect for those kinds of white women with all their defense of their “preference.” But regardless, as black men we still move on, and know there are still enough other women who have relationships with us and aren’t going to stop either, especially in these times.


Unfair hatred towards white women…

You have both situations where black men can be looked down on by their own people - usually women - for being in relationships with white women, and white women who are looked down on by their people as well for being with black. The latter is something I’m learning about more and more these days. I know plenty of white families have accepted a woman’s black boyfriend/husband just fine, but there are still situations where some do not, and others where she would want to date a black man but knows her family wouldn’t like it, or is afraid of her ex knowing too.


I’ve been surprised to learn that there really are white men who actually hate white women for dating or sleeping with black men, thinking they now have “diseases” or are trash for being with us, which is supposed to be an insult to not only her but a black man’s character or integrity too. It’s also not fair to view white women as “easy” for sleeping with black men either. Even violence has erupted from some white men for this. I remember a story on the news some time ago about a white man who went on a killing spree because he was so sick of white women going with black men, and killed himself.

White Women and Black Men Aren't Going to Stop Liking Each Other

It’s for all these reasons that there are still some white women who are not as confident as others in being open about their interest in black men, sometimes even keeping their relationships a secret from their families. I’ve heard it said from some that more white women than we actually realize are attracted to black men and would be in relationships with them but do not feel free to because of some white families’ and white men’s racial distaste for that, even now in the 21st century.


Sex…

It is true that there remains to be a curiosity between some black men and white women about having sex with each other, and those who’ve already had it either love or hate the experience. I’m aware of white women who did it and didn’t want to “go black” again and found it uncomfortable or not as good as they thought, but there are still enough of them who are into it. And, yes, liking ‘big, black cock’ is a common thing, and I don’t really know what to say about it. Sometimes it offends me and other times it doesn’t, depending on the circumstances. Though I don’t really like how American and European women fly to the Caribbean just to sleep with black island men on summer vacation. It’s a sex trade that’s no better than businessmen going to Asia to sleep with Oriental women.

White Women and Black Men Aren't Going to Stop Liking Each Other

I have mixed feelings. I’ve met white girls online who didn’t want to talk anymore and had their fantasies crushed once they found out I was black, and I’ve also met others who got excited and asked for a picture. Sometimes it has maybe alarmed me a little, and other times I’m alright with it. A few actually wanted dick picks and I was not comfortable with that. Some have even beat around the bush about looking for a black guy to invite into their bedroom with them and their boyfriend/husband which I really am not comfortable with lol. I’ve even had husbands show up in my inbox on a couple sites in the past saying stuff like, “My wife would love you,” or “My wife has told me she’s always wanted to fuck a black man, would you be interested?” Not cool with that, lol.

White Women and Black Men Aren't Going to Stop Liking Each Other

I personally do find intimacy between black men and white women to be very sexy, especially blowjobs and plain missionary. So I can’t really scold it as objectification. It is what it is. And honestly? If the two people are sexually attracted to each other for these reasons, I don’t have a problem with it. If white guys can be sexually attracted to Asian girls, and if white and Asian girls can only like white men because they are sexually attracted to them, why is it always a problem because there are white women who are aroused by black men and vice versa? Can’t that be their “preference” too?


White women and black men aren’t going to stop liking each other...

And that’s just the fact of it. Regardless of what other white people might think about it - and even some blacks - it’s not going to change. And it doesn’t have to or need to. There’s far too much interracialism in America now anyway for that to ever stop. Hell, I don’t like the fact that a LOT of Asian women are only interested in white guys, but I can’t change that, and I honestly don’t care enough to try to slander them or have racial hatred towards them for it.

White Women and Black Men Aren't Going to Stop Liking Each Other

Some black women say they catch hell too for being with white men, which is true to an extent, but not the way white women and black men catch it. Black women aren't getting those really awful, ugly words that they'll give white guys AIDS for sleeping them, or that they're apes or rapists. Black women aren't being demonized for liking white guys, whereas black men can be accused of "putting white women on a pedestal" for liking them - by both black people and even some white women. And a white woman will still sleep with a white man who's had sex with black women, whereas there are white men who will reject a white woman for having slept with black men.

So while relationships between black men and white women can be hotly stylized, they can be hated just as much.

White Women and Black Men Aren't Going to Stop Liking Each Other

No doubt, even for me as a black man there are things I don’t always like about black man-white woman relationships, like how some black men only want to date the really overweight white girls, and the white women who want to talk black just because they have a black man or are only interested in dating black men if they’re thuggy and badass. But those don’t make up all hot chocolate with marshmallow relationships. What these men and women do and how they like each other is between them. Even if they’re only liking each other for the sex or objectifying each other, these two people are happy with that, and it’s none of our damn business. And none of it is going to change just because there are people out there who don’t like it or feel jealous that their own race is going after the other.


Simply...accept it.

White Women and Black Men Aren't Going to Stop Liking Each Other

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  • I think anybody who has a preference to a race and just has that predetermined decision that they won't ever date anyone from a certain race is a superficial person and a low key racist whether they realize it or not. Love doesn't know a race or a culture. I loved a guy from a race that I never even thought about. It was only because I have opened my heart and looked at him as a person. Don't let a race determine who you should love.

  • pretty much everyone is over interracial couples somehow being a taboo at this point, although there's always going to be prejudice. my boyfriend's mother, born again christian, brought up how she wasn't for interracial couples. not really anything against it, but a negative opinion nonetheless. she only supposedly changed it once my boyfriend had pointed out that we technically were, seeing as i'm a good amount of native American. and no i'm not saying it like one of those people who get a dream catcher tattoo after finding out they're 17% lol. people like who they like, but people still got a stick far up there somehow

  • Honestly, my country is all white people, so it's always strange to hear all these stereotypes and social stigmas concerning race (because I have none that I know of)... and yet it's the nature of humanity to always judge each other for the things we do.

    It's definitely unfair and if you can (meaning anyone in general) definitely try to let it roll off your back - disregard it - and you'll be a professional at it in no time.

    Of course, from time to time, it'll sting, but the more you disregard the less you'll care about the opinions of people who mean nothing to you and don't even know who you are.

    The smartest thing a person can do is live their life for themselves, not for others.

    • According to impoverished racists here in the states, what you experience in your country as a homogenized population exists in the states as White flight to isolated suburbia leveraging White privilege. All pejorative terms crafted to insult Caucasians for reaping any amount of success for their work. They'll go so far as to say you didn't really work for it. So if you're a "natural" at math, you should feel guilty for being blessed with something out of your control. There's this hyper demand for rectifying inequality by increasing inequity. You would be considered a sheltered, privileged, and unworthy over here because of pedigree to induce guilt in you for being born. A "know my pain and envy" kind of thing. It's purveyed by the have-nots. It isn't typically discussed in public or by those who are busy with their lives. It tends to happen behind closed doors when it is discussed, if at all.

    • Can you imagine the kind of havoc this wreaks on a child's self-esteem and their development? It's gradually being introduced in public education in subtle ways. It's infecting colleges too.

  • I have to disagree with you on the claim that "black women with white men don't catch as much hell as black men with white women". That was not my experience with black girlfriends- and the hell mostly came from black males who themselves were in interracial relationships.

    • Interesting. Learned something new.

    • Hypocrisy much? Oh the irony !!

    • All were either friends or acquaintances, which shocked me even more.

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  • I'm going to have to disagree to an extent with this. I think it is a bit rare to find a white woman black man relationship, simply because black men only make up about 6% of the population (statistically its just not possible for it to be common). I would also state that yes some white women do have a fetish, if your after the "BBC"(which statistically does not exist as their is no correlation between penis size and race except when its self reported (i. e. when it cannot be substantiated)) or as you stated flying out to a country specifically to have sex with the black men their that is a fetish and that is really messed up (as you admitted). I think many people who dislike women who are into black guys are concerned about that, that its a fetish and it I think understandably makes them uncomfortable (as it should, its objectification its really scummy (and I think that some black men do this as well with white women)). The other reason is again as you mentioned, that they think that many black men are thugs and I don't think that is entirely something that can be ignored. Depending on where you live your more likely to come into contact with thuggish black men then others (same reason why you where not as interested in black women because you thought they would be ghetto) so if that's your experience its hard to separate that, for instance I have known people who did not like "black people" but they where friends with Africans because to them it wasn't the same, it was a cultural issue rather then race. So I think that is something that should be considered. I do think that people should also realize that its cultural and does not apply to the entire group but we (people) tend to make judgments based upon experiences and so if we have had negative experiences with one group that will be the template so to speak with which we view all people from that group. So if your in Chicago and you interact with thuggish black men for instance (where your more likely to find them) your going to think of that when you hear "black men" rather then say a upper middle class black man (like Thomas sowell or Larry Elder or what have you), or you will think thug even if they are from a more rural area and thus much less likely to be that then say an urban area. I'm not saying that's good, just that it is natural and we all do it and we need to kind of be aware of how negative association and positive association can affect our perceptions in general of groups of people.

    • In fact this is why Daryl Davis (black man) befriended members of the KKK. Basically in order to be racist you basically have negative association with them so his response to that was to befriend them talk to them and present a positive association. So while it may be more work I think its important not to blow off peoples opinions, they have them for a reason, its not like they just decided randomly to not like a group of people, it was due to a negative experience or negative perception. Once you get talking to them you can show that it is not something that is intrinsic. So while I get what your saying and do generally agree, you like what you like (personally I've never understood race preferences, beautiful is beautiful who am I to say no to that?) and their should be no issue with that, I do think that we should not just out right dismiss why some people are against it. Again, some times their is an underlying issue (like fetishism (which I am sure is rare but it does exist).

    • Also I think your take is missing the flip side which is when white men date black women. Frequently those women are called all sorts of terrible things (bed wench, self hating, etc. etc.) and those white men are discriminated against just as much (and from what I have seen worse in some cases) as black men with white women. I also think that society as a whole tends to be more tolerant of that union then white men and black women (at least again from what I have seen. In media it seems like your far more likely to see an interracial couple that is black man white woman then you will white man black woman (or Asian man black woman, Asian woman indian man etc.)). But other wise, again, I would agree for the most part.

    • He did touch on the white men, black women relationship side. He just downplayed it. He feels as though black women and white men in those relationships don't catch as much hate. But as you've said and I've seen/heard for myself, they do.

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  • Just out of curiosity... Where is your White woman?

    Хахахахаха

  • I don't give a shit who dates who. What kind of women I stay away from are the ones that only date someone because of either stereotypes or past experience involving races and therefore concluding all people of said race are just as bad or just as good their past experience or stereotypes.

  • I get that hate as well. I come from a very racist family... and I was racist as a kid. But once I hit senior year I ended up falling for a black boy who was a sophomore. And instantly I was getting hate from other black boys that I only like light skinned boys or something mean. And other girls hated me for it as well. And my parents have basically made it clear they want nothing 2 do with me now that I've been with him and want 2 stay with him

  • The only issue I have with it, is that by doing this, black people are being bred out of existence. I have seen videos on Youtube and other websites, that were created by black men and women, and they are seriously hurt how they feel like they are being bred out. They even accuse white people of masterminding the whole thing. The ol, "If we can't get them out, we'll breed them out" mentality. So honestly, it is difficult for me to take a strong stance on this one way or another... because I can see both points of views... and both points of views are pretty damn valid.

    • Black people tend to have more kids than white people, so I don't see us breeding ourselves out of existence, as whites are also becoming a minority in America. I think those black people are just using it as a paranoid excuse to dislike interracialism especially between white women and black men.

    • Why do you think that it is more accepted for black women and white men to be together? I have seen this a lot, and I myself am hit on by black women more than I ever have been in my life. There must be a reason for it. Seems silly to accept white men with black women, but it be more taboo for black men with white women. The silliness of the world confuses me, lol.

    • I'm not sure. Maybe because black women and white men together is a little less common. But both black women and white men are getting jealous or angry when black men and white women are together. I hate how it is myself.

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  • I have these thoughts often.

    Oh and don't forget about the bullshit of how blacks are taking over the white race by stealing their women... BWAHAHAHAHA truly laughable.

    • Ikr? Lol.

    • And I get down voted for this? People are truly brainwashed.

    • I say this to all in relationships where you are looked down upon. Never let outside pressure influence who you love and want to be with. They aren't in your relationship, they don't have any clue as to the people you are or how he shows you he cares or how you show how much you appreciate him. It's shows more strength in the relationship if you give two shits as to perceptions people have and you still love your man and stand by him. Lord knows us blacks need those types of women in our lives, sorry to say. And, usually the white women that are attracted to and get with black men and stay with them are the ones that are worth holding on to, since they are strong enough mentally to ignore the bullshit we face daily, and show so much care for us in spite of the negativity. That is a good woman, nevermind whatever cultural background she comes from.

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  • Okay I'm gonna say something positive and woke now... wait for it.
    Ehem, There is only one race and that's the human race, if we judge based on one's character and not their physical we will gain so much insight our true selves about who they truly are. [Applause and whistles] thank you very much. of course that makes no sense, but it's positive.

  • I think anyone can like anything but you should be man enough to think above it, that it will work or not. I love the black woman curly hair.
    I support every race in the world but I would like the US to make special laws and stop branding everything from Middle-East as white.

  • Thanks for the take.

    • I thought it was a great pic too💗

    • Yes, they're both gorgeous as well, well matched couple lol

    • I thought it was a great photo as well. They both are very good looking and seem to complement each other <3

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  • Im a black woman, cute my take.

    • Many thanks to you, my sister😊

  • You sound like a coon lmao, you really wrote a whole article on dating outside of your race. Who the hell cares?

    • MAJOR SAMBO COON LOL

  • Uhm, you really don't think you are kind of self-hating?

    Look, I don't have an issue with interracial dating, having dated outside of the community myself. But I don't understand "Black" men who flaunt their preference for dating outside of the community as "normal".

    I think your whole perception about catching "hell" for dating out is just off base. It isn't that you date outside your community, it is that you only date outside your community. And you are fooling yourself it you are claiming it isn't because you have some deep issues with how you see yourself or your community.

    I think some of the things you post are kind of weird. Like you claim you don't like the way some "Black" men date only fat "White" women. Or how some "White" women only like thuggish "Black" guys. How are they any different than you? How are their preferences less legitimate?

    But strangest of all, you seem to have an issue with "White" women who are only making the same choices you make in terms of preference.

    They prefer "White".

    I am sorry my response is haphazard. But this take just threw me off. I am sitting here typing with my mouth agape.

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    • Lol. And that's okay. I know who I am and comfortable with that.

    • Whatever helps you to sleep at night.

      I guess.

      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cmIrq1bOafA

    • How is he self-hating? He's delineating a lot of elaborate and good points on why some people still see it as problem. Perhaps I'm missing something, but please point out to me what specifically he says that is problematic, and specifically, how he puts black women down/says he prefers anything *but* black women?

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  • The more it happens, the happier everyone will be.

    • If what happens more?

    • Interracial dating

    • It's already happening quite a lot.

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  • This take is equally as biased as the ones that hate on black-white. It almost seems like you hate on anyone that doesn't think like you.

  • I make no differences they are both nice in their own ways and have the same down below x

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